Understanding Agentic and Communal Behaviors

Introduction

• Importance of understanding agentic and communal behaviors for likability.
• Aim: To use both behaviors to increase popularity and likability.

Part 1: Agentic Behavior

• Definition: Actions that show confidence and help you stand out.
• Helps earn respect and make people like you.

Techniques for Agentic Behavior

1. Posture
   • Avoid slouching. Tense glutes, core, and triceps to stand upright.
   • Keep shoulders back and chest lifted.
2. Body Language
   • Open body language. Avoid crossing arms or legs.
   • Walk slowly to exude confidence.
3. Engagement
   • Maintain direct body and feet alignment towards the person speaking.
   • Maintain strong eye contact (80% of the time).
   • Use head nods and affirmations (e.g., "okay", "wow").
   • Pause before responding to show you’re processing information.
4. Action Over Words
   • Spend 95% of the time doing, and only 5% talking about actions.
   • Overcome fear of rejection by approaching strangers.

Overcoming Rejection

• Approach strangers to normalize rejection.
• Suggested exercises involve asking strangers for favors.
• Utilize therapy to discuss fears and emotions (promoted BetterHelp).

Part 2: Communal Behavior

• Definition: Being warm and friendly towards others.
• Essential for making people want to be around you.

Techniques for Communal Behavior

1. Reciprocal Liking Effect

   • People like you more when they think you like them.
   • Avoid actions that appear insincere or restrict freedom.

2. Non-verbal Signals

   • Keep hands visible and use them to engage in conversations.
   • Nod and use small verbal cues to show interest.

3. Effective Lines for Engagement

   • Use intriguing statements to pique interest (e.g., "There's something intriguing about you").
   • Follow up with offers to elaborate during a date.

4. Complimenting Insecurities

   • Identify common insecurities (e.g., teeth, hairline, weight).
   • Compliment these insecurities to boost confidence.

Conclusion

• Combining agentic and communal behaviors can significantly enhance your likability and make people love you.
• Practical applications and specific techniques were discussed to develop these behaviors.