Maudy Ayunda's Booklist Review: "How to Win Friends and Influence People"

Jul 21, 2024

Maudy Ayunda's Booklist Review: "How to Win Friends and Influence People"

Introduction

  • Presenter: Maudy Ayunda
  • Book: "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie
  • Focus: Self-improvement, public speaking, interpersonal skills

Key Insights from the Book

1. Call People by Their Names and Smile

  • Names: Important words in any language
    • Makes people feel appreciated and valued
  • Smiles: Essential communication tool
    • Indicates happiness and comfort
    • Smiles are contagious and spread positive vibes

2. How to Give Feedback

  • Avoid Direct Criticism: Never say "You're wrong"; use questions instead
    • Prevents defensiveness and shows appreciation for others' opinions
  • Sandwich Technique: Combine constructive feedback with positive comments
    • Creates balanced sentiment and openness to feedback
  • Acknowledge Mistakes: Start by admitting your own flaws
    • Provides a "safe space" for others to reflect on their mistakes

3. Make People Feel Important

  • Treat others how you want to be treated
    • Use phrases like "Sorry to burden you," "Can you please help me," "Thank you"
  • Focus on Others' Interests: Ask about their life and hobbies
    • Shows appreciation and fosters receptiveness
  • Quote: “Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours”

Personal Thoughts

  • Structure: Book is easy to understand, divided into 4 parts:
    1. Fundamentals of handling people
    2. How to make people like you
    3. How to win people with your way of thinking
    4. How to be a leader and change people without offense or resentment
  • Applicability: Reminds of basic but often forgotten actions (smiling, remembering names, listening)
  • Caveat: Be cautious of becoming a people pleaser
    • Important to stand up for oneself and set boundaries in toxic situations

Conclusion

  • Encouragement to leave book recommendations and engage with the content
  • Special offer: Win a copy of "How to Win Friends and Influence People" with a note from Maudy
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