Stop Attracting the Wrong Relationships

Overview

• Directed mainly to singles, but beneficial for all.
• Satan distracts or disarms, drawing parallels with Eve's story in Genesis.
• Satan's tactics: Distracting singles by sending the wrong people.

Signs of Wrong Relationships

1. Desperation Blurs Discernment

• Desperation leads to blurred discernment
  • Desperation causes impatience.
  • Impatience makes it hard to see the difference between Satan's bait and God's blessing.
• Solution: Be desperate for God, not relationships.

2. Low Self-Esteem

• Attracts unhealthy relationships
  • Unresolved self-image issues attract the wrong people.
  • Relationships act as mirrors; they magnify what you have.
• Solution: Know your identity in Jesus.

3. Ignoring Red Flags

• Ignoring obvious red flags leads to destruction
  • Red flags like addiction, trauma, and abusive behavior should not be ignored.
  • Prayer for change should not be necessary before marriage.
• Solution: Pay attention to signs and learn to say no.

4. Losing Standards

• Lowering personal standards attracts wrong relationships
  • Compromising core values and boundaries, especially regarding purity.
• Solution: Uphold and define your standards.

5. Ignoring Wise Counsel

• Not listening to others' advice can lead to deception
  • Wise counsel provides safety and uncovers blind spots.
• Solution: Be humble and open to the wisdom of trusted people.

6. Losing Yourself

• Losing your identity in a relationship is a sign of danger
  • Relationship should complement, not cancel who you are.
• Solution: Maintain individuality even in unity.

Important Takeaways

• Develop a healthy self-image by understanding your identity in Jesus.
• Maintain standards, especially regarding purity.
• Heed early red flags and seek peace in relationships.
• Avoid desperation and impatience as they blur discernment.

Conclusion

• Let God lead and fulfill your desires as you delight in Him.
• Special mention of the book "Single Ready to Mingle" for further guidance.

Personal Experience

• Insights from 14 years as a youth pastor and personal journey through dating and marriage.