Lecture Notes: Total Forgiveness

Introduction

• The lecture introduces a new book "Total Forgiveness" which is being read after "The Mystery of the Shamida."
• Importance of the introduction is emphasized as it contains powerful insights.

Key Themes of Total Forgiveness

What is Total Forgiveness?

• Everyone has a story of being wronged.
• Difficulties in forgiving serious offenses like infidelity, abuse, and betrayal.
• Total forgiveness is necessary for freedom and release from past offenses.

Biblical Example

• Cory Ten Boom's Story: Forgiving a cruel prison guard who was responsible for her sister’s death.
• Jesus’ Example: On the cross, Jesus asked God to forgive his offenders.
• Ultimate Forgiveness: Jesus’ request to the Father on behalf of his offenders showed sincere forgiveness.

Principles of Total Forgiveness

• Forgiving Without Reconciliation: Forgiveness doesn’t always lead to restored relationships.
• Inner Forgiveness: True forgiveness must start from the heart.
• Letting Off the Hook: Sincerely praying for offenders to be forgiven and blessed.
• Forgiveness and Reconciliation: Possible only when both parties agree.

Misconceptions About Forgiveness

1. Approval of Actions: Forgiveness is not approving or justifying wrongful actions.
2. Excusing Behavior: Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing or pardoning the offense.
3. Denial and Repression: True forgiveness involves acknowledging the hurt, not denying it.
4. Forgetting: Forgiveness is not about erasing memories but choosing not to dwell on them.
5. Minimizing the Offense: Forgiveness requires acknowledging the seriousness of the offense.

How to Practically Achieve Total Forgiveness

• No Record of Wrongs: Choose to keep no record as love keeps no record of wrongs.
• Refusal to Punish: Forgiveness is about giving up the desire for revenge or punishment.
• Being Merciful and Gracious: Reflects God's nature of mercy and grace.

Emotional and Psychological Aspects

• Releasing Bitterness: Essential to avoid grudge and emotional distress.
• Inner Peace and Confidence: Forgiveness leads to peace and confidence in God.

Additional Aspects of Forgiveness

• Forgiving God: Addressing feelings of bitterness towards God for allowing suffering.
• Forgiving Oneself: Essential for experiencing total forgiveness and joy.

Conclusion

• Encouragement to practice forgiveness to achieve freedom and peace.
• Next chapter will explore how to know if we have truly forgiven.
• Plans to read subsequent chapters in shorter segments for better comprehension.