Lecture Notes: Confidence, Visibility, and Leadership

Introduction

• Topic: Personal visibility and overcoming nervousness.
• Speaker's perspective: You are responsible for your own visibility.
• Initial emotions: Nervousness and self-doubt are common.

Key Concepts

Visibility

• Importance of making your contributions and goals known in your workplace.
• Visibility is crucial for career advancement.
• Companies have responsibilities like training and culture, but individuals are responsible for their visibility.
• Visibility is linked to career advancements such as title and salary increases.

Confidence

• Defined as a willingness to try, not swagger or self-belief alone.
• Confidence builds over time through action and trying new things.
• Behavioral Activation Therapy: Acting like the person you want to become.

Leadership

• Leadership involves influencing others and helping new hires navigate their roles.
• Self-awareness and perception by others are crucial for leadership.
• Encouragement to actively seek feedback and improve based on it.

Techniques & Tools

Five Second Rule

• 5-4-3-2-1: A method to overcome hesitation and act swiftly.
• Helps in practicing visibility and putting oneself out there.

Managing Nervousness

• Transform nervousness into excitement by reframing thoughts (e.g., "I am excited to be here").
• Same physiological responses for both nervousness and excitement.

Self-awareness

• Two types:
  • Internal: Understanding one's own feelings and motivations.
  • External: Awareness of how others perceive you.
• Asking for feedback to improve external self-awareness.

Practical Application

• In Meetings: Contribute actively, even if it's challenging.
• In Leadership: Practice leading to increase comfort and competence.
• On Personal Development: Continuously push boundaries to expand self-awareness and confidence.

Real-life Example: Jordan's Journey

• Jordan exemplified visibility by expressing her leadership aspirations.
• Received live feedback from peers, enhancing her competence and confidence.
• Practiced public speaking despite initial nervousness.

Conclusion

• Confidence and visibility are intertwined and essential for personal and professional growth.
• Taking action, even imperfectly, leads to growth and new opportunities.
• Continuous self-reflection and feedback are key components in the journey of personal development.

Additional Resources

• Free training program "The Reset" by Mel Robbins, aimed at overcoming self-doubt and increasing confidence.