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Why Men Don't Approach Women Anymore

Jun 19, 2024

Lecture Notes on Why Men Don't Approach Women Anymore

Introduction

  • Topic: Eight reasons why men don't approach women nowadays
  • Context: From a man's perspective and how to reverse this trend
  • Welcome: Players Club; live stream setting with participants checking in

Key Points and Main Ideas

1. App Anxiety

  • Explanation: Men are accustomed to approaching women via social media/Dating apps (DMs, Tinder, etc.) which leads to anxiety in face-to-face interactions.
  • Impact: Reduced practice and skill in real-life conversations lead to nervousness and avoidance of in-person meeting.
  • Solution: Women should spend more time in venues where real-life interactions are likely (not dating apps, clubs, or bars).

2. The Old Days

  • Comparison: Past involved effort in meeting women (landlines, face-to-face interactions) which increased the value of courtship.
  • Modern Issue: Easy access and low effort via dating apps lessen men's motivations to approach women seriously.
  • Solution: Make yourself less accessible through apps and more present in physical, high-quality social spaces.

3. Skill Gap

  • Issue: Required social skills for in-person charm have diminished because of reliance on online/text interactions.
  • Impact: Decrease in men's ability to entertain and maintain an interesting, witty conversation in person.
  • Solution: Encourage building face-to-face connection skills by avoiding low-quality interaction methods.

4. Female Masculinity

  • Concept: Hot girl mindset and summer promotes masculine traits in women.
  • Impact: Masculine energy in women leads to attracting more feminine men, reducing men's drive to approach.
  • Solution: Women should focus on embodying feminine energy to attract masculine, confident men.

5. Fear of Rejection

  • Issue: Dating apps have developed a subconscious avoidance of rejection — men are not accustomed to facing rejection from uninterested women.
  • Impact: Creates an environment of fear and social anxiety, making men hesitant to approach women in real life.
  • Solution: Spend time away from places where men avoiding rejection (like dating apps) gather.

6. Microwave Men

  • Concept: Men looking for the easiest, least effort path to physical relationships.
  • Impact: Such men frequent dating apps and bars, preferring quick access over building meaningful relationships.
  • Solution: Identify and avoid spaces dominated by 'microwave men' seeking quick and easy connections.

7. Addiction to Pineapple Movies (sensitive term for adult content)

  • Concept: Frequent consumption of adult content diminishes men's drive to pursue real-life romantic interactions.
  • Impact: Reduces their motivation to approach and maintain physical relationships with women.
  • Solution: Recognize and avoid men who remain overly influenced by such content; aim for authentic interactions.

Wrap Up

  • Q&A: Engagement with live chat on finding balance in showing interest, addressing specific relationship problems.
  • Final advice: Prioritize where you spend your time by focalizing more on in-person, traditional means of meeting potential partners rather than digital mediums.

Closing

  • Reminder: Need for stepping out and involving oneself in environments that foster genuine connections.
  • Thank you: Gratitude expressed to live stream participants.

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