Lecture Notes: What to Do if Your Ex Has Blocked You on Phone or Social Media

Introduction

• Speaker: Coach Lee
• Topics: Relationship dynamics, attraction, marriage, mindfulness, romance, breakups
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Key Points

Initial Reactions to Being Blocked

• Common Mistake: Trying to get around the block (e.g., going to their house)
• Consequences: Shock, anger, disgust, potential police involvement
• Analogy: Comparing to a sibling locking their door for privacy

Reasons for Blocking

• Emotional Pain: They don't want to see your updates or pictures because it hurts them
• Ghosting: Avoiding confrontation, trying to spare your feelings
• Revenge: Blocking you to hurt you out of spite or anger
• Dislike: They don’t want to be around you due to anger or past negative interactions
• Temporary Need for Space: Possibly due to an argument or needing time to think

Recommended Actions

• Respect the Block: Do not try to contact through other means
• Give Them Space: Allow them to feel the consequences of the breakup
• Show Maturity: Demonstrates respect and self-control
• Avoid Desperation: Being desperate or forceful is unattractive

Potential Scenarios

• Pattern of Blocking/Unblocking: If they have blocked you before and unblocked, it may happen again
• Misunderstanding: If they blocked you based on false information, consider clarifying after some time
• Healing from Negative Interaction: Time and space to heal if the breakup was due to a fight

Misinterpretations to Avoid

• Begging and Pleading: Continually contacting them post-breakup is counterproductive
• Out of Touch: Not respecting their need for space shows lack of emotional intelligence
• Permanent Block: Blocks are often temporary if you had a generally good relationship

Strategic Advice

• Stay Away: Helps them process and feel your absence
• Avoid Creepy Behavior: Forcing interactions can come across as stalkerish
• Reassure through Actions: Respecting their wishes can show you’ve changed
• Long-Term Thinking: Focus on the bigger picture, not immediate satisfaction
• Test by the Ex: Behaving well during the block can be seen positively by the ex

Conclusion

• Possible Future Contact: If they unblock you, it’s a positive sign
• Move On if Necessary: Sometimes moving on is the best course
• Resources:
  • Emergency Breakup Kit (linked in the description)
  • Additional Videos and Articles on Coach Lee’s website

Final Thoughts

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• Positive Perspective: Viewing the block as a test you can pass
• Related Videos: How to make your ex jealous, linked in the description

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