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תכנות תת-מודע והשפעות על חיים

that is one of the most important questions in this world right now are you living the life you want or are you living a life you've been programmed an answer unfortunately as most of us are living a life we've been programmed [Music] a central idea and all of your work appears to be that it's our subconscious Minds that are driving our day-to-day behaviors and for many of us it's those subconscious patterns that are sabotaging the quality of our life yeah but the big problem is when you say the word subconscious that means below conscious so when people are programming or playing their subconscious they're the ones that don't see it uh uh you know I talk to people I say well give them a story for like 40 years the same story so you you have a friend and you know your friend's Behavior very well and you know your French parent and one day you see your friend has the same behavior as their parent and I joke and I say well hey Bill you're just like your dad and I say I know exactly what Bill's going to say first thing he's going to say is how can you compare me to my dad I'm nothing like my dad and yet everybody else can see he's like is that the only one who can't see it is Bill and this becomes the most profound point because he's programmed by his dad in the first seven years years and he plays these programs 95 percent of the day and the reason why he plays the subconscious programs because the conscious mind uh is busy thinking and thinking is an inside job not looking out and I go yeah well let's say I'm driving my car and I start thinking and then my conscience is not looking out now my conscience is thinking of something I said well then who's driving the car and I go this is the most important point the subconscious is autopilot the moment the conscious is not paying any attention about something subconscious sits in and starts driving a car according to the program and that's where the issues come from the subconscious programs were downloaded by observing other people so when you're playing your subconscious you're not playing you you're playing your download really and you don't see it because you're thinking but everybody else sees the response and this is where the whole disconnect comes in because people think oh I'm a happy wonderful loving person and they have trouble out in the world uh uh and they don't understand it but what they're missing is you're not playing that happy loving person except five percent of the day 95 of our behavior is coming from sub below Consciousness uh and we're the ones that can't see it when we play it but everybody else of course is uh seeing exactly what we're doing so the whole idea is are you living the life you want or are you living a life you've been programmed an answer unfortunately is most of us are living a life we've been programmed and and the programming comes from other people so it's not our lives yeah this is such a key point because as you're just demonstrating there right it's we can see patterns in other people so clearly but they don't see it as well as you do it yeah well the reason let's give a reason why programming occurs okay the brain is a computer most powerful computer that humans have ever experienced but it has parallels to computers and number one is this um in the old days when you would buy a computer before they put the programs in you could bring it home brand new computer plug it in push start boots up screens on and I say do something and people well no I can't do anything so you got a brand new computer you know first you have to put programs into a computer before you can use that computer the brain of a of a human is the same thing the screen lights up in the last trimester of pregnancy it's ready but there are no programs so the first seven years of a child's life is the brain is not operating at the higher level of Consciousness higher level higher vibration now that's what we talk about we put wires on a person's head electroencephalograph read brain function a child up through seven is not operating at Consciousness except for a little bit it's primarily operating at a lower vibration called Theta and I said well what does Theta I say it's expressed as imagination so that's how children can have a tea party and they pour nothing into the cup and then they drink the nothing and then they explain how that was the best tea they ever had or a child rides a broom saying it's a horse in the child's mind that is not a broom it's a it's a horse but it's mixing imagination in reality but Theta is hypnosis and the significance of that is children have to learn how to become a member of a family the rules a member of a community the rules I go how can an infant a young kid learn these rules they can't go to school they can't read the book and all that and I say you don't have to Nature provided Theta hypnosis so that they can observe the parents the family and the community just observe their behavior and download those as programs age seven then that's when they start to become more conscious and engaging themselves so the first seven years is programming and then after that we play actually unfortunately five percent of our life from our creative conscious mind 95 from the program interesting point is this a new idea and I go 400 years the Jesuits have told their followers give me a child until it is seven and I will show you the man and what they knew is exactly what we just said first seven years is programming but after age seven 95 percent of your life is coming from that program so if you can program the child for the first seven years then the rest of the life of that child is actually an expression of that program yeah it's interesting we've we've covered I guess similar themes on the show in the past but but through a different lens that our childhoods are hugely influential in terms of our adult behaviors we develop um we we adapt so you know we take on certain behaviors to survive to be accepted by our caregivers to get the love and the validation from our parents or whoever might be looking after us our teachers Maybe and they potentially served us well as children but we're still playing out those same behaviors from adults but we're not children anymore we're adults and we not we need to now re-examine them and go do I still want that behavior in my life or do I want to as you would say reprogram it so I can live a different type of life that that's the most important Insight is people need to know right now because as I said if you're playing a subconscious program by definition so you're playing it not with Consciousness you're playing it without you even paying attention to it uh and I say but why well that's why I said the conscious mind is creative but the conscious mind can think okay so what's the difference I say well creative is all that imagination but thinking is an inside if I ask you I say uh tell us what you're doing it next Monday uh and it's not written here anywhere and for a moment you're going to say oh let me think and and then you're going to come up with an answer and I say yeah but where was the answer it wasn't out here the answer was in here so I said oh then you had to redirect direct your attention for thinking to look inside but the moment you're looking aside then you're not by definition using the conscious creative mind to look outside and that's when the subconscious is the autopilot steps in and will manage the things that you're not paying attention to but it will only manage it according to the downloaded program that you got in that first seven years and it's very hard if I say well what program did you get in that first seven years then and the issue is this well you were being programmed before you were born last trimester of pregnancy we already know that programming is occurring I mean a simple thing is uh if you play music through the abdominal wall when a woman is pregnant and the fetus is inside she plays the music when that baby is born it will instantly remember or know that music it even if the father is talking the voice of the father is transmitted through the abdominal wall baby is born the father says something the baby knows exactly who who that voice is so that's even before you're born okay then I say yeah but you got program from before birth you got programmed a whole year from zero to one I say so what what do you remember you know there was no memory there I said okay got another whole year program for one to do I say what programs you got you said I don't know because Consciousness wasn't engaged uh and so the problem is programmings were coming in but the individual had no conscious awareness of the program it just was record playback record playback that's what it's all about and then I said well this becomes a problem because then I say well what are your programs that essentially control your life and answers I have no idea what those programs are so I just want to help people for a second uh because it is established that only five percent of the time are we using the conscious creative mind to run our life 95 of the time is coming from the program so here's a simple insight uh the things that come into your life that you like they come into your life because you have a program to accept them but those things that we want and we work hard and we sweat over and put a lot of effort I'm going to make it I'm going to make this happen I'm working on it I'm working real hard why are you working so hard and the answer is not because the universe won't give it to you is because unconsciously your program does not support that destination and you're trying to override it with extra work and effort so then life becomes a job more or less trying to get those things you want when your program unconsciously is sabotaging you you know as we have this conversation Bruce I've been a practicing medical doctor for just over 21 years now and there's been a real evolution in my thought process throughout my career I've from very early on felt that a lot of the time in medicine we put sticking plasters on our patients problems which really aren't solving the underlying problem and are at best just keeping it at Bay for a few more weeks till they return back that's at best um I I think I realized early on that if I could help my patients change various things in their lifestyle the way that they're living their life food movement sleep stress uh sure it can have a huge impact yes absolutely but then over the past few years I thought what's going on here because a lot of people have done that they've changed their life they feel better so they've had the knowledge they've experienced it they felt better for maybe six months maybe a year maybe two years and sometimes people would revert back to their previous behaviors I thought what is going on here and I've really carefully examined the patience throughout my career who have not just changed in the short term but changed and transform their lives for goods and there's always been a big shift up here in their minds the way they think the way they approach the world right so when I think about your work and what you've just said to me and I look at it through the lens of health and many people listen to this show and watch it because they want to get healthier I feel that a lot of the time the reason they can't make lifestyle change stick is because the underlying program that was driving them to behave in a certain way has not been addressed that's exactly what the problem is when people say the mind the idea oh there's a mind a single mind I go well that's the first mistake there are two minds we mentioned conscious and subconscious but we also have to mention this they each have a different function and they most importantly they learn in different ways so the conscious mind's creative and that means it's the one with the imagination and uh uh and things that you you want and you desire and you can put that in and you could read a book a self-help book and you say oh I got all this knowledge now from this book and I went to the lecture and I did all these things I got all this knowledge my life hasn't changed I go well that's because the conscious mind being creative can learn in any number of different ways you can just go aha I have a new idea and your conscious mind can change the subconscious mind by definition is the Habit mind and I go significance habits resist change because if habits change then they're not habits anymore so all of a sudden you say well if I downloaded a habit can I you know think out of that habit I go no uh because that's not how it learns and so the conscious mind and most people is very smart I'm sure look this audience has been listening to for a long time they've got great understanding and many of them will go yeah I really understand what you've been talking about but somehow or other with all that knowledge my life is still the same and I go that's because when you educate the conscious mind that that's easy but that process does not create a habit so you can make have a super smart conscious mind all the data all the material I read the book I know everything about it I go yeah but that doesn't change the program on the inside a lot of people think well I'm going to give myself a good talking to and that's where the the joke comes because I say there's nobody in the subconscious mind it's the exact equivalent of a hard drive and a computer it's got programs in it there's nobody in it and you can talk to your blue in the face with the conscious mind trying to tell the subconscious mind change the program I go yeah that's not how it learns a program I want to talk about how we can start to go about changing these programs but but before we get there what is stress fit in hair because if you look around Society these days many people are living in a state of stress yes so how does stress and living in a stressed State relate to our conscious and non-conscious Minds that is perhaps one of the most important questions in this world right now for a very simple reason uh we we believe so many issues and diseases are associated with genes and then and I say when I was teaching at a medical school what was I teaching doctors well uh at that time oh genes turn on and off and change control the character and then I say well as far as you know you didn't pick the jeans and if you don't like your characters you can't change the genes and since they activate themselves then you become a victim of your heredity oh my God there's cancer running in my family I have a cancer Gene and and I go okay let's get to a real simple fact less than one percent of disease is connected to genes less than one percent ninety percent plus is all stress related okay so all of a sudden I say well you want to try to adjust the genes I said the genes didn't have a problem was the stress that was causing the problem and now with the new science it's called epigenetics it sounds like genetics but Epi means above so what we call skin epidermis because just below the surface skin is a layer called the dermis epidermis means above the dermis that's the skin so I say epigenetics means control Epi above the genes and now there's a whole new understanding because we're not victims of the genes we understand now that we actually control our genetic activity through our Consciousness or subconscious more importantly because that's 95 percent of the time a big important point this is like maybe a lot of people in the audience are going to frequent I say this but for example there's no Gene that causes cancer everyone said oh Uncle James cancer genes I go no there's no Gene that causes cancer they're correlated with cancer but they're not the cause so especially like women are very concerned because they get I've got diagnosed I have the brca breast cancer Gene immediately what's the consciousness of the programming that people have the gene is going to give me cancer and now the fear of cancer rises in them because they say they have this Gene and then I go well guess what 50 of the women carry this Gene never got the cancer so the first thing you have to understand is this possession of the gene doesn't cause the cancer it's a life that's not in harmony a life that's out of balance that's when that Gene is activated so we've been blaming genes but we're never giving any credit or power to the person who can influence those genes and this is what epigenetics is all about Consciousness is controlling your genetic activity it reminds me a little bit of um and also immune theory that I think was first put forward by Dr Fasano in America I think her Harvard's where he put forward that you need three things in order to have an autoimmune disease you need yes the genetic predisposition not the genetic Destiny the genetic predisposition yes you need some sort of environmental trigger there you go and you need a degree of intestinal permeability which is also known as leaky gut colloquially it says if you have those three things then you can develop autoimmune disease and I always found that really fascinating because it kind of made sense to me that you know yes you can have a certain genetic blueprint but actually how that blueprint plays out is going to depend on your environment and your lifestyle 100 they're so important you know there's very interesting uh uh Insight here and that is when when people follow the fate of a child adopted into a family where there's cancer they find that the adopted child will get the same family cancer at the same probability is any of the natural siblings so an adopted child picks up that gets that cancer but here's the point the adopted child came from totally different genetics so it was not the genetics that pushed that cancer it was being adopted into a family where the programming was not giving them wholeness health happiness it's just uh stressful very stressful programming and as you said stress American Psychological Association recognizes 90 percent of doctor visits are stress related visits and the we don't focus on the stress that's like oh a side thing I say no it's not a side thing it's the number one thing that is coming from the top down and the genes genes are blueprints to make the proteins of the body a hundred thousand different proteins like building blocks okay proteins are complex molecules and they wear out proteins wear out all the time so you have to replace them I said well how do you replace this complex molecule in the answer is DNA is a blueprint to make a protein I go so what I go well you go into an architect's office and she's working on a blueprint and I say well ask her is your blueprint on or off she would look at you know what are you talking about it's a blueprint so on and off I go precisely genes cannot turn themselves on and off they don't self-actualize they're controlled by environmental signals and all of a sudden oh my god well if the environment is controlling this then you're programming the environment your lifestyle in the environment and all these other things now become the primary controlling factor of your genes not the genes and we have to let go because when I was programming the doc doctors that oh genes turn on and off and all that stuff I was programming that people are victims because as I said as far as you know you didn't pick the genes you can't change them they operate by themselves and so we were programming victim and then it turns out the new signs of epigenetics is not victim you're the one that's actually controlling it with your behavior yeah this is such a key Point um I think just to pause on this idea that if we are simply just going to be playing out our genetic Destiny then we lost a huge amount of empowerments and a couple of things come to mind here Bruce um I I felt very strongly early on in my career that one of the most important things I need to do with any patient with every patient is to make sure they walk out my door with a feeling of empowerments that they feel even if they've had you know a horrible diagnosis that there's something they can do to influence how they're going to feel to influence the outcome maybe not even a reversal sometimes but just you know influence how they're going to feel with that condition well what I have to say is this knowledge is power and lack of knowledge is a lack of power when people don't know that they're involved with their own life and their own genetics and their own behavior because they're programmed to be the victim then they become a victim because they have no knowledge of this and and what you're doing what I'm doing is let's wake up you are powerful if you understand how this works and if you don't understand how it works you'll just say no it's not me I'm not in control and and people walk away feeling like there's nothing I can do the genes are controlling this and I don't control the genes I go well that's the story that's wrong and when people are allowed to walk away from a medical practitioner with that belief then that practitioner in no way has helped that patient because the idea is this as you said I've got to help them get a better attitude when they walk out of this building I have to give them more power so that they have more power because if they walk out saying there's nothing I can do then the game is over at that point I'm interested in your individual Journey Bruce because you come from a very very strong and respected scientific backgrounds because a lot of people might think yes some of these Concepts may sound spiritual and as I get older I'm very interested with the intersection between science and spirituality or any way but you know at PG s is something I've been aware of for maybe 10 15 years something like that you were I think talking about this way before anyone 1967 1967 right I don't have the term epigenetics you've been calling them no because my research at that time showed the role of epigenetics but there was no term epigenetics so we actually uh created a word called transformation that something transforms the existing thing now it's called epigenetics that's the mechanism of how your Consciousness can rewrite this program uh and I saw this I was cloning what are called stem cells so could you say what a stem cell is I should say that because people don't know so let's make a simple point a body is made out of 50 trillion cells that's a number that is so massive that you can say it but you can't imagine it uh and every day every one of us is losing hundreds of billions of cells every day normal attrition skin cells are sloughing off the whole digestive tract the lining of the digestive tract from the mouth to the anus this is massive amount of of track the lining is replaced every three days and I start to say well if I keep losing the cells would I die and I say well if you can't replace them of course you would die and I said yeah but then I said how how can I keep losing cells and still replace them the answer is before you were born these were embryonic cells that were giving you the structure and function okay after you're born you still have embryonic cells in your body but you're not an embryo so we change the name call it stem cell because before birth I could do a biopsy and look oh say here here's an embryonic cell if I wait one minute after birth look at the same biopsy look at the same cell now it's the oh no that's called the stem cell so stem cells Are embryonic cells they're there to replace all the cells that are going wrong so my research revealed that I was cloning stem cells and that all of a sudden what does that mean I say I put one p one cell in a dish one stem cell and it divides every 10 hours about after a week I've got 30 000 cells in the petri dish because they keep doubling and doubling and doubling okay here's my experiment and it was like so clear I took those 30 000 cells and now you have to recognize they're genetically identical cells because they only came from one parent so 30 000 genetically identical cells I split the cells up into three dishes ten thousand thousand each dish so all the dishes have genetically identical cells but we grow them in the lab something called culture medium and this we're going to come back to this that's critical because what is culture meaning I'll give you a hint laboratory version of blood so if I grow human cells I say what's human blood made out of because that's what nourishes cells and I make a version in a lab called culture medium since I'm synthesizing culture medium I can change some of the combinations of the chemistry so I create three different versions of culture medium slight chemistry difference and I feed the cells and one dish I feed them version one of of the culture medium and the other version two and the third disc version three and the first dish the cells form muscle and the second dish the cells form bone and the third dish with a different environment the cells form fat cells and here I am teaching in medical school that genes control life and here's my laboratory experiments to say all these cells are genetically identical how come one became muscle how the other one became bone how the other one became fat it was like it was based on the culture medium and all of a sudden I said oh my God the self fate wasn't controlled by the genes it was controlled by the environment in which the cells live and and if you change the environment you change the fate of the cells so that completely cancels the idea that genes were in control uh and that's on the micro and on the macro we humans are you know as you say 50 trillion cells or something like that and our culture median is the environment around us now well no okay here's and this is the real important part let's look at the body as a skin covered petri dish why I got 50 trillion cells under my skin instead of a plastic dish is a skin dish inside but I have the original culture medium which is blood and I say the chemistry of the of the culture medium whether the cells in a plastic dish or whether it's in the skin dish it's still the culture medium that controls the fate of the cells so in the human body it's the blood chemistry that actually activates the genetics in the cell and I go so why is this significant I say well what controls the blood chemistry it's going to make an important point right here and I say the brain is the chemist and puts in the the the the stuff into the like growth factors emotional chemicals you know neuropeptides things like that adding you know putting it into the blood and then comes the most important question so the blood is the chemist putting the chemistry into the blood the chemistry and the blood is the culture medium so the chemistry the culture medium is controlling the Fate that okay got that but then the most important question comes what chemistry should the brain put in to the blood what chemistry and then comes the answer which is so blow away and the answer is this whatever picture you hold in your mind the brain translates that into complementary chemistry if I have a picture of love my brain releases wonderful things into the blood like dopamine for pleasure oxytocin to bond with others a growth hormone and growth hormone does exactly what it says so when you're in love you're releasing this growth hormone which enhances Your vitality and that's why when people fall in love they get so healthy they get you know they say oh look how they glow they're so in love and I go this is the chemistry of the blood engaging the behavior of the cells but I say but what if I'm holding a picture of something that scares me I said well you're not going to release love chemistry you start to release stress hormones and factors that affect the immune system and all that I said well that's a different chemistry I go yeah just like in the culture dish a different chemistry leads to a different genetic activity and all of a sudden says oh my God your thoughts are being turned into complementary chemistry which then controls your genetics and this all of a sudden says well then if I want to change my genetics do I have to go in and change the cells in the giant I said no it's changed teaching your thought that's all you have to do yeah and I think people if they really self-examine they already know that they already know that when I feel scared or stressed or anxious things happen in my body you know my gut starts to change or you you have an urge to go to the toilet or you get a headache or whatever right so and we know it's well established scientific fact that stress psychological stress as well Elevate cortisol in all kinds of knock-on consequences in our body so the fact that our thoughts change our biology I I think it's not although it's quite obvious I just don't think people realize that that have positive thoughts that will influence your biology have negative thoughts what's interesting and that will also influence your biology what would you say Bruce in a in an interview I've heard you uh in the past I think you said 60 of these unconscious programs are disempowering and are limiting beliefs that we've acquired from other people sixty percent yes that's a massive number and then recognize but that sixty percent is coming from the subconscious so the individual playing that subconscious is the one that they're not even aware they're playing their subconscious so their life seems to be out of control oh I want to be happy I want to have a great job I want to have a great romance I said that's conscious wishes and desires conscious wishes and desires subconscious habit okay so how do we change it oh that you know that's the first question I I always remember very very much how I was so excited by the mechanism the you know the biology and how the the uh the chemistry was adjusting the genetics and all this and I would love to tell people uh and I remember uh every time I finished the lecture the first question was how do you change it I was like at that time so I didn't have any idea how to change it I just recognized how it worked and it was so frustrating but now uh really over the years in my study and now I really understand how how you change it and the idea is well how do you change a program that was the issue not how you change the conscious mind how do you change the subconscious mind because it doesn't learn conscious mind learns by just whatever you read the book I learned it okay subconscious mind doesn't learn that way I say how does it learn I say well in the first seven years that's when I said the programming went in the brain wasn't functioning at the higher level of Consciousness it was actually a little lower that was called Theta the vibration the imagination and all that that's hypnosis okay so the first way we learned programs was hypnosis because the the the function of the brain wasn't it was at a hot at a low uh you know lower vibration uh some people might remember the old days when hypnotherapy they they'd have a watch and the hypnotherapist said you know swing the watch back and forth and they would say you're getting tired you're getting tired uh and what was the point when you get tired you lower the vibration of the brain and the moment you fall asleep actually consciously the next level of activity of the brain is Theta before it goes down to the lowest vibration Delta sleep so every night when you go to bed there's a period just after you close your eyes and you're essentially disconnected for a moment your brain is operating in Theta well Theta is hypnosis okay so I said well that's how you you your brain was in Theta during that childhood period as predominantly now you're an adult I said yeah but you have Theta every night when you go to bed so I said what can you do and this is the old story you've heard people do it you put a pair of earphones on at night you play a program that you want to be true in your life and while you're awake you might hear the program but it's the moment you fall asleep the conscious mind shut off but the subconscious mind is now in record Theta so whatever is coming through the earphones at that moment after you fall asleep you don't hear it but the subconscious mind is hearing it and downloading it in a state of theta so the first way of changing a belief system is to get into Theta and this is called self-hypnosis put the earphones on play the program that programs for health happiness love joy whatever and just go to sleep which is really cool because you don't have any there's no studying here you just play the program I mean so you're saying when we're tired so that's I guess last thing at night maybe first thing in the morning as well same thing but it's a little harder to judge when you're coming awake rather than when you're going to sleep got it so let's say the night time just before you go to bed a really important part of the day where you can I guess consciously make a decision to reprogram your subconscious Minds yeah what does this look like or is this self-recordings that people make is this I don't know like for example are there hypnosis programs that they download or sometimes people will fall asleep yes two conversations like these so help me understand help us all understand is it something specific or are all of these things helpful well all these things are helpful but the most specific ones are when you put in a program that you specifically Want To Be True in your life you want you're not having good relationships while they're uh these programs are available all like bookstores and and online they're they're called self-help programs basically and I say well you can get them for anything whether it's job related relationship related you pick out the one you want and then I say you just play this and and the point is the moment you're falling asleep the only part of you that is hearing that program is the subconscious because that's how it works in Theta so you can download it's called self-hypnosis and that's how you can do it that's number one I'm talking about natural in a natural child Theta is the present program for first seven years is predominantly that so therein faith says so they're absorbing everything everything but but is it when we become adults we're not in faith apart from at specific times but you can still learn you learn how to drive a car after age seven you know you learned a lot of like play an instrument after your age so that's not hypnosis though is it so so method one is hypnosis yes but it sounds like there's other methods as well to change the program after age seven the second way that you put programs in is doing something that you practice and repeat practice and repeat habituation you make a habit by practicing it uh and so uh you don't know how to play an instrument you practice your practice your practice you finally get it you don't have to practice anymore you can just pick up the instrument and play it or drive in a car you you don't have to worry about all the the details are the first time you got in the car was oh my god there are mirrors Windows gauges pedals you know paying all the so many things you have to pay attention to today you get in the car you put the key and you start it up and you're thinking about where you're going why the rest of the driving is habit you don't have to think about all those things it's automatically programmed so habituation is the second form I love that you know I just want to share an analogy from golf here if you don't mind because um and I'd be very interested in your perspective on this I used to read a lot about choking you know when when top sports people would choke um and you know there's an example of a golf called Rory McIlroy who uh he was leading the Masters Golf Tournament a few years back he had a big lead and you know this is just one example I'm not having to go at Rory this is just it's common in all sports where um people almost self-employed and for a few holes like he could barely swing the golf club what was really interesting is as always sort of reading a lot of Bowser trying to figure out what what's going on here it's this conscious subconscious again where he knows how to drive the golf ball you know better than most people on the planet yes so he's playing usually from his subconscious the patterns ruin he knows how to shake the ball right to left left to right whatever but in that moment where it's like oh man I'm leading the Masters I need to be really careful now he's trying to think you know or something this is what people say I don't know what was in his minds but you're almost overthinking you're now trying to control something that you could naturally do as you say driving yeah if you were thinking about when do I put the clutch down or what timing is it with the accelerator you know if you if you drive a manual it's it's the same kind of thing isn't it absolutely but in fact really when when he's playing the game he's playing it in the conscious mind in the sense that he has a vision I'm gonna hit this ball and it's going to go into that hole over there he very important because you there's a destination and there's a means to that destination it turns out and this is really most important is if you focus on the destination and not on the means let the system which is so powerful to it it will get there without you telling it how to get there but when you start to interfere and say okay now I got to make sure I swing it right my head's level my grip is right and all of a sudden you're putting all those details in it's like no don't focus on the details you forgot what the end was the end was the ball is supposed to go over and there and so that starts to come in because now you're trying to control everything with your you know with this manual control and it's like no uh you don't have to have the manner control matter of fact that gets in the way the body knows what you want you don't have to tell it how to get there that's a big issue in our lives because uh I want to be successful how oh I gotta do this I gotta do this and I say oh you're you're planning all these things and your your conscious mind is not even any the subconscious a million times more powerful a computer than the conscious mind so I say you're going to take this little small conscious mind and try to run the bigger computers like that doesn't work let go of the control and this is the whole thing I mean it's a I I just came to my mind a lot of people say let go let God or something like there's some phrase that people always say and I go well that's actually the way to do it focus on what you want but don't try and tell the universe how it's going to happen don't tell them that I'm going to do this and this is going to happen I go no you just focus on what you want the intelligence of this super computer the subconscious super computer uh it will handle it unless you put your hands into the machine I said Keep Your Hands on the machine focus on where that ball is going to go I mean he already practiced remember I said we did The Habit we did the practice you whether you're driving a car or hitting the golf ball practice practice Yeah so it starts off in conscious and then becomes subconscious I think people can all resonate with that whether it's a sport 100 musical instrument right same same kind of thing so again I'm it's it's not that hard to believe that if you practice the patterns that you want after a while they're going to happen automatically this is exactly what it's all about you don't think about the details of driving when you're driving you know they just automatically you could have conversation you could be often thought and you're still driving the car so what's an example of um you know we mentioned the first method is hypnosis then the second one is habituation is habituation and repetition and practice so do you have any examples of things that people can can practice Can can do and go right I'm going to practice this so that I start to change my subconscious behaviors well this is exactly you know what's interesting is um actors that are really good have a character they read the character they learn the lines but they have to act like a character okay it's not just reading the words uh you get someone like Renee Zellweger and she did the uh her what the diary or something after it yeah uh and it's interesting because um the character is 40 pounds heavier than Renee and when she got into character guess what she gained 40 pounds her conscious you know the program just okay I'm 40 pounds when she got finished playing the character then the 40 pounds disappeared as long as she was in the character she became the character a Dustin Hoffman one of the great actors uh was playing um Willie Lowman and Death of a Salesman a very depressive character and he was brilliant at it except that he had to check out and go out of the out of the theater and go into a hospital a neurological hospital because he became so depressed because he took on the character of this person and what I'm trying to say is who you think you are is what you you know you could get there but now the problem is who do you think you are and I go well that's part of the programming when we grow up uh here's the biggest problem in program I'll tell you right now parents act as coaches for their kids I go what does that mean I say well let's say a kid on a sports team isn't doing well the coach doesn't say oh please try harder no he says that's not good enough who do you think you are you don't deserve to be on this team but this kid is older and conscious and aware when the coach is saying that the coach is trying to say do better that's what you should do a child under seven is not in Consciousness but a child under seven is in record so the parents acting as the coach that's not good enough who do you think you are you could do better than this I say the child under seven is I'm not smart enough I'm not deserving I'm not good enough that's a program okay they didn't understand the meaning of the parent under seven because Consciousness was not that function of the brain at that time just record and I say well this this is where the problems come from in our lives because parents want to help us so they they figure if they needle you stick you that you're gonna do better without recognizing if the child's under seven they don't any they don't have any comprehension of what you're saying but they are recording and then you say well then 95 of my life is coming from what not smart enough not good enough not deserving uh I mean if the that's the program that's running then the behavior will manifest that program not good enough not smart enough not healthy whatever it is uh and so we have to recognize we become these programs and if you want to change that's when I say oh uh the new age I always laugh about it's called fake it till you make it I said what does that mean I said well you're not a happy person I go so what I say then all day long whenever you can remember you just say I am happy I am happy no matter how miserable you are you just keep repeating it because repeating is habituation practice repeat repeat and then one day you wake up and guess what you're happy why because once that program is installed then the the expression of that subconscious will manifest that program I noticed that when you walked into the studio two floors down I don't know maybe 45 minutes ago something like that he walks in with a smile we were chatting and then you paused to it felt like you were intentionally spreading Joy love happiness you you made some really uh nice meaningful comments to the two receptionists which put a smile on their face and then you walked on with me yes is that what you're talking about an intentional practice where you act in the manner you act as the person you want to become almost like you said about actors right you're trying to and I know from your history that you weren't always this way no right so this has been a change and and maybe later on we can talk about that but you've almost taken on the role of an actor but that actor isn't actually someone foreign to you that actor probably is who you innately are and who you are innately meant to be that I have become that you become okay that was it because I started to recognize what I'm putting out is coming back if I'm going to put out you know anger or something I'm going to receive something that resonates with anger I'm not gonna if I'm angry I'm not gonna activate a happy person but I will activate somebody who who will respond to anger uh it's called resonance uh and what you put out will return to you what you put out what happens though Bruce if you are giving off that energy of happiness and joy to someone yeah and for whatever reason they don't want to hear it it's like they're being run by a different subconscious pattern people aren't nice to me I'm not worthy of a nice comment or whatever it might be and they aren't able to accept the joy and the the smiles that you're putting out presumably that does that happen from time to time sometimes but you know what the most interesting thing is people want to be recognized at some point you know and like in the city everybody walks eyes on the street our eyes not looking at other people and stuff like that it's like so the other people don't exist but I didn't notice when I was living in New York that if I just walk down the street and I could catch somebody's eyes and I'd give them a smile that's all I do is just look at them with a smile all of a sudden they would just make this response that somebody recognized them as being this person and that that is what you know in a world where nobody recognized you all of a sudden somebody looks at you and smiles it's like it's contagious they they start to smile all of a sudden and this is it because we've been programming you know stay away or you know don't don't engage and all that and I go well that's where the big problem comes from because when people are not part of a community then they don't participate as a community at that point they're on their own and and people just want to be acknowledged and rarely rarely does anybody resist uh uh you know hearing that oh have a wonderful day and something that from meaning not just flat words have a wonderful day no meaning it and so again and this is part of the physics quantum physics everything is vibration you put out a Good Vibration the only thing that responds to a Good Vibration is a Good Vibration bad vibrations are on a different frequency they don't mix each other you put out a vibration you're going to get back what that vibration is it's called resonance and so if you're an unhappy person and you're broadcasting that the only person that will be affected by that unhappiness is somebody else is unhappy because they're resonating from the same thing so all of a sudden I realize as I started to change is like be happy just be happy and it's like people want to be happy that's a an innate that's like a child children are born in love and and then they acquire whatever the behavior is from their parents and stuff like that but they nately innately a child is recognizing love because love means safety you know repetition is so powerful this net you know we become what we repeat ultimately and one of the practices that I have done very very consistently for I don't know maybe five years now that I feel most of the time has become automatic now is if I was ever getting frustrated or feeling emotional or um frustrated by the action of someone else let's say I would always use it as a mirror I'd sort of ideally in the moment but sometimes if you're not able to in the moment later that day go ah you got trigger there you felt stressed by that you were frustrated what was that bringing up in you and then just instead of looking for the world outside to give you the answers try and find the answers yourself and go okay and how can you reframe that you know if you were that other person you'd be acting in exactly the same way right so how can you have compassion for that person as well as work on yourself and I feel it's a very simple practice that only takes a few minutes each day and then he gets to a point where you're like I'm hardly ever I'm certainly not perfect so it does happen but it happens a lot less I'm hardly ever now reacting to other people when people are behaving in a way that in the past I may not have liked I feel now that my default mode of being is compassionate going oh yeah well that's interesting oh it's an interest they've got a completely different perspective on the world so I do rather than trying to defend a belief system and an identity so yes I've done other things like heal trauma and all kinds of other things which you can maybe talk about but I I really do feel that it's that regular diligent practice catching yourself when you haven't got it right catching yourself when you do get it right being compassionate to yourself either way and then you actually become a new person I I grew 100 on that and I'll give you a very important fact uh I work in belief change programs with people and um when we have people test for the belief I love myself 80 to 90 percent of every audience will not test positive to I love myself I go where the hell did this come from well the first thing is this being criticized as a child because you downloaded the criticism it's not good enough not smart enough not lovable whatever the parents were trying to help you get better they made it worse because they put those programs in I started to recognize oh my god um people if you can't love yourself then you can't accept love that's the other very important thing because uh someone says they love you and you have a mind I'm not lovable then you look at them and go well you know well obviously you have no quality control I know I'm not lovable what are you saying and you'll push people away and then nobody will be there and then guess what you say see I'm not lovable nobody's here but you didn't realize you were responding to that it was a wake-up call to myself when I realized I was not loving myself and when you're not loving yourself you will sabotage yourself all the time because then you'll manifest the truth see I'm not lovable nobody's here and you didn't realize you chased them away now they're not here I change that and that was the most critical moment because if I love myself then I'm happy with myself and a lot of people are not happy with themselves and when somebody else is unhappy then they're unhappy man that's the residence that that pushes them to stay in in that place remember you you'll attract whatever you're sending out and when I change that my life changed my life was so profoundly Changed by that because I can maintain as you said how can you maintain happiness when other people around you are not in happiness and the answer is because then you don't connect with them they can say their words or anything but it has no connection with you because it doesn't stimulate unhappiness in me I'm happy so all of a sudden I said they're unhappy I can't resonate with that because they'll send that unhappy vibe and I have no receptor for unhappy so all of a sudden it's like I could walk through the world of people that are not unhappy but it doesn't come off on me at all I I don't you know all because continue walking but then what will happen is if I'm happy then those other people that will see that want to participate as I said people want to be happy people want to be loved uh and that's a drive and yet our programming Behavior takes that out of us and then we start resonating with the negative programs and we attract people that have the same kind of negative issues and then we're surrounded by this is not helping me all these people around here and uh change and then all of a sudden I say look who's around me all these wonderful people how'd that happen I go because now we resonate together and the ones that are unhappy they don't want to be around me because I don't feed their unhappiness with my unhabit I don't feed them and so they don't get what they're looking for if they're coming toward me with that I guess one way that people can catch and become aware of their unconscious patterns is to ask themselves how do you talk to yourself what do you say when something doesn't quite go right do you you know do you say you stupid thing you silly idiot you loser you know whatever it might be and I say this you know admissing that for much of my life I used to say those things to myself but the key thing being I used to yeah I don't anymore I I cannot remember the last time I was harsh to myself and it's yeah but you you can't you know I think the way I put it in my last book was you it is simply impossible to achieve long-term health and happiness if you hate yourself 100 this is so important because this is that was I have a memory of a point in my life where that change just like boom just like somebody turned the switch because I I was on the edge of I could have been diagnosed as manic depressive well happy most of the time but once it started going wrong then it was like this is wrong and then I give myself the abuse verbally oh nuts you're stupid you're not good enough what's wrong with you Lipton and I'd be doing that and I I was in my lab and I I just spent a procedure that took about an hour to prepare for the experiment and and if you mess it up just a little bit you have to start all over again the third time that day I messed it all up and now I'm really upset I spent the whole damn day doing this it didn't work and then I'm getting oh you Eddie you can't do anything right and I was giving myself like a parent on my shoulder telling me where you're that's not good enough and I'll never forget there I was alone in a lab and I hear this voice there's nobody there I hear this voice like you know and and the voice says don't you have anything better to do than to listen to this crap it looked around I started to laugh because I said sure I'd rather go to a movie so there was a newspaper I picked up the paper I found a movie went off to the theater guess what that whole dialogue ended instantly I had a choice I had that's what it was saying I have a choice do you want to continue this conversation do you want to do something else that was the moment of empowerment that was so great because it said stop stop do something else get out of here and and the next time I started to get a little depressed first thing that came back was the humor of that and I'd laugh and I go okay I'll do something else after three or four times guess what I've never been depressed since that time never why it just doesn't hold in my mind if a depression you know like a negative thing starts happening I don't sit there and play it over and over and over again which makes you go downhill downhill I just oh I don't I have a choice it's the choice do I want to listen to this stuff or do I want to do something else you know brace this is something that I think is so important because sorry since you're UPS if you are enjoying this content there's loads more just like it on my channel so please do take a moment to press subscribe hit the notification Bell and now back to the conversation so many people do struggle with negative thought patterns and they then get stuck in a vicious cycle and you've used to explain how you were there again the key thing being were there yes but many people feel stuck right and are you able to share anything that people may find helpful I know we're talking about reprogramming we've mentioned two of the three methods so far yeah number one hypnosis number two repetition and changing those habits um we'll get to the third one shortly but in terms of I don't know if this is a good point or not for you to share anything practical when someone is really really struggling well I I I guess it was as simple as I just said right you if you can take Consciousness to step in for one second say do you want to do this you know that's all you need to have that question do you want to do this and if the answer is no then all of a sudden guess what it was a moment of choice go do something else just do something else so I guess the lesson is that we've always got a choice yeah over our thoughts yes so what we're trying to help people do is cultivate that self-awareness first of all oh man there's that record playing why don't I take that record off and put a new one on that you know you say well that sounds simple I said but that's what it is you know let's don't make complexity out of this a thought is something you can perpetuate you can keep these thoughts going and that's the unfortunate part because if your programming doesn't give you really positive thoughts once these negative thoughts keep running they just run on like that record just keeps playing and playing and it'll take you downhill all the time and as you just said how simple is it stop I remember there was a show uh Bob Newhart the comedian and he was a psychologist and somebody started you know in his office a patient and then he just looked at me said stop that stop that and that that was actually what the whole idea was stop it uh but we have a tendency just to keep keep the record going keep the record going I say is this record gonna take you up and I say hell no this is the downhill record just when's it going to get better it's not going to get better so what are you going to do stop just stop yeah Bob Newhart just stop yeah and this this idea that the first seven years of our life are crucial yes okay but presumably even if we've made an active decision to change and go okay all right Bruce all right wrong I'm hearing you guys I am being driven by my unconscious patterns I'm gonna get with the program and start changing this what I'm thinking about is if you're still being exposed to ideas and negative thoughts and fear-based messaging it's gonna make it harder for you presumably to make those changes and I guess where I'm coming at this from is a couple of things one is I don't watch the news anymore I haven't done for many years smart smart and I know to some people that's a very controversial idea I mean what does it mean to be an informed citizen of the world I kind of you know I welcome that discussion at some point if someone wants to have it but I genuinely don't see how my life is enhanced in any way by watching the news it doesn't make you feel good it doesn't help you be more loving more collaborative it's intentionally and I don't mean this necessarily in a manipulative way but just by virtue of the fact that it's competing with other news channels they've got to make it scarier they've got to make it more fear-based to grab your attention yes right so the news is is one thing which I think many people are addicted to watching the news they watch it and consume it regularly don't realize what it's doing for that passing I'd I'd welcome your view on that and then I guess the follow-on on that for me also is but if we're constantly consuming information from outside new social media whatever it might be it's kind of hard to know who we are like what do we think is is the way we think really us or is it simply a reflection of what we've been consuming uh well basically let's say one step back because here's a very important part people say it but most people don't understand it but from a biomedical physics point of view life is energy energy in our body is what fuels us keeps us moving uh and I talk to people I say you know how much of your energy are you giving away every day and I say what do you mean I say you're putting out energy are you getting anything back from this are you making any changes out there with your energy you can go into a bar you can have a political argument with somebody get heated up which is wasting energy yet all riled up and you got this argument yeah yeah and then you walk out of the bar and said what changed did you change any thing here and I go absolutely not I said did you get heated up yeah did you spend all that energy yeah did you get anything out of it absolutely not I come up with the idea of you know we have a checkbook with our accounts in the bank I said that money in the bank is energy that's what it is that you can do things with I said you don't just write checks for nothing you don't give oh wow what a nice smile you have here's fifty dollars for you or 50 pounds or whatever and I go you don't just pass out this money I say why not because you know if you write this check you're taking it out of your resource and you're not getting anything from it I said what if I gave you an energy checkbook I said what does that mean I said well if you're going to use your life energy uh and you're going to write a check here are you getting anything back from that energy you just spent I say can you change something no then why the hell are you putting your energy into it you know I put my energy into things that enhance my life or enhance the life of my community that's where I put my energy and why because of giving me something productive with my energy most people waste their energy with arguments and all kinds of stuff like that you're not changing anything you're just using your life because energy is life and so it's basically I said well if I give you that energy checkbook I bet you'd be very much more cautious about how you're using your life energy during the day because if you're just wasting it you didn't get nothing out of it you changed nothing so that's how I look at I say if I'm going to put my time into this do I get something or does my community get something if if not I disconnect why because what what am I gonna that's my life why do I want to give energy to this one I have no influence over what's going to happen you can get all the political arguments you want you're not going to change politics you know you can watch the news and that's the part because then you get caught up in the story and I say yeah you're caught up in a story what do you what can you change here nothing why are you getting caught up in the story because you have no influence over the story except they can eat your energy up and you can't and there's nothing that that energy that you just use will do to help any of that stuff you just saw on that news and and people if they actually had to write a a check for spending their life energy all of a sudden you're going to see how quickly lives are going to improve because what they're going to do is now keep that energy for their life instead of giving it away yeah I want to go at relationships Bruce we've spoken a little bit about how our subconscious programming can negatively impact our health and our mood and our I guess our day-to-day sense of well-being our relationships with other people are a huge source of well-being they're a huge source of stress but they can also be a huge stress reliever if we have these close nourishing relationships right where in your view do these unconscious patterns play out in our relationships with other people oh well I can give you the best example of me because I said look you get programmed in that first seven years and I said how do you get a program you watch your parents family and community so in that seven years how do I know about relationships well I watch my mother and father because that's the example of relationships that I'm downloading well they were dysfunctional and I said so what was the result I acquired a dysfunctional understanding about relationships by observing them and downloading those kind of programs for 40 plus years I could never get a relationship off the ground why because if I start all of a sudden playing these programs then potential relationships would disappear because they nobody wanted to do that you know I didn't my parents didn't want to do that but they did it but I downloaded it and that's when I started to realize my God I I have to change this whole thing about relationships and I I really wrote this that my own programming to understand look that that I what I downloaded from my family this is not going to get me what I want in this life and and if it comes down what do I want oh now I have an idea of what I can program and the Joy about this is I didn't have any really good relationships I I met my my partner now Margaret when I was 50 years old and guess what we've been on a relationship over 25 years of a honeymoon a honeymoon 25 years wake up every day go oh my God I'm still here here's my beautiful partner and we share and we love and we work together and we do all these things and it never would have happened because my programming from being in my family would never have provided a happy relationship with anybody and it's interesting because I wrote the book called the honeymoon effect I say what's the time of I said I said well every day your life is blah blah blah blah then you meet someone you fall in love at 20 24 hours later it's like oh my God Life is Beautiful Everything is wonderful the music the food even the job that it's just the crummy job says doesn't bother me and I go why because you're in love and and then I go well that's called the honeymoon and then I say but then here's a problem I say but the honeymoon is usually short-lived could be for some as short as a week or a month or a year and then it wears out and then you come back to regular life and I go what's that all about and for simply this remember we have a conscious creative mind with wishes and Desires in a subconscious mind with program science has recognized when people fall in love they stop thinking and I said what do you mean they stop thinking they say what is called mindful they stay present I go why you've been looking for this person your whole life if you're thinking you're disconnecting so when you first fall in love you stay present you want to be there you're taking in the love the joy everything is great and and I say well what does that mean well if you stay in the conscious mind then you're not playing the program I go oh conscious mind's creative I go what happens if two people come together and they're only playing creative well then they create heaven on Earth and I said but then why does it disappear because inevitably you start thinking again because you have a job responsibilities whatever it is and I say the moment you start thinking then the behavior that you're playing is not you it's the program and your partner that you fell in love with never saw your program because during the honeymoon you never played your programs and then all of a sudden you're thinking your partner comes in to ask you something little simple thing and then you go blah blah blah and your partner looks at you and goes who are you and you're going like what are you talking about and the answer is what happened my loving creative mind conscious was not engaged with with my partner at that moment my subconscious what did I do I just played my father my God you know that's like my partner literally like who are you where did that come from and it's like and then you got to remember when you're playing your subconscious programs you're the one that doesn't know where you're playing it so it's like what are you talking about I say to her yeah she said well you said this I said that's not me uh yeah but it wasn't me it was a program and when the more programs come back into the relationship from both sides we didn't get together in a honeymoon because of our programs we got together because of our conscious wishes and desires mine but once the programs from our family history and all that starts to play into this thing it disrupts the relationship I love these examples let me just clarify one thing um so conscious mind thinking Minds uh subconscious mind these kind of pre-existing patterns and behaviors yes right now I get it when you're in love in the first few weeks months years whatever of a relationship everything's great right you don't see uh negative patterns maybe they're not there maybe you're just opting not to see them right so you're totally present so when you're in that moment you're in love you're fully present you're not being led by your subconscious patterns then are you like your parents relationship what but it's you're not thinking too much either what what's going on there when you're not thinking that means your conscious mind's not looking inside and if your conscious mind is now looking outside it's engaging with the world and I say yeah but what is a conscious mind wishes desires aspirations what you want creative got it so the conscious mind at that moment is engaging with the world but when you've stopped being present and engaging with your partner in the world and you go back to the job stresses and things your conscious mind then goes inward is that right is that right and that but then well who's controlling the behavior while you're having these thoughts I go that's when the subconscious kicks in and plays the program but is that you and I go no the subconscious is not you the subconscious is the program you downloaded yeah and with relationships I think this is a huge problem because I think many people jump from relationship to relationship thinking the problem was the other person exactly right now of course sometimes a relationship is not meant to be there and it's probably not the right things to continue right yeah I get that yeah but a lot of the time we go from relationships to relationship trying to find the right person without realizing that everywhere you go the same problem the same behaviors are following you around that's right what's the pattern and I I think relationships just where this really plays out so I think if any of us think about um niggles or or disagreements we've had with our partners in the past like most of the time it's these unconscious patterns isn't it um not most of them virtually all of the time it's these unconscious patterns and you can see it clearly in your partner which parent they're playing out right but you probably can't see it as well in yourself that we go right back to the story subconscious you didn't even see you said that yeah that's a story you know like I said Bill you're just like your dad and he denies that he's like is there because when he plays those programs he's the only one that can't see it so when we play subconscious programs by definition why are we playing these programs the answer is because your conscious mind's engaged and and stop paying attention to what you just said what's this third method of reprogramming our subconscious Minds it's Zoom it's very new uh and as there's an old saying uh necessity is the mother of invention and I say well what's the necessity I say human behavior of Sciences recognizes the fact human behavior is precipitating What's called the sixth mass extinction of Life on this planet and the personal thing that implies well there must have been five six things since before and I go yes there was life was thriving on this planet five different times and something happened that upended the whole the whole planet to some degree in some some of the five times ninety percent of Life disappeared uh the last mass extinction was 66 million years ago that's when there were dinosaurs here planet was flushed there were forests and everything it was just thriving and a comet big giant Comet hit near uh in Mexico the Yucatan Peninsula the comet was so big it upended the web of life and the Web of Life as a collapse the dinosaurs 75 of Life disappeared including all the dinosaurs disappeared and then Evolutions we started all over again and today we're at a point where we're now losing species a thousand times faster than background and says estimated that human behavior is going to cause the loss of another one or two million species on this planet because we're we're not living in harmony with nature okay we're upsetting a balance we're facing this so is it's human behavior that's causing this problem so it's interesting because we have to change our Behavior faster we can't just keep on the same behavior because that's we're creating the problem with this Behavior so I said well what happened a new form of psychology has come about called Energy psychology it's not typical cognitive therapy where you talk about oh this person did that my mom did this my friend did that and this is why I'm here and you cry and you got tissues and you review your life and I go uh it works for some but it's not that really good because when you do cognitive therapy you were replaying all the problems that you had so you're just like pushing the button every time like you know that's why all the tissues are there at the because you you cry all over this I say that the new version is called Energy psychology I don't have to go backwards to find out how I got a program I have the program I don't have to go back and say who who created that program me what incidents created that who was responsible that's more the cognitive end and I go it's irrelevant why you have the program now they're not here anymore so do I have to go back and answer is no you have to deal with the program and I said what's the program well we talked about that I said just look at your life wherever you're struggling it's it's not because the universe wants you to struggle you're struggling because your program so now this thing is do I have to go back I say no what is it you want versus what you have and there's a process called super learning and you go what's super learning well I can tell you some people how they they go into a bookstore and they can move their finger down the page of a book as fast as they move that finger down just like boom like a second or two they read every word on on that page that's super learning you could read a book in 15 minutes or something like that if you can Engage The Super learning process then you can get a reprogramming not in days weeks or whatever you can get a reprogramming of your programs in 15-20 minutes walk away a completely different after that and that's because we've got to change our behaviors really quickly in order to sustain us on this planet right now so energy psychology is a number of modalities that Engage The Super learning process and in the in that process then you can rewrite a program and walk away 15 20 minutes later with with a different life experience it's like Miracle magic of experience I wouldn't have been able to write my books if I didn't do a reprogram my subconscious uh and and all of a sudden I said well where are these let me just help people very quickly is my website is simple brucelipton.com okay on there I have a description about 25 different energy psychology modalities a little description and a website and for your interest and then just look these up and if you find one that appeals to you then check out their website and see what's going on but to me having experiences having understanding all of this and then experiencing is like oh my God to me that's like a miracle in today's world because habituation repeating things it takes many times to repeat repeat or even the earphones on at night self-hypnosis because they it is only a short period you have to repeat that over a night overnight or you know for many times energy psychology you can uh have an experience and walk away 15-20 minutes later but I definitely would love to learn more about these different energy psychology modalities should be describing um the benefits and that you can potentially reprogram patents in 15 20 minutes yes what what I like about that because we haven't really mentioned specifically trauma yet by name and there are clearly a lot of therapies where people can go back in and look at their childhood trauma their previous experiences and they can try and go in and change them yes now on a personal note the one that I found life-changing was something called ifs internal family systems I'm not sure if you're familiar with it or not no I'm not Dr Richard schwarzen what I love about it is that you can go back into a childhood moment in the in this sort of process with um the ifs therapist and you can literally rewrite the script in that moment you go back in let's say is your 40 year old self you go back to an instant that you can remember when you were seven and you then go in and reframe the entire thing like it's your force yourself talking to your six-year-old self being understanding the situation explaining it from both sides and they've got some really good research on this and it's when you go to sleep a new memory gets laid down and I've experienced this whereby instead of keep talking about it keep talking about it keep talking about it oh that's what happened that's what happened actually you can go back in almost write a new script about what was a traumatic experience and then you just start playing out a new pattern because you've Rewritten that script and I I appreciate it may not be the same thing as energy psychology I I I don't I would listen to those energy psychology would you yeah because uh uh it's not going through that repetition of let's go over and over and over again and because people kick you out of it do you think people can get locked sometimes at a pattern of looking at their trauma and just stay looking and say I'm not criticizing anyone for that I'm just I just wonder sometimes can we stay there too long of the year because when you go back and you play it over and over again you're just repeating the same trauma over and over and over again so you're you're you're making a habit to continue the trauma by by experiencing it again and again and again you're you're you're you know just repetition that's what we talked about habituation now you're just taking an old pattern and habituating it to even make it stronger than it was before yeah so yeah uh there's so many different ways so the like the program you just said these are ways that how can I shortcut the system and how can I get in touch with that subconscious to do this and this is really we want to we want to fix our ourselves but we always think it will change the world the world is causing the problem look you wake up in the morning you wake up and say today I'm going to get healthier today I'm going to find that relationship or a better job and you go out all day and you come home at nine it didn't work and I said well what does the average person think about in that regard they got up in the morning today I'm going to be successful they came home not being successful I said where do they think about at that moment they go oh man well that person interfere with me and this thing interfered and that thing happened and all of a sudden what are they saying I'm a victim of these things out there that interfere with my destination and then I go well here's here's the the joke part you didn't realize all day long you were playing the programs that manifested those things all day long so that disempowers us because it says I'm I'm not responsible for this problem all these other people are responsible for this problem because you did not see your own participation in this thing what can we do as parents in those first seven years of life if we've struggled if we've overcome them if we've tried to reprogram maybe we've successfully reprogrammed but of course you know all parents would try their best to uh ensure or increase the likelihood that their kids don't have to go through the same struggles have you got any advice for parents of young kids simple they're downloading whatever you tell them if you start telling them the story that you want them to be you're smart you're intelligent you're beautiful you're powerful repeating this because remember they're downloading these behaviors okay and so when they uh are operating 95 of their life and they're defaulting to these subconscious programs what are these programs I'm powerful I'm capable I can do anything I'm smart because most of us are defaulting to the criticisms not good enough who do you think you are you don't deserve this I go well both situations are right whatever program you put in you're going to manifest so if I'm going to be a parent then I want my child to start off with your you know we love you you are one you know giving every positive statement to that child as an infant even just after they're born like oh people think oh they start talking baby talk I say this kid is downloading your words right now because the subconscious is a download and I say so what are you saying to this child uh and that becomes critical because then that whatever you're programming at this point will activate 95 of the life of that child later and if the child's gone past seven because of course these seven years are critical yeah I don't want to put words in your master let me just ask the question is it still worth um changing these patterns and trying to help them download the same programs let's say they're eight nine ten let's say they're teenagers yeah if you've now hearing this conversation and you thought you know what when my kids were young I had all the negative self-taught I kept calling myself a loser they probably picked that up from me I don't want to feel guilt there's no point for the guilt and beating yourself up about that can they still change it even if their kids are above the age of seven remember the the second way of change was habituation yeah so if it doesn't make any difference to what age they are at that point if you habituate a new Behavior then that will download it takes a little longer but you know than before age seven but it's still how you put a program in habit re replace you know repeating and repeating this it becomes habit at that point what do you do on a daily basis Bruce are there any routines any practices that you do to keep yourself in this happy contented creative mode I wake up in love I just wake up in love the rest of the day flows so beautifully there's no practices anymore from myself why I put those programs in they run automatically I don't have to even practice it because practicing means I don't have the program and I want to make the program but if you already have the program then you don't have to do the practice and all of a sudden you just naturally wake up you're in love you naturally are helping your partner your community your friends you're just it's natural so it's not like let me work on this let me let me be you know let me be more loving to my partner it's like I don't have to be more loving to my partner we're already fully in love I you know it's like you know people say I love you know I love you more so I say no I always tell my wife uh how much love full amount it's like the gas tank how much love oh I'm filled up with love you can't put any more love in there it's already filled up it's already there and so practice by definition means something's not working and you want to engage yourself to make it work and then you do a practice but what if you did the programming already you know when I got with my partner Margaret uh I still had programs for my parents that weren't any good but she knew about programming I know about programming and this is the important part because if a couple doesn't know about programming then when some Behavior shows up unexpectedly it's like whoa who are you what's this all about uh but if you already know that programs exist and a bad program comes up it doesn't go into an argument it can go into a discussion do you want to have this program and then I would say what programmer oh you didn't see what you just said or did it's like oh and I said well let's change the program and then we change the program so what do you do over a period of time you edit these programs and when it gets to the point of it's editing then do I have to practice more editing I go no I changed these programs already if I here's a simple point I said the conscious mind is wishes and desires the subconscious minus program yes what if you took your wishes and desires and put them in as programs then the answer is what whether you're conscious or whether you're subconscious you're still going to the same destination yeah and now that's the secret part it's not a lifelong struggle once the programs are set you don't have to work on it anymore it's already done so it's not like I got to do this every day I go no once you if it's a program you will automatically do it every day without even thinking you're doing it it's so powerful um I've really really enjoyed this conversation Bruce this podcast is called feel better live more when we feel better in ourselves we get more out of our lives and you've beautifully made the case that if we can change these unconscious programs intentionally we can absolutely get more out of our Lives I wonder right at the end of this conversation that I've thoroughly enjoyed have you got any final words final thoughts final bits of advice to share with people to help I guess improve the way that they feel well yeah it's just basically simply this is that we are creators we came here to create but if you've been programmed then you're not creating the program is creating and the idea is if you can then use your creation to put the program in that you want then you can manifest what you want in this life that's basically what it is and uh and the idea is what is it we're really looking for you know as I said a lot of people give me the money give me the money I go the money you think is going to make you happy and I'm going to say look there are a lot of rich people of the unhappiest people I've ever seen in my life and so it's not that but we've been some kind of programmed the competition get this you'll have this you're going to be better and some of the poorest people are some of the happiest people I've ever seen and then all of a sudden it starts to realize then happiness is not a physical thing I need to get things to be happy you know and I just have to say I I know life from both sides but you know my my first formative years is I was programmed to be a scientist I was programmed to be educated that was my family just like in your family go ahead get this education and I got this education I didn't get programmed how to be a happy person I didn't get programmed how to be a good partner that was not part of the program and so I failed at that end but now I've compensated for that and the absolute truth is and I believe this with the most certainty that people think you die and then you can go to heaven if you did well and I say boy you missed it because this to me is heaven I say why is this Heaven I say because this is where you came to create we're creating uh and and unfortunately we've been programmed to create stuff that we don't even like so then we're not creators we're just playing the program and if you understand it then don't don't waste this life because heaven on Earth is a reality this is and I didn't know it for 40 years but I live this every minute now and uh it was interesting my mother married when she was older remarried and and she married this guy that I thought he was a curmudgeon and he was just somebody I didn't even really want to be around but my mother was happy fine uh but the story about it that was so neat is that he lived in 97 and he had cancer and my mother took care of him at home and the last week of his life he essentially wasn't even there he was just in a more like a coma kind of thing and then two days before he died his eyes opened up and he was there he was there and he said to her I didn't have any fun and I thought oh my God 97 years old he's going to die in a couple of days and it just dawned on him he didn't have any fun and I thought I'm not going out that way I'm going out saying my God thank you for this opportunity to be here well we'll say that for a part C Bruce I mean next time you're in the UK I'd love to do a part two and delve deeper but thank you so much for you thank you for coming on the show it's been a pleasure thank you so much because uh you're helping me you're helping me do what I want people to to wake up and realize the creative nature of Love Health Harmony uh heaven on Earth because that is available uh and yet we struggle and there's no reason for this thank you thank you if that conversation resonated with you here is another incredibly powerful one that I really think you're going to enjoy give it a click if you actually went to the happiness gym several times a week you will actually have a happier life right and the happiness gym is very straightforward it's a set of skills that you need to practice