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Maudy Ayunda's Booklist Review: "How to Win Friends and Influence People"
Jul 21, 2024
Maudy Ayunda's Booklist Review: "How to Win Friends and Influence People"
Introduction
Presenter
: Maudy Ayunda
Book
: "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie
Focus
: Self-improvement, public speaking, interpersonal skills
Key Insights from the Book
1. Call People by Their Names and Smile
Names
: Important words in any language
Makes people feel appreciated and valued
Smiles
: Essential communication tool
Indicates happiness and comfort
Smiles are contagious and spread positive vibes
2. How to Give Feedback
Avoid Direct Criticism
: Never say "You're wrong"; use questions instead
Prevents defensiveness and shows appreciation for others' opinions
Sandwich Technique
: Combine constructive feedback with positive comments
Creates balanced sentiment and openness to feedback
Acknowledge Mistakes
: Start by admitting your own flaws
Provides a "safe space" for others to reflect on their mistakes
3. Make People Feel Important
Treat others how you want to be treated
Use phrases like "Sorry to burden you," "Can you please help me," "Thank you"
Focus on Others' Interests
: Ask about their life and hobbies
Shows appreciation and fosters receptiveness
Quote
: “Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours”
Personal Thoughts
Structure
: Book is easy to understand, divided into 4 parts:
Fundamentals of handling people
How to make people like you
How to win people with your way of thinking
How to be a leader and change people without offense or resentment
Applicability
: Reminds of basic but often forgotten actions (smiling, remembering names, listening)
Caveat
: Be cautious of becoming a people pleaser
Important to stand up for oneself and set boundaries in toxic situations
Conclusion
Encouragement to leave book recommendations and engage with the content
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