How to Find and Maintain Real Love

Intense Feelings and Real Love

• Initial intense feelings of true love may fade
• Real love involves feelings of connection and affection
• Maintaining a long-term relationship requires effort from both partners

Loving Yourself

Relationship Expert Margaret Paul PhD

• Difference between trying to get love and sharing love
• Loving yourself makes relationships easier
• Self-love helps to reduce insecurities and harsh judgments
• Analogy: Caring for your inner self as you would care for a child

Relationship Red Flags

Emotional Dependency

• Avoid relationships built on the need to feel needed
• Emotional dependency can stunt relationship growth
• Seeking security solely from partner is unhealthy

Negative Rants About Exes

• Negative talk about exes shows lack of respect and integrity
• Important to handle discussions about past relationships appropriately

Other Classic Red Flags

• Lying, jealousy, egocentrism, controlling behavior
• Feeling uncomfortable around your partner is a red flag
• Trauma survivors may normalize poor treatment; be vigilant of uncomfortable feelings

Relationship Green Flags

Positive Reaction to Good News

• Study: Response to good news reveals much about relationship health
• Mutual sharing of happiness is a significant green flag

Making Love Last

Strong Foundation

• Core beliefs and values are crucial
• Shared core beliefs provide a platform for a strong relationship

Interests and Hobbies

• Similar interests and hobbies are not as crucial
• Balance between shared activities and individual interests is healthy

Handling Conflict

• Conflict is inevitable
• Understanding each other's perspective is key during conflicts
• Focus on understanding rather than winning arguments

Final Thoughts

Using Signs and Flags

• Signs and relationship flags help in identifying a potentially lasting love
• Commitment and work are essential for long-term relationships

Call to Action

• Encourage sharing of what viewers look for in a loving partner

Conclusion

• Embrace the search for true love with commitment and understanding
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