Exploring Conflict Mindset and Transformation

Aug 23, 2024

Decoding the Conflict Mindset Podcast

Introduction

  • Host: Dr. Deborah D.Pri
  • Purpose: Explore conflict management and its impacts through insights from thought leaders.

Guest Speaker: Luan Horban

  • Background: Former middle manager in healthcare; unexpected job loss led to a career transition into coaching.
  • Current Role: Master coach recognized by the International Coaching Federation (ICF).
  • Key Insight: Early childhood traumas influence adult behaviors and responses to conflict.

Key Concepts Discussed

The Nature of Conflict

  • Conflict can be viewed as an opportunity for growth and change rather than something to fear.
  • It can bring excitement and enthusiasm into life.

Personal Transformation

  • Luan's unexpected job loss prompted self-exploration and a career change that led to coaching.
  • Importance of understanding mindset and its effects on personal and professional growth.

The Neuroscience of Transformation

  • Discussed concepts from:
    • Bruce Lipton: Biology of belief, understanding how beliefs affect our lives.
    • Joe Dispenza: Neuroscience and personal transformation.
    • NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming): Techniques for altering perceptions and responses to stimuli.

Managing Early Childhood Traumas

  • Early experiences shape subconscious beliefs, often leading to avoidance behaviors.
  • Awareness and reframing can help mitigate the impact of these traumas.

Importance of Perspective

  • Perspective shapes our experiences and responses to situations.
  • Changing perspective can significantly alter emotional states and outcomes in conflict situations.
  • Key Questions for Shifting Perspective:
    • "How can this get better?"
    • "What else is possible here?"
    • "How is this exactly perfect?"
    • "What would I do in this situation if I had a different belief?"

Full Life Harmony and Alignment

  • Changing one aspect of life affects the whole person; it’s important to consider life as an interconnected system.
  • Emphasis on the need for adaptability and holistic understanding in personal development.

Final Thoughts

  • Coaching vs. Therapy: Acknowledges the difference in approaches; coaching focuses on future growth and potential rather than processing past traumas.
  • Luan emphasizes the need for a solid foundation in coaching practices, which is provided through ICF standards.

Resources

  • Perspective Handout: Available for download; provides tools for shifting mindset and perspective.
  • Connect with Luan Horban on LinkedIn:
    • First Name: Luan (spelled L-U-A-N)
    • Last Name: Horban (spelled H-O-R-B-A-N)

Upcoming Episode

  • Discussion on the impact of politics on personal and professional relationships, particularly in an election year.
  • Strategies for managing political conversations without escalating conflicts.

Note: The podcast emphasizes the significance of perspective and mindset in managing conflict, drawing on personal experiences and scientific understanding.