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Hamza on Discipline and Self-uidance

it's back in Spring 2022 I'm 22 years old I'm in my apartment and I'm locked away in my bedroom I'm on my computer watching something that I should not be watching I feel dirty disgusting I feel like a degenerate I'm watching self-improvement videos but worse than that I'm procrastinating from something important that I should be doing right now but I'm wasting time watching video after video after video I'm watching videos on how to quit procrastinating and I'm literally procrastinating whilst watching them I've procrastinated for so long that the time goes 11AM 12 o'clock 1pm it's literally time for the next meal of the day so I go to the kitchen I'm eating something gotta get my protein in and go back to procrastinating instead of doing the important task that I'm supposed to be doing eventually it gets so late that I'm actually starting to feel aggressive and anxious so I get up from my computer I go into the other room with my girlfriend's sleeping and I grab my shirts my pants and my shoes 15 minutes later I'm red-faced I'm sweating and I'm panting I'm doing squats in the gym so I'm thinking to myself why did I procrastinate this all day I should have hit this workout at like 9am but here I am hours and hours later and so I'm gonna make this the best workout possible squats leg press Sprints pushing super super hard in the end it ends up being a mediocre workout at best but that's when I realized that I've never regretted being disciplined that it's always paid off to do the hard work especially when I didn't feel like it my name is Hamza and I've made this full guide on discipline that's taken me a lot of time and I want to take you from being more of like a normal average person who isn't very disciplined who misses a lot of workouts who doesn't do their studying or their work on time and sometimes you do get bursts of motivation to go to the gym or to do work but it's so infrequent that it starts to sacrifice your life and your goals and so I want to make that way more consistent for you I've spent the last one and a half weeks putting together this full guide it's taken me over 40 hours I've read an entire book I've read discipline is Destiny by Ryan holiday which is a really good book and I've put it all together in one guide so this is the one full guide that you need to be more disciplined you can put your trust in this one guide if you follow one rule you watch it in order I've wrapped my brain to think like what are the specific steps in order that you would need to know so it's very important that you don't click around and jump around I'm not saying that you need to watch this entire video to bump up the YouTube algorithm or anything it's just if you're going to spend 10 minutes today 20 minutes tomorrow watching this video just simply watch it in order and I promise you that by the end of this video If you put in the work and you followed the actionable steps that I've laid out for you you will become a disciplined young man here is your first actionable step of this guide if you just close your eyes and visualize how you will like one year ago you'll realize that maybe you're a bit more disciplined and consistent than you realize because if you picture younger you who was far more awkward and he was you know he liked working out less struggled with work and with studying a lot more than you do now and you can just see him just awkward as [ __ ] like you know fixing his shirt or something for no reason in a social setting you can open your eyes you've made more progress than you've realized naturally when you get onto self-improvement and the fact that you found this video chances are you're already on a fantastic trajectory to improve your life which is awesome now what we just need to do is give you a real protocol a step-by-step guide to take that to the next level Step Zero understanding discipline before we begin in making you more disciplined we have to actually understand it and I guarantee you don't even know what discipline actually is because a lot of people think discipline is going to the gym a lot of people think discipline is doing hard work it's not discipline is not doing something that's hard it's doing something that you specifically didn't feel like doing so we need to explain three concepts which you're going to find really interesting because there's motivation there's discipline and there's willpower you need to know the difference between these three and most people don't even know this motivation is desire it is craving it is when you want to do something discipline is persisting it's doing something that you aren't motivated for it's doing the hard work especially when you didn't feel like it and willpower is resisting it's not doing something even when you feel like it so I'm motivated for the gym means I want to go to the gym I use discipline to go to the gym means I didn't feel like going to the gym but I went anyway and I used my willpower not to eat the junk food meant that I was motivated to eat the junk food I wanted to but I specifically didn't even though I felt like it because motivation is fickle it can come and go but discipline is here to stay because it's a character trait that we can build inside of us in fact I think discipline is so important that I end every single one of my videos with a catchphrase do the hard work especially when you don't feel like it that phrase do the hard work especially when you don't feel like it perfectly encapsulates discipline it's only discipline if you didn't feel like it and this is why as a man it's so easy to win 99 of men are just chasing instant gratification because they're so easy to fall down they want the fast results in their business so they're not willing to wait or to sacrifice or to settle for something for the long term they want to watch porn right now because they feel a sense of loneliness or you know a sense of being deprived of intimacy which they won't go and solve long term through improving themselves and learning how to navigate a relationship with a woman so they'll just go and get that online right now they want a sense of status and Brotherhood but they'll get that in video games right now because it's instant so 99 of men are doing that if you can become the one percent of man and this isn't even me saying that you need to become so like you know amazing or anything literally just do the fundamentals of like not doing the ultimate degenerate habits and you're already in the top few percentile of men and getting into the top one percent of men will not come from any kind of monumental act if you're starting to feel proper motivated right now and you've started to visualize with this proper hard grunting workout and you're gonna you know like make this fancy business it's not it's not about the beating your competition isn't about some big act that you've done it's just about showing up every day and literally just setting the intention to try and do it a little bit better it's the guy who like stayed on the basketball court for an extra five minutes when everyone else went home he's the one who becomes like the world champion afterwards there's two books which are very similar which I recommend you to read There is The Compound Effect and the slight Edge these two books are really good they talk about using discipline to change something quite small and insignificant you know like a small decision like a one percent better decision which then makes a huge difference over a few years I bet you'll agree with this it's also harder to be lazy than it is disciplined yes it's harder to be lazy than it is to be disciplined to be disciplined means that we have to go hit a workout today it means that we have to we can't watch porn today oh wow you know it's kind of difficult fair enough but to be lazy to be undisciplined is harder because that means that then you have to deal with the you have to deal with the demons in your mind every single day knowing that you're not living to your potential dealing with the negative thoughts going to sleep and you're overthinking you randomly get a memory of some weird awkward thing that you did six years ago you feel like crap everyone treats you with disrespect because you don't deserve the respect genuinely imagine the kind of lives that the other people live where they don't even consider something like improving their discipline and so they just go to one easy source of dopamine to the next to the next to the next they're sacrificing their future selves happiness for today's pleasure and then they're wandering three months six months 12 months down the line why they're fat and depressed it's because they did it it's because we did this at some point I'm glad that we're on this pathway where we've stopped sacrificing ourselves and instead we're making life better for our future self-discipline is a treat for your future self discipline is the ultimate Act of self-love because you're saying you know what hair is like some modern technology porn video games it's been made by a company who don't give a [ __ ] about me if I killed myself today this porn company wouldn't give a [ __ ] they'd only care because you know one uses when inactive they've ruined my life they gave me depression I've got [ __ ] Ed so my dick doesn't even get hard how is this nice for me but if I quit watching porn today My Future Self is going to be recovering slowly and slowly and slowly three days in and he feels you know he's gotten a bit more lust a bit more male aggression inside of him testosterone levels are rising two months without porn and you start to feel very healthy towards women and you can actually speak to them A Year Without pawn and you stop getting those flashes of like dirty thoughts of of dirty like images and videos that you remember the ultimate Act of self-love is discipline in the long run it's much more painful to be undisciplined and there's a quote that I like nobody who has given themselves over to excess is having a good time here is an actionable step I want you to do and it's kind of mean I want you to go onto YouTube right now maybe open up a new tab and I want you to search for this name Nick okado n-i-k-o-c-a-d-o nekokado go find his YouTube channel he is a morbidly obese man who made a YouTube channel of him eating a lot of food and it gets a lot of views and he's become like obese obese this man deserves to die early now I know that a lot of people watching this will just we get panicked and think wait wait he said something that's really bad after we've been told never to speak like that this is this isn't my opinion this isn't like my viewpoint I don't want him to die but he deserves to he deserves to feel this obliterating pain in his heart until he ceases to exist this chokeness in his throat he deserves to feel it I know this sounds horrible but there's something that you must understand right here right now if you want to live a good life you deserve the consequences of your actions this is worth for you to really meditate on to write down right now to stick it up on your wall to write it and set it as your phone wallpaper I deserve the consequences of my actions so why don't you just make it so that you deserve what you want some people deserve to be obese sick and close to death whilst others deserve to have a six-pack to have high testosterone to have a wonderful relationship others deserve to make a lot of money others deserve deserve to be depressed and suicidal because it all comes down to the acts that we're willing to partake in and so if you're willing to for example like this young man is eat and eat and eat and eat you deserve the consequences of that now of course some shallow breather might be watching this and think oh but so do you deserve to be hit by a buzzer barring extreme circumstance let's use our brains here extreme circumstances extreme accidents are different if you're literally you've done everything right you're just walking on the pathway and a car you know there's a freak accident and like a brick gets thrown up into the air or a car swerves into you even though you were on the pathway that's a bit different likewise if you're just like you know just minding your own business in a shop and someone just hits you out of nowhere that's the difference but if you're overeating your calories every single day you deserve to be fat and if you deserve to be fat then you deserve to be sick and if you deserve to be sick then you deserve to have a higher risk of mortality this is the consequences of a lack of discipline and so I think for you it is very worthwhile for you to just take a few seconds right now and think about what you want to deserve not what you want remember nobody gives a [ __ ] what you want but what you want to deserve I want to deserve a six-pack how could I deserve a six-pack of three nabs three or five times a week and I'll go on a calorie deficit and I'll do cardio I want to deserve a good healthy relationship with a beautiful woman how would I deserve that first of all I'll deal with some kind of problems that I've got internally I'll learn how to actually speak to people and effectively communicate I'll learn how to actually be a first of all good partner I'll learn what that kind of woman this high quality woman would be attracted in in a guy I'll develop those things myself and then I'll also try and put my best front when it comes to dating I'll stop watching degenerate red pill content and I'll start embracing more faith and spirituality and then when I do meet the woman I'll treat her right very very kindly very lovingly and I'll make it so that she is super happy with me doesn't sound so cool now does it almost sounds like a bit stupid and autistic but this is what you want out of life this is how you get it just make it so that you deserve that thing take a second right now is an actionable step to just think of what you want to deserve in life and your brain will already start to work on okay well here's how we do it what I will say is that the greatest reward of being disciplined is not the physique or the money or the girl in your arms but it is the man that you become I feel good being me and I know that there's quite a lot of guys watching this who it won't really click in their mind so I just want to kind of explain this just watching this like imagine genuinely waking up every day and being happy that you are you because for a long time in my life I couldn't have said this I wanted to be that other guy I wanted to be that guy with the real world results I wanted to be the guy with the six-pack I wanted to be the guy who you know had the likes on Instagram I would not change myself for anyone it's like your own internal perception you start to like yourself you start to respect yourself my brain is producing more and more positive thoughts about myself than ever think about that my own mind is actually starting automatically to like say nice things about me through the day you know when your brain wonders when you're trying to read and it thinks about something else or it thinks about memories and stuff my brain mostly now is going to positive stuff certainly in a student light so you know it's not like I'm just egotistical thinking that I'm amazing but it's more that I've got like a sense of bliss thinking like yeah well done yeah awesome progress I've been working super hard I'm not thinking yeah better than everyone else and you know like oh I'm so amazing I don't need to learn anymore it's the exact opposite I really do think okay I want to learn more what can I learn how can I improve so I've still got a student mindset but it's just very positive and pleasant I think that's the best reward of discipline so far step one ego before we can really begin to get super disciplined we need to destroy your Rico because there's a reason why you're not going to make any progress watching this there's a reason why you're gonna stay in the same position I hope you don't but there is gonna be a huge reason and it's purely ego it's ego because you think you're too good for what it will take to improve your discipline I guarantee you do you're thinking right now I don't know like you know it's been made apparent in your mind right now I guarantee when I tell you the real way to increase your discipline you're gonna think it's beneath you and when you think that you won't make any progress you need to have an absolute like you remember the the gaming term like Noob you need to have like a noobs mindset to discipline because most guys don't do this the real way to be disciplined is not like David Goggins it's not doing this big ridiculous run you know he's he's decades into this so that's different but it's not like doing this big ridiculous run or this eight hour workout you know the super long workout with loads of sets it's not like doing all these weird things it's none of that the real way to be disciplined is finding the easiest good habits that you consistently aren't doing and start doing that it's so uncool it's so boring but discipline is not that massive workout it's cleaning up the mess on the floor it's like the clothes no the one piece of clothing that you've had on the floor for like the last [ __ ] 48 hours it's picking that up and putting it somewhere discipline is taking those water bottles done like not even drinking the plastic water balls anyway but let's say you know you've got water bottles in your room this thing's out of place here discipline is literally just fixing that stuff up you know that there's that cringe piece of advice like oh make your bed you know disciplines making your bed and the first route to success or to changing the world is to make your bed you know why every single military in every single Country Places an emphasis on things like making your bed why really just ask yourself this question why because that's the real discipline the real discipline is not charging into war and being super heroic it's making your bed when you didn't want to it's these thousand acts of many discipline that other people will ignore saying that oh yeah it doesn't matter it's not that it doesn't matter it's that your ego is bigger than this task at hand your ego is stopping you to improve if you think that something doesn't matter if you think the Art's not going to make a difference so I'll just cut the corner there that's because of ego not that it's the objective truth of the world that whether or not making your bed makes you more disciplined that is your big fat ego that's stopping you from making progress you need to start challenging your own brain you know people talk about critical thinking they talk about not just taking like one piece of advice at once your own brain convinced you to watch porn over a thousand times in your life so your own brain probably shouldn't be automatically trusted right think about this when was the last time your own mind convinced you to watch porn you know with 100 objective Universal fact that porn is a bad thing your own brain convince you to do it you're not as smart as you think you are right so when your brain is telling you oh yeah this video is kind of stupid he's telling me to make my bed he's telling me to pick up like another clothes from the floor that's not going to do anything you know I'll go watch another David Goggins or Andrew Tate motivational workout maybe don't listen to your brain and maybe start with the thing that will actually work look in your rubbish bin probably full right now empty water bottles around [ __ ] all over the floor bed sheets not made this is the daily Act of discipline so this is exactly what you do to destroy your Rigo and to begin leveling up your discipline pick one or two of these things that you have proven to yourself that you usually don't do this is the important part the small task that I'm telling you to do consistently has to be one that you have proven to yourself you usually don't do because you don't like to do it so discipline is not oh yeah I'm gonna wake up and do 50 push-ups because you're gonna be motivated for that so it's not discipline discipline is looking around your room right now and thinking to yourself you know what I've always got clothes on the floor so clearly I'm not disciplined enough to clean that up that's going to be my new discipline like activity specifically when you start to do that activity you need to know that every single time you do it you're not gonna want to do it it's gonna feel annoying there's gonna be some kind of like BS COPE in your mind whether it says oh well you know I'll do it later or I don't need to do this anyway you know discipline's stupid anyway or this is even discipline there's going to be some kind of cope right because that's the whole point you're not motivated to do it so you need to almost be vigilant for your brain to start coping and to start creating these excuses it's these small insignificant things that are the training ground for your discipline you know in a video game you start off with like the small monsters a lot of us in real life we start off and it's like we want to kill the dragon right now but we can't because to get up to the dragon in a video game what do you have to do you have to kill like 10 000 cows right you have to go kill the cows then you level up to little goblins then you level up to the zombies then the security guards then you level up to like the little demon then the big demon then you level up to like the hellhound you have to start off by killing the level two cows this right here when you look around you this is like the training ground like the place that we get XP in the skill of discipline you can never think that you're above these things you can never think that you can never think that you'll reserve your discipline for the big dragon when you're like level seven right now and you need to still keep working on these small things it's very important that you destroy your ego and you really start to say to yourself you know what I'm actually not that great I'm not that advanced right now I'm not past the point where something like cleaning up my room wouldn't help me I'm not past the point with something like doing a tiny bit of exercise wouldn't help me because a lot of people in this stage they get stuck because of ego here is your actionable step for this part of the guide pick one daily habit that you can do one task that you usually don't do that would require discipline so it might be for example wiping your computer desk every day and every day probably wouldn't need that right after you like wipe it down today you probably wouldn't really need it tomorrow but just do it anyway just to get into the habit of it or it could be for example making your bed every day that's a nice one make your bed kind of nicely or it could be for example making sure that you don't have rubbish in your room you know taking down the rubbish bin every single day it's very important that you just start with something small start with just one habit and then you can make it into like a habit tracker like I've just got here like you know just write the days of the month and then just have that as the habit and then you just take it off when you're done step two leveling up now we want to level this up so that you actually start to accomplish bigger goals because you know just cleaning up that your room is kind of nice but we really want to like build something right so let's talk about some big goals and how you'd actually level up your discipline for example let's say building an aesthetic body like a 10 out of 10 physique from the gym the way to use discipline for this is to figure out the exact constraints the micro task the current area of weakness a specific task that you're lacking in so for example with building a nice Physique in the gym a lot of guys think it's like it's working out and dieting and then they're trying to like discipline themselves in those two areas working out and dieting working out and dieting sure when you first begin discipline is like going to the gym because you might not want to go to the gym but after a while you start liking the gym you start being motivated for it so it's like you're not using discipline to go to the gym anymore this is like a very interesting point a lot of guys who go to the gym think that they're disciplined but they're not because they're motivated for it you take that same guy and put them in front of a computer and tell them to do 90 minutes of deep work and he can't so it's not about that you know you're discipline if you go to the gym if you're motivated for the gym then it's not disciplined it's not even like it's it's still difficult but it doesn't require discipline because you felt like going so let's say right now you've been going to the gym consistently you've been making some progress right you're probably kind of motivated for it right now which means that your discipline is kind of saved for something else most guys will just stop here and wonder why they're making less gains as time goes on you know you make like the noob gains and then you just kind of plateau after that most guys wonder why it's because you're not utilizing discipline in the next level The Next Step so you're consistently going to hit the workout but there's somewhere in the realm of Fitness that currently requires your discipline which you're not very conscious of and it's a very specific task that task could be as something as specific as making sure your kitchen scale has always got chargeable batteries inside of it you know batteries that are charged so it turns on because sometimes you might find that when the battery dies you don't end up tracking your stuff for like weeks at a time or it could be for example making sure that you fill up your water bottles at night time and keep them next to your bed so that the exact moment that you wake up you can start to drink a lot of water and hydrate before your workout in the day it's like these new specific habits require your discipline right now compared to the big thing that you used to like go into the gym so do you see this is the way to level up at first we use discipline for some of the core activities like you know just eating protein or going to the gym but soon those activities kind of feel like a little bit automated like they become habits and they don't really require much discipline anymore most people will just stop here what you need to do is figure out okay what's the next thing that I could discipline myself on that will still get me some results and this is how like the the concept of you know this this less to gain the more progress you've made at first to make progress you just go to the gym but then after that you've got to start tracking your Macos after that you've got to start tracking your micros after that you gotta like perfect your sleep you know there's less and less and less things for you to improve on which is the nature of becoming an expert or a master in your craft for example another micro task could be going straight to the yoga mats after you finish your workout grabbing one of the mats setting it down and just stretching for like two minutes over the grand scheme of things that would help you in your goal of building this 10 out of 10 physique because you'll be way more like flexible and you'll be able to get a better range of motion in the lifts right so it's like that's a very specific micro task that that is the thing that would need discipline the exact moment when you finish a workout but you stay even though you don't want to even though you don't feel like it you stay to stretch for a couple of minutes that's where you need discipline right now it's these small micro tasks these little pockets of potential that you're leaving on the table because you're only focusing on the basics these things seem insignificant right now don't they but it is these micro tasks that will make the difference between you being a winner or a loser five years from now use your discipline for a new micro tasket for every goal that you have and in some time that micro task will become a habit too so for example right now it would require discipline for you to stretch after you work out so like when you finish a workout you don't feel motivated it's a stretch you know you're making all these excuses but then you say to yourself no no I know that discipline means that I'm gonna have all these excuses I'm just gonna like turn my brain off and just go and stretch for a few minutes after maybe a couple of weeks this will become a habit and you might even start to enjoy it so you might finish the workout and just be used to going to stretch at that point you're no longer using discipline so it's time to find the next micro task after that to continuously keep making progress in this goal here is your actionable step for this part of the guide figure out a specific micro task that needs discipline that would get you some kind of progress and a goal of yours and add it up to your habit tracker and if I was you get the Habit tracker and stick it up on the wall this isn't just for the video by the way this has literally been on my wall for like for um for about a week now and I up if you know me for a while for my videos I always try to show you quickly I always have stuff over my wall so obviously I've got like the YouTube Plex there but a lot of the papers you can see like those ones they've got like habit trackers they've got goals and everything like that I really think that's an extra step that you can take just have a habit tracker if you make one right now stick it up add in the daily little discipline that we had from the last time you know maybe clean up your room and then also add some goal specific ones so let's say you've got three goals for Fitness the specific task could be okay stretch for one minute at the end of the workout for your work it could be to read three pages of a book every single day or it could be for example to meditate or something and then let's say for relationships it could be to just hug your mum first thing in the morning as soon as you see her easy things right they're not actually that difficult they're easy things but there might be things that you don't consistently do right now because you don't really feel like it so please remember this the next time you're about to do one of these tasks you will genuinely not want to you will probably not be motivated your brain will probably start coping and saying I don't have time I'll do this it's a bit awkward you know it'll start to cope just remind yourself that is the sign that you are using discipline it's specifically when your brain is trying to convince you against it which is awesome because now you're training like against that weak part of your mind that wants you to be complex in a mediocre and week we're destroying it with our own intentional effort the next time that you finish up a workout walk blindly like it's automatically to the yoga mats get one and literally just like do a cope stretch is what I call it like literally just like you know just grab your knee or do a little stretch for like 30 seconds because I do is you're not trying to be like some professional flexible person right now you're starting with this almost like a child would and the idea is if you did this you know three times a week five times a week seven times a week right now for the next year Five Years bro in five years time you're gonna be like the most flexible person you'll be able to do or like the weird [ __ ] you know and like that would genuinely help you you would genuinely unlock your body and be able to like just work and move so much better and the same with for example 30 seconds of meditation today you don't feel like it's kind of boring and you know it drags on a little bit but you start with 30 seconds or a minute today and you keep doing it even though you don't feel like doing it for an entire year and by the end of the year you're probably used to doing 10 minutes every single day which is perfect 10 years from now you're meditate in 20 minutes a day 30 40 a one hour every single day which is insane when you compare that to like normal people this is how you get ahead in life it is always these small micro Pockets this is how you end up having like a relationship with your parents so much better than everyone else are rich you know everyone's so individual and So like um so against family like almost no one's family orientated these days when you're the guy who simply all you do is discipline yourself to just hug your parents every single time you see like every morning when you see your parents if you live with them I I always hug my mother like it's not hard to do it's just that often you don't really feel like it you know your brain tries to convince you that it's awkward or something it's a 10 out of 10 habit for me now it doesn't require discipline I just do it kind of blindly and I saw like literally just saw the smile because it's morning time right now I just saw the smile on my mom's faces always every time I hug her in the morning I'm just used to it if you've already got some kind of value from this video and you think that it's really helping you please just do me a little favor do the YouTube algorithm stuff I hate saying this but it really does work so like you know the like in the comments and spam the comments and share the link to some friends if you know that there's some people who would benefit from more discipline in their lives maybe you know some guys who are on self-improvements or some guys who should be on self-improvements if you send this link to a couple of people that would be huge for me and my goal with these guides that I'm spending a lot of time on is that even years from now you keep mentioning it to people that would be like the greatest gift you could ever give me so you just casually just say it to someone like oh yeah you should watch hamza's full discipline guide that would genuinely bring like the biggest smile on my face because if you're spreading Word of Mouth to the people that means that I've really produced something which has contributed to humanity which is Awesome chapter three discipline in work and studies back in June 2023 I'm about to send my dad a message he's driving right now but he's got someone in the back seat someone who he doesn't want the he's got a woman in the back seats and he has to be polite to her he's a taxi driver he has to be polite because that's his passenger I'm sending him a message telling him of the recent success that I've had in business I'm sending him a screenshot of the like carton notifications that I've been getting and how much money I've been making a hundred thousand pounds per month I tell him that I'm on track for my goal of 3 million this year and that he doesn't need to drive the taxi anymore I'm getting flushes of the last few years that I've dedicated my life to this goal of this business this online income and this was a big moment for me and I'm thinking how awesome it's going to be he's going to come home and together we'll take off like the taxi stickers that are on the car and I can record it and I'll get a lot of views but unfortunately that's not what happens because my father doesn't come home as expected he does come home but as I see the car pull up into the driveway the taxi stickers are already gone I was waiting there ready to record the moment that we're going to be taking them off and I asked him what you already took them off it turns out that the moment that I sent my dad the text message or the moment that he saw it he didn't even wait to come home to get rid of all of like the signs that made it clear that he was a taxi driver he pulled up at the side of the road and did it there and it hits me that for the last 20 years my parents have dedicated their lives to raising me and my siblings and my dad has worked these low status jobs my dad has sacrificed status as a man's status to just provide for the family and he was pained by that he was agitated by it but he just did it just for the sake of family my dad had a much better job in Pakistan he had more of a leadership position more of a manager inside of a um like a big paper mill engineering position and here in the UK he's he told me from his words he's worked more as a laborer now 20 years later I'm 26 years old and I've finally been able to pay it back there are many people out there your age who are making an unbelievable amount of money and one of the first things that the smartest people in this group do they retire their family they pay their parents back for the the effort and sacrifice that they've made and it's such a beautiful experience it's to be a son who retires his father is a beautiful experience I think it's like every son's Duty and it's gonna require discipline because when you look into any of these genuinely successful young people the young people who are literal millionaires there is absolutely one trait that they have in common they did hard work even when they did not feel like it but on the other hand the young men who lack discipline they're hit with three major pain points one they live a life where they're not living up to their potential they're always unfulfilled two they're experiencing the realities of being a poor performer which means shitty jobs not much money in their business poor grades and maybe worst of all three the people in their lives are let down or maybe the people in their lives are experiencing extra stress to counteract their laziness and lack of discipline you see there's only really two paths in front of you it's the path of discipline or it's the path of destruction the cost of discipline okay you've got to wake up a little bit earlier you make some coffee and you get to work even though it feels kind of hard the cost of lacking discipline is your soul it's the pain that when you fall in love with a woman you're not successful enough to be able to just retire her immediately that seems like a distant dream for a lot of guys but it is a reality for some imagine that moment when your woman still needs to go to work in a job that she doesn't want to go to you know if you meet a woman who loves her work that's different let's say she's working some shitty job and it's actually starting to drain on her let's say she gets pregnant and even six months or however long three months into the pregnancy she still has to go to work she still has to commute now I can be sat here like you know being like nice as everyone else's to you but I'm gonna hit you with some cold hard [ __ ] truths you're discreasing your manhood if you can't provide for others if you have a woman who hates her job but still has to go because you weren't disciplined enough for long enough in your life you should feel like a [ __ ] [ __ ] you should lock yourself in the mirror and actually think [ __ ] me I wasted years of my life doing what porn video games drinking drugs right if it was different if it was like you know you were really working hard but you didn't end up achieving success that's the difference but look into the [ __ ] mirror and just be honest with yourself did you actually like work to the level that you should have did you did you discipline yourself to the level that you should have or did you just keep coping and saying that one hour of video games was fine and now your girl has to go work an overnight shift or you know like she has to work overtime on Saturdays now your father's like 60 years old and he's still like stretching along to work and no one will say this to you by the way no one will actually come to you and say like I wish you retired me your father's probably not going to say that to you but they're thinking that I can't believe I raised such a weak son who didn't even understand the concept of masculinity that you provide your father provided for you and here you are extra one hour on video games every day eating carbs that [ __ ] up your brain and now you can't even work well I don't mean to be insulting or aggressive towards you but I wish that someone spoke to me like this because everyone spoke to me like a [ __ ] when I was growing up it was so weird it's like trust me when I say people are thinking these thoughts but I'm growing up playing video games watching porn [ __ ] around wasting time and only my father would just kind of tell me you know these are bad habits and stuff but he wouldn't ever explain I wish he sat down like maybe I would have thought of him worse but I wish he sat me down he said like you shouldn't be playing video games because in 10 years I wish that you would retire me I wish that I'd stop working these shitty jobs that I hate and I hate my life and I have to drink alcohol to be able to sleep I wish in 10 years from now you'd be able to retire me and I don't believe you'll be able to do that because you keep spending two three four five hours a day on video games I'm disappointed in you I wish someone told me that when I was younger these days like everyone just speaks in such a polite like nice way you need someone to hit you with some truth that I don't say this to be an [ __ ] I don't say this to hurt your feelings if I wanted to hurt your feelings I wouldn't be making like a guide like this where I've genuinely put my [ __ ] heart and soul into this for the last like two weeks and like numbed my brains of thinking how I can help you be more disciplined but sometimes especially for young men men who are masculine you need a bit of criticism from someone else you need another guy to look at you and just say like bro you're not living to your potential so what the [ __ ] is the point in your life now you can start getting depressed and think that this is gonna trigger you and make you worse or you can think you know what it is shameful it is absolutely shameful for me to be like a leech on my family when I'm a young man I'm 18 years old I'm 20 years old I can work harder I can figure it out and I don't have to retire them right now because that would be unreasonable but I could surely retire my parents after 10 years from now if I said that as the plan right that's not so like super unrealistic I'll give you a like a random tip when we talk about retiring parents people don't really explain it there's two ways that you retire your parents one is that you make like an absolute boatload of money and you just essentially transfer them the money like a huge amount like let's say one million dollars and they get to live off that forever that they don't have to think about anything else that's very unrealistic because that means that you've probably got 10 million or 50 million in the bank account you can give them that much so not many guys will do that but the other one is that you're making a really good amount of money every month like for example your business is making 8 000 or 10 000 a month which is really high but it's possible and then from that you give them more than what they need to be able to pay off all the bills so for example you give your parents like four thousand dollars a month which means that suddenly they don't even need to work anymore let's say it's like your mother right now like how much does she make two thousand dollars a month probably less for most of the people watching this right now probably way less right so if you were making five thousand dollars a month in your business and you were able to give your mother 1.5 K or 2K suddenly all of her time is freed she doesn't need to work the shitty job that she hates and it's like this is a very strong point for people because this is when the leashes the chains of Finance get broken off and they can discover who they really are and what they really want to do with their lives and it turns out you know people still want to work and be productive and do something your mother's been working this [ __ ] job that she hates now it turns out that she actually wants to go and volunteer at this charity because like one of the like some friends or something is there or there's like a cafe that she really likes and she'd love to work there part-time so she's thrilled bringing in a bit of income but she like really enjoys it a lot more it's not as stressful it's closer to home she doesn't have to commute and you've just gave her the genuine Gift of Life for two thousand dollars a month not bad you should not be hearing this and start a self-destruct because there are quite a lot of sensitive young people who are hearing this and that they're just gonna start getting really really stressed out and stuff that's not going to help you don't just start getting emotional at this start getting logical towards this start thinking to yourself you know what emotions aren't going to help me it's Logic power strength will discipline well what's going to help you is the fact that barely one percent of young men are interested in things like this like if you really just imagine yourself right now if you view yourself in third person you're sat here watching a guide on discipline now if you imagine the people you grew up with what are they doing right now one of them is genuinely edging his dick right now you know it the other one is literally like he's still lying in bed right now the other one is watching some [ __ ] TV or something the other one is just well playing on his little Xbox with his little stubby fingers or something he's got like a little like oily fingers from like a little disgusting junk food he's been eating whilst playing the game the other one is working some like [ __ ] job that he hates but he's spending all the money on like some some car that gives him a level of validation so maybe he can get some stinky call from when he goes to the club that's your competition you're telling me you can't beat those guys your competition is literally guys who don't even exercise your competition is guys who genuinely have never even heard of the concept of like meditating that's your competition bro it's not that hard to beat 99 of guys all you've got to do is about 10 push-ups and 30 seconds of meditation today that's it then to beat the one percent is ruthlessly hard because guys in the one percent are actually doing bits they've already watched this guy they're already meditating for the last year they've all got six packs they all understand all these like Concepts and frames and mindsets now it gets hard but to be 99 of guys bro and you know to get to like the equivalent of that might be one or two or five k in business it's like just just do some stuff consistently for like two months and ask for advice and just maybe get someone who's more experienced than you to help you and to give you some kind of Direction and just do it for about an hour a day for like two months three months when you go down this path of discipline what you'll realize is you'll start to get this weird peaceful Blissful experience which kind of like it reminds you it it shows you you know the concept of your potential you always heard this in school and Instagram little quotes uh live to your potential do you know your potential your potential eventually goal potential when you start to dedicate yourself to discipline and really don't [ __ ] yourself you really become disciplined in the areas that you didn't want to like you kind of want to but you know you don't feel like it you're not motivated and stuff you really start to do hardship I didn't want to sit down for this [ __ ] video right now I didn't want to I've already done three hours of deep work today my brain was kind of hurting and for like a like a break like a vacation I closed my eyes and did some deep breaths and now I'm here now I'm recording for like a solid probably two hours whilst I'm here and it feels phenomenal because as I'm doing this there's no thoughts in my mind I've challenged myself today so I get a free flow State this is the happiest like a human can be is when you're experiencing flow and there's no thoughts in my mind I don't need to fake it you know I'm not like like some people will pretend that they're happy with their work and they'll show you like a fake smile I don't need to show you like a massive big smile I am totally and utterly like content and almost slightly like enlightened in this exact second right now because of discipline because I've put the hard work in to be here today so I'm in like a flow as I deserve the moment that I'm done recording this I'm gonna feel phenomenal I've accomplished more in this morning than I used to genuinely over an entire month it's 10 A.M I woke up at five it's awesome living like this now I want to talk about some specific strategies that you can use to use discipline in your work and your studies step 3.1 wake up early now either choose to wake up early or to stay up late but I think that you should have either one of these extreme like this pocket of window very early in the day or very late at night where no one can contact you and that's when you can work on something which is really really important this is building up to the most important productivity tactic that I could be telling you about you must have a few hours of the day where no one will contact you when no one's awake but it's just kind of you with some silent enthusiasm working on something that's super hard and like you know the hardest task possible and it like 100 trust me that I highly doubt that you could do this in the middle of the day and you need to wake up early 4 AM 5 AM 6 a.m or you stay up late midnight 1am something like that you can choose which one it is some people are way more night owls and they do a really good work there somebody people are way better in like the morning time I'm way better in the morning what I will say is I do genuinely think the morning is better for pretty much everyone because when you stay up late you do automatically experience problems there's more people who are still awake at 11 o'clock even midnight you can't drink coffee or caffeine or anything if you see any bright lights or you know any lights from your computer past about 10 pm it really does start to [ __ ] up your mental health like Andrew huberman talks about this a lot that if you look into the computer or phone past 10 pm or 11 pm it starts to produce like depressive symptoms inside of you because it's totally unnatural to see light at that time when you wake up early at five and you see light it's absolutely fine it's actually kind of healthy so I heavily prefer morning time but if for example I was someone who genuinely could not wake up early but I feel fantastic at 11 or midnight or 1am I would still do that I would be pushing that and literally like be up at a time where everyone else is asleep where you don't reply to any messages so that you can do the hardest task possible I do my absolute best work as early as possible in the day so right now I wake up at five and my deep work task is between five and eight am so in cases you want to copy me you want to take any of my ideas here's my current exact routine at 8pm I shut everything down non-negotiable I don't care if I'm on a call if I'm doing anything at 8pm everything is shut down that's when I'll go and do my nighttime routine and you know brush my teeth I'll Frost my teeth and stuff set up my room and everything set up tomorrow for um for work and everything then I'll get into bed and I just read like sideways lying down the whole room is dark but I have a Kindle which is on the lowest brightness and when you read like literally to the point that your eyes closed you have perfect sleep I usually fall asleep for about 8 30 p.m maybe sometimes about 9pm and I wake up usually 5 a.m like on the dot just by myself wake up first 10 minutes 15 minutes I'm just quickly just going to the toilet drinking some water go downstairs and I'll look at bright light like I'll look at the the sunlight right now this sun which is out at like 5 a.m so I'm getting that into my eyes Andrew huberman says it's good then at about 5 50 and I come up and I literally just do deep work till 8 A.M so I'm working on the full guides for the script and everything it's like a very mentally demanding super hard task no one can disturb me no one's awake I'm not checking messages no one's awake in my house so I'm just working on that this is how you move the needle so there's a phrase that I want to tell you which means a lot to me it's called Eat the Frog the idea is I think some philosopher or something made this but the idea is that if you eat the Frog first the hardest thing if you do the most gross thing the hardest thing first then the rest of the day is going to be easier and better most people do the opposite thing they've got something hard that they really don't have motivation for and they'll keep pushing it on pushing it later later until eventually it's like their entire day has just been kind of like stressed out by that thing that they're pushing later and sometimes they don't even get it done so you wake up and you do the hardest thing straight away whilst your brain's really fresh and then you've got like an easier day after that so when I wake up I focus entirely on these full guides because that's like my main thing that's like the hardest thing I could possibly be doing and I'll just be scripting the video I'll be researching it I'll be editing my script and everything and then I record the full guide as well this is the real me time this is when I wake up no one can bother me and I can focus on dedicating myself to my craft and I really think that I'm moving things along and so you can copy this so the first thing you've got to do is figure out are you going to be a morning person or a nighttime person I really think you need to be one and I think the more extreme that you can push the time the better if you can wake up at like 4am or 5am and then start to adjust you know the rest of your life to it the sleep schedule and everything to it fantastic if you can stay up 1am or 2 2 A.M and you can really really get good work done and you're not coping and you don't get distracted and no one's messaging you and you can like you know stay awake at that time then do that you should have one of these Pockets the next thing is and this is the actionable step figure out what you you'll eat the Frog task is what is the single greatest hardest highest leverage task for your work or your studies for a YouTuber for example it's not you know changing the channel Banner it's not like commenting on videos it's simply just like recording the video and maybe scripting the video that's like the hardest highest leverage thing out there for a YouTuber so this is what I do in that first pocket of the day if you're a nighttime person then you do this right at the end or for example let's say you are an author you could be messaging people you could be writing emails you could you know be sending shout outs to people or something but the hardest task that eat the Frog of an author what do you think it is literally just writing words down on a page that's the hardest task so if you're an author you'd wake up and you do that as fast as possible or you'd stay up late and you do that you get the drift the point is that there's a certain task for your work and for your studies that is super high leverage but it's really hard and that's the thing that you should be doing in these like pockets of time if you're a student for example you might think that oh yeah mine is studying for example needs to be way more specific it can't just be studying because then it's like you know you can you'll just cope right because you won't have a plan it needs to be a specific task as specific as for example practicing the exam questions so you've got an upcoming exam you've got like a list of all the questions that they've had over the last five years at Five AM you wake up and you practice the exam questions for 90 minutes that's that is a good deep work task right there Alex hamosi is a entrepreneur like a YouTuber who's got a bunch of subscribers and he spoke about how he ended up getting really really good grades in college he literally just practiced the exam questions over and over and over again so that when it came to the exam he had already practiced the questions that come up anyway so we just breathe through them that's a very high leverage task a lot of students cope and they say like you know their task is just going to be studying they end up sitting there they're distracted they don't know what they're doing they'll read a bit of the book but it's boring it's not even high leverage it's very important you have a specific task that you'll focus on I will tell you that I've been on self-improvement full time for the past three years I haven't had a job other than YouTube and so I've literally had the beautiful opportunity to like be full-time on my self-improvements and I will tell you that this is a 10 out of 10 productivity tactic wake up early stay up late whichever one and work on that Harvest task eat the Frog that's what I have in this habit tracker behind me I have 5 am sunlight eat the Frog that's the three things I do first and then I've got like my the rest of my morning routine as well this will be hard when you sit down to try and do one of these tasks it's always like quite brutally hard it's like you're trudging through deep snow it's hard there's always a bit of a struggle you don't really want to do it but as you get about 20 minutes or 30 minutes into one of these hard like frog tasks that's when you start to feel a lot better like I am right now when I was having a shower before this I was literally thinking like you know Kobe do I want to record this I can't be bothered what if I do after the gym what if I do you know this all these thoughts the first like 10 minutes or so of recording this video I was feeling a little bit like I don't know groggy not really feeling it now it's fine you've just got to fight the struggle that will inevitably arise with a task like this hard and this is really I'm gonna be honest this is where the success is built because you see how hard you can imagine how hard this is I'm telling you to either wake up early or to stay up late which means that you've got to kind of dedicate your life around this and then I'm telling you to work on the super hardest task possible the highest level average task everyone else is doing the exact opposite everyone else is spending their time doing like the pointless tasks which aren't so important and the hard really important task they're pushing that off to like you know until the later of the day till they're tired and it's less of a priority and they're doing other things first they're going to the gym first this is how you get ahead of everyone else you prioritize that big task and you try and do it first thing in the day when no one can message you and do all this with the vibe of enthusiasm and enjoyment because you're building your dream life and you're not just building your dream life this is the dream life when you imagined your dream life and you thought of you know the life that you wanted to live oftentimes we've been influencing brainwashed by media by school by you know like people that we know and influencers and even like the red pill like like based guys have influenced us to think that we need this Bugatti or this this apartment or you know like be a high value man and stuff when you take all that [ __ ] aside when you really think about your dream life in some way you probably did think about the fact that you'd be working hard on some kind of project that meant a lot to you because if you think that you know the dream life is you just kind of retiring and having enough money I have to say you're quite immature and foolish not not in a insulting way it's just because you haven't experienced life anyone who's experienced life especially as a man knows if once you make a [ __ ] ton of money and you can pretty much retire you don't because it's boring as [ __ ] you need some kind of purpose fulfillments right so it's like this already was going to be the the dream life for us and we can have it today we can have something that we can work hard on that contribute to humanity that also gets us to the point that we can start to provide for our families a year or so ago I remember being on Instagram and there was an Instagram reel of like a basketball player who was like um you know saying this like motivational quotes and he said those days where you wake up early and you work hard those days when you stay up late and you work hard those are actually the dream which is super like I remember watching that I think that's actually so true my Instagram's I don't know if my Instagram's Linked In the description you can follow me if you want I don't even post on it but um and it's very true the dream is not the subscribers it's not the car it's not the number in your bank account it's just working on something that actually means a lot to you if you disagree right now you might be working on the wrong thing you might be for example either being forced or you're maybe forcing yourself to work on something that you don't actually care about you're only doing it for the external validation the results this is why it's very important to slow down for a second and you know your response to everything I've been saying here if it seems kind of depressive of like oh man I've got to work hard on this task you know it's going to be [ __ ] and stuff but you know maybe I'll eventually make money it's probably the wrong thing for you because the right task is gonna be the kind of one where it's still super difficult but you're actually thinking man a life of me waking up early and working on that that would actually be a pretty good life it would be hard and of course I want other parts of my life too but I would actually like enjoy that like that would be good for me that would be good for the world oftentimes many young men they choose the work they choose the studies which they don't actually feel intrinsically motivated or or internally pull towards rather than you just choose whatever like your latest red pill influencer has been telling you what I highly suggest if you're relating to this right now close off everything for a little while and just kind of you know don't use your phone just for a few minutes and just kind of sit silently and just ask yourself what do you really want and question that and maybe Journal it and think to yourself okay where have these desires formed into my mind why do I want to be rich and just it sounds like a stupid question but ask it and you won't want to write it down I guarantee you'll be too much of a [ __ ] to admit this but you'll say that you want to be rich just because Andrew Tate talked about being rich that's it that was the only reason why if he didn't and if other people didn't you the concept of being rich might have never formed in your mind because that wasn't what your purpose was supposed to be as a man you hear so much about purpose none of these guys online know about purpose purpose isn't about becoming the successful high-level man who wears a [ __ ] shirt pretends he's Andrew Tate does the [ __ ] [ __ ] sign and then smokes a cigar that's not purpose purpose is detaching away from everything being in solitude or with some good man which you probably have not even met just yet being in a complete Solitude and really investigating the reason for why you [ __ ] exist and it will probably not be related to anything that you see these guys showing you these male role models showing you this life of hedonistic this materialistic degenerate showing you that oh here I I'm in Dubai and you know I'm sleeping with lots of girls but you know if a woman sleeps around then she's a hoe but I can sleep around you know she's damaged if she sleeps around but I can damage her by my course the Hustler's University you know people are [ __ ] doing this [ __ ] online the more you watch that kind of content or content in general the more that your brain and your heart will be polluted with weird new desires that weren't ever your own you must spend some time away from everything and detach and slow down and slowly you'll start to figure out what you really want but you're a [ __ ] so what you really want isn't as cool as what Andrew Tate wants and you'll prioritize his desire into your own heart and mind instead of your own when you hear about this concept of purpose it's all about finding out what is internally right for you and so many young men have given up their purpose to just go follow the desire of the latest celebrity it's a very shameful way to live perhaps I should have said this before you even wake up early before you know we try and figure out this frog task for you to eat the Frog we have to make sure that you're on the right track to begin with this will come from making sure that there's no desires that are external there's no influence by these other people these creators this validation seeking that you get from Instagram it's awesome for example to go build your your body it's awesome to go to the gym and train hard but if you're training hard to get the Instagram Likes it's probably not a good thing if you're training hard to get more likes on Tinder like I was for a very long time it's probably not a good thing if you detach away from all of that and you pretend like none of that exists and you are just here empty in this room for a few minutes you'll start a really like question things and you'll be so scared of doing that because you were on the path to gain validation from other people as you you know you started to fulfill someone else's desires the truth is their validation is [ __ ] useless so it's valuable for you as an extra actionable step for this video that's unplanned spend maybe 10 minutes maybe five minutes maybe preferably a couple of days zero technology zero words spoken from your mouth to anyone else pen piece of paper sit there look at your wall talk out loud and ask yourself questions of like why do I desire where did this come from no no I know that Andrew Tate made a good good reason but like where did it come from it came from a tape podcast oh it came from a red pill podcast yep I was watching another one of those useless podcasts with the angry men come on and they Shout at the the women for being hoes and then the same men talk to those women afterwards and try and sleep with them that's where my desire came from and that's where I'm dedicating my life to when you say it out loud like that you feel like a [ __ ] idiot don't you instead your desires should form from the inside and they should be related to like your Soul's purpose here on Earth this is how you get into spirituality I'm very new to this myself but I think that this is the better way this is the only way to live otherwise you're just wasting your life because we know that achieving these external things we know that that doesn't lead to happiness or fulfillment we know this right you don't even need me to like question this we know for a fact that when you get the house or the car that every rich guy says this when you buy the house of the car it's like nothing going what look at the video Iman moved into his place in Dubai look at his face when he explains yeah like he's bored the take buys the new car and he's super happy driving it and then watch how he talks about it the next time it's like it's boring when you get these like little materialistic toys it's boring it doesn't add anything to your life and imagine sacrificing a year of your life for that little [ __ ] like Smile as you drive in this car that you've you've wasted like a year of your life you haven't hugged one of your like family members for a while like instead very important detach figure out your real purpose figure out your real desires I know that this is going off topic here I probably should have mentioned I should mention this almost every video because there's no point in living if you're on someone else's trajectory there's a few quotes that I really like days are made of mornings and lives are made of days in the morning win at life I really think that's the case if you start your day with an awesome morning morning routine hard work the specific task that means a lot to you which is super hard to do and you just do it to the best that you can not expecting it to be perfect struggling with it losing your attention but just you know sticking to it doing it anyway doing it anyway waking up early every single day doing that you're starting each day perfect that usually translates into a way better day than you know where you can up late or anything and your whole life is just made up of these days so it sounds weird but like the way to live a good life is just to have like a good morning routine there's a lot of power in that so an actionable step for you right now is to add on to your habit tracker something like either wake up early or eat the Frog I've just wrote eat the Frog oh I've got both I've got 5am and I've got eat the Frog and this way you're gonna hold yourself accountable and if you stuck this up on your wall it's very obvious you can't escape it so that's why I love sticking up these papers like this on my wall this is the route to self-mastery it's allocating time to the hardest task you could possibly be doing and usually that means waking up early which is such a blissful experience and I'm actually excited for you if you haven't already to get into this step 3.2 excellence in all areas if you're okay with dust piling up on your desk then you'll be okay with tasks piling up in your to-do list if you're okay with leaving things out of place then you'll probably be okay with setting an email with a spelling mistake if you're okay with leaving the gym before you've actually finished your workout you'll be okay with cutting Corners in your studies or your work and the results that you get in life will show but more than that you will know you will know that you are a messy room kind of entrepreneur I learned of this concept of excellence in all areas from an entrepreneur called some ovens he has a YouTube channel you can just go search for some ovens and he's recently made this platform like this online Community website called school.com that's where I host to my business as well and he ended up just like in one random video of his he showed that he had principles for his like previous business like the kind of guidelines and rules and mindset that everyone in his business was following and one of them was excellent excellence in all areas they won't cut corners and I've been inspired by that since and that's something that I want to get into myself Excellence not in just the work that you produce or the videos that you make here but excellence in for example the form that you have in your workouts in the gym excellence in your diets excellence in the the way you hold eye contact when you're speaking to your loved ones it's without a doubt that the students who are well hydrated they've got good diets they go to sleep on time will get better grades than the students who stay up late on Tick Tock who refuse to drink water because they don't like the taste of it that's obvious it's common sense and yet people miss this out this is undeniable we know this because these are the people who have got their life in order trying to get better grades when you're dehydrated or trying to make more money from your business when you don't even make your bed every morning or trying to make gains in the gym when you refuse to improve your diet and you keep eating sugar that's obvious it's common sense it's basic but a lot of people miss the basics and you might be one of them if for example you're a guy who's always well hydrated there's probably another area of life that you're not even hitting the basics on just yet maybe your form in the gym if you're just being honest maybe your form in the gym is [ __ ] it could be have you ever had a personal training session to have someone else like a professional evaluate your form have you ever trained with someone who's got 10 years of experience have you ever even like sat down and watched 50 different videos on how to like bench press correctly how to increase your squat form and everything all of this this pursuit of becoming excellent comes down to just your mindset of setting higher standards than you have done previously so again this is something that you can do you can look around your room and just think okay what could I slightly increase the standards of a lot of it for a lot of people is cleanliness and you can increase the standards there maybe you can increase the standards slightly of the clothes you wear or the hair that you keep the way that you groom yourself a lot of young guys including myself kind of let ourselves go with a little bit of laziness so booking in a haircut once a week or two weeks and with this new mindset okay I'm gonna have higher standards for my appearance that will translate to higher standards in your work step 3.3 perfectionism is simply a lack of discipline I spoke to a lot of people who suffer with perfectionism they want it to be just rights they want to wait months or Years to you know do something that should take maybe a couple of days and I speak to a lot of guys who want to become YouTubers maybe they've been inspired by seeing like my YouTube channel growth and they always ask me these [ __ ] questions you know should it be like this video or this one sure how about this this idea or this one this one or this one this like you know they're just like literally just jumping around from idea to idea and I always just ask how many videos have you posted and the most common answer that I get is zero here we have a young man who's overthinking to such a crazy level thinking wait should his videos be like this or like this like this and he's made zero videos so he doesn't even understand this is like a fat guy sat here saying no no I won't go to the gym until I've got The Perfect Workout routine how do you think you'll find The Perfect Workout routine you go so I always always every time I meet a perfectionist I always relate them to a fat man you're the exact same it's just a lack of discipline the fat guy who doesn't go to the gym because he doesn't know exactly what The Perfect Workout routine is going to be is the exact same as the little skinny fat nerd with the skinny neck who's saying that he won't make his YouTube video right now who's saying that he won't produce this work right now or he won't release it just yet because it's not good enough it's not perfect this just comes down to a lack of discipline it comes down to arrogance and narcissism there's a weird Counterpoint here where we want you to have high standards but we don't want it to be stupid for example your first video that you post onto YouTube is probably gonna be trash now if you're some professional guy you're 30 years old and you can invest in a really high quality team and you're already a great speaker then it's going to be different but if for example you're a young guy and you don't have much experience you're not really that great at speaking or anything you don't have like a fantastic team or even a camera you're just using your phone your first video is gonna be kind kind of trash and that's okay but then having high standards would mean okay well the next video I make I'm gonna try and do one thing that's slightly better having high standards could mean okay I'm going to make sure that in my videos I don't waste that much time because you know a lot of new YouTubers they'll press record and they'll waste 20 seconds 30 seconds just getting to it this is the way to increase standards but whilst destroying perfectionism just know that they'll always be more things that you can add into something always there will always be more that you can add in that isn't the skill this is where perfectionists get stuck they're always just trying to add more into something think that they can make it better how exactly do you use discipline to overcome perfectionism you find a perfectionist body kind of like an accountability partner but another guy who also has these feelings of perfectionism and you join together because generally we have perfectionism in ourselves but we can kind of rationally see for someone else because you know perfectionists can't see it in themselves they think that it's still not good enough they think that it's not ready to be released but if a perfectionist meets another perfectionist they can kind of help each other in a weird way where they both relate to the feeling that they have and they're able to convince each other well and so your actionable step is to go down to the comments right now and go search for your own perfectionist slash procrastination buddy and if you really want to take action then write your own comments and then people can reply to you maybe you can put your Discord username so people can add you you can say like I'm looking for a perfectionist body this is the thing that I think I've got perfectionist on oh you know I procrastinate on this task because I keep expecting it to be perfect if anyone's similar has my Discord has my email address or something everyone spamming in the comments will also help the algorithm pick up this video so that's a win-win if you are interested in all of the entrepreneur stuff I've just spoke about like finding your dream business and you want my advice with that and you want to join like this online community Adonis school is the place to be and that's the top Link in the description step four discipline in health and fitness this is the most common place where young men can use discipline to improve their lives go to the gym and eat right eat clean even when you don't feel like it it is really going to the gym and hitting workouts that is usually most young men's like first taste of discipline it's first taste of feeling like quite masculine and you know doing something even though you don't feel like it doing it even though it's hard doing it especially because it is hard and there's four major benefits to being disciplined when it comes to Fitness number one it's the concept of Hard Times create strong men you've probably heard of the cycle before Hard Times create strong men strong men create good times good times create weak men weaker men create Hard Times wherever we are in the cycle right now I mean I think we know where we are the hard times are pretty much here for a lot of countries and it will get worse and worse like we're talking potentially Decades of like the Dark Ages on the other hand there might actually be the biggest sort of resurrection of good times as fast as possible that we've ever seen in history because of Technology because of AI like who knows where it's going to go right now it does seem to be the case that we are like entering the hard times which means that if you are a strong man you will be able to ride this wave that we're going through but weak men won't weak men are coming every single day to more of these addictions whereas some men are getting stronger even though the times are getting harder it's hard right now like for example I live in the UK it's hard for an average man to be able to feed his family because of the cost of living crisis that you know he's not making much money the weak men will just kind of struggle with that and just keep struggling and complaining and ask for handouts the strong man will figure out extra ways that he can make money and become more capable it's how you use the situation around you and going to the gym interestingly will help you with this it will develop you into a strong man because you're pulling yourself through hard times now I've got to make a disclaimer a lot of guys will not get this benefit because for a lot of people including like Fitness influences and everything the two they're too relaxed they're too easy like you know that their workout routine their their diet when you I see like every now and then I'll see a video from a fitness influencer and he's having like 200 grams of sugar a day he's eating like protein pancakes and he's put little like [ __ ] um chocolate spread over it or something like is this the level of discipline we've got to this is this is the Pinnacle of health is these Fitness YouTubers who are literally showing you like oh look at me I'm having a snack I'm having loads of sugar and stuff like bro like I said before 100 if you want to go out for like a nice tree every now and then 100 I love to do that as well so you know I'm not I don't have like a 100 perfect diet this is the Pinnacle of Health these days this is like Fitness influences 20 years ago it was you know okay way out the whites rice the broccoli the chicken maybe a little bit too extreme and now it's these guys who are like doing 10 000 calorie challenges because all the the disgusting people just watch that content it should still feel hard today if you really want to level up if you really want to get stronger it should be relatively hard like like I'm speaking directly to the guys who've been training for years now remember when you first started in the gym and how [ __ ] hard it was remember how sore your muscles got in that first ever like arm workout that you did you know the first time that you did a bunch of bicep curls and the next day you couldn't even straighten your arm and you felt the same way about your hamstrings and everything right that was a hard workout that built you strong these days we do a full workout and afterwards we could work out again because even though our workout is like you know harder than it was before our capabilities have risen so we're no longer even in that level where we're challenging ourselves and becoming stronger the same with dieting remember the first time that you started to dieting you the first time you really made some progress in dieting how like hard it kind of felt remember how much you used to think about this concept of eating less calories and eating cleaner and it would like literally almost feel like a full-time job and these days I might feel like way easier you're just not used to it that means that sure you're rinsing out the current benefits but you're not growing anymore you're not getting any stronger right now maybe you don't need to maybe you're already a super strong man chances are you're probably not because I'm not I've still got a lot like a long way to go and if you're sat here like learning from me and I'm telling you as your teacher that I've got a long way to go I think you should slap your ego and think you know what I probably do as well so your diet and your training should feel hard today I know that I'm doing this right when I'm in the gym and I really want to go home but I have to like really like fight to stay there whereas I've had a lot of workouts over the last few years where I've just kind of you know I've just done it yeah it's hard you know when you're pressing the weight and you're close to failure it feels hard but all in all it doesn't like it's not 10 out of 10 difficult it's kind of like fun going to the gym but these days recently just very recently only for a few days I've literally been in the gym and been like exhausted and tired and it really reminds me of when I first used to go to the gym and like you couldn't wait to almost like leave like it was fun but it was super tiring and the same with my diet I had to restrict it to the next level now that now it feels like like kind of like how it was when I was a beginner and I can see the progress that I'm making it's like I keep feeling this weird Blissful feeling which is like I can genuinely understand the concept of potential of self-mastery because most people's fitness journey and you know the journey to be disciplined looks like this like that like a start and they get you know loads of progress they're being really disciplined but then out of nowhere it just starts to level off and they just kind of stay comfortable here even the guys who consistently go to the gym if you've been going to the gym for a few years I guarantee you've been pushing out guarantee that even though the gym like you've been going consistently and the gym feels kind of hard guarantee that you're not like progressively overloading not just set by set but just kind of workouts in month by month of like you know restricting your diet more getting bit a little bit more extreme in your training and people can say oh well you know this is you know restrictive diets don't work and stuff yeah for [ __ ] of course they don't for shallow breathers of course they don't but for Superior men men who want to become strong this is the trajectory it's like every single month you slightly increase the level of discipline that you need for your activities most guys stopped one year into going to the gym and they just kind of like maintain that level you know if you've been finding that you're not making as much gains recently and we all blame it on like yeah you know it's Noob games you make a lot of muscle when you first stop and you don't make much after that maybe but maybe you've just been posting out maybe you're not putting in the same level of discipline relative to when you first started because I remember when I first started and I found it incredibly difficult to diet and to train and then for years it was way easier because my skill level had went up but I wasn't challenging myself anymore so if you want like a little idea for example start adding in some cardio maybe you already do some go and track your cardio and do a hundred calories every single day for the rest of your life and every time you get onto your favorite cardio machine to hit 100 calories try and beat your score from last time like your your time for example so you really like the treadmill for example and it takes you 10 minutes to hit 100 calories today tomorrow you're going to the gym and you try and get it in 9 minutes and 30 seconds then the next day you try and get it in nine minutes then randomly then you know one day later you end up getting it in like seven minutes and it's like whoa that's really good then the next day it's like eight minutes and you're really trying to beat the seven minute again but you know that was quite lucky so you simply yourself okay I'm gonna be you know progressively overloading I'm going to be smart let's try and get it on average like eight minutes okay eight minutes then 750 and you you start playing this game and now this is like an actual level of challenge you're there sometimes in the gym feeling like oh I don't want to do the 100 calorie thing it's stupid Hamza was just you know saying it lightly I don't want to do it that's exactly how we felt when we started going to the gym you wake up the next day and your legs are sore and you've got that like pain heavy feeling in your Chili's tendons and your carbs that's exactly how it felt when we first started training now you're like being as disciplined as you was back then relatively and you're becoming stronger the second benefit of being disciplined in Fitness is the physical and mental health that's going to translate over to better work relationships happiness and love and the third benefit of being disciplined in Fitness of course is getting into shape Tristan Tate was on a podcast that I watched a little while ago and he was asked what's like the number one tip to look better in a suit and he ended up saying it was just get into shape it wasn't actually about the suit or the tailor or the style if you're in shape you'd look good in clothes or without clothes finally the fourth benefit to being disciplined in Fitness eventually it becomes fun if you keep going and you have this playful mindset almost like you're playing a game you're trying to beat your high score and you're trying to you know get the high score for the bench press you're trying to get the high score for how fast you can burn 100 calories that will soon turn into you genuinely just enjoying each and every gym session and it becomes such a beautiful enjoyable and and important part of your life a lot of the guys who've been going to the gym for a while will know this it really integrates into your personality and you start to love being an athlete like it adds to yourself image that you are this healthy person who's able to delay gratification who's able to you know think for the future who's able to enjoy the hard work the exercise the sweat the discomfort the pain the sacrifice right now and I think that's beautiful I think it adds a lot of flavor to your life step 4.1 destroying depression with discipline there's a lot of people these days who feel quite depressed and whether there is such a concept of clinical depression or not I actually don't know which I know sounds stupid but I think that the majority of people who have depression I don't think it's this like weird mystical chemical imbalance that they might need medication for it's in my belief that we feel depression when we don't act like how humans are supposed to act now you remember being a child and how playful and innocent and beautiful the world used to be and I'm not talking about being a teenager but I'm talking about actually being like a pure child remember when you used to climb trees and you used to jump over puddles like remember when you used to literally just lie down in the grass and you just kind of like look at the individual Blades of grass and you'd see tiny insects in your play with them maybe you'd kill them right we don't do that as adults anymore we're so focused on our phones on our computers on like just you know these desires that have been put into us by influencers and by media we're constantly thinking about sex but not in like a loving way more in like a validation like you know obsessed with ejaculation so we left this like shallow life this dirty shameful life as adults and we wonder why we don't feel like happy playful children anymore so a lot of people believe that depression is something that they can't change I'm depressed I need medication I think the issue from my understanding with medication is that it's not going to cure the problem there's a reason why you're depressed the medication just kind of masks the symptoms and kind of like makes you feel a little bit better like a bit more mellow today you know anti-depressants kind of take off the sort of extreme High and the extreme low and so you're in this weird gray androgynous Zone and I'm not sure if that's the best way to go ahead like go about this I think perhaps a better way which is going to require me to sound like a [ __ ] [ __ ] is to ask you why you deserve to be depressed if you really want this full guide to help you and if you really want to make some progress here it might be worth for you to like not think of me as a bad person when I say that and for you to ask the question to yourself maybe write this down and you know write this as a note or something and to answer this what am I doing to deserve to feel depressed it sounds like a horrible question I can imagine so many people might like think that I'm weird or I'm a bad person for asking you this I personally believe like you know you've tried you've listened to the entire world just listen to me for like two minutes and let me just explain my mindset you can just try what I'm saying right I personally believe that we deserve most of what happens to pretty much everything apart from like extreme freak accidents and everything like that right and I believe especially when it comes to things of how we feel we are in total control of that whether or not we realize it or and whether or not we accept it and so I believe it's more of an empowering thought to have that our emotions are simply just caused by our actions and honestly when I've started to think like this like I've started to think okay I control how I feel in life I've had more control over it so this is what I want to give you this gift because it's one of the best things that's ever happened to me this is gonna maybe sound like boasting but it's not even in the kind of post that most people would do you know most people will talk about their money in their Fast Cars one of the things I really like am proud of and I could boast about I'm genuinely like quite a happy content person if there's 10 people sat waiting for the train nine of them are on a phone and I'm the 10th guy who's literally happier than all of them put together with a smile on my face just kind of like looking at the world that's the kind of man that I've become now and I promise that I was not always like this this is because I've conditioned my own mind to like fight for my happiness my joy my my survival my my gratitude and presence and so I want to give you this gift this this mindset that I've had if you ask yourself right now and just be totally honest and really write this down as an actionable step write some notes on this what am I doing to deserve to feel depressed just write bullet point some some ideas and your lizard brain might pipe up and say oh you know nothing it's you know it's just what my doctor told me it's just you know it's it's genetic and stuff but just ask yourself you don't even need to you don't need more in education or anything just ask yourself what are some of the actions I'm doing that probably leads to this and you Pro you could probably write a hundred let's just be honest I wake up late I'm sleep deprived I don't drink enough water I wake up and the first thing I do is grab my phone even though I shouldn't I watch an Andrew huberman podcast where he said that you should get sunlight in the morning and I don't do it I wear the same clothes and they're dirty and they stink but I just throw them on the floor then I put them back up and I put them on I have no respect for myself I haven't groomed in a while I missed quite a few days of brushing my teeth I haven't played anything other than stimulation and porn and destructive habits I've been addicted to these habits for a very long time and I've been unable to quit I eat a very poor diet that my parents probably conditioned me to eat you could write a massive list of reasons what of actions that you're doing which are contributing to you not feeling good now please try this on the other side of the page or maybe just below it on a PC right what activities and tasks was I doing as a child when I felt really happy and if you've got some memories you can just replay them I was spending time with my brother we would listen to peaceful music and we would play Yu-Gi-Oh like a card game we'd play crickets in the back garden and would make up games where one of us had to be blindfolded but still hit the ball when it was raining outside that's when we'd go outside to play cricket so that it was just kind of in a weird way more uncomfortable but also like kind of more hardcore would practice things just for the sake of practicing like we used to like parkour we weren't even good at it so we're literally just trying to like jump over fences like we would literally spend an hour trying to jump over a fence for the sake of just trying to jump over it just for fun I'll spend more time with my mother and I'd laugh and she'd tell me stories my dad would teach me maths I would spend way more time playing outside with my friends the things that we would do before mobile phones was very enjoyable we just goes like parks and literally would just jump over stuff that's why childhood was just about jumping over stuff we would climb trees and I'd be in ore as my dad could climb like the biggest tree ever and I could only get to like the second branch I'd purposely jump into a muddy puddle and get it all over my shoes and you know my mom would be angry at me but it was really fun would go on adventures which was literally just like a mile away from our house and we'd end up going it's like a random field and like make up stories like oh yeah this is where the homeless man lives who kills kids innocence like pure childish joy and play what makes you happy what makes you not feel depressed I'm not sure if it changes that much I think that you know the things that we did as children that really brought us into a flow state that made us super happy I think that it's specifically exactly the same activities right now but it's that it feels kind of weird because as a grown adult in some ways like it shouldn't but in some ways it can feel a little bit weird or awkward to considered the idea of going to go climb a tree right or to do like some of these things or like inviting your friends like going on to your friend's door knocking on the door saying hi do you want to play out don't bring your phone let's just go like ride our bikes for no reason no hey hey bro can I go jump over stuff right there's a level of like oh no that's not what that's not what adults do you know this age like yeah we can go to the gym and that's kind of nice but that's about it right and any other kind of playing is just online these days it's video games and everything right but I have an actionable step just something peaceful for you to try take one activity that you can remember that you used to do as a child that used to be kind of fun and maybe exhilarating and start doing it today climbing trees like when was the last time you climbed a tree you can't feel depressed when you're a Pioneer you literally just can't you can't feel depressed when you're on a tree when you go go for a runoff for a walk right and it's been raining and there's a puddle on the floor you can't feel depressed as you try and jump over the puddle and you you know you could kind of laugh at yourself because you didn't make it and you got it all over your shoes you can't feel depressed when that when you're doing that now that's only a few seconds and then strip after that the demons will come back okay sure but if your day in your life and your month started to be filled up with these little micro childish habits as they used to be as a kid we used to see everything like a game used to see everything like a challenge that's what we need to be like even as adults it's only I wouldn't say Western but it's only in these like like these somewhat modern countries where people think that to be an adult means to be like this stuck-up person who maybe doesn't smile so much unless it's socially appropriate who acts like everyone else who doesn't act like a child and so we wonder why we feel so bad if you go to some other countries not so much countries but if you go to especially tribes which have been like quite Untouched by modern civilization you'll see the adults will literally dance for like an hour or two every single day they'll do things which are fun for the sake of doing things just for fun you can almost picture right now if like a YouTuber already let's say if I did like a vlog with some like African tribe you can imagine the kind of ones I'm talking about where they've all got like a feathered headdresses they make them they spend an hour picking like feathers from chickens and whatever dyeing them just because they're like oh yeah you know there's the yellow feather and the that's fun for them then they're there like you're doing that they're dancing everything and they're having a good time and here we are thinking that all right shouldn't dance yeah that's awkward I feel embarrassed by that back to work or back to my video games so I invite you now as an actionable step to use discipline because it will require discipline you will have a lot of limiting beliefs about this to think nope this isn't going to work nope this is going to be cringe someone might see me going to be cringe gonna be awkward going to be uncomfortable I'll go back to my video games Hamza doesn't know what he's talking about depression can't be cured maybe you could be thinking that but remember that I'm on your side here and if your brain is is literally arguing against he like us and it's saying oh no no we can't get any better is that really your own brain or is that like [ __ ] evil demonic conditioning that's inside of you because your own brain should argue and fight for you shouldn't it so what if you're you can just manually input the thought into your brain right now it's worth a try I I remember being a kid and climbing and doing silly stuff and it was always fun yeah I could go try it and maybe you're literally starting to think logistically of where you could go around your area okay where is there where could I find a puddle or a tree to climb up the easiest way to start in a way that doesn't feel awkward like at all which is how I started my mental health Journey was long distance running by long distance I don't even mean like long distance for me long distance was like two kilometers or something but it was specifically running Outdoors not in on a treadmill but Outdoors specifically with a prioritization of Adventure rather than just running and calories and heart rate so what I mean by this this is this really transformed my mental health and I thought I really hope that you could take this I started running but instead of me just trying to follow you on the route and running on the road and everything like normal people would do I ran with cardio being like the second thing I was running for the first thing I was running for was adventure and exploration so I would specifically and purposefully run into places that I just wanted to see so you know I'd like imagine okay here's the here's kind of like the road that everyone would be running around like you know this big estate where I live okay here's the road everyone just runs there instead of just following the same road as everyone else I know is that there's almost like an Alleyway like not like a dirty one but you know just like a a small Road or something to the left which is very close to my house and it just occurred to me like I've never been in that street before so I've run down there it's a cul-de-sac which means you you literally just have to run back out right but it's kind of like I just tuck it in for a second and I couldn't help but to imagine you know the game Grand Theft Auto when you look at the map and the map is all like kind of blacked and dark out up until you kind of Discover it then the maps got light and I could don't imagine like my own City being like that like this dark map with a few areas really brightly lit and there's a few dark spots like quite a lot literally so close to my house where I've lived for so long which I've never even seen because we've always just thought oh yeah well you know it's probably the same but our eyes have never even witnessed something literally like two minutes walk away we've never seen a specific house before we've never seen a specific like you know car and the front garden before there's some places you've not seen which are literally just minutes away from yours and if you allowed this like fantasization to build up this this feeling of wanting to explore an adventure and just go out today maybe on a run for the purpose of literally just like exploring your your local area going somewhere new and almost looking at it like in awe not focusing 100 on the run but you know getting somewhere and like looking around smiling and seeing okay I've never seen that person before never seen that house before oh wow I didn't realize that they had a a big oak tree here this is what we used to do as children so I want to ask you when was the last time your shoes got muddy on purpose when was the last time you genuinely on purpose jumped into a puddle just to like get wet and dirty when was the last time you genuinely went out and had a snowball fight or that you climbed a tree and you know if you think that this is lame the thing is big Macho successful you know these these masculine men that you see online they're doing it Andrew Tate's playing with his daughter and he's probably like goofing around with her chuckle willing Bear Grylls David Goggins these are all guys who've got long-term Partners who are playing with their kids every day and probably fooling around with them and laughing and playing hide and seek with them guys who have got [ __ ] triple hour levels of testosterone guys were literally been like military and successful business and kickboxer and and how they are actually playing more than we are because we're sat here trying to be too like masculine for our own good thinking yeah you know like oh yeah no no business you're when the best businessmen are literally playing step 4.2 starting the gym so you can skip this section if you've already consistently in the gym but this is specifically for the people who haven't really signed up for the gym yet or maybe who have got a gym membership but aren't going consistently and you're trying to figure out okay how do I actually start I know it seems like a like a simple topic of literally just joining the gym but I kind of needed a guide like this when I first started very quickly the way to join a gym is that you'll go onto Google Maps or onto like just Google and you'll search your area to your city and just write gym and you'll start to see the map of where all these gyms are and you just want to pick the one that's closest to you see it's opening times and you can usually just literally just turn up and you can buy it there or you buy it on the website and they'll say you know the monthly membership the yearly membership just do that and to actually get started in the gym a lot of people do have that kind of perfectionist mindset of like you know I don't know what workout to do yeah maybe I'll start in two weeks and you know this there's a lot of things that just are stopping you from starting right away the mindset I want to give to anyone who's in this position is you'll never be 100 ready to start the gym there's always going to be another thought of like wait I need to wait for the workout clothes wait I need to wait for this other thing I've got oh no I'm not feeling it no this thing okay I'll start after that trip and then I'll do this I don't know the workout routine I don't know if it's going to be safe I don't know there's going to be always these thoughts whether you start today or 10 years from now you're not going to feel 100 clear with going to the gym you'll only feel that after you've already been to 10 or 20 workouts so what I mean by this is you specifically need to start going to the gym even though your brain isn't 100 convinced that right now is the time which is powerful because now no matter what [ __ ] your little lizard brain which is probably more of an enemy than a friend let's just be honest it's telling you you can just go anyway literally just tell yourself like well I'll never be 100 certain so whatever bullshit's telling me it's like just shut the [ __ ] up I'm gonna sign up right now and I'm gonna go for my first workout and you might think oh well you know what's the workout you don't even need to know because I want you to think about the concept of exposure and you know what we've just talked about with um destroying depression with discipline and that concept I spoke to about like the the Grand Theft Auto map being kind of blacked out up until you experience something the exact same thing is true with exposure to like how the gym works because right now it's like the gym in your mind is this kind of like black kind of dark Beast that you can't see you can't understand it but the first time you've literally signed up to the gym you've went there you've walked around the gym area and you've like you know you just coped and you did some stupid exercise and went home think about how much extra light you've just added to the whole concept of going to the gym right now the whole concept is just dark and that this is why you're making no progress because you're thinking how do I make it perfect for but you don't know because it's all dark you need to get a little bit of exposure first so even if your first day in the gym is literally just you walking around looking at all the different machines and then going home or you're not literally just sitting on one of the machines and just coping and doing like a few Reps for no reason that literally will add so much more exposure to the concept of the gym that you'll be able to go again more often so I highly recommend that you get into this concept of I'm not going to be 100 certain so whatever [ __ ] extra excuses My Mind Is Telling Me especially the one that I think like right in here right now you understand what I'm saying but another one has popped in and you're like okay sure I'm gonna listen to times it but after this one because this is a really important one no no it's that one that will keep you skinny fat or fat for the rest of your life okay so don't listen to your [ __ ] brain because how many times have I told you this is the exact same part of your mind that convince you for 10 000 hours of video games and a thousand episodes of [ __ ] fake taxi or something so your brain can't be trusted so when your brain's popping up with seemingly logical reasons why you shouldn't join the gym or go for the first workout right now it's not logical it's just that your brain is has been conditioned to be like a little [ __ ] so ignore everything that your brain says let's sign up for the closest gym nearby just navigate through the website absolutely fine and literally just walk into the gym and you might wonder okay what exactly should I do for your first like real workout I will literally make you the workout routine and I'll link it below so you can just click on the link don't overthink it and you're gonna say Oh either just click on the link there'll be like a strong app link you'll download the app it's all free I don't make money from this or anything but I'll do that and then um it'll open up on your phone once you've downloaded the app it's a very very simple workout then what what you need to do is just know that you're using the right form what this means what form means it's kind of like your Technique so it's to make sure that you're training in a safe way so I'll link below the exact form videos that I've used which are years and years old so that you can learn how to do exercises safely so the next time you go into the gym the only thing that you'll need is your phone and hopefully some internet connection like your internet data or maybe the gym has some internet go into the gym get close to the thing that's in the workout so for example it's bench press then you see okay the bench is over there you stand over to it go at your phone click on the video that I've linked below and you'll learn how to actually do that exercise safely and someone will literally Show You On video okay this is how you rack the thing grab it like this do this with your shoulders and then you go and perform the exercise at a very like low weight maybe like the empty bar is more than enough for most beginners this is how you start the gym you go back to the gym watching the same videos thinking about the same cues that they've said trying to make sure it feels okay and hitting it again and again and again eventually you probably don't even need like the form videos for those specific exercises and you can start to build on from there go to the description right now I've linked that stuff you can go get it for free I've just added it all just to try and help you here so that it feels like less mentally demanding to start in the gym because I'm very grateful that my brother did this for me because if my brother didn't force me to go to the gym and if he didn't force me to like follow this specific routine I wouldn't have I just would have been you know information overload so I want to be like the big brother for you and just be like bro just shut up just here's the routine just please just follow it and then you know a month from now two months from now you can change it however you like at least this will just get you into the gym and once you've been in the gym and you've seen it 20 times 50 times you know where everything is and you know that area of your of your mind is so bright that now it doesn't feel as scary anymore what I will say is if you can afford it or even if it's slightly too expensive but you just want to really do this getting some personal training sessions right at the beginning is absolutely one of the best investments you can make 10 out of 10. if you've got someone who you train with who can teach you fine if you've got like a big brother who knows the form and the technique fine but if you don't have anyone and you can afford personal training sessions like a like a package of five or a package of ten or something it'll be like a hundred dollars two hundred dollars something like that 100 even if you're feeling kind of broke right now 100 just like save up for it and get it because you will genuinely make so much faster progress if you've had five hours or ten hours of like a professional who's qualified who's got years of experience giving you direct instant feedback who's already made the plan for you which you can follow even after your time with them and he's just giving you like like all this micro bits of feedback which you might not get for the next like five years if you train by yourself so it's super worth it at the start to just invest into this few hundred dollars because they'll change like the trajectory of your fitness journey forever if you can't afford some PT sessions like I couldn't when I first started just keep going on to YouTube and searching for technique videos so whatever exercise you want to get into you can just educate yourself on YouTube for free step four point three keep skipping workouts if you find yourself constantly skipping your workouts and you cope and you make a lot of excuses I'll do it at 7 pm then 7pm comes around and you don't go anymore I'll do it tomorrow and you know you you set the plan to go maybe three days a week or four or five days a week and you're not just messing it all up and you go on different days you know you're very inconsistent you just miss days entirely it's too sore you know all these reasons to not be as consistent as you're supposed to be in the gym I know exactly what to do because I've done this by the way I've been going to the gym like consistently for I think about eight or nine or ten years something like that and here is my bicep to show I am incredible to talk about this yes so this is exactly what worked for me when I was a lot younger and way way less disciplined and you know more of like a Jeffrey more of like a beginner a shallow breather where I was um missing so many workouts coping eating [ __ ] food and just calling it a cheap day you know I was all over the place but I was able to get discipline in the gym following two things one I made it easier to be disciplined to consistently go to the gym so instead of just relying on discipline it's awesome if we can use some of those productivity tactics like routines and schedules so that's it's just kind of easier and more motivating to go to the gym so what this means is set a schedule to go to the gym at the exact same times so that it's in a routine if you're trying to go to the gym somewhat randomly thinking okay when will I have time oh man I forgot to go to the gym for the last three three days or something that's going to be super hard to get consistent but if you already just spend literally just two minutes right now you can pause the video just spend two minutes thinking okay what would be a great time for me to go to the gym in general for a lot of people it will be in the morning maybe before work maybe before school or something or maybe like a little bit afterwards you need to find out a time that you could imagine will work not only right now but might work for the rest of your life like for example for me I can go to the gym for the rest of my life from around nine to about 12. that's the time that I usually go to the gym now sure there's some days where I can't right now it's 10 a.m and I'm still recording so you know prioritizing something else but in general my exercise block is around like 9 to 12 ish somewhere around that and that works for me I'm energized at that time I enjoy training at that time the gyms are super quiet at that time because everyone's in work so that works for me it'd be worth it for you right now to figure out exactly the time that you would go and also to use what's called habit stacking this is something from James clear's book Atomic habits which the idea is to put the gym on top of a habit which has already been formed so for example every day you wake up you do your morning routine and you do something like studying or something and you go to the gym after that every single day so it's super super consistent and you know you adjust your workout routine to like make it I personally think working out every single day is way better I think that taking days off starts getting too complicated for your routine and it's better to for example go to the gym every day for 45 minutes than it is to go to the gym three days a week for one and a half hours I think it's so much better to go every single day because it just fits with your routine you get so used to it your bag's always ready you know you're going to the gym at the same time so it's always there super consistent so I would say if you can try and stack it with another habit you'll get way more consistent the most consistent I've ever been in the gym it's all in just working out in general is when I've just done it first thing in the morning and it was stacked on pretty much waking up brushing my teeth having a poop and then just literally just getting my my earpods in and stuff and then just go into exercise straight away once you've utilized a few of those principles to try and build like a routine not just like the gym routine you know push-pull legs but specific like calendar routine going every single day at 9am once you've utilized some of those there's one discipline mindset that I want to teach you I had known this for a while but eventually I had a conversation with a Marine like a royal Marine Commando like a hardcore guy I hiked up a mountain everyone else has hiked up this mountain I saw this guy climbing up like scaling up from the peak side so whilst everyone else you know one step okay here this guy was like hand like climbing like this like from a steep side like that that's when I saw him I was like whoa it's crazy that's why I asked him you know what he does we ended up speaking and I ended up speaking to him on a podcast which is very old we can have a look if you just search like Hamza Marine Commando he'll probably come up very very old like two three four years old and um he ended up telling me the exact same thing that I had been sort of following in my mind which was a really interesting where he said it's all about taking it one step at a time instead of looking at the entire battle what I mean by this is when we don't feel like going to the gym it's often because we're thinking about how big and scary and painful and uncomfortable the entire situation is let's say right here right now I'm sat here in my shirts you know my shorts and stuff I'm kind of cozy if I think about the hour of cardio that I'm gonna go and do I might start to like not want to go to the gym because it can start to feel kind of like like hard and you know like kind of exhausting and and I'm comfy here and I might end up coping I might not say to myself yep I'm a [ __ ] I'm not gonna go today not many people are that humble I might say yeah I'm gonna go today but yeah I'll go I'll go after you know I'll get it I'll have a coffee first I'll do that call I'll do this other thing and I'll go after I'll go at 2PM instead of my usual time I'll go you know we start pushing it off because it's this big scary thing when actually we don't need to go and do the 500 calories of cardio that's not what the task is the task is to just get changed into the gym clothes the next task is to like get our water bottle and our earphones you can do that right you no matter how tired you are you could go and literally just grab your airpods and put them in right the next task is to put on your music you can do that no matter how tired you are you could put on the music right the next task is to like go downstairs and put your shoes on again no matter how tired you are you could do that then it's to leave your door then it's to walk to the gym then it's so I can also do the warm-up so what the issue is is that we are seeing the gym for this big beast this workout which is you know huge it's long it's uncomfortable especially when we're in a state of comfort instead of seeing the specific next task that needs to be conquered because when we are here in our nice you know quiet cozy environments and we think about the last set of squats it's like our brain says no no I couldn't do this couldn't do that transformation but it doesn't need to because we just need to do the next step it's one step at a time how do you hike up a mountain one step at a time so that idea is the next time that you're supposed to go to the gym but you start coping just remind yourself of this like one step at a time mindset remind yourself that right now your brain is convincing you that you couldn't do this massive leap to the gym but it's not about the massive leap it's just the individual step and just ask yourself it sounds kind of foolish but ask yourself could I put my earphones on right now you'll be like well yeah of course okay I'll stick them on could I put my music on right now yeah of course I'll put it on one step at a time and before you know it you're outside of the gym before you know it you're inside the gym before you know it you're warming up and by the time you've warmed up and you've done one set of squats it's like okay well you've come on let's [ __ ] get it you're warm you're sweaty you're you're actually inviting the next set of squats now you're awesome right step 4.4 a disciplined diets I've mentioned in this video that you see a lot of these weak modern Fitness influences and it's it's a shame that these are like the scene as the Pinnacle of health and fitness it's these guys who are reading sugar 200 grams of sugar a day it's these guys who are making anabolic cookbooks with pancakes and you know it's like it's just childish to eat that day to day and it's certainly not your best it's certainly not like the best of your character to indulge in sweet treats and cope and say that it's part of your diet now you can absolutely make Muscle whilst eating [ __ ] food of course you can but there's more to life than just making muscle how about your health how about your physical and mental health how about your guts Health overloading on sugar and weird chemicals which are in like gummy bears or whatever the [ __ ] these influencers and these um Dunkin Donuts you know Krispy Kreme Donuts that they're eating all the time there's a better way to do this for me the moment that I was able to improve my diet came when I started to educate myself on it I realized at age 22 I had been through the entire education system and I had never had a real lesson on diet or nutrition before and that I actually knew nothing about what these things were actually doing to my body that's when I discovered this lecture that's on YouTube that you can watch for free it's from like this it's just it's very good and I highly recommend that you just watch every second of it it's called Fat Chance 2.0 and if you just go on the description of this video I'll link it for you whenever you got the time it's like an hour long I highly recommend you watch it there might be some bits that you get a little bit bored just trust me when I say if you watch every second of it to the end you're going to be very grateful that you did because it's going to give you the kind of education you should have gotten when you were in school but then they don't teach this stuff for some reason so that works really well for me because online I think there's only a voice right now on this you know Fitness influencer [ __ ] of people just being kind of like mediocre every day it's people who are disciplining themselves or living to like 50 to 60 of their intensity they're eating some clean calories but then every single day they're having a little bit of chocolate they're having this from my experience you might be different but I'm just going to tell you that what I believe is the truth from myself and also for every successful guy that I know it doesn't seem like successful people have daily balance it doesn't seem like the guys who have the best like the real best physiques or helpful business it doesn't seem like they're doing 50 of their intensity every day it seems like those guys resemble the phrase like work hard play hard they go into periods of intense work mode where they do nothing but work and nothing but like you know strict calories and everything like that and then they go into periods of intense play time where they literally just for a lot of these people they're just totally generates they'll start drinking and sleeping with loads of women and taking drugs and stuff I'm not doing that stuff but for me my degenerate time is like going to a family Cafe and having some cake and like talking to the family there and everything so that's just what I've seen online is you're recommended to have this kind of almost you know perfect sustainable diet every day eighty percent of your calories from healthy stuff and 20 from like the process you know like nice Foods I don't recommend that because that means that you're not living to your potential whilst you're in work mode because if you're eating 20 of like you know junk calories per day I promise you you will get [ __ ] by someone who's competing with you if there's someone else who wants to take what you've got if there's someone else who's got the same business as you and he's on Carnivore diet he's gonna [ __ ] you up so because if you're in work mode I think you should have everything optimized for work mode for a lot of us young guys we probably should be in work mode because this is an awesome time for us to develop I think the better way is we go into these periods of work mode we try and be as disciplined as possible with our diets and then when we get to you know this two weeks in three weeks in that's when we have a few days off and we go on a little trip somewhere because this gives you the heightened experience so if you want to copy this what I'd suggest is get onto like a quite strict diet and I don't mean stretched by like you know super low calories because that's unhealthy what I mean strict is like for example no sugar no carbs preferably which means that you're literally just eating eggs steak you know Meats butter nuts that's about it that's pretty much like most of what I eat I have halloumi as well halloumi is a kind of like a Greek um goat cheese which is quite nice as well that's it it's quite boring it still tastes kind of nice because if you can cook you know eggs nicely it still tastes nice if you can cook steak well it still tastes nice but it does feel like something's missing because we've had carbs with every meal for like 20 years but your brain will never be a shop here's an actionable step for you for this part of the guide write down a plan for your workout and for your diet have it super clear what are you gonna eat every day what time are you gonna train how often will you train my advice is train every single day at the same time but do like slightly less volume than you would if you were doing three or five days or so whatever days a week this way that it's so much more consistent my favorite way of doing this is just the Habit trackers as I've shown you here step five discipline and self-improvement habits so it's summer of 2022 and I'm in Thailand in a big Villa that I've rented out on airbn be I'm sat outside next to the pool some my video editor sat next to the pool he's reading and I'm sat there recording a video for Youtube and the videos on mental health so I mean I'm talking about all these great habits that you can get into eventually I end up finishing the video it's pretty good I'm proud of myself you know here we are in a different country being digital Nomads and I've just done this deep work task that's probably paid for the next few days of our stay which is awesome and as I press the sort of stop button on my camera Sam looks over to me and he he's almost like smirking a little bit and he says Hamza do you still meditate because you mention it in all of your mental health videos but I've never seen you meditate before straight away out yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah I meditate in my in my bedroom every day I'm lying I used to meditate every single day for an hour I was known as The Meditation guy but at this point I hadn't meditated for the last year and yeah I was still known as The Meditation guy because I would speak about it so often and I hadn't even told anyone on YouTube or anyone who knew me that I pretty much like quit or not that I quit but that I just kept on slacking on that I wasn't consistent at all I'm teaching all of these young guys around the world of all these Habits Like meditation and I don't even do them myself and so I'm feeling like a fraud Sam's words plagued my mind for over six months whilst I was trying to get consistent in meditation again and I kept on failing and eventually I realized why so only just a few months ago I realized why I kept on struggling to get consistent in meditation again even though when I first started I got super consistent I was doing it for an hour a day but then I missed it for over a year and a half and I realized for me it's because it wasn't in my morning routine anymore you see for the last year or so I've seen a rise of a bunch of YouTubers and influencers who almost mock the self-improvement habits who mock the idea of like a morning routine and you know they think it's kind of cringe or weird and you know there's been a cultural online of people kind of saying that this stuff is like it doesn't work or whatever but then of course there's been a culture online of of like more qualified people like Andrew huberman saying that this stuff of course it works cold showers of course it increases your dopamine meditation of course increases your focus but I got influenced by the people who were kind of disrespecting the self-improvement habits and you know saying that you know morning routines a cringe CEO morning routine and stuff and when I don't do a morning routine I found that I simply just don't do the self-improvement habits because when I start work for the day it's like I'm in work mode so it's like it's very hard for me to kind of like get out of that I found that I have like a pocket of time like a window of between like 8 A.M to 9am which is perfect for me to do the self-improvement habits so I wake up before that so I can still do like you know the deepest work and wake up super early and work super hard on like the four guides but as part of my morning routine I'll go outside I'll get sunlight into my eyes whilst I'm reading on my Kindle so it's like a two in one I bring my Kindle up here like up into the sky like this so This Way like the sun's rays are going into my eyes and I'm also like reading at the same time then I'll come in I'll go for a cold shower then I'll straight after the cold shower for two minutes I'll meditate for 20 minutes then I'll do gratitude journaling then I'll do um death meditation I'll do double deep breaths I'll do like I've got a bunch of things in my morning routine it takes me just under an hour and people find it like sad for some reason which I don't get why because it's like it's very wholesome activities that genuinely have changed my life forever I stopped meditating for a long time and my anxiety like level of intrusive thoughts really shot up like I really started to feel how I used to feel for most of my life which was new for me because for a solid year I almost forgot what it was like to to feel anxious and slowly those anxious thoughts started to come back and I you know I was wasn't so conscious as to why and it was because I just stopped meditating this is all about the concept of progressing one percent every single day you know you've heard it before be one percent better that actually comes from this Japanese philosophy which is called Kaizen Kaizen is is this kind of student mindset which means that we prioritize wanting to be slightly better like to learn something and to be slightly better today every single day for the rest of our lives that's where like the concept of self-improvement comes from it's like this random Japanese philosophy that ended up you know like we started masking over it with just these sort of habits and everything what you'll find is that progress creates happiness when you are consistently progressing in your developments as a man you will consistently feel the emotions and and mood of happiness every single day when you stop progressing that's when your life starts to turn quite gray and dark and let's say for example you stop progressing with these self-improvement habits but you're still getting more results like you're making more and more money it does nothing telling like telling you from my own personal experience I was happier when I was totally broke but I was meditating an hour a day than I was when I was living in Dubai and I was making like 40K a month because when you're when you live like that like this is a separate point I guess but when you know that you've seen this this lifestyle that's been promoted to you by the media the influences and everything right when you live that kind of Lifestyle people only show you the Glamorous part of it but almost like what I found is when you sacrifice these wholesome habits like reading like meditating like journaling and you start to make a lot more money you still don't feel happy you don't get as much power as you think you do by the pursuit of wealth instead the power comes from the exact opposite which is needing less the power and happiness and joy and fulfillment and success doesn't come from achieving your desires it comes from destroying the desire in the first place soon I'll have a full guide on Willpower and willpower is is you know that habit that we said is resisting the bad desires that will be super important and it'll get very deep because it's not just about you know not watching a porn it's like literally not losing your [ __ ] soul to these influences that you see we've probably seen this concept of old guys who have worked for their entire lives and then at some point when they're 60 years old they retire and their life actually gets worse afterwards because we need to keep working on something this the studies and you know things that I've I've read and looked on online which I'll summarize for you which is that no matter what our age is we still have the ability to to use what's called neuroplasty which means kind of that we can update our brain with new beliefs and learn and learning and wisdom everyone kind of understands this now but you know only a few years ago people genuinely thought that your brain stops developing past like the age of 25 which is completely like just idiotic your brain develops and in fact your brain needs to develop every single year for your life otherwise you start having a [ __ ] existence those those old people that you know probably your parents our parents our great grandparents destroying their lives why because they don't [ __ ] read because they don't learn because they're just setting their own ways now they're dying now that it's Siri and now the health is getting worse now their brain is getting destroyed soon enough they're gonna get Alzheimer's and they won't even remember your name that's what happens when you don't keep learning and progressing when you don't use your brain it just starts to deteriorate so we need to already have this mindset we don't want to turn out like these old people that we see who you know like for example it's kind of cute but also not that you know like they literally don't know how to use phones and stuff we might say that that's wholesome it's not as wholesome as you think when you can see genuinely that they're experiencing like minor forms of brain damage because they're not learning we should be old and we should know how to use the newest Technologies because we're learning how to use it now we shouldn't be addicted to them of course we you know we want to be wise enough not to be addicted to like VR porn or whatever the [ __ ] like um AI sex spots or something when they come out but we should know how to navigate AI although whatever technology there is a hundred years from now we should know how to use these things we should continuously keep learning and so if you can start to visualize that and almost write it down to form a new identity for yourself that you are a lifelong student that you'll always keep learning because really ask yourself people don't do this brother make a decision right now is that the life you want to live do you plan to stop learning and do like want your brain to just stop developing at a certain age or do you want to set the intention that you've probably like to keep learning and developing and enjoying and gaining wisdom every single day for the rest of your life and it'll probably make your life better and you'll probably live longer set that intention clear right now I am a lifelong students I'm Gonna Keep learning for as long as I live I'm gonna be the 80 year old who's still reading books every single day I'm going to be the 90 year old who's still exercising of course I am people don't really set this intention and then they surprise when life just hits them and they're fat and disgusting and stupid when they're 50 years old never mind 70. and guess what the worst part of all this is guys our age who are doing the same things there's guys our age whose brains and bodies have already started to deteriorate not even 70 years old not 50 years old at 20 years old 25 years old they're literally poisoning themselves with alcohol every week they take drugs they're sleep deprived they're [ __ ] up their brain and their dopamine receptors they're taking medications which they don't even know the side effects of content consumption and porn and video games [ __ ] disgusting food destroying their guts wondering why they feel like [ __ ] all the time and why they have to cover it up with more and more substances there's people our age who are already like acting as if they're 80 years old like they've got like you know no time left now you may as well just like slowly start killing yourself with substances they're destroying their brains ability to think and to learn and these same people will complain when you make more money than them and they'll say oh we should tax you we should steal money from you we should eat the rich that's what they'll say but they literally wear necklaces and they literally wear these types of people I know them okay they literally wear necklaces which has like a little small metal spoon which is what they use the [ __ ] key cat like a key cat is a phrase where like this ketamine like a [ __ ] party drug in the UK and these little degenerates will put it into the bag of cats like this drug and so they can sniff it they'll have a piece of [ __ ] jewelry that they wear for easy access to be able to scoop drugs into their nose already destroying their brains and their their body's health and they'll look to you when you make money and say that oh yeah you should be taxed more because it's unfair that you make more money there's people who live like that right now that's an extreme example obviously of like the total degenerates of the world the thing is that the 50 year old who doesn't read a book is not far from that the 50 year old who's been drinking alcohol for the last 30 35 years he's not far from that the first step to living a great life is to just set the intention and to be honest with yourself and say you know what this is the life I want to live I want to be old and I want to be healthy and I want to still be able to go to the gym when I'm 90 years old because bro this there's literally like a 92 year old or something like maybe 82 year old African um I think he's from Kenya he comes to my gym I haven't seen him in a little while actually so maybe that's concerning but like he comes to my gym and he does like an hour of cardio every day and here we are people our age literally do less than an hour of cardio a month let me tell you the story of two men these two men are very similar they both work at the same job and after they finish their shift they drive home one of the men listens to the news and then sometimes he also changes that to his Spotify playlist and the other man listens to podcasts the first guy is driving home but before he gets home he makes a stop to McDonald's and he just picks up a small thing there like a McFlurry and he goes home and he just has that the second guy drives home without that stop without the McFlurry the rest of the day is exactly the same imagine that 100 the same it's only the difference is what they're listening to in the car and whether or not they picked up like a little 200 calorie ice cream on the way home in 20 years the guy on the left is morbidly obese just an extra 100 200 calories a day over like 10 years is like 50 pounds of fat and that's if it literally stays with just like you know it's like it's in a vacuum you only gain the 200. naturally you can imagine the fat ass who stops for ice cream every day is going to be more likely to also get other things as well you know it's going to compound not just like linearly but also like he's going to be way more likely to cheat on his diet even more not only that he's actually working in the exact same job 20 years later because he's not learning the other guy listens to a podcast for 30 minutes on his way back home he's listening to Chris Williamson podcast Deep dive with Ali abdall he's listening to something intelligence and with that he got one promotion after let's say four years then one more then one more and he makes at least triple what this guy does he still makes like 45k a year decades later this guy makes like 120k this guy's actually relatively in shape this guy's morbidly obese and we only change two variables literally just what you listen to in the car for 30 minutes a day and whether or not you stop to pick up ice cream and we're saying that this is all like in a vacuum because again the person listening to the music is probably going to be much more likely to be a degenerate and sex obsessed you know that's the state of Music These Days he's also going to be listening to the news which means that his cortisol is higher which means it sleeps worse his performance and work is worse his relationship so worse so it's a lot more of an effect than we think but even if we're just being nice to this guy literally just the objective facts is that he makes three times less and he's three times as fat as this one with those two small changes That's The Compound Effect in action You Don't See Much day to day you can have the ice cream and it doesn't actually do much to your physique right now but if you do that two three four times a week if you go to McDonald's like you know once a week compared to the guy who doesn't go at all if you have that that extra little bit of sugar every single day you know 20 of your calories on junk food and eighty percent on unhealthy food that's when over years it makes a much bigger difference so it's your gift to your future self to be thinking about The Compound Effect and thinking that small choices will really change your future self's life a lot here's an actionable step for you decide one good small thing that you could do very small I'm talking the equivalent of like 50 calories for example you could go for a walk every single day for just 10 minutes that's it what a good habit that's small that you could start to do every single day for the rest of your life maybe it's three minutes of meditation maybe it's five minutes of prayer maybe it's five minutes of deep breathing or it's five minutes of reading maybe it's five minutes of walking outside maybe it's five minutes of just playing with your dog with no distractions at all what's a very small thing for less than five minutes and then also what's a bad habit that you'll stop doing a very small bad habit maybe it's putting sugar in your coffee or your tea maybe it's using like one of those [ __ ] artificial sweeteners which are as bad as sugar or even worse because it's just got weird chemicals and maybe you just stop doing that maybe you stop putting in whole milk which is full of estrogenic materials you know they've put stuff the cow full of disgusting stuff and it's been bottled in plastic and everything maybe you just stop putting milk in your coffee these two changes if you can make it easy enough to literally follow them every single day for the rest of your life and of course knowing you're probably still going to miss like a thousand days you'll be significantly very significantly different 20 years from now more than you'd realize you know why just if we do the math that literally just you know the splash of milk that you put into your coffee is like 30 calories 50 calories right if we just do the math that if you had that every single day for 10 years for 50 like 20 years 30 years there's the difference of like literally 50 pounds of pure fat but and never mind the estrogenic testosterone killing effects of milk and everything but also we know that one decision often leads to the next and so if you stop for example putting in artificial sweeteners you know like two grams of sugar in your coffee every single day because of the impact of that you'd be more likely to create another really good change and another one and another one and you become so different I want to give you some hope now I'm a little bit older than a lot of the guys who watch me on average hour audience is quite young it's like 16 17 18 19 20 years old I'm 26. I'm telling you right now by the time you get to about 25 26 years old that's when you really start to first see the difference between you and the men your age you know when you're 18 years old you don't see much a lot of it's actually quite based on like genetics and early positive feedback loops there's like there's an absolute imbecile who's more popular than you and might even make more money than you when you're 18 or 20 or 21 years old because they got the positive feedback loop you know there's there's a guy who's kind of attractive but he's kind of like brain dead and he doesn't even work hard and he's getting more girls than you when you're 16 years old or even when you're 21 years old because he's got nicer hair he's got a jawline he's you know he's like more attractive give it another like five years when The Compound Effect takes off once you get to around like you're closer to your late 20s it starts to become apparent when you see that like everyone you went to high school with or let's say 90 of people that you go to high school with have gained like 20 pounds 30 pounds of pure fat because they've been drinking every single weekend for the last [ __ ] eight years even more because in these degenerate cultures in the UK for example people drink when they're like 15 14 years old so people my age I've been drinking most weeks for about 12 years now I'm still guilty of this because I drank heavily for a few years when I went to University and I was a like a degenerate and everything but for the past few years it's been very minimal for the last like what seven eight months it's been absolutely zero The Compound Effect is showing in my life and the people that I come across and I think this is just the start I wonder what it's going to be like five or ten twenty years from now I'm a patient guy 20 years from now What's it gonna be when I'm the guy who just I meditate 20 minutes every single morning I don't miss it anymore what's that one Change Gonna lead to 20 years from now this is what excites me of like the future of being on self-improvement of watching stuff like this of implementing these small things if you are a long-term thinker which you probably are if you've watched you know like two hours of this video so far there's a lot of power in these small changes and I know that you know like we shouldn't be in the vibe of looking down at other people but you can't help but in a way feels sad but also in a way just feels super [ __ ] happy that you're part of the enlightened group who understands The Compound Effect of self-improvements of Kaizen of progressive overload because the people that you've went to school with don't and if you're younger than me right now like right now it's gonna seem like this stuff isn't doing much because they're better than you in quite a lot of ways and the difference will be [ __ ] huge and that's the start then every year after that that's when you know like because The Compound Effect starts becoming exponential that's when it starts the show and it's like suddenly they're 35 they've actually got like serious health problems they've had their first like major health scare right now here you are in the best health of your entire life because you've been improving your sleep for the past 10 years 15 years you've been exercising consistently for 15 years you've been trying to improve your diet you quit porn [ __ ] 14 years ago compare that to the average guy who 10 years from now is literally gonna be addicted to like the the most the uh the most unreal sex bots available there's a good future ahead for the guys who commit themselves to self-improvements step five when you become successful so imagine that you've been grinding away for a long time you've been developing yourself you've been disciplined in yourself and you've been moderating your desires eventually you build the success that you've wanted all this time you build the physique you get the girl you make the money you get the status this is where Discipline matters most and this is also where hard-working guys end up messing up because when you get those things that you thought you wanted that's when you take your foot off the pedal that's when you stop grinding as hard that's when you get distracted success mark my words when I say this success leads to opportunities that will destroy your success let me give you an example let's say there's a young man who wants to be an entrepreneur and he starts working super super hard he's literally living at home with his parents and he's grinding away he wakes up he does a bunch of deep work he just does you know like a quick like workout that's really good for his brain he's eating a very simple diet and he's just grinding on this business that means a lot to him and he does that literally for months and months and months reads books constantly learns you know limits the input that's coming in from other people and he's just working on this one goal of making 10K a month 20K a month 30k a month in his business actually eventually after a long time starts to do really well what might happen to this young man he's gonna upgrade his lifestyle he might end up getting a nice girlfriend and she might not be nice suddenly he's got a watch that he wants to show off on Instagram and he's got a car and he's got this like nice little dinner and these things seem nice and yet he isn't waking up early and working on his business anymore it's completely distracted he's not doing the thing that caused him to to have this momentum and it's awesome you know I mean the money's coming in you know strike notification to the group chat to the like you know the Instagram and the YouTube thumbnails everyone's validating him and what he's not realizing is right now he's riding on the success of his younger self but he's not adding to it he's not planting more seeds so that his future self can still have ripe fruit he stopped planting what happens one month two months three months from now the momentum starts to drop he isn't doing what got him here and worse than that he might end up going too far into the distractions he might for example this happens to so many guys and you need to take this seriously he might end up getting the wrong girl pregnant because when he had less success when he was less disciplined no girls were into him and as he started to become more disciplined which can happen to you suddenly more girls are into him but he hasn't really like you know really clarified it in his mind of the risks that could come about this now obviously if it ends up being like this beautiful relationship and they want to have children that's obviously different but let's say for example this wasn't part of his plan he didn't expect to have children right now but he was just being a bit foolish careless idiotic so he gets a woman pregnant he's bought a car that's fifty thousand dollars maybe a seventy five thousand dollars and now he needs that money back you see the same thing so often with athletes there's an athlete right now who's training maybe two three times a day he's stretching he literally goes this sweaty like kind of almost run down gym and he trains hard as hell there he comes back and he does stretches at home he's eating the perfect diet he's obsessing over he's reading the books listening to audio programs mentally visualizing he's putting in the work and then he actually gets the success because these are the things that cause the success so he ends up playing really well in you know the game of basketball or he he joins the UFC or something he does really well but then the fame the women that the parties sex money opportunities all these things that he thought he wanted they come into his life and he starts to indulge and then you see pictures of Conor McGregor and he's there you know drinking and he's at the party and everything everyone wants to take pictures with him and what happens because whilst he's there staying up late there's another athlete who's still in the sweaty gym who's still coming home and stretching and then going back to this the sweaty gym after that and what happens when these two men compete with each other the guy who's still focused who's still disciplined is gonna destroy him and so right now you might get you know a little bit depressed hearing this because you might be thinking and correct me if I'm wrong right you might be thinking but then when do I get to enjoy the success you know it like I unders you can probably understand this concept of like success can lead to the distractions but you might be getting really upset thinking like but like that's the point of it right that's the point like you know I want to be able to experience the women in the parties and and you know the status and the money and everything right again this is when you may realize if we have the maturity to to you know be the enlightened ones but the reward for discipline was never the material success that's what the average person's ambition is the Instagram Likes the woman open up her legs that's it this is like a normal person's ambition maybe a superior man's ambition is personal fulfillments progression to realizing and opening and embodying your purpose as a man you've heard about how important purposes Maybe that's the reward of discipline it's nowhere near as cool it's not going to get you as many likes on Instagram but it will mean that you will die with a smile on your face rather than the man who looks back and thinks man I I could have been the champion and yet the cocaine and the pretty women with fig titties got me just like every other stupid man who becomes successful if my younger self was watching this right now a few years ago this is the point where he'd lose interest because it just he would not be able to comprehend what I'm saying here because his mind was all about the material desires and I really want to help you with this I will have a full guide to willpower that's what we're going to talk about like resisting these like bad desires and trust me when I say when you see that full guide come out will powerful guide it's blowing my mind of what I'm learning in it but let me just give you like a quick like a little bit here the desires that form in your mind will take you away from the things that are more important these desires that you have you know the idea is okay we're being disciplined because if we're totally honest because we'd like to [ __ ] because we'd like to be invited to the party because we'd like the Instagram likes or you know the nice handshake from another guy where's that desire really coming from genuinely where is the desire really coming from for this validation you know the girl and the the cocaine at the party where's the desire coming from probably from somewhere in childhood because like a six-year-old friend that you had didn't invite you to a birthday party and that's like a wound that we've kept deep inside of us for 10 15 years later we're here now dedicating ourselves 12 hours a day of work to try and get like the same equivalence of that that's the wound that's directing our adult lives if you throw all away the immaturity there and you really think to yourself like what is it that I want out of life it's probably not to have stupid unintelligent people next to you it probably is definitely to be financially well off and I I think that's a pretty good desire but it probably isn't you know if you peel back the [ __ ] it probably isn't to be like rich 10K a month 50k a month you know every everyone in your family is retired fantastic past that point it's like what is the gain of more money at that point right now if you make more money just because you're contributing more value to the the world yeah sure but then at that point it's like the focus changes to contribution to your craft to your fulfillment and you know to achieve flow state every day but a lot of guys get distracted when they get here you can choose to stick at the level you're at right now and to enjoy that level or you can twist and you can actually reach for the next level the next level of discipline the next level of dedication and sacrifice and this seems so weird right so you could get to a point let's say you've got a six-pack you're making 75k a year there's girls on Instagram who are messaging you first you've got a nice hurt genuinely visualize this you literally get a notification on Instagram where there's that autistic rating but there's a 6.5 girl who's in your city who's literally messages you flirty you could probably ban tonight the majority of guys will stay here so do you know how easy it is to [ __ ] destroy them most guys as soon as they get to the level where they start getting some attention from women they'll stick there and then what happens the six pack turns into a four pack the 75k a year in their business starts going down because they stopped doing the thing waking up early being dedicated meditating and everything that got them there you know one night off of course is absolutely fine but when you're consistently two three nights a week you're waking up late because you know that girl came over again and you had like some wine or alcohol or sugar with her and like imagine that micro habit along an entire year compared to that like monk mode of like spiritual Focus that you had that's sticking with where you're at now and the thing is sticking with where you are now is a myth because if you stick with where you are now you naturally will just get worse you know that like there's a phrase which has like maintenance is a myth like like just maintaining in life is a myth because everyone else is still more competitive so if you are number 50 you can't just stay at number 50 by like you know maintaining because there's other guys who are competitive in life and so when someone else beats you you're 51 then 52 right so you can stick here and enjoy some of the results of like this point in life let's say this point in life is 60 of your potential most guys don't even get here most guys genuinely get to like 25 to 35 of their potential and they stop there why because there's a girl that they genuinely consider a five or a six out of ten and they'll stop there again I'm not saying these like ratings to be like mean or anything this is just you know to explain things they'll stop there some of the more ambitious guys will go one level up they'll get the six-pack they'll get to 12 body fat and then they'll stop there they've got a girl who's 6.5 who says seven now and you know this is absolutely fine and then they'll stop working as hard then they'll relax it takes a true killer to get to the point where like you have a huge success and you're still just [ __ ] disciplining yourself not even for the greed not even for the money before the journey that it takes you on for the simple desire of actually wanting to see what your potential is and this is where I'm pretty proud of myself because when I started this journey a good few years ago you know being on self-improvement and being productive genuinely I'm not lying when I say I did it for girls I did it because I wanted to get laid I stuck at these like earlier levels and I was going to be happy there but there was this voice that maybe it's internal maybe it was something that was built inside of me if I was gonna say something I think this voice came from a lot of introspectiveness because I do a lot of meditation and journaling and also from Wise mentors like I don't have any real mentors but I just read a lot of books reading not watching YouTube is a very different thing I read a lot of books from intelligent people and by these two things of introspectiveness and wisdom I couldn't ever stay like stuck at the level that I was at with the success that I do have I'm still waking up at 5am every day I still live at home with my parents because I did level up my life I did stick there I did get the apartment in Dubai genuinely I moved to Dubai and everything I did get the ten thousand dollar a month apartment in Dubai I did post the pictures of the Rolex and give them a nice shirt and everything I did that I did make the mistake right but I got myself out of it after two months of doing that and realizing like that's a stupid life and that it was just a distraction from what got me here it made me realize and like reframe my mind which I really want to happen to you at this point if you started getting like a good level of success you might be watching this if you've not got that just yet but there's going to be a time if you follow the principles from this full guide that you do get like a really good level of success and this concept is probably hopefully going to be in your mind thinking Should I stick or should I twist here should I just start enjoying my life now and I want to reframe your mind this is not about abstinence this is not about like hating yourself and not rewarding yourself and not enjoying yourself I think this is the opposite way I think the best enjoyment in life comes from when you continuously keep disciplining yourself not when you like reward yourself in what the modern world considers the reward from what we like you know our perception of what the reward and of what enjoying success is genuinely our perception of it is so incredibly cancerous we think it's spending all the money we think it's buying like the nice car and stuff and you know it's like taking the holiday and everything and these things seem nice but when you really think why we have these desires it's literally just because we like you know the nice car if we're totally honest you know every guy will cope and say no but I really like the exhaust engine and wherever the truth is if we're really honest the nice car the reason why we're spending 100K through or however much on a nice car that you know the dream car that we've got the reason why is because we're hoping that someone on the street does this that that Little Neck turn is why we'll go and sacrifice our future we're hoping that a girl just slightly opens up her legs for us and we're thinking yep see valid like I'm nice and validated see I am worthy of Love after all because there was that one day that my mother when I was four years old didn't respond to my tears and this is why I need this woman with her stinky hole today this is where most men are headed towards and it's utterly important for you to induce some stoicism right now and to really start to clarify your desires but I think that the best life we may be able to have is one of continuous discipline to ever strive for more not Material success but more from ourselves to realize the potential that we could get to to realize that it was never about these material desires the money the status the subscribers it was never about that it was about having something challenging that we actually liked that hopefully contributed to the world in some way when you reframe your mind with the things you're disciplining and you start to see them purely for this thing of like I want to challenge myself I want to get better I want to contribute to the world in some way that's when I think you start to feel like you're getting rewarded every single time you work people see you working you're actually just playing you see the guys who are at the absolute top of like you know every niche of sport of business whatever it's play time for them they have more fun than everyone else why because to them it genuinely is enjoyable because they don't care about the results when you really look at the best businessmen out there not to the ones who have allowed us who get the most views on Instagram and you know YouTube these are like literally Petty influencers a lot of them are lying about their success but when you see like the top tier like we're talking hundreds of billions [ __ ] Sam Walton the guy who made Walmart and that like you know Jeff Bezos and stuff bro they don't party they wear the same clothes every day they literally like to wake up and experience their life their day-to-day that's what their reward is imagine that the strength of a man who what he wants out of life is his day-to-day routine compared to the strength of the man who wants the fancy car who needs the private jet who wants the you know the group of women in his Instagram picture because that validates him in some way those things can be nice you know you can say oh I'm just coping I'm a broker I don't have those things you can believe that if you want but I wish my younger self was able to watch this guide because I'd tell him one thing right now when you use discipline consistently you will build the success and when you build the success the distractions will come and if you do get distracted by them you'll lose the success you'll lose the discipline and you'll just go back down and what a horrible life that is to just choose like you know the this little tiny puny Mountain that is nowhere near your capability to climb up and then down again and then you know a few years later when you get pissed off and you realize oh man I've just wasted three years with this degenerate woman you know like this [ __ ] relationship that I'm in and I got kind of fat again let's climb up the mountain again and then let's get to like level six and then let's go down again let's get to level six again and let's go down again let's get to level six again let's go down again this is most people's experiences in my experience for a very long time how about getting to level seven how about getting to level eight and nine and ten and into Infinity da is how you start to find your purpose I believe this is how you start to find God I believe this is how you start to find like genuine fulfillments in life so for this actionable step let's do a visualization together whatever you're working hard on right now if you imagine yourself that you've finally got the real world material success that you've thought that you've wanted all this time if you've been working hard in your fitness journey maybe it's the physique maybe it's the Instagram followers of your Fitness page if you've been working hard in business then maybe it's the money and you know it's the Instagram pictures of you in the car and the watch maybe it's the girl and after a few weeks of this or months of this how's it going to feel when you finally look back to the analytics the data and you realize that you've genuinely significantly backtracked you're not waking up at 5am anymore now are you because you've already got the girl so what's gonna happen to all of the material success then the girl the money the car the likes when you aren't doing the things to maintain that foreign step 5.1 slow down a friend of mine and a very intelligent man who's really good at business his name's Andrew Kirby and he gave me some advice that I want to give you here I sent him a message saying you know he knows quite a lot about me my business and I said to him like you know what's some advice you'd have for me at this stage and his advice was slow down that the success that I had gotten so far was probably largely due to the fact that I was quite fast I was fast to implement things if I had an idea like this new business or this type of video I'd implement it very quickly which meant that I was someone who was taking action I was an action taker at the start of business at the start of like your journey in any Endeavor for discipline that is amazing later on when you've already started to see success that actually really really bad so in his text message back to me he said in the early days you're like a speedboat it's very important that you can correct course and be able to like realign yourself and you know move quickly but once you've built the success it's more like a cruise ship set the direction and go there you don't want to stop and alter courses too often thinking about that analogy if you're closer to the start of this journey in some area let's say with Fitness it's way better for you to move like a speedboat be quick for example you get the thought maybe I want to start going to the gym you sign up to the gym immediately and literally go within 24 hours from now you get the thought maybe I want to try martial arts you sign up to the gym and go literally within 24 hours from now the same with you know there's going to be so many guys watching this who want to be YouTubers and they've been thinking about this for the last like a year the route to success like in these early levels is literally just shut the [ __ ] up and just start immediately speedboat go fast make your first video within 24 hours from now and then you'll start to you know feel it out you'll start to see what's happening but if you're specifically watching this because you're later in this in this journey or you know that you'll eventually get here going fast is actually going to be a detriment and this is something which I'm struggling with because when you've been fast that's how you get that earlier success but soon going fast is a bad thing when I go fast now it's chaotic when I go fast I end up literally like abandoning a whole product that I've made and I literally have refunded over a hundred people in one day not only did I like literally like 20 or 30 or however much thousand it was left my like bank account in one day but also it just took like [ __ ] six hours to go through like every imagine like manually going through like you know for my assistance and I did it as well because it was just like a really really hectic day you don't want to experience something like that and that's because when you get these ideas and these new fantasies and and you know like this new project that you want to build on at this level it's actually important for you to slow down and to really question it and to journal it and to ask a bunch of questions and so the way that I personally do this now is with what I call a decision making framework it's essentially it's just a list of questions that I ask myself when I'm making a decision so that I end up making decisions quite slower instead of you know just the decision being just in my mind and often those are based on like emotions you've probably heard like you could literally have an emotion because you ate sugar yesterday or you had like too much coffee this morning and that emotion coupled with some sleep deprivation coupled with a bit of influence from something you've seen online maybe one of my videos you end up like literally like deciding on a decision that changes your future without realizing it probably just happened because you ingested sugar yesterday at this level right now any of these extra Desires in your mind any of these extra decisions could be extremely chaotic and they could be very stupid and so my decision making framework which I'll walk you through right now is an actionable step is one way where it forces me to take like a few minutes to be sat here often I do it first thing in the morning when I'm actually just here in front of my computer with like the the list of messages like the list of questions that I have to put a decision through and I'll walk you through it right now it has the exact like step-by-step protocol but what I do right so for example my mind could have just generated a thought like a desire of should I make this new product should I change the style of my videos these are huge huge questions to be thinking about so this is what I put them through I get the thought and I come in to a notes page doesn't matter which software you use I literally just use the normal iPhone Notes you don't need anything fancy and I put that as the title I literally just write it as a question should I change the videos from what they are now to this new style that I'm thinking of in my mind and this is a series of questions that I ask myself first of all what's the question or what's the decision to be made just write it out by the way this is probably about 50 of the battle if you write the decision out on paper on PC normally like you've just instantly left this like weak emotional state and you're looking at it logically so this is the most important question just write it out what's the question what's the decision the second question is where did this thought stem from originally was it something someone said to you something you saw from others on social media try and dig to find its Origins you know how important this question is like where did this desire come from because sometimes I've wrote down there was someone in the gym who was bigger than me and then I'm realizing how stupid it is or I've rolled out I saw like a [ __ ] Andrew Tate shot and that's where this desire this decision has come from and I'm like okay that's probably a stupid like place to make a decision from so just by writing okay I saw something on social media you kind of realize like oh yeah this this decision is probably stupid as [ __ ] because it's come from like you know like a low quality place the third question is what is the dream result so of this area what is already like your big goal in it so for example for me with YouTube it might be like a specific goal if I want to get to 5 million subscribers next year or it might be for example more of a wholesome intention of like you know I want to contribute to the body of knowledge what is like the end point that you're first trying to get to then an interesting question think about alternative options to achieve the same result so I've got the dream result you know the 5 million subscribers and the question is you know should I change my videos in this style that I'm currently thinking of but this question think about the alternative option suddenly I'm bullet pointing well I could probably just continue doing the same videos I could change them completely to this new idea I could maybe maybe post one video with this new idea instead of changing it completely that sounds way more like reasonable I could you know ask people on the community post what they'd think about it and I'd probably get a thousand replies so that'd be pretty good data and suddenly you start to think okay probably this decision that's in my mind is probably a little bit too extreme there's alternative options that I can consider instead of needing to do this exact thing that my mind is fantasizing on then I have more like an actionable step for myself which this is exactly what it reads if this is a big decision of high leverage go and get a response from a smart person first and see what they say about this decision and so I've got a list of like smart people that I know we've got Andrew we've got Victor some ovens Chris Williamson my brother the my girl Chachi BT literally Chachi BT is like a smart person that I ask these questions to because sometimes I've had these decisions and big desires and I've ended up speaking to like one of these intelligent people and they'll be like comes a year old for thinking this is like way too dramatic or something like that you know like another person who's not emotionally invested into this will look from the outside and tell you no no you're thinking not right here it might be better doing it like this what's making you think that ah then I have a question what would my 85 year old self think about this decision this is something I learned from Alex hamosi like one of his videos he spoke about this we think of like this Grandpa frame when you're imagining yourself either really elderly or maybe on your deathbed what would you think about this decision is it minor would you look back and think like okay this was just stupid oftentimes this kind of calibrates my life a bit differently because right now I'm super work obsessed like that's where I am in life but when I ask this question what would my 85 year old self think of this decision for example the decision is something that might take me away from my family or my girl or friends or something I'll often ask myself what would my 85 year old self think and I'd write oh yeah he'd probably think it was just silly that like I already had quite a lot of success and money and subscribers why was I sacrificing something that mattered more and finally the last point of this framework that you can copy to make decisions is literally just the text which says decision made with a colon an idea is that I just write like okay what I've decided on this here takes a few minutes but it takes you out of this emotional state and it makes you slow down and just that could be honestly like this might save you years of your life you might end up like you know because decisions are really how we become successful decisions is you know it's discipline what are you going to decide today is it easy path or the hard path that you're going to decide the long-term thing or the short term think when you become slightly better at decisions just because you've got a framework like this your life might change forever so I'm actually very happy to share that with you and I really do hope it serves you as well as it served me step 5.2 be strict with yourself but tolerance with others by this point you've already started to build a great level of discipline and you've started to see the success of that which is wonderful this is where many young guys they've asked me how do they get their parents on self-improvement how do they get their friends to start working out then quitting these bad habits through my years of doing this work I've always advised you know let's help them let's do this try and do this try and do this and I'm slightly ashamed bro but I understand now that I have never been able to help someone in this situation every young man which is over maybe 100 or 200 by now that you know I've spoke to of this specific problem comments and video calls and whatever right it has always failed like our plan to help this young man help someone else always failed why because you can be strict with yourself you really want this right you really want to improve your life you really want to get the success and everything you're here watching a video like this and so me giving you this advice and being a bit strict with you works but the people in your life your friends your family they don't care as much they might say that they like they want this but they really don't I understand how saddening and depressing it is seeing the people you love waste away but you can't force anyone to get onto self-improvement and be disciplined into delay gratification these things are hard enough when you really want them and so when there's someone who doesn't even want them as much there's not much hope there but there is something practical that we can do you set a fantastic example you lead by example you keep disciplining yourself you keep getting to the next level you don't indulge in the desires that arise you know the success that leads to the distractions you keep disciplining yourself and maybe hopefully one day the people that we love will be inspired by that and that's when they'll come towards us that's when they'll really really want to change and that's when we can maybe help them when I moved back home here to my parents house when I was 22 years old I was a very different man than what my family knew my family knew me as like you know the video gamer and they probably smelled like my room smelling of [ __ ] for 10 years right and suddenly I came back with this idea of being disciplined and you know I'm doing these crazy things that you know it was locked down but I would literally get a weighted backpack and just go for runs and I'd go run specifically through like wet muddy fields and everything just to get uncomfortable kind of remember this moments when I started waking up super early and it felt amazing to do it you know really disciplined and I felt really strong I'm listening to can't hurt me by David Goggins and I um I wake up it's you know the silent quiet enthusiasm of the night time or of the morning time it's like 5 a.m and I go downstairs and I've got my earphones in listening to can't hurt me and I'm filling up the water bottle and my dad walks him now my dad wakes up super early 5 a.m 4 30 whatever and he's gonna go drive the taxi and he walks in through the kitchen and he's almost like taking him back you know he's probably shocked because he's never seen me awake at the same time that he's he wakes up at 4 30 to work right and his youngest son the guy who's been a degenerate for as much as he's known me who's been addicted to video games is there in gym clothes with earphones on filling up my bottle and he says like wait what oh like oh you're awake couldn't you sleep I remember saying to him like oh no I'm going for a run his his I promise you the noise he went he made was eh like an Asian parent eh yeah he's asking me like if I'm okay and everything I couldn't I sleep I said I don't know like I woke up on purpose it's pitch black outside this is not something that you know me or my family do like you know there's hard discipline stuff it's Pitch Black it's probably cold and still I literally went for a run at this point fast forward a few years from that moment and my dads went through a transformation of his own he's reduced how much alcohol he drinks he's improved his diet I see him training he goes to the gym he plays badminton and for most of all for the like the biggest thing that he cares about is cricket and over the last year he kept on sharing like screenshots to our family group chat of like these um you know the websites that post like a cricket result like a match result and his team keeps winning and he keeps getting like man of the match and he's like he's the bowler and he keeps getting like uh promoted or whatever you're like recognized is the team captain now now of course this is his this is his effort of course but I can see like maybe you know I'm taking a bit of the credit who knows but like I can see a bit of a link between like me being there at 5am and being this excellent example for myself and for my family and for the world and my dad and maybe and hopefully in some ways getting inspired by that and thinking yeah like you know yeah we work hard yeah we kind of like exercise and everything any like w in the chat is what all these internet people say my dad is the team captain of his Cricket Club now so yeah that's just my story man if I think that's the best way to help the people that you love set a fantastic example step six what to do when you fall off at any point during this journey whether it's straight away or when you've built up a good level of success there must be a bit when this climb starts to dip down there must be you know when you look at the the graph of success in any area weight loss business subscribers whatever hopefully you see over time it goes like this right sweet when you zoom in and you see like you know really what it looks like day to day it's like this it literally feels random if you've ever tracked your body weight every single day on like a bathroom scale you know so you're seeing how much you weigh you know this right it's not like it's just exactly like 170 pounds and it goes down by 0.15 pounds every single day you know so it's completely like linear it's not it's so weird it's like you could eat the same calories drink the same amount of water and for some reason your weight tomorrow will be two pounds lower even though like you ate like a cheat meal today and you know it's like it's always like this until you zoom out and it's been a week it's been a month now you see like more of a trend this is what we need to get used to there's gonna be many days where you feel like you've fallen off it's that it's this like this this day and so what do you do because for a lot of guys when they experience this day that's when they'll change their plan that's when they'll be too fast that's when they'll start thinking oh you know I've got to hurt myself more I've gotta you know I'll double the the cardio and I'll eat even less than a you know I'll do this I'll get super super hard right that's the wrong mindset because the better thing to do when you experience a day like this is to try your best to stick to the exact same plan as before is to understand that some of the days are going to be like this and some of the days are going to be like that and they'll average out if your plan was set in the right direction many people will change their plan on the first bad day and then again it's like that same concept of just moving too fast making too many like shallow decisions and they're all over the place and they're all like fickle with their plans and the goals that being said if you notice yourself falling off at least more than like a few days in a row it's been weeks it's been months for example since you last meditated let's say you got into meditation at some point earlier this year and then you like you literally just haven't meditated in so long many people will live with that regret inside of their mind and not really do much for it defining the problem is three quarters of the answer just ants like literally just writing down the problem so if you're here right now and specifically you know you've got this vague pain in your mind of like I've been slacking in meditation for the last six months you just taking that from your mind and writing it down pen piece of paper or like I use iPhone Notes I've missed most of my meditation sessions for the last six months why then your brain will actually start to be productive why have I missed it I don't really want to do him I don't find them fun I'm not sure if they're actually that productive then you start asking more questions is this reasonable is it rational is it logical probably not because you know I know the scientific research meditation has proven to be effective maybe I'm just coping maybe I'm just procrastinating but I just don't know why I'm not getting consistent in it then you ask some more questions you almost have like a step-by-step you know as we did with the decisions but with like I've fallen off framework what could I do to get back on easier well I could start doing meditation in my morning routine again because I was really consistent when I did that I could reduce the time that I meditate for because in my mind like it's hard to start meditating with 20 minutes again but if I started with like three minutes for the first week I could easily do three minutes and you know a week from now I could do five minutes and two weeks from then I could do 10 minutes and you know a month or two months from now if I just maintain 10 minutes a day that's already really good but I reckon two months from now I could probably be back at 20 minutes a day again maybe the problem is just that like it's too hard to get back into right now which makes sense and you know your brain starts ticking and it starts saying like oh yeah well you know that that's really reasonable this is like a really practical way to get back to where I can just progressively overload if I made it super easy today and you have like four new strategies to get back to it most people will literally like see themselves not being disciplined they'll keep messing up on their goals they'll keep getting into a rut and they'll never really just ask their brain properly with you know pen and piece of paper and like note taking or whatever why is this happening most people people just keep it inside of their brain and your brain's thoughts at times like this is always very jumbled it's kind of like if you imagine you know like a pair of earphones like wired earphones and you put them in your pocket and then you bring them out and it's like all in like a ball that's what your brain's thoughts are like and here's you like looking at the ball and like you know you're getting stressed that it's a ball every day writing things down is like when you take those earphones and you start to unravel them and here they are now organized that's 80 of the battle so if you've been getting this thought for the last while of like oh man you know I'm not consistent in this thing I keep slacking in my workouts you know my workout performance is trash I keep skipping my diet whatever it is right I keep relapsing just asking the question why is this happening why am I going through this pain why am I specifically relapsing why am I grabbing my phone halfway through the day lying in bed and then ending up relapsing again and the answer might be so like simple you might just literally just say like oh it's because like I'm just bored because at 4 pm I've got nothing good to do so I just get bored and I just end up fapping again how could I solve that I could have something to do at 4pm like go on a walk go read okay let's try tomorrow so this is exactly what you do if you find yourself falling off you create yourself a I've messed up system you've got like these few reminders that you can have you only need them on for like a couple of days till it becomes you know like a bit more clear that's the new habit that you're gonna have and then finally but very importantly you document this mess up this rut somewhere that you can look back on again iPhone Notes works really well you make almost like this Bank of like times that you've messed up and principles and Frameworks that you've used to come out of this so that preferably you never go through the same problem again imagine if you literally just just literally a folder on your iPhone Notes or you know folder on notion or maybe a journal I would suggest doing it on um technology which is rare for me to say if you watch a bunch of my videos you know for a fact I don't often say like I do this on technology instead of paper the reason why I suggest doing it with technology like iPhone Notes or notion because then you can search so if you make like a new folder in one of these like note taking and having something to do with like I messed up in quotation marks I messed up you can then start a document with each time that you feel like you've messed up what happened why it happened the decisions and Frameworks and mindsets and then how you were able to resolve it if it was actually resolved and what was the effective thing so that this way six months down the line if you cut yourself thinking like oh man I've not been meditating again wasn't this a problem I used to have you go to that folder you search for meditation since it's a computerized system there's a one for like how I started meditating again you see oh yeah like I did I fell off meditation and then I got back on it because I just sat in an iPhone alarm and I said that I'd do three minutes a day ah recently I've been saying that article it's got to be half an hour a day I get it so it's got to be just all I've got to do is discipline myself so just do three minutes and maybe there and then in the daytime if I want to do more I can do but if I discipline myself for three minutes like I did last time that worked last time I can try it again soon you start to have this collection of these problems that you've went through and ways that you've solved them because a lot of problems you go through are just going to be similar I learned this from a billionaire named Ray dalio and he calls this like principles for life so here's your actionable step create your I messed up system right now just spend a few minutes really like because you know yourself quite well what would work for you when you find yourself quite aware and Vigilant okay I've slacked recently I've you know I've been missing this thing I've not been doing this quite well what would work for you what questions should you ask should you write this on paper should you like you know ask people about it should you journal and write a note and how could you in the future when it's likely that you might make the same mistake again end up having some kind of place you could look back on to have this a collection of knowledge on how to like recover from this rut set up this system right now you don't have to completely copy mine you know yourself quite well at this point so you know okay I've fallen off on these things these are the things that I've gotten back onto how do I consistently set this up so my future self is less likely to experience the same pains that I'm going through today step seven remember why you started by now I've taught you all that I know about discipline I've encapsulated a few years of my life being like hyper focused on discipline and self-improvements in this guide for you and the one final message I want to leave you with is one-off purpose and Direction and meaning in life remember why you started this this journey of self-improvement and discipline who you're doing it for because it's not just for yourself level one thinking is like yeah you know it's myself I want to you know build more muscle and I want to make more money usually the internal desire that we have is actually for other people and so if you just close your eyes one last time with me and you do think of like the points that you do want to get to and other people their lives are benefiting because of your hard work and your your dedication and your discipline here being able to help other people and contribute to your community and you know help and retire your family that's what discipline is all about this is not only for us but it's for our future children to not have to experience the pain of poverty it's for our future wives who we can spoil even though they don't you know they're not materialistic but it's like would be able to like you know buy them the nice thing that that they're surprised by we'd be able to retire our future wives and our parents and our fathers who have worked so hard and even our distant relatives just because of the fact that they are blood related to us really that's what the material success of of discipline is the one major thing that I that I want for my own like selfish game and everything is I really want to have like positive word of mouth for this full guide and for all of them that I work really hard on so the greatest gift that you could give me in return for this work that I'm doing here is just when it is relevant in your normal life mention this full guide to someone if it becomes like something in your vocabulary or you know you speak to a friend you're like oh you should watch hamza's full guide on discipline you end up commenting that somewhere in the internet you know oh watch Houses full guide of discipline that would be my task here like that would mean that I've done an awesome job if this video starts spreading organically through word of mouth because I make these full guides as part of this movements of young men who want something better out of life who want to get onto self-improvement and you know experience this good natural healthy life that we should have in these days again with the media and the influences and these evil corporations of porn and everything not many of us get to experience the good life and I've realized that for me it does seem like maybe my core desire you know my core purpose or maybe you want to like the the purpose layers is to teach and to add to the body of knowledge like the education of young men or something I feel very strongly for so that's why I do what I do I just want more guys out there to learn lessons like this finally if you want to continue learning on this topic it's super normal for a YouTuber to end their videos by trying to get you to watch more of their videos but I'd rather direct you to the resources that I've learned from so this entire video has been inspired by the book discipline is Destiny by Ryan holiday he has a list of books which genuinely like have changed my life another one is ego is the Enemy by Ryan holiday and the one I'm currently reading is courage is calling again by Ryan holiday really really good books the discipline is Destiny one is super super interesting especially if you're somewhat interested in like spirituality and like finding out your desire your purpose and life that book is very good I read the entire book like the whole seven eight hour book just to make this full guide to be able to teach you better that book discipline is Destiny is linked in the description if you want to go and read it I hope this guide serves you well and I think that this may be the single most well-fitting time for me to say do the hard work especially when you don't feel like it mwah