Lecture Notes: It's Better for Women to be Adorers

Introduction

• Presenter: Dr. Orion Taraban
• Platform: Cycax Better Living Through Psychology
• Topic: Argument that it is generally better for women to be adorers in relationships.
• Context: Series on the balance of attraction suggests relationships have one person who likes the other more.

Key Concepts

Balance of Attraction

• Not possible for two people to like each other exactly the same amount.
• Roles: Adorer (likes more) and Adored (likes less).
• Both roles are gender-neutral.

Emotional Experience in Relationships

• Most people, regardless of gender, actually prefer to be adorers due to the emotional experience.
• Adorer's Experience: More emotionally compelling as they are with the person they love.
• Adored's Experience: Less emotionally compelling as they are loved by someone.

Argument for Women as Adorers

• Emotional Fulfillment: Women generally seek more emotional experiences in relationships.
  • Boredom is detrimental: "You can make a woman feel anything except bored."
• Sustainability: A bored woman may leave, making it better for her to be the adorer.

Gender Dynamics

• Men's Role: Men should allow women the opportunity to be adorers.
  • Avoid robbing women of emotional experiences by insisting on being the adorer.
  • Relationships benefit when women are not forced into the adored role.

Hypergamy

• Definition: Tendency for women to select partners "up and across" (older, taller, wealthier).
• Implications: Women want to look up to their partners.
  • If men are the adorers, it forces women to look down, which is unsustainable.

Conclusion

• Men should consider being the adored as a sacrifice to enhance relationship dynamics.
  • This sacrifice allows women to have the emotional experience of being adorers.

Call to Action

• Audience encouraged to reflect and comment on whether they agree with the premise.
• Promotion of channel membership and additional resources offered by Dr. Orion Taraban.