Understanding Independence, Codependence, and Interdependence

Introduction

• These concepts are foundational to relationships
• Being aware of these distinctions can lead to better choices

Emotional Independence

• Definition: Being a stand-alone person, happy with one's own company
• Characteristics:
  • Self-approval without constant validation
  • Contentment in solitude
• Many people enter romantic relationships without achieving emotional independence

Codependence

• Definition: Emotional reliance on another person for self-validation
• Characteristics:
  • Constant need for approval and support
  • Can lead to enmeshed relationships where individuals can't function independently
• Risks:
  • Loss or departure of the partner leaves the codependent person lost

Interdependence

• Definition: Two independent individuals choosing to be together
• Characteristics:
  • Partners are fine apart but better together
  • Mutual respect, trust, and vulnerability
• Healthy Relationship Dynamics:
  • Equality, reciprocity, and mutuality
  • Safe space to be vulnerable without fear of it being weaponized

Hijackals in Relationships

• Hijackal: A term for people who are relentlessly difficult
• Behavior:
  • Hijack relationships for power, status, and control
  • Target codependent people
• Advice:
  • Work on becoming independent before leaving a hijackal

Personal Development

• Self-work: Essential for those in codependent relationships, especially with hijackals
• Resources:
  • "Seeing the Cycles" program
  • Relationship advice available at forrelationshiphelp.com

Conclusion

• Strive for independence before entering relationships
• Codependence is unhealthy; avoid it
• Aim for interdependence to ensure a balanced, fulfilling relationship
• Contact: Visit forrelationshiphelp.com for more resources and support