Overview
This lecture uses the analogy of offering tea to explain the concept of consent, emphasizing that permission must be given freely, can be withdrawn at any time, and should never be assumed or forced.
The Tea Analogy for Consent
- Asking someone if they want tea is like asking for consent; wait for a clear "yes" before proceeding.
- If someone says "no" or is unsure, do not insist or pressure them to drink the tea.
- Respect their decision if they decline or change their mind, even after you've made the tea.
- It is not appropriate to get upset or try to force someone to drink tea if they refuse.
- People can change their mind about wanting tea at any point, including after initially agreeing.
- If someone is unconscious or unable to respond, do not give them tea.
- Previous acceptance of tea does not mean ongoing consent for more tea in the future.
- Consent must be continually given; someone’s past consent does not justify future actions without their new agreement.
Application to Real-Life Consent
- Forcing someone to participate in something (like drinking tea or sex) without continuous, enthusiastic consent is unacceptable.
- Changing circumstances (such as losing consciousness) immediately withdraw consent, regardless of prior agreements.
- Respecting boundaries is essential, and permission must be sought every time.
Key Terms & Definitions
- Consent — explicit, informed, and voluntary agreement to participate in an activity.
- Withdrawn Consent — when a person changes their mind and no longer agrees, consent is no longer present.
- Ongoing Consent — continuous approval is required; it can be revoked at any time.
Action Items / Next Steps
- Reflect on the tea analogy to better understand and practice real-life consent.
- Remember to seek and confirm consent in all relevant situations.