Lecture Notes: How to Get a Man Obsessed with You on a First Date

Introduction

• Discussion on strategies to make a man want you more on the first date.
• Importance of being present and active during the session.

Key Strategies

1. Fixation and Fascination

• Concept: Make him feel like you are fixated and fascinated by him.
• Purpose:
  • Extract information effortlessly as he will be excited to share.
  • Determine if he’s the right person by getting real information.
• Execution: Present yourself as interested in everything he says without necessarily complimenting him verbally.
• Psychology: Plant seeds of emotions that make him react in ways that enhance his interest in you.

2. Put on His Glasses

• Concept: Understand and adopt his perspective.
• Purpose: Make him feel understood, fostering comfort and openness.
• Execution: Ask about his thought processes, past experiences, and allow him to explain himself without judgment.

3. Talk with Your Body

• Concept: Use body language to show interest and engagement.
• Purpose: Elicit strong positive emotions without verbal compliments.
• Execution: Maintain eye contact, lean in, and show attentiveness.

4. Be a Seductive Therapist

• Concept: Combine being a good listener with seductive body language.
• Purpose: Keep the conversation relaxed and engaging.
• Execution: Ask questions naturally and show genuine curiosity.

5. Isolate His Attention

• Concept: Minimize distractions to focus his attention solely on you.
• Purpose: Make him feel like the world stops when he is with you.
• Execution: Sit where there is minimal background activity, e.g., back facing a wall.

Psychological Insights

• Manipulation: Using psychology to strategically influence emotions and reactions.
• Emotional Planting: Elicit desired emotions by mirroring or creating environments that subconsciously draw them out.
• Importance of Feelings: People remember how you make them feel rather than what you say.

Conclusion

• These strategies are about creating an emotional environment where he is more open to share and feel connected.
• The key to success is subtlety and strategic engagement.

Q&A Section

• Addressed concerns about emotional manipulation and authenticity in relationships.
• Emphasized the importance of maintaining boundaries and protecting self-respect.

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Additional Advice

• Be wary of individuals who display erratic emotional behavior or manipulation.
• Focus on your own boundaries and ensure mutual respect and interest.