Hi, Curious People Maudy Ayunda here. Welcome to my booklist where I'll be sharing interesting insights from the books I've read. Today, we're gonna dissect the book titled, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson. Mark Manson is a New York Times Bestselling authour from America in Self-help genre. And Mark Manson is known for his life advices that are considered as science-based, pragmatic, and blunt. If you read the book reviews, many said that this book gives life advice that doesn’t suck. And this book is highly requested by Curious People, so I’m really excited to get into it. Let's go to the insights! Insight No.1: Look for an "exciting" problem. Do you often feel like, “Oh my, why are there so many problems in life???” In fact, the author says that this life is actually an endless series of problems. Tumpukan masalah yang nggak ada ujungnya. Because the fact is, our problems in life will never end. Instead, they will only change or just getting bigger. Well, to face these problems, the author gives 2 ways. First one, well... it may sound annoying. But, just face it one at a time. Usually, we tend to avoid problems because we don't have the courage and belief that we can actually face it. However, Mark Manson thinks that, the solution lays in the confrontation process, because when we avoid the problems, we're actually positioning ourselves in a fear-cycle that will become another source of a new problem. So by avoiding our initial problem, we're actually creating a new one. The second one, let's change our mindset, from "How to get rid of these problems?", to "What are the problems that make me excited?" "What are the problems that are worth fighting for?" Manson reckon that actually there are some problems in life that are just... illusions. Making the situation seems overwhelming, messy, and knotted. Well, by changing our mindset that way we have the freedom to determine the meaning of the problems in our own lives and how significant their impacts are for us. Actually, problems are inevitable but what they mean is flexible. Insight No.2: Save your energy for things that actually matter. So, there's this one quote in this book, that I think is really good and capture the essence of this book, Don't say f*ck it to everything in life, just to the unimportant things. Jangan bersikap bodo amat ke semua hal, tapi ke hal-hal yang emang kurang penting aja. Like, for example, in our 20s we tend to feel like every thing is important, and we want to change based on other people's opinions, perhaps also because we're also in the process of searching for our own identity. But as we're getting mature, the author encourage us to be more selective in choosing things that we care for. Because chances are the little things that we are hyper-fixated on in our 20s have little lasting impact on our lives. With this, our life will certainly feel more simple. But for the author, that's what maturity is. Maturity is achieved when we actually care only to things that really matter. For the author, things that he prioritized are his family, friends, and his golf swing. And for me, it's relationships with my closest circle, to learn and work that gives impact. So, how about you guys? Have a think about it. Insight no.3: Take pleasures is in the ordinary We can't deny that big things like getting our dream job or overseas vacation, they are closely associated with happiness. To the point that we're forgetting that small moments such as reading our favorite books, reconnecting with old friends, eating out at our favorite restaurants, are actually also sources of happiness. Sometimes it's about the small moments. Social media sometimes makes us know more about other people's lives and their achievements and in the end, it creates the culture that's filled with competitions and comparisons. But Mark Manson reminds us that happiness and success don't always have to be these big celebratory moments. We actually can define our own terms of what we call as happiness and success. And as long as we're happy in doing those things, no one can say that we're not successful and happy with our lives. Another reminder from the author that is quite powerful for me, just because they look basic or simple doesn't mean they're not valuable. Maybe they're ordinary for a reason because they're what actually matters. Hanya karena sesuatu terlihat simpel, bukan berarti mereka nggak berharga. Kadang-kadang hal-hal yang penting memang bisa terlihat biasa saja. And now, so what? Reading this book, makes me feel like in the process of self-intervention because I'm forced to do a reality check, and evaluate things that I consider important and align with my life values. After reading this book, I realized that the quote, you know, “Fake it till you make it” sometimes it can be a bit dangerous as it could create toxic positivity. For me, it's also important to admit that life may not always goes like how we plan it to be. and yeah, but that’s just how it is. Okay, thanks for listening Curious People! If you want me to read a book and share with you my favorite insights please give book recommendations in the comment down below. Also, for the best comment, I will give you this book with a special message from me. So, don't forget to subscribe, like, comment and turn on notifications. Bye!