Have you ever sent her a text and immediately regretted it? Or worse, watched that red receipt stare you in the face and then nothing? Ghosted, ignored, left hanging? Texting a woman doesn't have to be a game of chance. There are secrets, yes, secrets that women can't resist.
And I'm about to hand them to you on a silver platter. By the time this video is over, you'll know exactly how to text her in a way that makes her want to respond instantly. Stay tuned. Jessica Owez here, welcome to the channel.
The problem with most texts. Let's talk about what's going on first, okay? Most guys send boring, predictable, or needy texts. Stuff like, hey, how was your day? What's up?
Or the common, you there? These texts are like the soggy fries of conversations. Nobody's excited to dig in.
If you're texting her like this, you're blending in with every other guy that's sliding into her DMs. And trust me, she's not interested in boring. Secret number one. The curiosity text.
All right guys, I need you to imagine this. She's scrolling through her phone, bombarded with a million notifications, group chats, Instagram likes, memes, stuff on TikTok, you name it. And then your text pops up. It's not another boring, hey, how are you?
But something that immediately grabs her attention and makes her think, wait, what does he mean by that? The secret sauce is to make her curious. Curiosity is like a magnet. It pulls her in and she can't help.
but respond to you. So here's some texts that work like magic. A text like, you'll never guess what I just heard about you. Another like, I just saw something that reminded me of you and I need to know your take on this. Or something like, okay, I have a crazy question for you.
Ready? Now, why do these text messages work? It's because they're open-ended, they're intriguing, and they're about her. The minute she sees a text like that, her brain's already racing.
What did he hear about me? What did he see? What's the crazy question?
And guess what? She's not just replying, she's actually invested. She wants to know. The tip here is don't give away too much too soon. When she replies, keep the momentum going.
If she asks, what did you hear about me? Don't spill right away. Say something like, hold on, let me find the exact words because it was too good.
This keeps her engaged and builds anticipation. You're not just texting, you're creating a story, a mini adventure that she wants to be a part of. Think of curiosity texts as a hook to a great conversation.
They're fun, they're playful, and they show that you're not just another guy asking the same boring questions over and over again. You're different, you're memorable, and most importantly, you're someone she wants to talk to, okay? So the next time you're stuck wondering what to text, ditch the whole hey and the hi and hit her up with something that will make her respond, okay?
Secret two, the compliment with a twist. So let me tell you something about it. compliments right they're like spices too much and you ruin the dish too little and it's bland but just the right amount with the right flavor well you'll hit the jackpot now here's what you need to understand women hear compliments all the time you're beautiful you're stunning you're gorgeous you have amazing eyes right and these are nice to hear for sure but they're also forgettable because she's heard them from every guy who's ever slid into her dm so if you want to stand out you need to level up your game. That's where the compliment with a twist comes in.
Instead of focusing on the obvious, which is her looks and what every other guy will see, highlight something unique about her and make it playful. A little humor will go a long way. For example, instead of saying, you're so chill, try, you have this cool without trying vibe that people will pay to learn from. Instead of you're funny, try, do you part-time as a comedian or is being hilarious just your side hustle? Do you see the difference?
These compliments aren't just about flattery. They're actually personal. They're specific, and they most likely will make her laugh. You're showing her that you notice her, and not just the whole surface level traits, but the things that make her unique. That's where real connection will start.
And the genius part is when you add a playful twist, you create intrigue. She'll begin thinking, wait, what else has he noticed about me, right? It's not just a compliment, it's a doorway to deeper conversations and deeper engagement. One more tip is you don't want to overdo it, okay? A single well-placed compliment is way more effective than a stream of them.
If you flood her with praise, it'll start to feel fake. So you want to keep it light, keep it playful, keep her wondering what you'll say next. So the next time you're texting her, skip the generic compliments and go for something that makes her smile, laugh, think, wow, this guy is different, right? That's the kind of text women can't resist.
Remember guys, the twist is your secret weapon. Okay, use it wisely and watch how quickly she starts texting you back with that same playful energy. Secret number three, timing is everything.
Let's get one thing straight. Even the best text in the world will fall flat if it lands at the wrong time. Timing is everything. Text her at the wrong moment and you'll either get a half-hearted response, a delayed one, or worst case scenario, no response at all. But text her at the right time and it's game changing, right?
Because of course our lives are filled with lots of things, activities, distractions, work meetings, errands, social events. I mean, come on. you name it. If you're texting her when she's knee-deep in stress or in busy mode, you're competing with her priorities and of course that's no way you're going to win. So what is the right time?
I've highlighted a few things. One, evenings are prime time. After dinner, say around eight or nine, is golden, you know, because she's winding down, scrolling through her phone, trying to relax, and she's probably going to be more open to engaging at that time.
So you can text her something intriguing like, Hey, guess who got into a hilarious situation? Or, I need your opinion on this crazy idea I just had. It's a perfect time to grab her attention and keep her engaged. Me thinks. Another time, midday breaks.
I think they work too. Lunchtime, early afternoon when she's taking a break. It's another sweet spot.
But keep it light, keep it fun. Don't dive into anything too deep. Don't overcomplicate it. I will say, avoid the danger zones, like mid-morning. say 10 to 11 a.m.
She's likely focused on errands or work. You want to avoid late afternoon like the four to sixes because she's probably stuck in traffic wrapping up on her day and your text will feel like an interruption. And don't even think about texting her late at night unless you have that kind of relationship with her. That'll be a complete turn off. You'll get ignored and that's where that story will end.
Now here's a move most guys miss. If you're not sure about her schedule just pay attention to her texting patterns. Does she usually reply faster in the evenings or around midday?
Use that as your guide to catch her, you know, at her most responsive times. It's subtle, but it shows that you're paying attention. And whatever you do, don't double text if she doesn't reply right away.
And it's because she might be busy, but the moment she opens her phone and sees you texted her three times in a row, she might begin to feel pressured or overwhelmed or put off, right? Confidence is key and confident men don't chase, okay? I need you to think of texting like fishing.
The right bait at the wrong time won't catch anything, but the right bait at the perfect moment, that's how you reel her in. So plan your timing wisely. Send that perfectly timed text and watch how quickly she lights up your notifications.
Remember guys, it's not about what you say, okay? It's when you say it. That's what I'm trying to drive home.
So get the timing right and you're already miles ahead of every other guy in her inbox. Secret number four, be her escape, not. Her chore.
Texting a woman isn't supposed to feel like a job interview, or worse, an interrogation. But there's so many guys who make this mistake, where they turn what could be a fun, engaging conversation into a checklist of boring questions. You know the ones I'm talking about, like, Where are you? What are you doing?
Who are you with? Come on, no one wants those texts. She doesn't want it, you probably don't want it either. When you text like this, you're making her feel like she has to report to you. And it's a huge turn off.
She doesn't want her phone to feel like a leash. Okay, she wants it to feel like a little escape from the whole day-to-day grind. So the secret is, instead of being the guy who adds to her stress, you want to be the guy who gives her a reason to smile, to make your texts light, make them playful and engaging.
Think about it. She's already dealing with work, with family, friends, life in general, and your texts should feel like a breath of fresh air, not a task that she has to complete. You want to ask fun, open-ended questions, okay?
So instead of, what are you doing? Try. Well, if you could do anything else rather than what you're doing right this minute, what would it be?
Instead of, how was your day? Go with, what's the craziest thing that's happened to you this week? I mean, these questions aren't just more interesting, in my opinion. They'll make you think about something fun, something different, and you're giving an opportunity to escape from the ordinary, even if it's just for a moment. Two, share playful scenarios.
You can text something like, so zombies are invading and you can only grab three things before you run. What are you taking? Or, you're stranded on an island. Do you bring a chef, a musician, or a comedian?
It's silly, sure, but it works. You're not just texting her, you're pulling her into a playful little world where she gets to have fun and forget about her responsibilities for a while. Okay, three, you want to give her a reason to laugh.
Send her a funny meme or create some kind of light-hearted conversation. Humor is such an underrated tool in texting. It breaks the ice.
It builds connection. It shows her that you're someone she can relax around. You know, women want to feel good when they talk to you.
So let her see that. Now, there's a golden rule, okay? Don't overthink it. If you're stressing about crafting the perfect text, she's going to feel that tension. Okay, it should come naturally.
It should be easy. It should be enjoyable for both of you. So keep it light, playful, positive.
And that's how you'll become the guy that she looks forward to hearing from. Remember guys, texting is your opportunity to stand out from the crowd. So you want to be her escape, not her chore.
And watch how quickly she starts texting you first. Secret number five, leave her wanting more. This is one of the most powerful texting secrets there is.
If you want to keep her hooked, keep her interested, and keep her wanting more, you have to know when to end the conversation. It's not an easy thing to do. I mean, you're vibing, she's laughing, the chat's going great, and then you overdo it. You stick around too long and suddenly the energy just fizzles out.
The deal is, the longer you drag a conversation, the higher the chances of it becoming boring, repetitive, or exhausting. You don't want her to associate texting you with that feeling of, here we go again, right? You want to leave her with a sense of excitement and curiosity, and most importantly, anticipation for the next time you guys chat. The key is to exit on a high note, right when the vibe is perfect, when she's engaged, smiling, enjoying the conversation.
That's when you end it. Now, I know it sounds counterintuitive, but think about your favorite TV shows, for instance. The best episodes always end with cliffhangers, right? Something that leaves you thinking, I can't wait to see what happens next. Okay, you want your text to feel the same way.
And here's how you can do it real quick. If you're in mid-conversation, you want to say something like, okay, gotta run, but this was fun. Let's pick up the conversation tomorrow.
Or, hey, I'll let you get back to your day, but I'll text you later. You're going to love what I have to share. Or if you're about to drop a juicy story, you want to tease it.
You can say something like, I'll tell you the rest later. You'll laugh, I promise. Do you see what these do? They don't just end the conversation. They plant a seed.
She's left wondering, what does he want to tell me? What's this exciting thing? And that's what basically keeps her thinking about you long after the conversation ends. There's a twist. It's not about ending the conversation.
You want to set the tone for the next one, okay? When you end on a high note, you come across as confident and in control. You're not lingering trying to milk the situation for all it's worth.
Instead, you're showing her that you're the guy who knows how to balance that connection with a little bit of mystery. And I'll tell you, confidence is hot. Okay, when you leave her wanting more, you're telling her, I'm fun to talk to, but I also have a life and I'm not desperate for your attention. That's the kind of energy that women find hard to resist. The most important part, though, if you ask me, is it's important that you trust the process.
You know, when you end the conversation at the right time, it doesn't just make her miss you. It creates a space for her to text you first the next time. And when and if she does, you'll know she's genuinely interested.
So don't be afraid to cut things short, even if it means or feels like the conversation is on fire. Okay. It's better to leave her wanting more than to overstay your welcome. The ultimate texting mindset. I'll wrap this up.
So here's the thing guys. Okay. Texting isn't about impressing her. It is however, connecting with her.
Be confident, playful, be yourself. Women smell fake a mile away. So you want to keep it real. Like I've already said, keep it light.
Watch how quickly your phone starts lighting up because she's going to be fully engaged. And now that you've got these secrets, it's time to put them to the test. So yeah, go ahead and try one of those messages on the ladies and let me know.
Okay. And when she responds instantly, please come back here and let me know in the comments because I want to hear the success stories. And hey, if you want more secrets like this, then I would encourage you to hit that subscribe button as well. Your texting game is about to level up.
Jessica OS here. Catch you in the next video. Peace.