The Globe Secrets Podcast: Building a Relationship with Yourself

Introduction

• Hosted by Alicia Goen.
• Focus on self-awareness and personal growth.
• Episode on how to become your own safe space and build a relationship with yourself.

Listener Question

• A listener struggles with focusing on relationships rather than themselves.
• Common issues: losing oneself in relationships, not prioritizing self.

Why We Lack a Relationship with Ourselves

• Often realize the lack in romantic relationships.
• Anxious or avoidant attachment styles.
• Over-exertion in work or goals without self-connection.

Episode Goals

1. Understand why we lack self-relationship.
2. Discuss non-negotiables for self-relationship.
3. Master the art of personal life.
4. Learn to be your own safe space.

Key Observations

• Anxiety often tied to not feeling safe.
• No one can save you; it's essential to learn to save yourself.

Reasons for Lacking Self-Relationship

• Lack of resources or knowledge.
• Deep-rooted self-worth and attachment issues from childhood.

Anxious Attachment Styles

• People-pleasing, over-explaining, seeking external validation.
• Often not feeling worthy due to past experiences.
• Leads to getting the bare minimum from others.

Signs of Not Having a Relationship with Yourself

• Overanalyzing others' behaviors.
• Constant arguments without resolution.
• Choosing consumption over self-care.
• Excessive focus on others' lives and comparison.
• Stretching oneself too thin leading to escapism.

Non-Negotiables for Building Self-Relationship

1. Daily Mindset Work
   • Commitment to changing beliefs and thoughts.
   • Practices: journaling, podcast listening, self-reflection.
2. Daily Movement
   • Moving body to release stagnant energy, boost mental clarity.
3. Daily Wellness and Self-Care
   • Importance of healthful eating, sleep, and personal care.
4. Having Goals and Passion
   • Anchoring oneself in goals provides stability and purpose.
   • Importance of being rooted in something larger (spirituality, faith).

Mastering the Art of Your Own Life

• Discover unique personal needs and preferences.
• Importance of balance between non-negotiables and personal flavor.
• Be curious about personal likes/dislikes in social, work environments.

Being Your Own Safe Space

• Focus on internal connection when triggered.
• Move inward rather than seeking external validation.
• Build a toolkit of resources for self-regulation.

Practical Example

• Alicia shares a personal experience of feeling triggered.
• Utilizes mindset work and social connection to stabilize emotions.
• Importance of adjusting routines to personal needs.

Final Thoughts

• Building a relationship with oneself requires commitment.
• The journey is ongoing, with each day an opportunity to connect deeper.
• Encourage balance, awareness, and presence in life.

Conclusion

• Encouragement to engage with podcast through comments and reviews.
• Invitation to follow on social media for more insights and updates.