Nurturing Self-Relationship for Personal Growth

Aug 30, 2024

The Globe Secrets Podcast: Building a Relationship with Yourself

Introduction

  • Hosted by Alicia Goen.
  • Focus on self-awareness and personal growth.
  • Episode on how to become your own safe space and build a relationship with yourself.

Listener Question

  • A listener struggles with focusing on relationships rather than themselves.
  • Common issues: losing oneself in relationships, not prioritizing self.

Why We Lack a Relationship with Ourselves

  • Often realize the lack in romantic relationships.
  • Anxious or avoidant attachment styles.
  • Over-exertion in work or goals without self-connection.

Episode Goals

  1. Understand why we lack self-relationship.
  2. Discuss non-negotiables for self-relationship.
  3. Master the art of personal life.
  4. Learn to be your own safe space.

Key Observations

  • Anxiety often tied to not feeling safe.
  • No one can save you; it's essential to learn to save yourself.

Reasons for Lacking Self-Relationship

  • Lack of resources or knowledge.
  • Deep-rooted self-worth and attachment issues from childhood.

Anxious Attachment Styles

  • People-pleasing, over-explaining, seeking external validation.
  • Often not feeling worthy due to past experiences.
  • Leads to getting the bare minimum from others.

Signs of Not Having a Relationship with Yourself

  • Overanalyzing others' behaviors.
  • Constant arguments without resolution.
  • Choosing consumption over self-care.
  • Excessive focus on others' lives and comparison.
  • Stretching oneself too thin leading to escapism.

Non-Negotiables for Building Self-Relationship

  1. Daily Mindset Work
    • Commitment to changing beliefs and thoughts.
    • Practices: journaling, podcast listening, self-reflection.
  2. Daily Movement
    • Moving body to release stagnant energy, boost mental clarity.
  3. Daily Wellness and Self-Care
    • Importance of healthful eating, sleep, and personal care.
  4. Having Goals and Passion
    • Anchoring oneself in goals provides stability and purpose.
    • Importance of being rooted in something larger (spirituality, faith).

Mastering the Art of Your Own Life

  • Discover unique personal needs and preferences.
  • Importance of balance between non-negotiables and personal flavor.
  • Be curious about personal likes/dislikes in social, work environments.

Being Your Own Safe Space

  • Focus on internal connection when triggered.
  • Move inward rather than seeking external validation.
  • Build a toolkit of resources for self-regulation.

Practical Example

  • Alicia shares a personal experience of feeling triggered.
  • Utilizes mindset work and social connection to stabilize emotions.
  • Importance of adjusting routines to personal needs.

Final Thoughts

  • Building a relationship with oneself requires commitment.
  • The journey is ongoing, with each day an opportunity to connect deeper.
  • Encourage balance, awareness, and presence in life.

Conclusion

  • Encouragement to engage with podcast through comments and reviews.
  • Invitation to follow on social media for more insights and updates.