mum and dad have allowed Rylands sleeping pattern to take over the entire family of an evening this issue seriously needs to change because it's affecting everybody in the family dramatically Jenna Bryce we're going to use the sleep separation technique with Rylan to get them off to sleep okay and this is how it works you come into the room you keep calm you read a nighttime story kisses and cuddles and so to bed and your place Rylan into his crib when you've done that you move to this corner here and you sit down all right so so he can see the side of your face but you're not given in my contact each night you move further and further away from the crib or bed so that you establish this pattern of your child feeling secure in their bed but not feeling anxious because they're left in their bedroom on their own do not under any circumstances as soon as you see him trying to climb over get up from your spot and try and stop him because what you will do is find yourself fighting with your son in the crib like this to try and keep him down and you can't control that from wherever he's standing he's not getting no communication or eye contact with you because that is what he's gonna be looking for and that is what he's gonna try and grab and once he's got it he won't stop putting Raylan too bad takes hours I'm usually just exhausted and nearly in tears if this bedtime routine works out it's gonna change everything Jen went to put Rylan to bed and started to read stories to him and then very quickly he gave her signs that he wanted to go into the living room yeah no sofa here how lovely Rylands room car tourism it is gone Manon it's time for night so Jen put Rylan in his crib and he didn't want to go there Wow my house enough itchin ma ma ma I started to kind of feel anxious about the routine when I had to bow my head and basically ignore him Ryland decided to climb out of the crib Jane went back into the crib and he just went mad mirela was just crying mommy mommy mommy it got to be too much at one point I I almost I almost got up and grabbed him out of the crib Jen became very emotional and and started to cry listening to her child call her name was just ripping her heart out although it was only 25 minutes it seemed like an hour I honestly could not have done that without Joe I was just so excited that that we had gotten my two-year-old to sleep and you know fairly calmly I was just so happy I can't even put into words it's exhausting it's horrible you're six years old stuff right now settle down bedtime with Rylan it's pretty frustrating