Why Men Don't Approach Women Anymore

why don&#39;t men approach you anymore or approach women in general is it because we&#39;re too shy or too nervous or even worse is it because you&#39;ve been doing something that you didn&#39;t even realize was pushing us away the answer is actually quite complicated and shocking so we&#39;re going to discuss seven reasons which include app anxiety the old days the skill Gap female masculinity the fear of rejection microwave men and even corn addiction as to why men never approach you anymore from a man&#39;s perspective of course and how you can actually reverse that so that the men are coming up to you left and right and begging for your number welcome to the Players Club if you&#39;re here with me and you&#39;re paying attention to me and everyone else in the live stream please say here or present so that I know you&#39;re here you&#39;re present and you&#39;re actively participating in the live stream and we&#39;ll get started okay welcome you guys happy Monday or Tuesday depending on where you are uh I think sh was first to say here today uh we got Enlighten a here we got Missy America uh we got uh who we got we got me melen Molina is back as well sh of course we got Sharice of course uh where&#39;s where&#39;s Ranna was she not first to St here today Welcome All of You Beautiful People and welcome back Patia of course welcome to those of you who are coming back again this is like this is like the best the best time of the day the best time of the day during the week okay let&#39;s get started here and of course we&#39;ll have lots to talk about throughout the live stream okay so we&#39;ll get started with app anxiety okay we&#39;ve talked about dating apps plenty a time in this show Span in this short in this Show&#39;s short lifespan and the reason I want to discuss app anxiety is because I don&#39;t think you realize as a woman how app anxiety is actually playing a role in why the men aren&#39;t approaching you nowadays truthfully app anxiety and I know when you hear that you&#39;re like what it kind of makes sense but I don&#39;t really get it but what does it really mean what are you really referring to app anxiety is referring to the idea that now that we have social media apps now that the guys are used to being able to contact you all over social media being able to DM you being able to uh talk to you on dating apps we&#39;re going to get to dating apps of course they now are so used to being able to communicate and reach out to you and get access to you through those apps it creates a subconscious anxiety of the actual real in-person meeting as weird as it sounds how many of you feel like when you think about going and there&#39;s nothing wrong with this we&#39;re all human okay but when you think about going on a date with someone or when you think about meeting the person you&#39;ve been texting whether it be on the dating app or just online when you think about meeting them in person and spending iners time with them how many of you get a little bit nervous at that idea tell me in the live chat I told you guys we be participating here tell me if you get nervous at the idea of actually having to go out on this date and meet that person and spend some time with them go out with them even if it&#39;s something casual like going to the movies or going bowling or going on a picnic whatever it may be just the idea of actually having to meet them in person gives you anxiety I see Sharice says me I see uh miss a Louie says no okay Miss Lou she different uh color uh says me as well Lily says uh first time first time right it could be a first time or your first couple times sh says no I was never nervous okay uh we have enlightening she says yes in the YouTube chat we got Miss KY uh says hey hey hey back how are you um a Valeria Valyrian goddess says me okay so and the reason I ask you guys that and trust me I&#39;ve been there as well okay I&#39;m still there sometimes the reason I ask you guys that is because I want you to understand before we had all our social media apps we didn&#39;t have that well we could have had still had anxiety but there wasn&#39;t as much anxiety because we understood consciously that that was the only way we were going to meet people that was the only way we were going to communicate with people and we had nothing to compare it to and so for a lot of us that have grown up with technology grown up with social media apps and now we&#39;re very used to dating apps and Tinder and and uh you know Instagram and all that good stuff and our ability to be able to contact and reach out to people through that we have subconsciously become more comfortable in that more comfortable approaching people right through through social media through texting through snapchat right and because we become so comfortable approaching people through that Avenue instead of in person it gives us that much more anxiety when we actually think about oh I was texting you and it was cool we were Snapchatting and it was cool because I could just sit on my couch and not really have to think about having real conversation with you but now that I actually have to meet you in real life this is nerve-wracking I don&#39;t know if I can do this what am I going to say what am I going to ask what am I going to what we going to talk about what what what is our what is our relationship going to look like are we going to be interesting to each other are we going to be funny are we is it going to be awkward right and a lot of us have spent a lot of time and we&#39;ll talk about the skill Gap in a little bit of course but a lot of us are spent a lot of our time now building up our skills on our apps on our dating apps on our uh on texting on Snapchat we we&#39;ve built our skills especially as men in being able to communicate on these apps that now when we actually have to go into the real world world we have so much anxiety of actually having to be with someone in real life and have a real discussion with them and so you&#39;re probably wondering okay so the app anxiety how is that playing a role in guys not wanting to approach me well because of that app anxiety that anxiety that they get from the fact that they&#39;re so used to only talking to women over the phone that they they haven&#39;t really practiced the skill set to be able to approach them in person well now that you&#39;re in person whether it be because he&#39;s never seen you on a dating app this is the first and only time he&#39;ll see you or you know he&#39;s just at an event whatever it may be right now that he&#39;s finally seeing you in real life and it requires the skill set of being able to strike conversation in real life a lot of these guys and I I&#39;m not saying that cuz I&#39;m better than them I&#39;m saying that cuz I&#39;m one of them a lot of these guys find it difficult to actually muster up the courage to go up to you and speak speak to you because they&#39;re so accustomed to only having to meet and speak to women over the phone this is why I always tell you guys that your main focus shouldn&#39;t be about meeting the best texter or the best snapchatter right because I know for a lot of you that put a lot of um uh onus on the idea that hey I want someone who&#39;s going to communicate with me all the time I want someone who&#39;s going to talk to me 24/7 I want someone who&#39;s going to text me back in 35 seconds because that&#39;s going to keep me interested that&#39;s going to make me feel uh validated that&#39;s going to make me feel like he&#39;s giving me attention but in reality the guys who are giving you right all this great attention over text they&#39;re texting you back in 30 seconds one of two things are happening okay usually what&#39;s happening is that he&#39;s texting you and he&#39;s such a great textor because he&#39;s not very good in person and he&#39;s built up the skill set to be a great texter because he&#39;s compensating for the fact that he&#39;s not very good in person okay and that&#39;s the honest truth and then what secondly is happening also is that the reason he would even have enough time to be texting you all throughout the day is probably because he doesn&#39;t have much going on for himself okay and E either of those two possibilities are not good for you you don&#39;t want a man who has nothing going for himself and you also don&#39;t want a man who&#39;s only texting you and being the best most interesting textor simply because he&#39;s not good at anything else because at the end of the day you&#39;re not going to be in a relationship with the best texter or the best uh DM the best meme sender the best Tik Tok video sender the best snapchatter or none of that is what you&#39;re going to be in a relationship with you&#39;re going to be in a relationship with the man who you have the best connection with in person in person you following me so far are you following me so far it&#39;s very important that you understand how this app anxiety is playing a role to your detriment even and uh why these men are too nervous too shy too anxious to actually approach you in person because by the time he spent all his time building up the skills to be a great um uh funny interesting guy on text over these apps they forget that that&#39;s not what the relationship consists of and for a lot of us that forget that and put all our energy into being the best textor being the best app user being the best uh hinge dater we forget that there&#39;s actually a second component to hinge dating and app dating and texting that that you&#39;re actually supposed to meet that person in real life and you&#39;re actually going to have to build that skill up in real life this is why I also tell you guys because I know you guys also want to learn how you can avoid this and this can stop happening to you if you&#39;ve ever wondered why the men don&#39;t approach you you have to get your put yourself in a place where these men with all this anxiety to actually come up to you that don&#39;t have the courage that don&#39;t have the confidence to come up to you because they&#39;re too busy hiding behind the apps you have to be in the places where these men don&#39;t hang out and where are the places that these men don&#39;t hang out all the places in person that aren&#39;t low quality and what I mean by low quality is first obviously not on a dating app right because that&#39;s not in person and not at a club or a bar right most of the men who have this app anxiety who are too nervous to actually come up to you and speak to you and hold a real conversation that has substance most of those men who can&#39;t do that are hanging out on the dating apps or hanging out at the clubs or hanging out at the bars I&#39;m not saying that to say oh if you go to a club or a bar you&#39;re the worst person ever I just want you to understand why you constantly feel like you&#39;re coming across the same type of men and you&#39;re sitting back and you&#39;re like is it just me or do the men never come up and approach women nowadays or take initiative nowadays or have anything interesting to say or even are charismatic or you know have confidence in themselves it seems like they&#39;re all so feminine they&#39;re all just sitting back waiting for me to approach them or say something to them right there are confident men there are secure men but the real ity of it is a lot of them don&#39;t spend too much time in the club they don&#39;t spend too much time at the bar and they damn sure don&#39;t spend their time on dating apps because why would they they don&#39;t need to because they have the skill set and we&#39;ll talk about skill set in a little bit they have the skill set to be able to be interesting and charismatic in person that they don&#39;t need to the dating apps in order to I guess you could say get women in order to be interesting to women in order to conversate with women and build a connection with them and I say that to say you have to also Focus your your attention on where am I spending my time am I spending it in the places where the men who are using social media apps as a crutch would be hanging out because if that&#39;s the case then you can&#39;t be confused why you only meet the men who can&#39;t seem to build up or muster up the courage to come up to you and have a conversation with you I know a lot of you sometimes ask me the question well you&#39;re giving me advice Thomasson but your advice wouldn&#39;t even work on an insecure mat your advice wouldn&#39;t even work on a shy guy or your advice wouldn&#39;t even work on a quiet guy you know not all guys are going to be like that I I I&#39;m I&#39;m sorry I&#39;m maybe I&#39;m mistaken I didn&#39;t think we were trying to help you attract a insecure man I didn&#39;t know that we were trying to help you attract you know men who have low confidence in themselves I didn&#39;t know that we were trying to help you attract men who have low self-esteem I didn&#39;t think that I wasn&#39;t under the impression that that&#39;s what we were trying to do for you that&#39;s I didn&#39;t I didn&#39;t know that that&#39;s where we were here together okay I&#39;m under the impression that you&#39;re trying to attract confident secure men who can actually protect and provide for you and if you&#39;re going to do that then you also have to identify him what are The Confident secure men doing and also you have to identify what are The Confident secure men not doing okay and so that&#39;s the reason I bring up app anxiety as number one because that app anxiety is playing a large role for a lot of men that become too overly obsessed too put too much emphasis on these dating apps on on the texting on the over the phone that they don&#39;t have any emphasis put towards how are they holding and building Connection in real life how are they able to be interesting in conversation with the stranger right they&#39;re not building that skill set and we&#39;ll talk about that literally in in in a couple of points here why that skill Gap is so large nowadays okay so number one is app anxiety okay number two we have the old days so I&#39;m going to tell you guys a story let&#39;s just imagine the old days okay when I say the old days I simply mean before we had social media before you could DM someone before you could find them on Facebook all that good stuff I&#39;m talking about when we only had cell phones or landlines we were land lines were still a thing okay so let&#39;s imagine back in the day in the old days for us now where let&#39;s say you went to a diner and you went to a diner with your friends and you were from out of town so you came to this Diner from out of town you sat down at this diner with your friends and you guys are enjoying some milkshakes some fries some burgers it&#39;s like a hangout spot and you know when you sit down at the diner you can see across the diner a guy and his group of friends looking at you and you see one guy in particular who&#39;s eyeing you down at this Diner and so you think to yourself what&#39;s with you what&#39;s what&#39;s your what&#39;s his problem and you&#39;re kind of whispering to your friends and you see him he&#39;s whispering to his friends you see him he&#39;s talking to his friends you&#39;re like is he talking about me is he is he looking over here is he is he talking about my friend what&#39;s what&#39;s what&#39;s he talking talking about right and you&#39;re kind of just wondering is he trying to come up to me like what&#39;s going on and so you enjoy your milkshake and your fries with the rest of your friends and you guys have a good time and so you&#39;re leaving the diner after you guys enjoy yourselves and right as you&#39;re about to walk out of the diner you feel the grab of your hand of your wrist from behind you and you look behind you and it&#39;s the guy who was sitting across from you and staring at you this entire time at this Diner and so he kind of like well uh you know I I I you must not be from here because I&#39;ve never seen you around in this Diner before and you go to him and you&#39;re like no yeah I&#39;m from out of town yeah my name&#39;s Daisy um nice to meet you and he&#39;s like well real nice to meet you um you know I i&#39; I&#39;ve never seen a girl as beautiful as you before at you know in town and I just I don&#39;t know if I&#39;d ever see you again so I just thought you know I had to come up here and ask you know if you if I could have your number and maybe we could go out sometime and so you start blushing because you&#39;re like oh well that&#39;s that&#39;s that&#39;s so sweet you want to take me out on a date he&#39;s like yeah you know I I would love to right and so you give him your real number your real phone number and then you go home and you&#39;re thinking maybe he forgot about it maybe he doesn&#39;t remember and later that night you hear the ring of your landline cuz remember this back in the day of your landline and you go and you pick up your landline and you hear him on the phone say hey hey Daisy how&#39;s it going you know I I really enjoyed seeing at the diner I was hoping maybe we could set up going out on a date you know this Thursday is that possible like in the next couple days I could come pick you up at 8:00 and you&#39;re like sure you come pick me up at 8:00 and so Thursday come he pulls up right he pulls up on you on Thursday night and he picks you up right at 8:00 and he takes you to a really nice restaurant and by the time you and him are sitting at that table at that restaurant he had to go through multi multiple different steps to get here to this point where he can have you sitting in front of him at this restaurant right he had to see you in the diner he had to acknowledge that he thinks you&#39;re beautiful in that same moment he only had 30 40 minutes to decide okay I know I want to talk to this girl I know I need to get her number on the spot because I&#39;m never going to see her again if she leaves this Diner so now I have to come up with something interesting and witty be funny be charismatic go go up to her make a joke not be awkward and talk to her in a way where I can convince her to give her to for her to give me her for her to give out her number to me that I can call her and set up a date because I really really want this girl and so even when he did that he still had to go home call you hope that you answer set up this time with you all that good stuff right and then by the time you guys finally get on this date he had to put in so much work into trying to present himself the best way that he can get you out on this date that you guys are having a good time and enjoying each other&#39;s company and I say all that to say you have to understand how a guy is going to Value you because of how much effort was put into just getting you here in front of him and so you&#39;re probably thinking okay how does that example relate to why men never approach me now well when you think about the amount of effort I just gave in that example as to how much work it took just to get you out on this date sitting at this dinner table right in front of him and then you think to yourself okay well nowadays how much effort would it take for a guy to get you out on a date regularly average and when you think about the idea it&#39;s really nothing like I just described in the old days it&#39;s a lot more like he swipes left and right on 300 women and then after 325 women he sees your picture he looks at your picture for maybe m 40 45 seconds he Scrolls through four or five pictures maybe he reads a bio he probably skims the bio and then he makes a decision on ah you know she&#39;s just above mid enough for me to want to actually take my finger and swipe right on her and when he swipes right on you he realizes he matches you he messages you a couple of messages because he already knows you&#39;re interested in him he says hey you want to go out on a date sure we go out on a date he comes to that date and by the time he gets on that date with you before you show up on the date he&#39;s probably swiping on 30 300 other women and you guys have the date he kind you know is here there thinking about all the other messages he has going on all the other people he has to talk to he probably doesn&#39;t even remember everything you guys talked or messaged about because he&#39;s been messaging you along with 25 other women and then in the process of him uh uh having this date with you as soon as you leave this date he&#39;s swiping left and right on 300 other women so I say that to say the mindset that men bring to to the table is a function of how many options are at their disposal and before if you met a a pretty girl there was a good chance you would never see that girl ever again in your life and that part that realization motivated men to actually get up out of their chair to see a woman that they like and actually go up to her and approach her start flirting try to be interesting because the understanding was hey I&#39;m not just going to see another beautiful woman in the next 30 minutes hey I&#39;m not just going to see another beautiful woman in you know by swiping left or right I actually have to pursue the women I see and I find attractive or I think or is interesting and I have to go after them okay right and that realization is what pushed the men to actually approach the women that they wanted now Vice fast forward in today&#39;s age because of all the options because of the apps because of the uh whether it be dating apps all the all the ways that they have access to you their mindset is more on oh well there&#39;s another one or there&#39;s so much more like them she&#39;s just like one of 300 I always talk to you guys about dating apps and I know you guys are saying that it&#39;s freezing hopefully it&#39;s back for you guys on Tik Tok okay uh is YouTube having issues too if YouTube&#39;s having issues then we have problems s okay now the reason I bring up the old days is because I know that for most of you guys you&#39;re probably thinking to yourself well how do I actually stop that and prevent that of from happening and we talk about dating app so much on this on this show and we should because I know for a lot of you guys that feels like the only way that you can actually meet men and I&#39;m here to tell you you&#39;re actually sabotaging your own ability to meet guys and have them chase after you I know you guys love the idea of chasing right and have them chase after you based on the way you&#39;re meeting them and based on the way that you are available to them okay because remember what I talked about in the old days now obviously in the old days men still cheated so let&#39;s not be hyperbolic and pretend like the old days all the men were amazing and nowadays the the men suck okay cuz they suck then they suck now but I say that to say that subconscious understanding that it took so much more effort to get access to this girl for her to be available in front of me they also realize when they&#39;re seeing you in person they also realize when they&#39;re going out and they they they they come across you or they meet you through a friend they realize it&#39;s not there&#39;s not so much uh a plethora of options available to me that I can choose from if this girl doesn&#39;t like me or if she&#39;s not falling all over me or if she doesn&#39;t chase after me okay so so you&#39;re probably thinking well what can I do about that those were the old days how can I Inspire men to chase after me or Inspire men to approach me when I live in present day I don&#39;t live in the old days I can&#39;t reverse social media I can&#39;t reverse dating apps well I&#39;ll tell you this when you make yourself unavailable to Men on in those places where they&#39;re trying to access women easily you&#39;ve just made it that much harder for men to ever see or hear from you if if it&#39;s not in person or if they don&#39;t have the courage to approach you and approach you properly you&#39;ve also made your life a lot easier because you spend a lot less time around the men who are not willing to approach you the right way or approach you even in general you understand what I&#39;m saying I&#39;ll give you an example right because if you&#39;re on hinge Bumble Tinder you&#39;re you know uh dming tons of guys right everyone has access to you if they need it they can just swipe left and right on you you&#39;re you&#39;re a texaholic you&#39;re Snapchatting everyone right what happens is a lot of the men in your life whether you want to call the guys you&#39;re talking to the guys you&#39;re casually just seeing spending time with whatever going on dates with a lot of the guys that have access to you are having access to you without having to do too much work without ever having to be like hey let&#39;s go out on a DAT hey I want to call you hey I want to spend some time with you hey I want to take you this place right because you&#39;re available to them in these low quality places and so why would they they already have access to you but when you cut that access from the men right when you don&#39;t allow men to access you in lowquality formats now all of a sudden the only men that can access you are the men who have the courage and confidence to approach you in person are you following me so far right even if and I know this is the part that&#39;ll be scary for most of you because you&#39;ll probably be thinking to yourself well you know if I&#39;m not available on the dating app if I&#39;m not available um online if I&#39;m by the way when I say available online I&#39;m not saying delete your Instagram right I just mean in general right if I&#39;m not available on the dailying app if I&#39;m not available to text if I&#39;m not available to Snapchat how are the men going to re find me how are they even going to know of my existence this is great that&#39;s a great question what I say to that is you you then need to step out of your house okay yeah you have to step out of your house because when you step out of your house you give yourself the opportunity to meet the men who are willing to approach you in person because now you kind have put you&#39;ve put yourself in a situation where it resembles the old days where the only men who can even access you are the men who are courageous enough to approach you when they see you outside of your house okay and those are the only men that are ever in your life that you ever spend any time talking to or conversating with because no other man has access to you in any other way shape or form now very important when I talk about the old days remember even in the example I gave you had to go to the diner you had to do things okay I know for a lot of you it&#39;s uh frustrating or annoying the idea that I say hey if you want um to come across all the men that will approach you you&#39;re going to have to go out into places where men will approach you okay uh I know uh Shir I know a lot of you guys listen to Shir as well uh I know Shir talks about going to like uh I don&#39;t know country clubs or just particular places where the rich men are hanging out not saying that you necessarily need to be where the rich men are hanging out but you have to be thinking about hey what type of people would be spending time here or if you want to even simplify it just simply think of what do I enjoy doing for myself that&#39;s my advice to you if you want to know where should I spend my time where should I go out where should I be where should I hang out that PE that men will approach me and the men who are actually motivated to approach me will approach me just go spend some time doing something outside of your house that you enjoy doing because you&#39;ll you&#39;ll you&#39;ll um I don&#39;t want to say k i l l you&#39;ll uh get two birds with one stone right and you&#39;ll get get two birds with one stone because when you&#39;re out doing something that you already enjoy doing you won&#39;t be sitting there angry like I&#39;m I&#39;m only here to get men to talk to me if men aren&#39;t here to talk to me this is a complete waste of my time where are the men where the men where the man right you don&#39;t want to be like that right and because you want to allow yourself the patience right and the calmness that you can be doing something you enjoy and in the process of doing something you enjoy that people will come up to you people will talk to you people will strike conversations with you I know that a lot of you want your own particular love story you want an amazing love story that will that will be just like your Disney princess movie that will be just like your whatpad story that&#39;ll be just like your smut book right and it&#39;ll be so romantic it&#39;ll be just like the notebook it&#39;ll be so romantic it&#39;ll be so amazing you&#39;ll be able to tell everyone your romantic love story right I know that you want that it&#39;s okay we all want that and you can have that but I want you to understand that doesn&#39;t happen unless you leave your house you have to leave your house in order for those random moments to occur those random moments can&#39;t occur unless you step outside of your house to give yourself the opportunity for those random moments to occur so as it relates to the men approaching you you have to be thinking of two things I have to leave my house okay I know that&#39;s a shocker and then number two I have to leave my house and actually go to places where the men with confidence and courage who are securing themselves and have something going would be spending time okay those are the two things you have to be thinking about because if you&#39;re not leaving your house okay and you spend all your time on dating apps then you wonder why men don&#39;t approach you well gee I wonder why and then number two even when you do leave your house you&#39;re going straight to the club or the bar where all the men who are looking for the most painless easiest lowquality connections that they possibly can get are hanging out and then you&#39;re wondering gee golly me how come I spend all my time in the bars and the clubs and then the men don&#39;t want to come up to me in the bars and the clubs when those are the same men who are hanging out on the dating apps who barely want to do any single little bit of work to to to meet a girl or or have or get access to her Squirtle and you&#39;re sitting there wondering why that&#39;s happening to you and why the men don&#39;t approach you and you&#39;re spending all your time in the places where all the unconfident right like like lost low self-esteem men are spending all of their time okay so that&#39;s why I bring that up so number one was anxiety number two we had the old days okay number three is a very interesting one number three we have skill Gap okay now the barrier of Entry like we mentioned with dating apps before has lowered quite a bit why because the skill Gap is very different than it used to be when I say skill Gap I&#39;m referring to the skill set you would need to have think of think of relationships in love like a game kind of is a game but let&#39;s think of it as a game so when I say it&#39;s a game I mean you have a skill set the more skill set I have with in Charisma as a guy I&#39;m funny I&#39;m interesting I&#39;m attractive I&#39;m good-looking I have money I&#39;m tall I have nice teeth a good hygiene all that good stuff is going to make it easier for me to stack up let&#39;s call it points and when when I say points I just mean my ability to attract more and more women if I can attract more and more women well I have more and more options I can have a better partner everything is good so it&#39;s like a game right now before in the old days like we just talked about the skill Gap was different you had to possess a different skill set if you wanted access to more and more women of course you needed money of course you had to be attractive of course you had to be charismatic if you wanted to attract women in the old days and there was an emphasis put on your charisma your energy your ability to be charming and interesting have good chat right be persuasive all of those things you almost had to be like a car salesman because all of those things were so important and vital to your ability to be able to be interesting or um get women to like you in the old days right you couldn&#39;t there was no texting right there was no way for you to be interesting or get a woman to like you or get on a date with you if you couldn&#39;t strike good conversation if you couldn&#39;t uh make her laugh at your jokes if you couldn&#39;t FL her or make her feel good about herself or just be uh hold a conversation there was no way for you to get access to women if you didn&#39;t possess those skill sets and so it forced the men to put themselves in a position where their only option was learn how to get the skill set so they can utilize it and get access to more women or no women for you you sit at home you be a soy boy and watch all the other watch all the women go to all the men that you despise okay okay those were the only two options now the skill Gap comes in because now that we have things like dating apps now that we have all the Snapchat all these other lowquality ways that the men can access you the skill Gap has decreased because the men no longer need Charisma to approach you right they no longer need to be interesting or funny or or uh outgoing right or hold conversation in order to approach you you know why because they don&#39;t have to approach you they just have to text you they just have to swipe right on you they just have to swipe left on you so why would they even bother possessing the skills required to get women in person when they can get women over the phone okay this is why I always tell you guys the best solution to a lot of your problems especially this problem as it relates to why the men don&#39;t approach you and why you constantly find yourselves like is in this world do men not take initiative right you have to remove men&#39;s access to you in these low quality forms because all of the men with that very low skill set right who can&#39;t chat who can&#39;t be interesting who can&#39;t be funny who can&#39;t be charismatic who can&#39;t hold the conversation where do you think all of them are going to flock to they&#39;re going to flock to the dating app where they don&#39;t have to do any of that stuff that&#39;s why we I that&#39;s why I talk so much to you guys about dating apps because I want you to understand while in in spirit it has a good intention I want you to understand how much is sabotaging your relationships okay right because those men who used to have to sit on the side lines and watch all the charismatic interesting funny men get all the girls can actually build their skill set up in being the most interesting texter best snapchatter best Tinder dater and talk to you over the phone and then you end up on a date with a guy who&#39;s uninteresting boring and just overall not the type of man that you want okay it&#39;s the same reason why you constantly find yourself in a position where you feel like none of the men are willing to approach you because they aren&#39;t because why would they they&#39;re in an they&#39;re in a society and living in an environment where they don&#39;t have to approach women however there are men who aren&#39;t living in that environment where they&#39;re only meeting girls at clubs or only meeting them on dating apps or only meeting them at bars why probably because they have much better things to do with their time okay and those are the men you are seeking because those men will be willing to approach you if they really like you now getting building up your own individual desire that the men will desire you enough to approach you is a whole different story but as it relates to the men and why the men are not approaching women as much that&#39;s one of the reasons is the skill Gap has lowered the floor has lowered or sorry I should say the barrier of Entry has lowered because why would I create the skill to be funny or interesting when I can open my phone and have access to 300 to 400 to to 500 women a day from different cities different backgrounds different looks different Aesthetics all that good stuff is Ava available to me at the swipe of a finger which is why I always tell you guys if you want the highest quality men take yourself out of that pool of women that the men can&#39;t access you in in those ways shapes or forms and you&#39;ll find yourself a lot happier with the quality of the men that do approach you because men will approach you if you spend your time in the right places okay so number one was the app anxiety number two we had the old days number three we had the skill Gap number four we have female masculinity okay we&#39;re going to touch on this one for quite a bit cuz I don&#39;t want I don&#39;t want we have to touch on it in many different aspects and I don&#39;t want you to become offended by what we&#39;re going to talk about I want you to actually absorb what we&#39;re what I&#39;m talking about and how it might be affecting you or your relationships because I think that&#39;s actually what&#39;s going to benefit you okay so as we discuss female masculinity I want to discuss with you guys the idea of hot girls now tell me in the live chat do you know already or understand the concept of a hot girl I know we all vary in our ages here and some of us are a little bit older so maybe some people might not understand it I will explain it regardless I just want to get an understanding how many of us in the live chat know what the idea or the concept of a hot girl is tell me if you know I see sh says yes I see Shish says yes n says yes and like n says talk about it okay um I think I need all you guys to respond cuz I really want to see how many of us know about it so I know how in depth to go uh Loa says what question mark AB Bri says I believe I do okay okay most of it&#39;s mental YOLO says princess says yep cam says nope okay I see batia says I think so but not sure okay Miss America says not really I&#39;m surprised you didn&#39;t know okay hot girls I know we all have um our different uh walks of life and perspective which is amazing that&#39;s why we come here gather hot girls the concept of hot girl I don&#39;t know if you&#39;ve ever heard of hot girl summer if you don&#39;t know what a hot girl is and you probably never heard of a hot girl summer hot girl summer and a hot girl is the idea I don&#39;t mean hot like on fire and I also don&#39;t mean hot like you know someone who&#39;s really attractive I mean a hot girl as in the mindset the mindset of a hot girl and this is like a real thing you can go search up hot girl somewhere after we have this conversation if you&#39;re not sure the idea and the mindset of the hot girl summer the hot girl mindset is that I will go out into the world and I will sleep with whoever I want however many times I want do and act and say speak whatever I want and shake my booty on a yacht whenever and however I want there will be no man to tell me anything there will be no body that I&#39;m tied down to I go around and I do exactly what I want exactly however I want for as long as I want and nobody can tell me anything that is the essence of a hot girl now obviously they have the same thing for hot boys as well do whatever you want don&#39;t be tied down by anyone life is just all about you don&#39;t focus on you know anyone don&#39;t listen to anyone trying to tell you that they trying to be in a relationship no no no no no no you do what you want how you want to do it so in its in its conception I think this is my own personal perspective I think it stems from the idea that men or sorry women and men are the same and they should be able to do the same things so because the men obviously for the longest periods of time they go out they sleep with women they do whatever they want they act however they want right the women have adopted the mindset obviously not all women but the culture has shifted where a lot of women are adopting the mindset and I&#39;m not here to say whether it&#39;s a good or bad thing I&#39;m just saying what it is have adopted the mindset that hey the men do this they act like this they sleep with who they want they go out they have fun and they don&#39;t get punished for it I&#39;m going to do the same thing as the men do I&#39;m going to be like the men why because why do men get to do things that I don&#39;t get to do it&#39;s almost like a version of I can&#39;t even say uh p e i ns n v okay right it&#39;s almost like a version of that the mannequin do it so I want to do it too wow so that&#39;s great in theory but what ends up happening right is that the women begin to embody a lot of the character traits and energy of a man so the masculine okay I&#39;m just referring to do Straight heterosexual relationships right and we obviously know in a straight heterosexual relationship that men are supposed to of course we all have a little bit of both but men for the most part are supposed to embody the masculine and women for the most part are supposed to embody the feminine the problem is when women become obsessed with the idea that I want to do what the men do because it&#39;s unfair that the men get to do this and I don&#39;t get to do that there becomes a obsession with actually being more like men in turn meaning you become more masculine in your energy and I know for some of you guys who are not used to people talking about energy and spirituality we get deep on here so we talk about energy spirituality all that good stuff okay and it matters because your mindset shift to I want to do like the men do actually turns your energy and it shifts into being more masculine and so you approach your relationships more masc masculine the energy you project outwardly is more masculine and so what are the men receiving from you masculine energy and so what do you how do you think they treat you they treat you as a masculine energy and what do you think you attract in men you attract men who are in their feminine energy do you see how that works because feminine and masculine I&#39;m only speaking on heterosexual relationships feminine and masculine are like yin and yang and remember I just told you we don&#39;t all have 100% of one and 0% of the other it&#39;s a fluid concept that can be 50 60% 40% right but it has to flow in the right order to be whole right it has to equal up to 100% so my point being is that if you are a woman who is in more of your your masculine I&#39;m not here to tell you whether that&#39;s right or wrong you can do what you want with your life but if you are a woman who is embodying more of your masculine energy you naturally going to attract men who are in more of their feminine energy and the reason I bring up female masculinity and I bring up hot girls is because the movement of hot girl summer hot girl mindset which is the culture of the music that you listen to I don&#39;t want to get too deep on here because we&#39;ve talked about music in the past and the way the music affect actually you know what we will get a little bit deep right the music that you&#39;re listening to is affecting your mind State and what you think you should be embodying when you go out and I don&#39;t know if let me know in the chat if you&#39;ve noticed how the shift in music has become hyper actualized and focused on how women should go out and do whatever they want act like the men and you don&#39;t realize it when you&#39;re listening to it because it feels Innocent but it is actually brainwashing you and shifting your frame of mind to convince you I&#39;ve got to be more like this because you listen to it in your music you watch it in the music video right which the music videos embodying the same thing as the music right you see it on TV when you&#39;re watching your TV shows you see it on in the movie theaters when you&#39;re watching your movies and it&#39;s part of the culture shift right the things that you&#39;re absorbing into your mind is Shifting your your concept of reality and is also shifting uh your own view of yourself as crazy as it sounds and so I say that say when you&#39;re unaware of the subconscious shift that is happening in your mind based on what you&#39;re absorbing your mind especially in today&#39;s day and age can easily shift into embodying much more of the masculine energ that you want to do and act like the guys act because the guys get to walk around and do whatever they want treat women however they want do whatever they want and so your first mindset is is I&#39;m going to do how the men do I&#39;m going to play the men how the men play me I&#39;m going to be masculine like the men and sleep with who I want do whatever I want nobody&#39;s going to be able to tell me nothing and like I say I&#39;m not here to tell you what&#39;s what&#39;s right and wrong but I am here to share with you when you&#39;re wondering why the men don&#39;t approach you also think to yourself am I embodying masculine qualities that will attract a more feminine man okay this is how it ties together because it&#39;s not about being right or wrong in embodying your masculine embodying your feminine but if you&#39;re trying to attract a masculine man you also have to be living your life in your feminine energy now I know that&#39;s difficult because it&#39;s not easy to do that all the time and you have have to protect yourself and you have to be on guard and all that good stuff but I want you to understand if you&#39;re too deep into your masculine energy you&#39;re naturally going to attract a man who is a lot deeper into his feminine energy that&#39;s the ying and the Ying right there and so if you&#39;re attracting a lot of men who are deep into their feminine energy they&#39;re not going to be approaching you because that&#39;s not what feminine energy does feminine energy is receiving okay and so the men who are naturally in their feminine energy are going to be sitting back expecting you to chase them are going to be sitting back expecting princess treatment from them how many of you have been and I know you guys are going to spam this one how many of you in the live stream have been in a relationship or a talking stage with a man who want who expects princess treatment from you I know you guys going to be get mad about this one tell me in the live chat if you&#39;ve ever been in a talking stage or relationship with a guy who expected princess treatment from you oh my God that&#39;s funny okay uh I see I knew you guys would spam this one I I see uh Jan says fact sweet says me Alicia says yes sh says yes okay PO says yes uh Brie says drizzle drizzle is a thing now maybe we&#39;ll even we maybe we&#39;ll even talk about drizzle drizzle in another live stream because drizzle drizzle is actually a perfect example of that right is the is the shift right it&#39;s it&#39;s almost like the counteraction to the hot girl mindset is that the guys are tired hey we&#39;re being used we&#39;re being used for our money and we&#39;re just being seen as a paycheck so now rather than uh us allowing ourselves to continue to be used we&#39;re going to go the opposite direction and now we are going to be the ones receiving princess treatment we&#39;re going to be the ones expecting things from you and gifts and and and proper treatment and all this stuff like that right because the shift and actually that&#39;s great that you guys brought that up because the shift in if if a lot of the soci the women in a particular society are shifting into their masculine energy well then naturally there&#39;s going to be a large portion of men that shift into their feminine energy and so I say that to say right that&#39;s why if you&#39;re wondering why you&#39;re constantly attracting feminine men then you also got to think to yourself am I embodying some masculine qualities right and I don&#39;t just mean masculine quality oh you look like a man I&#39;m not talking about that I&#39;m talking about in your energy I&#39;m talking about in your approach right and I can&#39;t I&#39;m a man so obviously I can&#39;t tell you what it means to be a woman I can&#39;t tell you what it means to be uh in your feminine energy I really can&#39;t but I say that to ask you a question that might make you think and Ponder on hey have I been embodying more of my masculine energy or am I doing things that are more in line with the masculine than they are the feminine and actually gets your wheel spinning on how you can better embody your feminine energy that you can be receiving from these men as opposed to being on edge and being the one chasing after these men or trying to attract the trying to get these men to like you trying to be get these men to see you and get these men to validate you and you&#39;re like on the hunt you know what I mean you&#39;re on the hunt emotionally and spiritually where you&#39;re the one saying oh I I I want you to see me I want to prove myself to you I&#39;m going to chase after you until you like me and I&#39;m going to I&#39;m going to do everything to make you like me rather than the other way around where you&#39;re in your feminine energy and you&#39;re receiving that from the men okay right and that&#39;s that&#39;s why I bring that up in terms of why men never approach you just to pose a question that maybe you could Ponder on and think about on ways and things you might adjust of yourself if you want to see a different result obviously like I just said I&#39;m a man so I can&#39;t tell you what it means to be a woman I can&#39;t tell you what it means to be embody your feminine energy only you have the answers to that but I just pose the concept that maybe you can start thinking about hm I&#39;ve been attracting a lot of feminine men but am I being a more masculine woman right because it&#39;s not an accident it&#39;s it&#39;s not an accident the same way the most feminine women seem to attract the most masculine men is the same way the most masculine women seem to attract the most feminine men it&#39;s a very fluid concept and it&#39;s it&#39;s actually crazy that&#39;s actually one of the reasons why I love talking to you guys and talking about this relationship and stuff cuz it&#39;s related to psychology which is related to the human mind which is related to just how we relate and connect with each other and it&#39;s very interesting how we kind of of we just are pushed towards people who perfectly fit our not perfectly but fit a particular personality that works with or against us in particular ways and a for a lot of us we end up attracting similar people because of what we&#39;re outwardly projecting but we don&#39;t even realize that that&#39;s part of the reason we&#39;re attracting those similar people is because they&#39;re attracted to an energy coming out from us right and it&#39;s connecting with them which is why they&#39;re attracted to us and vice versa but a lot of times we&#39;re not even thinking about that we&#39;re just thinking about hey I just attract bums all the time well think to yourself why are you always attracting bums does that reflect how you feel about yourself anyways that&#39;s another topic for another day okay so that was the female masculinity so we had app anxiety was number one number two was the old days number three the skill Gap number four we had female masculinity number five we have the fear of rejection okay now Men A lot of times are in we talked about dating apps and we talked about how it gives them that subconscious anxiety that hey I&#39;m only good on the dating app I&#39;m only interesting on the dating app I&#39;m only funny and charismatic on the dating app now what it also does is men become accustomed to being able to swipe left and swipe right on you I&#39;m telling you this from a man&#39;s perspective we have become accustom to being able to swipe left swipe right on all the different women that we want access to or that we could ever dream of or meet ever that we have stopped living in reality quote unquote when I say stop living in reality what I really mean is there is a natural flow of of going out meeting people liking some people being interested in some people and then realizing that some of those people that you meet that you&#39;re interested in might not be interested in you back or interested in you at the same level in which you&#39;re interested in them even in some scenarios you might go out you might show your interest in someone and they reject you okay now very important as men I&#39;ll I&#39;ll tell you this from a man&#39;s perspective as men that builds character that rejection even from just women that don&#39;t like you or don&#39;t think you&#39;re attractive or don&#39;t want you right that builds character why because it forces us to increase our skill set or figure out our points of weakness that need to improve in order for us to see the result that we want to see now I&#39;ll break that down even further if I were to go out as a guy and let&#39;s say I&#39;m like hey guys let&#39;s say I&#39;m 18 with my boys and I&#39;m like hey guys yo let&#39;s go out to the mall let&#39;s go pick up some girls numbers I want to meet some new girls and we go out to the mall me and my boys and we&#39;re talking to girls and I&#39;m talking to some girls and they&#39;re like ew get away from me or every time that I talk to a girl I&#39;m so awkward or or like weird about it in my Approach that they&#39;re just kind of like nah I have a boyfriend no I&#39;m not going to give my number meanwhile I have a best friend who&#39;s going out and he&#39;s like chatting with the girls he&#39;s making them laugh he&#39;s being interesting he&#39;s being funny and he&#39;s getting every girl&#39;s number what does that tell me my rejection is a function of my lack of skill set or my weaknesses in particular areas whether that be my looks maybe I&#39;m not dressing nice maybe I&#39;m not as attractive maybe I I&#39;m not as charismatic I&#39;m not interesting I&#39;m not funny so what does it force me to do I want access to those women as a man but I&#39;m being rejected by those women constantly that rejection is pain but that rejection is also motivation to try and actually get the women that I want access to you&#39;ll be shocked how many men get rich just to get back at an ex or in the back of their mind be able to say to themselves oh I know that girl is regretting you know rejecting me now or I know that girl is regretting not wanting me now that I&#39;m rich and I&#39;m up and I&#39;m and I&#39;m super attractive and I&#39;ve glowed up and my life&#39;s different and and now she&#39;s still dealing with bums right that motivation that pain becomes motivation but what happens is now that a lot of the men including me I&#39;m a man now that we all get to spend all of our time on the dating apps or on social media we don&#39;t have to face rejection as we once would have where we&#39;re actually going up to girls showing our interest in them and then having them reject us because they&#39;re not as interested in them in us or we&#39;re not on the same level as other guys and because we don&#39;t have to face that same level of rejection there&#39;s no longer that same amount of pain associated with the rejection why because think about it if I&#39;m on the dating app and a girl doesn&#39;t like me she simply swipes left on me but from my end I don&#39;t see her rejecting me I don&#39;t even notice her she doesn&#39;t even cross my ecosystem I swipe on a bunch of girls and whoever I find interesting that finds me interesting those are the only people I even end up having a conversation with I don&#39;t even have to go through the pain of having a conversation with any woman or girl or anybody who is not interested in me already and so I don&#39;t have to face that rejection or that reality that splash of cold water that hey I need to increase my Charisma I need to be more funny I need to be more approachable I need to be able to hold better conversation okay right I never have to get to that point because I don&#39;t need to and what also happens is I don&#39;t build up a tolerance for rejection I actually build the opposite I build a fear of rejection where my life has been spent so much in a place that is comfortable where I never have to actually B rejection cuz I just swipe left and swipe right and the only girls I talk to are the girls who swiped right on me I have a fear right it grows my anxiety that oh my God I don&#39;t want to actually go out into the real world and talk to real women and go up to them and like actually face the idea that they might not talk to me or they might not be interested in me and they might reject me right I&#39;m I&#39;m I&#39;m too scared I&#39;m too scared so when I see a woman out in public when I see you out in public and you&#39;re sitting your looking pretty at your dinner table or wherever you are right I&#39;m too scared to come up to you because I&#39;m so used to being able to just swipe left and right and only talk to the girls that are interested in me I&#39;m like shivering at the idea that I might go up to you and have a conversation with you and you&#39;ll reject me right and remember I talked to you guys about that app anxiety when you&#39;re an app addict when you&#39;re a Tex a holic right as a man what ends up happening is you become used to that way of meeting women you become used to that way of approaching women even though you&#39;re not actually approaching them you become used to that way of approaching life Melissa says in the YouTube chat she says it sounds like social anxiety it is social anxiety but it&#39;s a builtup social anxiety because of the obsession with the dating apps because of the OB obsession with the Snapchat because of the obsession with the being a texaholic okay and it force it forces you and puts you in a position as a man I&#39;m telling you this cuz it&#39;s I&#39;ve experienced this it puts you in a position as a man where you become so accustomed to living your life without rejection in it that you start to become fearful of oh my God I could possibly be rejected if I go up to that woman and talk to her and have a conversation with her that&#39;s part of the reason why I always advise you guys do not not spend your time in the places where the men with all the anxiety and scared of rejection would be spending their time okay because the too scared of rejection man men are going to be spending their time in places where they don&#39;t actually have to face rejection so don&#39;t put yourself in that position where you&#39;re surrounded by all the men who are too scared of rejection because then you&#39;ll be frustrated why none of the men are even willing to put themselves out on the line and face the possibility of rejection from you and come up to you or approach you none of them are going to do that they&#39;re all going to sit at home and be on their dating apps same thing at the club or the bar none of those men are really looking for anything that requires a lot of work so why would they be approaching women except to do except to say one small line and expect her to want to jump into bed with him after he says one small line right that&#39;s the expectation because they&#39;ve built up such an understanding that hey I should be living my life in this comfortable area where I don&#39;t face rejection and I never have to deal with the fact that some girls might not like me and it&#39;s comfortable for me to live in that place so I&#39;m going to spend all my time in the places where I face the least rejection on top of the dating apps social media has also created this anxiety and this fear of being rejected because when we see other people being laughed at when we see other people going through things right we think to oursel oh oh my God I I I don&#39;t want to be like them I don&#39;t want to be cringe like them I don&#39;t I don&#39;t want to be I don&#39;t want people to laugh at me like them right and so it puts you in this constant anxious state where you&#39;re scared to do anything except nothing because you&#39;re so scared to be laughed at you&#39;re so scared to be uh for people to judge you like you see on social media that you&#39;re you just sit back and you&#39;re like I&#39;m going to do the easiest most painless thing possible I I don&#39;t want to do anything I so I&#39;ll just sit on this dating app and I and I&#39;ll only talk to women that swipe right on me other than that I&#39;m not talking to anyone cuz I&#39;m such in fear that the girls will make that people will make fun of me if I go up to a girl and she rejects me that fear that fear that anxiety that the that the men build up that social anxiety that they build up from being the app addicts that they are and the texaholic that they are is why you find your yourself in a situation why you feel like the men are never approaching you so what do you do spend your time far away from all the places where the men with the fear of rejection would be spending their time I.E the dating apps I know we talking about dating apps over and over again I just want to get your mind even outside the dating apps I just want to get your mind your your wheels churning of oh have I been spending a lot of time in the places where the men who are fearful of rejection would be spending their time the low self-esteem men would be spending their time the men who are looking for the easiest possible outcome to Squirtle would be spending their time okay so uh Mad Band said so where should we go I told you guys this a little bit earlier my advice to you if you want the easiest place to go my advice to you would be to go somewhere you enjoy spending time now for some of you you&#39;ll be like I don&#39;t know where I enjoy spending time aha we found the root of your problem okay we found the root of your problem you don&#39;t know what brings you any sort of happiness or enjoyment or fulfillment that you don&#39;t even know where you should go to spend some time and so instead of actively looking for what brings me fulfillment or enjoyment that I can go spend some time doing you&#39;re instead of figuring that out you&#39;re just going right to the dating apps right to the clubs right to the bars thinking hey I&#39;ll just meet someone who&#39;s already ready to meet someone at one of those places but in reality you&#39;re only meeting someone who is looking for the most painless quick and easy path to your Squirtle you&#39;re not actually making your life easier in getting a relationship you&#39;re actually making it harder because most of those men don&#39;t really want a relationship they just want a painless quick path to your Squirtle do you see where I&#39;m going with this so if you&#39;re not sure where you enjoy spending time be for literally just for you then that&#39;s what you should be figuring out I gave you guys this advice and I give you guys this advice all the time this is 2024 you have so much resources at your disposal go on Tik Tok even if you&#39;re on YouTube after this after we have this talk if you&#39;re wondering where to go go on Tik Tok type in things to do in my city if you live in a small City uh type in things to do in whatever the largest city is that&#39;s closest to you things to do in in Toronto things to do in LA things to do in Miami things to do in London things to do in Manchester things to do in Dubai things to do in Nigeria things to do wherever you live right and you will see content creators that post videos about things and places you can go that are interesting that aren&#39;t the club or the bar or even a restaurant okay they will actually show you a bunch of cool interesting unique places that you can go and spend some time that aren&#39;t Club bar restaurant and from there all you have to do is I&#39;m making your life so easy all you have to do is swipe through and scroll through and pick which one pequs your interest okay very very simple I break stuff down for you so it&#39;s hard to it&#39;s hard to mess it up you can&#39;t mess that up if you can&#39;t scroll through and pick something that you enjoy doing and you don&#39;t even have to come up with the ideas then you just don&#39;t want to do it bad enough okay so app anxiety was number one number two was the old days number three skill Gap number four female masculinity number five fear of rejection number six we have microwave men now for those of you who have heard me speak plenty of time and are always here participating in the show you&#39;ve heard me talk about microwave men just hold on a second I&#39;ll explain it for the people who are new here cuz I know there&#39;s always a whole bunch of new people microwave men are men who want the quickest easiest and painless path to Squirtle if you don&#39;t know what Squirtle is use your brain you should be able to come up with an idea of what you think Squirtle is all right if you don&#39;t know what Squirtle is then your Squirtle is probably not squiring it&#39;s probably dry my point being men who are microwave men want the easiest quickest painless most painless path to Squirtle right we talked about the dating apps we talked about the the good old days the old days and how they would have to go about life before they were able to reach out to you on a dating app find you on a dating app find you on Instagram find you just in a place where it&#39;s a lot easier to get access to you right than having to meet you in person okay now this concept has developed what we call today microwave men now microwave men have always existed in uh life&#39;s even before we had dating apps okay it&#39;s not just dating apps or social media that created microwave men microwave men have always existed because there will always be large groups of men who are only looking to deal with you in the quickest and easiest most painless process possible meaning they do not want to put in any effort consistency or effort whether it be approaching you talking to you having a conversation with you being going on a date with you taking you out on a date paying they don&#39;t want to do any of that stuff required in order to get access to you because they&#39;re microwav men the same way when you want food heated up and ready to go as quick and easy as possible you throw it in the microwave because you just press a button and you don&#39;t even have to think about it is the same way these men are looking to just put you in the microwave press a button then then use you and then you&#39;re done okay they want that quick easy painless path they&#39;re not trying to do a whole bunch of meal prep they&#39;re not trying to do a whole bunch of grocery shopping they&#39;re not trying to put a bunch of meals together salt the food SE they just want to put you in the microwave get access to your Squirtle done nowadays I use the air fryer by the way you should be using an air fryer way better experience but that&#39;s beside the point okay microwave men wanted as easy quick and painless as possible and these microwave men are surrounding you because we&#39;re discussing why men never approach you but you don&#39;t realize mic you&#39;re being surrounded by microwav men you&#39;re surrounded you&#39;re in a sea you&#39;re in shark infested waters of microwave men literally swimming around you you&#39;re on a raft and in the middle of the Atlantic ocean swimming and it&#39;s all microwave men around you why because you&#39;re heavy on the dating apps why because you&#39;re always in the club you&#39;re always in the bar why because you&#39;re always in the places where the lowquality men are hanging out going to get mad that is why the men do not approach you you&#39;re in the play men do approach women trust me trust trust trust you me trust you me men do approach women but if you spend all your time around microwave men you will be confused and upset because your belief will be that men do not approach women they do but you need to actively make sure you spend your time in the places where the men are approaching women I&#39;m putting emphasis on specific words so that you can absorb what I&#39;m saying okay very important when you surround yourself with microwave men on the dating apps in the clubs and the bars they&#39;re all only going to want the quickest and easiest most painless painless painless path to your Squirtle as possible okay I&#39;m so I&#39;m so dead serious though right because what else are you expecting from them they didn&#39;t come on the dating app to build a long-term ser serous relationship that takes a lot of effort and work and you know they want to have a magical romantic story if they wanted to have a magical romantic story like the notebook those men would have left their house not got on a dating app and started swiping left or right think about the logic the men do not get on the dating app to make their life harder the men do not get on the dating app to make their life harder I&#39;m going to say it one more time the men do not get on the dating app to make their life harder they get on the dating app or go to the club or go to the bar to make their life [Music] easier they want access to Squirtle they want access to women they want to do that easier not harder which is why they use the Avenue of the dating app they use the Avenue of the club they use the Avenue of the bar because if I&#39;m on the dating app I already know that the only girls I&#39;m going to even talk to are the girls who swiped right on me and I know it&#39;s going to be easy because they&#39;re probably desperate to be in a relationship so easier for me if I go to the club or the bar there&#39;s alcohol involved and I know those girls are probably not coming to the club or the bar they&#39;re coming there because they&#39;re probably single and they&#39;re looking for other people as well on top of that they&#39;re drunk you know they&#39;re out of their mind they&#39;re probably doing some drugs doing this they&#39;re ready to have fun and so what happens now it&#39;s easier for me to get what I want from those women so I&#39;ll spend all my time in the places where my life is made easier right easier easier okay and that&#39;s why microwave men can be so dangerous and so detrimental to to your health because you&#39;ll feel like you&#39;re losing your mind and you&#39;ll also feel like you&#39;re not worth anything and you&#39;re super unattractive because the men aren&#39;t approaching you but the men aren&#39;t approaching you because there are a whole bunch of microwave men that you&#39;re surrounding yourself around and you&#39;re spending all your time with the microwave men you can&#39;t be you can&#39;t literally stand in the path of least resistance and wonder why everyone that comes across you is actively seeking for the path of least resistance you&#39;re in the way of that okay and I know I&#39;m you know super passionate about this but like this is real and I CU I know some of you guys are so confused and I&#39;m like I&#39;m trying to help you understand that you will not be confused anymore okay so number one was app anxiety number two the old days number three we have the skill Gap number four we have Fe we had female masculinity number five was fear of rejection number six was microwav men and number seven we have corn we&#39;ll say say c o r n but you know what I&#39;m referring to I&#39;ll just say pineapple movies so that the algorithm is not confused and doesn&#39;t think I&#39;m saying something that I&#39;m not saying okay pineapple movies okay now you&#39;re probably thinking okay what do pineapple movies how do that how does that even affect men&#39;s desire to approach me well this is actually a really interesting concept this is this is the probably the most complex comp concept out of all of the seven see here&#39;s the thing and this is this is really going to put you in the mind frame of a man this is why this is great it&#39;s great that we have this type of conversation as a man you have to understand there is an energetical energetical is not even word there is an energetic power to retaining your seed okay I know some of you guys might I might lose some of you but try and stay with me there is an energetic power to retaining your seed what I mean by that is when you retain your seed you are after a while you begin to be able to think more clearly why because your focus is no longer on releasing your seed all the time your focus after a while becomes on whatever it is you&#39;re actively trying to pursue the that doesn&#39;t mean you don&#39;t think about pineapples that doesn&#39;t mean you don&#39;t get aroused but your mind frame and mind State begin shifting on what it is on putting that that pineapple energy into your Pursuits as opposed to putting that pineapple energy into whacking and wanking and all that good stuff okay now I say that to say this is going to be a really weird concept maybe some of you might not understand this the pineapple movie Addiction right or just the the consumption of of consistent pineapple movies and releasing yourself to those pineapple movies as a man what happens is something really weird and intriguing after you release yourself to those pineapple movies on a regular basis you actually end up losing the desire to get pineapples in real life I&#39;m it sounds weird you would think oh but he&#39;s doing it so he probably really enjoys pineapples and he&#39;s probably seeking it out more but it&#39;s weird the the idea and the concept of releasing yourself to the pineapple movies over and over again it makes you desire the real thing less that&#39;s why it&#39;s an addiction not even in a good way like it&#39;s an addiction to just the the pineapple movies it&#39;s not an addiction to the real thing and in in the weirdest way it actually makes it harder for you to want the real thing and chase after the real thing because that remember I told you guys the the retention of your seed is energetical power I&#39;m teaching you this like as a man like this is this is actually how what the men feel the retention of your seed is actually energetical power so as you continue to release it to the pineapple movies as a man you actively lose that ability and that desire that hunger that is Natural Instinct inside you to pursue women okay because as you release yourself to the pineapple movies you then go to yourself oh well I&#39;ve released myself to the pineapple movie so I don&#39;t I don&#39;t have the desire to approach women in real life because that&#39;s a lot of work I&#39;ve got to talk to her I&#39;ve been I have to be interesting I have to be charismatic I have to be funny I have to have a good chat all of that is a process just leading up to me releasing myself you know in the process of us having pineapples together when I really could just watch me a couple of pineapple movies and after I watch me a couple of pineapple movies I&#39;ll release myself and I&#39;ll feel good anyways without having to put in all of that effort and so as the men get accustomed to releasing themselves the pineapple movies instead of putting towards effort into having to really approach women they become so used to that and not having to approach women that they no longer have the hunger or desire to approach women because there is a there is a there is an erotic version of the desire and there is a non-erotic version of the desire what I mean by that is part of our Natural Instinct as men is to desire women because we desire pineapples in on subconscious level that subconscious thinking and feeling is actually part of the motivation internally that pushes us to say I find that woman attractive I think she looks good I find her someone that I want to get to know so I&#39;m going to get up out of my chair go and speak to her even though there&#39;s a possibility I might be rejected even though there&#39;s a possibility she might laugh at me even though there&#39;s a possibility this might not work out in my favor my internal motivation is driving me to go and approach her anyways and that internal motivation is really being fed by my desire for pineapples in real life with real women but if my desire for pineapples in real life with real women has been suppressed by me releasing myself to a whole bunch of pineapple movies well now I no longer have that internal motivation to go out and meet and approach women in real life and so that&#39;s where you come in because now you&#39;re frustrated because you&#39;re like damn none of these men ever want to approach me none of these men ever want to come up to me or have a conversation or take initiative why they&#39;re all releasing themselves to the pineapple movies you see you see how that works and then you&#39;re probably thinking well how do I avoid the men who are releasing themselves to Pineapple movies and don&#39;t have that desire again it&#39;s the same concept right obviously you can&#39;t really determine whether a man&#39;s releasing himself a whole bunch to Pineapple movies but you can determine where you spend a lot of your time and energy and you&#39;re available in that you&#39;re careful to not put yourself in a place where a lot of the men who are addicted to Pineapple movies or also want the same easy access right to pineapples would be hanging out and like I said before this is not to say that oh men who are super evolved don&#39;t want pineapples they do they also pursue it the only thing is right in the like I always tell you guys how you do life how you do your relationships there are men who are motivated to chase after and pursue the things that they want in life those men will also chase after and pursue the women they want in life I guarantee you guarantee you okay don&#39;t let any man fool you by convincing you I don&#39;t know how other people talk to you I don&#39;t know what other people you listen to but I would I I be honest with you don&#39;t let men go out there and convince you that oh the successful men don&#39;t chase the successful men are just so secure they&#39;re so focused they don&#39;t chase those men are confused they either they either have the wrong definition of Chase and they&#39;re imagining oh Chase means desperation and crawling on your knees or they&#39;re just ill-informed about themselves in life because yes secure confident amazing rich men do Chase there&#39;s plenty of pro athletes and Millionaires and billionaires who are married are you expecting do you believe do you believe in your mind that liono Messi LeBron James every millionaire and billionaire that ever exist every desirable men on this planet Earth are you telling me all those Rich successful powerful men never took their wife out on a date never tried to court their women never chased after their women in any way shape or form and they just sat back and because they were so rich and amazing and awesome they had all the women chasing after them and the wife that they married was the was the girl that pursued them do you actually believe that because if you don&#39;t believe that and you believe that even the rich successful Men actually had at least a single woman who ended up being their wife that they C and they they desired and they went for and they pursued well then in in that right there is the answer to your question even the rich and powerful and amazing and successful men do Chase they don&#39;t chase every woman but they will chase and pursue the woman that they want so then your mindset only has to be okay how what do those men want don&#39;t worry about what the dating app men that are relevant to you that are Wast of your time want worry about what the rich successful powerful uh protectors and providers who you&#39;re actually seeking for are looking for in a woman that&#39;s where you&#39;re going to be golden and that&#39;s where you should be spending most of your time and energy okay so that is exactly how and why men never approach you nowadays okay does that make sense to you guys are we are we are we of all of the same understanding now do you guys have any more questions as it relates to what we discussed okay what what we discussed uh Sky says exactly what do the rich men want well think about this I&#39;ll give you a concept and I want you to take this concept and run with it if if men are embodying they&#39;re masculine being protectors and providers they&#39;re rich successful and they&#39;re able they don&#39;t need they don&#39;t need anything Financial from you they can take care of themselves they&#39;re self-sufficient what do you think as a woman because I I I don&#39;t feel comfortable telling you hey your value as a woman is this if you know that these men are embodying their masculine they&#39;re being protectors and providers clearly that&#39;s not what they need from you so what do you think are your unique qualities as a woman that you can offer to a man who is successful rich and powerful and has everything that he needs what do you think you can offer to him as a man that he wouldn&#39;t be able to buy or purchase or have access to easily that only you could provide him as a woman and I&#39;m not talking about your Squirtle I&#39;m not talking about your mouth or your hands I&#39;m talking about the emotional and the spiritual so Ponder on that on what you think you can offer to a man that is in that position that he couldn&#39;t just buy or have available to him easily or he can he and that he could only get from you the woman Ponder your mind on that and that will be the answer to your questions okay nor said my myash that&#39;s funny okay uh right does that make sense to you guys uh Lindsay says he keeps telling me he needs space and I can&#39;t do it how do I stop that Lindsay you need to go and ask your question in the Discord um if you are wondering where the Discord is if you&#39;re on Tik Tok you go into my Tik Tok bio and and you click that link open it in browser because sometimes it&#39;s weird open it in browser and then you can go to the relationship advice section in the Discord and ask you a question we&#39;re going to open up the Discord in a little bit I&#39;m going to get a brand deal from Discord I&#39;m telling you guys it&#39;s coming very soon we&#39;re going to step into the Discord where we answer everyone&#39;s uh personal question so for those of you who are wondering whether you&#39;re on YouTube or Tik Tok where you can ask me a personal question or uh about your situation go right into the Discord and we can I&#39;ll answer your question live on air which I&#39;m about to do right now if you&#39;re on YouTube just go down into the link in the description and you&#39;ll be able to find it there I see uh Missy America&#39;s also posted it up in the chat um and then if you&#39;re on Tik Tok just go to the link in my bio and then you can go over there and and join the Discord and ask your question there okay let&#39;s hop into the Discord now because we already have a ton of questions in the Discord to answer and I know you guys love when it&#39;s Discord time it&#39;s Discord time okay we&#39;re going to hop into the Discord and we&#39;re going to answer a bunch of these uh situations and uh you know things that are going on with people I like helping you guys out the swin I know you guys love this part of the show so we&#39;re going to hop into the Discord here okay let&#39;s pull this up perfect we&#39;re in the Discord okay first message is from Miss St Louie okay Miss St Louis says I&#39;ve been single going on two to three years on and off dating however I&#39;ve recently met a gentle gentleman while I was getting my car repaired he asked me for my number uh we exchanged contact information and started spending time together we&#39;ve been on one-on-one dates most times uh most times when we&#39;ve seen each other it was at his home okay that&#39;s not good uh I work overnight and he works during the day so our schedule is never aligned I happened to be listening to one of his colleagues talk one day and she called him a different name from the one provided to me so I left um so that left me with questions fast forward if I&#39;m honest I have a huge problem with only dating one guy at a time because I honestly don&#39;t like talking to uh I don&#39;t like talking to multiple men wait you have a problem with only dating one guy at a time but you don&#39;t like talking to multiple men I&#39;m not sure I&#39;m not sure how what what you mean by that I personally feel like he&#39;s probably dating multiple women which I can&#39;t be upset with because we recently met and haven&#39;t been dating long at all however I&#39;m not sure if I&#39;m doing something wrong I know I&#39;m worthy of love but I&#39;ve never had such a hard time finding someone some one who wants to consistently pursue me and only and be only with me he started off texting every morning and at night on the days uh we didn&#39;t spend together overall he&#39;s a nice guy but I wish he gave uh more effort as he did in the beginning I personally think someone else might have his attention I&#39;m an overthinker and I know this normally uh I&#39;m I and I know this but normally I&#39;m not too far off usually don&#39;t uh know what to do now I just want someone who&#39;s ready for love like I am without games any advice from many thanks in advance I&#39;m not sure here where you said you have a huge problem dating only dating or dating with only one guy at a time but you don&#39;t like talking them M to a man I&#39;m going to assume based on the rest of your message you actually met you have um a problem not just dating one guy at a time because you were talking about how you feel like he is doing dating multiple people and was just like a weird typo um so um I wouldn&#39;t say that you&#39;re necessarily the problem I would say uh it&#39;s quite strange um that uh this girl called him uh a different name uh from the one he provided to you however you also have to keep in mind he could have gave you a nickname he could have gave you his government name he could have gave you anything right cuz you said it was only a few dates that you guys want went on and um so he might have not told you every single thing about himself in that process maybe he just gave you his uh you know his nickname or what whatever it may be and maybe at work those people know him better so they call him by a different name I don&#39;t know if that&#39;s necessarily a super red flag that could come under multiple different contexts right um but uh as aside from that as it relates to the rest of your relationship right I think now you didn&#39;t mention earlier on if during this time while you guys you at his place and stuff like that you didn&#39;t mention if you he were uh sleeping sleeping with him right cuz you said that you guys seen each other uh at his home so that kind of changes a lot and I want you guys to also put your two cents in the live stream chat um I don&#39;t know if Miss St Louis is here listening and watching but I want you guys to also put your two cents in right if you&#39;re sleeping with him at his home and then magically he l loes interest in you after a while well you know we got to be adults here let&#39;s not let&#39;s not be confused why he might lose interest in you after casually sleeping with you um at his house where you know you guys didn&#39;t never have to do anything real for uh dates right you said that you guys went on one-on-one dates but you&#39;ve only mentioned being at his home you didn&#39;t even mention if you guys have went and actually gone out on a date right and uh if that&#39;s the case where you&#39;re only dates have been like at his house not to say that being at his house is the worst thing ever but when you set that precedent and then you set I don&#39;t know if you slept with him or not right you didn&#39;t mention that but um right if you were to set that precedent you you can&#39;t then be confused why it Fizzles out for the guys you know if you&#39;ve listened to me long enough um you understand that in the process of dating right um You there&#39;s a level of Desire that you kind of have to allow the men to continue to have and when you give yourself to him so easily right at the beginning you kind of just it just forces him to not be as um interested in pursuing you learning more about you or growing the relationship naturally because he&#39;s like well I&#39;ve already gotten everything that I could really ever want from you um I already have access to you so what more is there right so I wouldn&#39;t say you&#39;re necessarily the problem I just think that you have to go about your relationships a little bit differently and a little bit more intentional right if you know you&#39;re trying to build a serious long-term relation ship don&#39;t just go right over to his house right like you&#39;re spending time with someone and then you&#39;re saying we go on one-on-one dates and they&#39;re mostly at his house right like be more intentional of the fact you&#39;re trying to grow a relationship with someone and you&#39;re also trying to help him uh be more desired sorry desire you more and see you in a better light not like all the other girls that he meets or comes across right you also have to help him in that that because if you have respect for yourself if you go about relationships differently if you bring a level of seriousness to the relationship and you don&#39;t just let him act any way he wants you don&#39;t just let the relationship be super casual well then now it forces him to say oh if I want to mess with her I got to take this serious if I want to mess with her I&#39;ve got to bring a level of seriousness and professionalism to the relationship and intentionality to the relationship or else she&#39;s not going to mess with me right so that&#39;s my advice to you uh next we have here uh we have notorious notorious says feeling over it notorious says uh I female 30 met a 28-year-old male it started out so intense with him showing so much interest in even bringing up marriage I pretty much fell hard for this guy and oh let me actually do this let me never mind uh it&#39;s been Hot and Cold going on 3 years and now every time I try to move on it&#39;s like he send is that and pulls me back in and the cycle continues okay for the past 9 months I have been distant as I decided to focus on my children and my online business good good good uh we saw each other about a month ago and when he came for a sleepover you dirty girl uh a few days ago he um and a few days ago he snapped me saying he lost my number how did he get a new phone it&#39;s like the third time now and hasn&#39;t changed his phone number he probably deleted your number and yes uh we&#39;ve had pineapples and we were uh I think you might say exclusive beforehand then broke it off because he was playing games now it&#39;s just the intense on and off situationship I was getting bored with this dragging on so I posted uh up a guy&#39;s pick that I liked so I posted up a guy&#39;s pick that liked me on snap he&#39;s a model very fit body and handsome too next day um the guy I I liked snapped me saying if that&#39;s my new man I feel so toxic for doing that uh but I&#39;m lost uh questions so why does he keep coming back even if uh and even asking for my number saying he lost it and what do I do uh even though am not the one ever reaching out I do have strong feelings for him but starting to feel bored and it&#39;s not progressing new to this Channel and group so starting to learning starting learning all of this okay so my advice to you notorious right is uhwe just said it leave that man alone okay you clearly this is what I this is one thing that I have to make clear to you guys this whole idea that you&#39;re going to be in a relationship with a man and for 3 4 years two 5 8 9 10 months he&#39;s not going to see your worth and he&#39;s not going to treat you how you deserve to be treated or treat the relationship how deserve to be treated and you&#39;re waiting like especially in your specific situation notorious like it&#39;s been 3 years so he&#39;s had three years to um work this out in his mind whether or not he actually wants to be in a relationship with you for real clearly he&#39;s come to the decision that he doesn&#39;t because if he did he would have done it by now it&#39;s been 3 years so this hot and cold thing should be a clear sign to you that he&#39;s not interested in actually building a real relationship with you if he was interested in that he would have done it by now very clear and I say that to say once you come to that realization you also have to accept the fact that any other time spent invested in him or this situation is a waste of your own time and I mean you wasting your own time him doing this three years back and forth thing is you wasting your own time after the first 3 months that you realized this was going on you should have come to the conclusion this is not progressing in any positive or forward Direction I&#39;m not happy with where this relationship is standing I&#39;m going to move forward with my life all the time you spent after that first three months where he showed you what it was was you wasting your own time expecting something to change or hoping something would change or maybe you just felt like you had no better options right and so you say you&#39;re feeling over it but then actually be over it and when I say be over it like get rid of his number like you don&#39;t even have to block him but just you delete his number by the way him telling you that he lost your number is actually not him losing your number one of two things are happening either he&#39;s just deleting it because he literally cares so little about you or in the time span that he loses it he starts talking to a new girl he don&#39;t want you texting him he don&#39;t want you calling him he don&#39;t want you contacting him he don&#39;t even want no girl that he&#39;s talking to seeing you on his phone that&#39;s how lit he thinks about you so my point being is this guy does not care about you truthfully right that&#39;s why he&#39;s been letting this go on for 3 years and you&#39;re allowing it to happen which is why he continues it for 3 years because when he needs you or when it&#39;s convenient for him he&#39;ll show up and be like hey let&#39;s do a thing and you&#39;re dumb enough to be like sure we&#39;ll do the thing and then he goes about his business after he&#39;s done doing the thing with you so this is your fault that it&#39;s lasted 3 years not his fault because you&#39;re the one saying hey use me take advantage of me and that&#39;s exactly what he&#39;s doing because he wants to get what he wants so you&#39;re saying you&#39;re feeling over it but actually be over it which means move forward don&#39;t text him again don&#39;t call him again don&#39;t have his number saved don&#39;t have his pictures in your phone don&#39;t have his memories saved on Snapchat don&#39;t contact him don&#39;t like his stories don&#39;t respond to his replies or anything like that actually genuinely move on with your life if you need to block him to actually move on then do that but you&#39;re wasting all your time um by continuing that relationship okay next we have uh bubble I think uh bubble was from a no this is a brand new one okay so uh bubble says uh bubble says hey what&#39;s your advice to find balance uh on early stage right uh like how to show enough interest uh that not too much to the point he&#39;s uh comfortable and stops trying or loses interest I can&#39;t find the right action or energy between show too much interest and trying to play a cool uh which turned into uh not showing interest at all these situations happened multiple times with several guys one person at a time and no Pineapples uh show too much interest I mean the the one started planning uh when to meet again cuz I thought he also likes me that should be fine I you I used made cookies used to make cookies for a guy after a second date and used to surprise a guy with flowers on early stage first few dates you you used to surprise a guy with flowers that&#39;s Insanity that that&#39;s that is insanity okay um in some cases I&#39;m I&#39;m sorry that&#39;s just so crazy and in some cases I&#39;m trying to play a cool uh like I&#39;ll never reach out first reply with uh such short or just Emoji even ignore a text for a day not show my emotions when I&#39;m mad uh and a at a guy I just end up we just end up ghosting each other I often ask myself was that my fault what if I show him a bit of Interest I have no trouble uh I have no trouble letting men who&#39;s not into me go but I don&#39;t want uh want to question myself after I always go I always have these question was I too cold was I too much could I could uh could it turn out to be a great relationship if I did uh as I mentioned before these happened so many times for a few years I can&#39;t find the right balance I&#39;ll I&#39;ll be really appreciative of your advice I downloaded Discord just for you thanks for all the information you&#39;re amazing thank you bubble for the great um question so my advice to you um would be the balance is you have to understand I talked about this uh I think a couple live streams ago um the balance really is helping the men understand that you do want to speak to them you do want to hang out with them you do want to see them but you would love to do it in person because you&#39;re just too busy you got a lot going on you can&#39;t really be on the phone texting a whole bunch that way right and you make that clear so that that way when you don&#39;t text him or you don&#39;t reply for for a couple of hours or maybe even a whole day that he can understand it&#39;s not because you don&#39;t like him it&#39;s simply because you&#39;re a more of an in-person person that allows them to not take as much offense to it it also motivates them to say hey if I really like you then I&#39;ve got to actually put an effort into planning a date that we can see each other in person and then when they do uh get to experience the date with you let them see that hey I&#39;ve been excited for this hey I&#39;m happy to be here hey I enjoy that&#39;s why I say you better come to the dates with good energy right don&#39;t have a whole bunch of don&#39;t have the worst day of your life and then come to the date miserable let him feel that positive feedback loop of hey when I plan the dates when I go out with her and we spend some time together in person I get a great response from her and I get the best version of her if I&#39;m trying to be her texting buddy I&#39;m not really going to get the best version of her because she&#39;s not going to be my texting buddy and as time goes on and you set that groundwork the guys Begin to Fall line and understand hey she actually does like me she&#39;s interested in invested in this relationship I just got to make sure we get to see each other more and plan for that as opposed to trying to text her all the time or SnapChat her all the time that&#39;s the balance there okay you don&#39;t have to be all extreme never responding to him or any of his message and things you&#39;re un interested you also shouldn&#39;t be showing up on the first couple of dates and buying a guy flowers that&#39;s insan that is one of the craziest things I&#39;ve ever heard that&#39;s Insanity you&#39;re taking a guy completely out of his is ability to chase you when you&#39;re showing up to the first or second date with flowers and that&#39;s Insanity that is insanity never do that again please never do that again that but there&#39;s a balance in between that and I just explained it to you so that&#39;s my advice to you okay next we have here uh we just did bubble um next we have here car bear okay care bear says I need a strategy help she says hi love the show I work at a buzzing restaurant where my affluent families where affluent families frequent so affluent just means Rich guys uh I&#39;ve recently become interested in a regular who lives across the street he is divorced and a total player okay where are we going with this often times he comes in with his parents they love me and he talks about wanting to find a nice girl but 90% of the girls aren&#39;t aren&#39;t crap uh I&#39;ve seen the caliber of women and he brings on dates so it isn&#39;t shocking he would say that recently I ran into him at a bar on my day off he invited me to join him and his friends for drinks the energy was fun and playful he openly commented on my body which I expected from him and in conversation offered me one of his parking spots if I ever needed it we later exchanged numbers and he invited me to his house for a night cap I agreed but I did not give him pineapples in fact I cut the night short and the next uh day over text thanked uh him for a fun night I&#39;ve served him um at my work a couple of times since keeping things super casual and playful how do I get him to ask me on a real date how do I get him to chase me like a drug addict especially when I served him and his parents two or three times a week okay this is great you&#39;re actually kber you&#39;re in a great situation in terms of um like like the relationship Dynamic you have done what you needed to do in terms of presenting yourself as a respectable woman I wouldn&#39;t have said go over to his place the first time but you did it but at the end of the day you didn&#39;t have pineapples so that&#39;s fine you still had some respect for yourself you can see you respect yourself now you&#39;re in a great position where you don&#39;t have to do anything this is where I know for a lot of you guys you guys get anxiety because you think the world is running away from you and if the boy doesn&#39;t ask you on a date in the next 30 seconds that your life is over I want you to understand especially the position that you&#39;re in carebear he is going to come in there and see you regardless so it&#39;s not like he&#39;s going to forget of your existence after the first time you guys hung out and if he doesn&#39;t immediately text you and ask you out on the second date that it&#39;s over I want you to just allow it to cook okay allow it to marinate allow his feelings for you allow him to come to the conclusion damn you know I had a good time with her and I really enjoyed my time with her I want to see her again allow him to come into the he knows you work at the restaurant okay allow him to come into the restaurant see you again and say damn I kind of do like her she is really interesting right and in the process of that he&#39;ll come to his own conclusion that I want to take her out on a date I want to spend some more time with her and then he will ask you out on a date don&#39;t be so um full of anxiety because you started to feel some things for this guy that you&#39;re like pushing thinking that you got to really do something to make the you you&#39;ve already established that he likes you he&#39;s interested in you when he wanted to see you what happened happened he invited you out for drinks you see how that works let him come to his own conclusion that he&#39;s interested in you and let him continue to invite you places just be patient he lives across the street he will be back at the restaurant this not the last time you&#39;re going to see him it&#39;s not the last time he&#39;s going to see you it&#39;s not the last time he&#39;s going to think of you just keep working at your restaurant keep doing your thing you don&#39;t even need to reach out to him that&#39;s the that&#39;s why I said you&#39;re in the best position you don&#39;t need to post anything you don&#39;t need to text him at all you don&#39;t need to Snapchat at all he knows where you work he knows where to find you and he lives right across the street he will be back to the restaurant and he will see you again so if he&#39;s really interested in you I guarantee you when he&#39;s ready to see you he will invite you out again just be patient okay literally as crazy as it sounds in your situation you don&#39;t need to do anything keep doing exactly what you&#39;re doing and don&#39;t give up any pineapples let him right he&#39;s coming from an affluent family so he&#39;s got money he&#39;s got access to women let him come to his own conclusion that all the women who are chasing after him or want to be his girl because he&#39;s got a little bit of money right let him come to the conclusion that the girl he wants works at the restaurant across the street and he wants to invite her out for dinner let him come to that conclusion you don&#39;t have to do anything but sit and not sit but work at your restaurant keep working at your restaurant he knows where where to find you he knows how to how to get contact with you if he really needed to and he will do that if he wants to you don&#39;t have to do anything else let it cook let it cook that&#39;s all you need to do uh C Bear says need your urgent help she says I&#39;m glad to find by the way guys if you guys ever have some advice for any of the people that I answer their questions or any past ones in the relationship advice form please feel free to answer them you can also send them a message as well okay in the form and help them if you&#39;ve been through a similar situation okay uh C Bear says I&#39;m glad to find this place I just need uh help at this point I&#39;ve been in a relationship with uh a guy he&#39;s 32 I&#39;m 30 it&#39;s been a year and a half I haven&#39;t met any of his friends or his family uh he has a child and I&#39;ve met him he asked me to meet my family so I introduced uh so I introduced them he got divorced in a in Spring of 2023 but we separated um for real but we separated oh for ex-wife for year prior he divorced in Spring but was separated or from oh sorry but was separated from ex-wife for a year prior sorry about that guys my problem is recently I asked him to introduce me to at least his best friends and I want to be a part of his life more I gave him an ultimatum recently about this and I&#39;m waiting to see if he will to me it&#39;s either there&#39;s another woman which I doubt or he&#39;s uh worried about what his friends and family will say because he just got divorced he told me he&#39;s not ready and thinks he&#39;s worried about what people will think we&#39;re also a biracial couple that actually plays a huge role and maybe his family is racist are you the black one or the white one uh they&#39;re really they&#39;re really affluent white family okay so you&#39;re the black one am I making a a big deal I really don&#39;t think there&#39;s another woman I&#39;ve done my spying and snooping I feel like he&#39;s depressed about everything he&#39;s been drinking a lot more what do I do I talked to a dating Guru and he told me meeting his family and friends don&#39;t mean anything but it does to me I don&#39;t want to be a it to be a secret okay I will I&#39;m not a dating expert okay so those people that claim to be a dating Guru I&#39;m just a regular guy with a regular perspective in my own perspective I do think in the process of dating someone especially for a year and a half um like like meeting the parents or at least the friends the siblings like that should happen I don&#39;t like that&#39;s a bit weird and secretive however in this particular scenario I do think it&#39;s worthy to note that he&#39;s been divorced recently and yes I mean if he&#39;s just been divorced that can be difficult for him to say I just got divorced and this is the new girl right that can be a little bit embarrassing that can be a little bit shameful and you never know what his parents are like that you know for them maybe depending on if they&#39;re religious or not that might be a big deal that he even got divorced in the first place right you so there&#39;s a process of like he ALS first of all he has to heal someone said I love you for being you said he&#39;s like he&#39;s got to heal from the divorce and sometimes sometimes you know people start as soon as they break up they they find a new person to project their feelings onto so that they don&#39;t have to think about it um and then on top of that right there&#39;s also a period for his family and stuff like they have to understand like he just got divorced and for him to just bring another woman around right after getting divorced right you have you also have to be mindful of that&#39;s a little bit unfair um well first of all he shouldn&#39;t have even gotten into a relationship not being ready but it is a little bit unfair that like you know he might not be ready to just come out and be like hey this is a new girl right getting divorce can also be scarring in the sense that he might be like damn is this relationship going to last long enough that if I introduce her to my parents that it&#39;s not going to just end like my divorce did and then I&#39;ll be embarrassed again you understand what I&#39;m saying so there might be a reluctancy to introduce you simply for that aspect as well the other thing I would take into account is being a biracial couple if his last wife was the same race as him or just not black right then that might be a little bit of an adjustment for him and not just being divorced from his last wife but then also having you as the new girl that he&#39;s with and having to figure out how he&#39;s going to introduce this new girl who&#39;s completely the opposite uh from his old girl you know what I mean that is also an adjustment period that I won&#39;t say that to give him an excuse but just to be mindful of that reality as you are in this uh relationship as to why he might be doing the things that you&#39;re doing especially if you find yourself in a situation where you&#39;re saying you don&#39;t think that it&#39;s um another woman because you&#39;ve already done your spying and snooping and you don&#39;t suspect that you understand what I&#39;m saying uh Vicki says you just a rebound he needs to adjust and be single I mean I agree to a certain extent right um he got divorced in oh oh my God he got divorced in Spring of 2023 I didn&#39;t I didn&#39;t even really take that part in so basically what you&#39;re telling me is uh if you&#39;ve guys been in a relationship right it&#39;s been a year and a half right and you guys got he got divorced in Spring of 2023 we&#39;re in Spring of 2024 now so I&#39;m assuming you this kind of overlapped here right cuz we&#39;re in Spring of 2024 and if you got divorced in Spring of 2023 that means you guys kind of had an overlapping relationship um even regardless of that right that means there was no grieving period for him when I say grieving period I just mean a period in which he can actually think to himself okay my relationship&#39;s actually over like I&#39;m actually divorced and why did I get divorced and and how did I get divorced and now I&#39;m s like I like based on the timeline you just gave me he literally had no period of being single he literally went from a divorce to being in a relationship with you so like that&#39;s not really a healthy way I&#39;m not here to tell anyone how to live their life but I don&#39;t think that that&#39;s a healthy way to go about relationships where you go L literally from a div like there&#39;s no there&#39;s no time off literally from a divorce right into the relationship not even uh any off time like seems like you guys had some sort of plan and he got divorced and you guys were already in an ongoing relationship because that&#39;s the only way this timeline makes sense if it&#39;s been a year and a half and this was spring 2023 that he got divorced so that was I have to get I have to put some responsibility and accountability on you as well that was poor decisionmaking to not allow him because he&#39;s in a position where he&#39;s weak right he just got out of the divorce so he&#39;s already looking to project his feelings onto someone new so doesn&#39;t have to think about it but for you to not even give him the time as well to be like hey I want to be in a relationship with you too but I also want you to take some time to heal from this like that was a mistake on your part and that&#39;s part of the reason you&#39;re finding yourself in this situation right now you know because you can&#39;t give someone no time off from a divorce and then expect them to just continue a relationship with you as if nothing else ever happened right like that&#39;s so uh that&#39;s insane that&#39;s insane so my honest advice to you is I think you have a lot to figure out as it relates to um if he&#39;s even emotionally and spiritually ready for a relationship right now um because he&#39;s had no time off he hasn&#39;t even had time to process his own divorce right like that&#39;s that&#39;s not a position you want your partner to be in that you&#39;re trying to build a relationship with right you&#39;re trying to build a new Fresh relationship with him and he has had no time to process his divorce so so um my advice to you would honestly be I think you need to give him if you want the the healthy approach I think you need to give him some time to just even figure out his feelings of the last relationship that he was the last marriage that he was in you need to give him some time to think about that before you start worrying about what he is or isn&#39;t doing in your relationship okay that&#39;s my honest advice to you because this no time off thing that&#39;s that&#39;s not no way to live okay that&#39;s not no way to live that&#39;s my advice to you okay guys that&#39;s the show for today for those of you guys who may have asked me a question and might not have gotten your question answered yet in the chat don&#39;t worry we&#39;ll be back at this tomorrow uh um right 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why don&amp;#39;t men approach you anymore or approach women in general is it because we&amp;#39;re too shy or too nervous or even worse is it because you&amp;#39;ve been doing something that you didn&amp;#39;t even realize was pushing us away the answer is actually quite complicated and shocking so we&amp;#39;re going to discuss seven reasons which include app anxiety the old days the skill Gap female masculinity the fear of rejection microwave men and even corn addiction as to why men never approach you anymore from a man&amp;#39;s perspective of course and how you can actually reverse that so that the men are coming up to you left and right and begging for your number welcome to the Players Club if you&amp;#39;re here with me and you&amp;#39;re paying attention to me and everyone else in the live stream please say here or present so that I know you&amp;#39;re here you&amp;#39;re present and you&amp;#39;re actively participating in the live stream and we&amp;#39;ll get started okay welcome you guys happy Monday or Tuesday depending on where you are uh I think sh was first to say here today uh we got Enlighten a here we got Missy America uh we got uh who we got we got me melen Molina is back as well sh of course we got Sharice of course uh where&amp;#39;s where&amp;#39;s Ranna was she not first to St here today Welcome All of You Beautiful People and welcome back Patia of course welcome to those of you who are coming back again this is like this is like the best the best time of the day the best time of the day during the week okay let&amp;#39;s get started here and of course we&amp;#39;ll have lots to talk about throughout the live stream okay so we&amp;#39;ll get started with app anxiety okay we&amp;#39;ve talked about dating apps plenty a time in this show Span in this short in this Show&amp;#39;s short lifespan and the reason I want to discuss app anxiety is because I don&amp;#39;t think you realize as a woman how app anxiety is actually playing a role in why the men aren&amp;#39;t approaching you nowadays truthfully app anxiety and I know when you hear that you&amp;#39;re like what it kind of makes sense but I don&amp;#39;t really get it but what does it really mean what are you really referring to app anxiety is referring to the idea that now that we have social media apps now that the guys are used to being able to contact you all over social media being able to DM you being able to uh talk to you on dating apps we&amp;#39;re going to get to dating apps of course they now are so used to being able to communicate and reach out to you and get access to you through those apps it creates a subconscious anxiety of the actual real in-person meeting as weird as it sounds how many of you feel like when you think about going and there&amp;#39;s nothing wrong with this we&amp;#39;re all human okay but when you think about going on a date with someone or when you think about meeting the person you&amp;#39;ve been texting whether it be on the dating app or just online when you think about meeting them in person and spending iners time with them how many of you get a little bit nervous at that idea tell me in the live chat I told you guys we be participating here tell me if you get nervous at the idea of actually having to go out on this date and meet that person and spend some time with them go out with them even if it&amp;#39;s something casual like going to the movies or going bowling or going on a picnic whatever it may be just the idea of actually having to meet them in person gives you anxiety I see Sharice says me I see uh miss a Louie says no okay Miss Lou she different uh color uh says me as well Lily says uh first time first time right it could be a first time or your first couple times sh says no I was never nervous okay uh we have enlightening she says yes in the YouTube chat we got Miss KY uh says hey hey hey back how are you um a Valeria Valyrian goddess says me okay so and the reason I ask you guys that and trust me I&amp;#39;ve been there as well okay I&amp;#39;m still there sometimes the reason I ask you guys that is because I want you to understand before we had all our social media apps we didn&amp;#39;t have that well we could have had still had anxiety but there wasn&amp;#39;t as much anxiety because we understood consciously that that was the only way we were going to meet people that was the only way we were going to communicate with people and we had nothing to compare it to and so for a lot of us that have grown up with technology grown up with social media apps and now we&amp;#39;re very used to dating apps and Tinder and and uh you know Instagram and all that good stuff and our ability to be able to contact and reach out to people through that we have subconsciously become more comfortable in that more comfortable approaching people right through through social media through texting through snapchat right and because we become so comfortable approaching people through that Avenue instead of in person it gives us that much more anxiety when we actually think about oh I was texting you and it was cool we were Snapchatting and it was cool because I could just sit on my couch and not really have to think about having real conversation with you but now that I actually have to meet you in real life this is nerve-wracking I don&amp;#39;t know if I can do this what am I going to say what am I going to ask what am I going to what we going to talk about what what what is our what is our relationship going to look like are we going to be interesting to each other are we going to be funny are we is it going to be awkward right and a lot of us have spent a lot of time and we&amp;#39;ll talk about the skill Gap in a little bit of course but a lot of us are spent a lot of our time now building up our skills on our apps on our dating apps on our uh on texting on Snapchat we we&amp;#39;ve built our skills especially as men in being able to communicate on these apps that now when we actually have to go into the real world world we have so much anxiety of actually having to be with someone in real life and have a real discussion with them and so you&amp;#39;re probably wondering okay so the app anxiety how is that playing a role in guys not wanting to approach me well because of that app anxiety that anxiety that they get from the fact that they&amp;#39;re so used to only talking to women over the phone that they they haven&amp;#39;t really practiced the skill set to be able to approach them in person well now that you&amp;#39;re in person whether it be because he&amp;#39;s never seen you on a dating app this is the first and only time he&amp;#39;ll see you or you know he&amp;#39;s just at an event whatever it may be right now that he&amp;#39;s finally seeing you in real life and it requires the skill set of being able to strike conversation in real life a lot of these guys and I I&amp;#39;m not saying that cuz I&amp;#39;m better than them I&amp;#39;m saying that cuz I&amp;#39;m one of them a lot of these guys find it difficult to actually muster up the courage to go up to you and speak speak to you because they&amp;#39;re so accustomed to only having to meet and speak to women over the phone this is why I always tell you guys that your main focus shouldn&amp;#39;t be about meeting the best texter or the best snapchatter right because I know for a lot of you that put a lot of um uh onus on the idea that hey I want someone who&amp;#39;s going to communicate with me all the time I want someone who&amp;#39;s going to talk to me 24/7 I want someone who&amp;#39;s going to text me back in 35 seconds because that&amp;#39;s going to keep me interested that&amp;#39;s going to make me feel uh validated that&amp;#39;s going to make me feel like he&amp;#39;s giving me attention but in reality the guys who are giving you right all this great attention over text they&amp;#39;re texting you back in 30 seconds one of two things are happening okay usually what&amp;#39;s happening is that he&amp;#39;s texting you and he&amp;#39;s such a great textor because he&amp;#39;s not very good in person and he&amp;#39;s built up the skill set to be a great texter because he&amp;#39;s compensating for the fact that he&amp;#39;s not very good in person okay and that&amp;#39;s the honest truth and then what secondly is happening also is that the reason he would even have enough time to be texting you all throughout the day is probably because he doesn&amp;#39;t have much going on for himself okay and E either of those two possibilities are not good for you you don&amp;#39;t want a man who has nothing going for himself and you also don&amp;#39;t want a man who&amp;#39;s only texting you and being the best most interesting textor simply because he&amp;#39;s not good at anything else because at the end of the day you&amp;#39;re not going to be in a relationship with the best texter or the best uh DM the best meme sender the best Tik Tok video sender the best snapchatter or none of that is what you&amp;#39;re going to be in a relationship with you&amp;#39;re going to be in a relationship with the man who you have the best connection with in person in person you following me so far are you following me so far it&amp;#39;s very important that you understand how this app anxiety is playing a role to your detriment even and uh why these men are too nervous too shy too anxious to actually approach you in person because by the time he spent all his time building up the skills to be a great um uh funny interesting guy on text over these apps they forget that that&amp;#39;s not what the relationship consists of and for a lot of us that forget that and put all our energy into being the best textor being the best app user being the best uh hinge dater we forget that there&amp;#39;s actually a second component to hinge dating and app dating and texting that that you&amp;#39;re actually supposed to meet that person in real life and you&amp;#39;re actually going to have to build that skill up in real life this is why I also tell you guys because I know you guys also want to learn how you can avoid this and this can stop happening to you if you&amp;#39;ve ever wondered why the men don&amp;#39;t approach you you have to get your put yourself in a place where these men with all this anxiety to actually come up to you that don&amp;#39;t have the courage that don&amp;#39;t have the confidence to come up to you because they&amp;#39;re too busy hiding behind the apps you have to be in the places where these men don&amp;#39;t hang out and where are the places that these men don&amp;#39;t hang out all the places in person that aren&amp;#39;t low quality and what I mean by low quality is first obviously not on a dating app right because that&amp;#39;s not in person and not at a club or a bar right most of the men who have this app anxiety who are too nervous to actually come up to you and speak to you and hold a real conversation that has substance most of those men who can&amp;#39;t do that are hanging out on the dating apps or hanging out at the clubs or hanging out at the bars I&amp;#39;m not saying that to say oh if you go to a club or a bar you&amp;#39;re the worst person ever I just want you to understand why you constantly feel like you&amp;#39;re coming across the same type of men and you&amp;#39;re sitting back and you&amp;#39;re like is it just me or do the men never come up and approach women nowadays or take initiative nowadays or have anything interesting to say or even are charismatic or you know have confidence in themselves it seems like they&amp;#39;re all so feminine they&amp;#39;re all just sitting back waiting for me to approach them or say something to them right there are confident men there are secure men but the real ity of it is a lot of them don&amp;#39;t spend too much time in the club they don&amp;#39;t spend too much time at the bar and they damn sure don&amp;#39;t spend their time on dating apps because why would they they don&amp;#39;t need to because they have the skill set and we&amp;#39;ll talk about skill set in a little bit they have the skill set to be able to be interesting and charismatic in person that they don&amp;#39;t need to the dating apps in order to I guess you could say get women in order to be interesting to women in order to conversate with women and build a connection with them and I say that to say you have to also Focus your your attention on where am I spending my time am I spending it in the places where the men who are using social media apps as a crutch would be hanging out because if that&amp;#39;s the case then you can&amp;#39;t be confused why you only meet the men who can&amp;#39;t seem to build up or muster up the courage to come up to you and have a conversation with you I know a lot of you sometimes ask me the question well you&amp;#39;re giving me advice Thomasson but your advice wouldn&amp;#39;t even work on an insecure mat your advice wouldn&amp;#39;t even work on a shy guy or your advice wouldn&amp;#39;t even work on a quiet guy you know not all guys are going to be like that I I I&amp;#39;m I&amp;#39;m sorry I&amp;#39;m maybe I&amp;#39;m mistaken I didn&amp;#39;t think we were trying to help you attract a insecure man I didn&amp;#39;t know that we were trying to help you attract you know men who have low confidence in themselves I didn&amp;#39;t know that we were trying to help you attract men who have low self-esteem I didn&amp;#39;t think that I wasn&amp;#39;t under the impression that that&amp;#39;s what we were trying to do for you that&amp;#39;s I didn&amp;#39;t I didn&amp;#39;t know that that&amp;#39;s where we were here together okay I&amp;#39;m under the impression that you&amp;#39;re trying to attract confident secure men who can actually protect and provide for you and if you&amp;#39;re going to do that then you also have to identify him what are The Confident secure men doing and also you have to identify what are The Confident secure men not doing okay and so that&amp;#39;s the reason I bring up app anxiety as number one because that app anxiety is playing a large role for a lot of men that become too overly obsessed too put too much emphasis on these dating apps on on the texting on the over the phone that they don&amp;#39;t have any emphasis put towards how are they holding and building Connection in real life how are they able to be interesting in conversation with the stranger right they&amp;#39;re not building that skill set and we&amp;#39;ll talk about that literally in in in a couple of points here why that skill Gap is so large nowadays okay so number one is app anxiety okay number two we have the old days so I&amp;#39;m going to tell you guys a story let&amp;#39;s just imagine the old days okay when I say the old days I simply mean before we had social media before you could DM someone before you could find them on Facebook all that good stuff I&amp;#39;m talking about when we only had cell phones or landlines we were land lines were still a thing okay so let&amp;#39;s imagine back in the day in the old days for us now where let&amp;#39;s say you went to a diner and you went to a diner with your friends and you were from out of town so you came to this Diner from out of town you sat down at this diner with your friends and you guys are enjoying some milkshakes some fries some burgers it&amp;#39;s like a hangout spot and you know when you sit down at the diner you can see across the diner a guy and his group of friends looking at you and you see one guy in particular who&amp;#39;s eyeing you down at this Diner and so you think to yourself what&amp;#39;s with you what&amp;#39;s what&amp;#39;s your what&amp;#39;s his problem and you&amp;#39;re kind of whispering to your friends and you see him he&amp;#39;s whispering to his friends you see him he&amp;#39;s talking to his friends you&amp;#39;re like is he talking about me is he is he looking over here is he is he talking about my friend what&amp;#39;s what&amp;#39;s what&amp;#39;s he talking talking about right and you&amp;#39;re kind of just wondering is he trying to come up to me like what&amp;#39;s going on and so you enjoy your milkshake and your fries with the rest of your friends and you guys have a good time and so you&amp;#39;re leaving the diner after you guys enjoy yourselves and right as you&amp;#39;re about to walk out of the diner you feel the grab of your hand of your wrist from behind you and you look behind you and it&amp;#39;s the guy who was sitting across from you and staring at you this entire time at this Diner and so he kind of like well uh you know I I I you must not be from here because I&amp;#39;ve never seen you around in this Diner before and you go to him and you&amp;#39;re like no yeah I&amp;#39;m from out of town yeah my name&amp;#39;s Daisy um nice to meet you and he&amp;#39;s like well real nice to meet you um you know I i&amp;#39; I&amp;#39;ve never seen a girl as beautiful as you before at you know in town and I just I don&amp;#39;t know if I&amp;#39;d ever see you again so I just thought you know I had to come up here and ask you know if you if I could have your number and maybe we could go out sometime and so you start blushing because you&amp;#39;re like oh well that&amp;#39;s that&amp;#39;s that&amp;#39;s so sweet you want to take me out on a date he&amp;#39;s like yeah you know I I would love to right and so you give him your real number your real phone number and then you go home and you&amp;#39;re thinking maybe he forgot about it maybe he doesn&amp;#39;t remember and later that night you hear the ring of your landline cuz remember this back in the day of your landline and you go and you pick up your landline and you hear him on the phone say hey hey Daisy how&amp;#39;s it going you know I I really enjoyed seeing at the diner I was hoping maybe we could set up going out on a date you know this Thursday is that possible like in the next couple days I could come pick you up at 8:00 and you&amp;#39;re like sure you come pick me up at 8:00 and so Thursday come he pulls up right he pulls up on you on Thursday night and he picks you up right at 8:00 and he takes you to a really nice restaurant and by the time you and him are sitting at that table at that restaurant he had to go through multi multiple different steps to get here to this point where he can have you sitting in front of him at this restaurant right he had to see you in the diner he had to acknowledge that he thinks you&amp;#39;re beautiful in that same moment he only had 30 40 minutes to decide okay I know I want to talk to this girl I know I need to get her number on the spot because I&amp;#39;m never going to see her again if she leaves this Diner so now I have to come up with something interesting and witty be funny be charismatic go go up to her make a joke not be awkward and talk to her in a way where I can convince her to give her to for her to give me her for her to give out her number to me that I can call her and set up a date because I really really want this girl and so even when he did that he still had to go home call you hope that you answer set up this time with you all that good stuff right and then by the time you guys finally get on this date he had to put in so much work into trying to present himself the best way that he can get you out on this date that you guys are having a good time and enjoying each other&amp;#39;s company and I say all that to say you have to understand how a guy is going to Value you because of how much effort was put into just getting you here in front of him and so you&amp;#39;re probably thinking okay how does that example relate to why men never approach me now well when you think about the amount of effort I just gave in that example as to how much work it took just to get you out on this date sitting at this dinner table right in front of him and then you think to yourself okay well nowadays how much effort would it take for a guy to get you out on a date regularly average and when you think about the idea it&amp;#39;s really nothing like I just described in the old days it&amp;#39;s a lot more like he swipes left and right on 300 women and then after 325 women he sees your picture he looks at your picture for maybe m 40 45 seconds he Scrolls through four or five pictures maybe he reads a bio he probably skims the bio and then he makes a decision on ah you know she&amp;#39;s just above mid enough for me to want to actually take my finger and swipe right on her and when he swipes right on you he realizes he matches you he messages you a couple of messages because he already knows you&amp;#39;re interested in him he says hey you want to go out on a date sure we go out on a date he comes to that date and by the time he gets on that date with you before you show up on the date he&amp;#39;s probably swiping on 30 300 other women and you guys have the date he kind you know is here there thinking about all the other messages he has going on all the other people he has to talk to he probably doesn&amp;#39;t even remember everything you guys talked or messaged about because he&amp;#39;s been messaging you along with 25 other women and then in the process of him uh uh having this date with you as soon as you leave this date he&amp;#39;s swiping left and right on 300 other women so I say that to say the mindset that men bring to to the table is a function of how many options are at their disposal and before if you met a a pretty girl there was a good chance you would never see that girl ever again in your life and that part that realization motivated men to actually get up out of their chair to see a woman that they like and actually go up to her and approach her start flirting try to be interesting because the understanding was hey I&amp;#39;m not just going to see another beautiful woman in the next 30 minutes hey I&amp;#39;m not just going to see another beautiful woman in you know by swiping left or right I actually have to pursue the women I see and I find attractive or I think or is interesting and I have to go after them okay right and that realization is what pushed the men to actually approach the women that they wanted now Vice fast forward in today&amp;#39;s age because of all the options because of the apps because of the uh whether it be dating apps all the all the ways that they have access to you their mindset is more on oh well there&amp;#39;s another one or there&amp;#39;s so much more like them she&amp;#39;s just like one of 300 I always talk to you guys about dating apps and I know you guys are saying that it&amp;#39;s freezing hopefully it&amp;#39;s back for you guys on Tik Tok okay uh is YouTube having issues too if YouTube&amp;#39;s having issues then we have problems s okay now the reason I bring up the old days is because I know that for most of you guys you&amp;#39;re probably thinking to yourself well how do I actually stop that and prevent that of from happening and we talk about dating app so much on this on this show and we should because I know for a lot of you guys that feels like the only way that you can actually meet men and I&amp;#39;m here to tell you you&amp;#39;re actually sabotaging your own ability to meet guys and have them chase after you I know you guys love the idea of chasing right and have them chase after you based on the way you&amp;#39;re meeting them and based on the way that you are available to them okay because remember what I talked about in the old days now obviously in the old days men still cheated so let&amp;#39;s not be hyperbolic and pretend like the old days all the men were amazing and nowadays the the men suck okay cuz they suck then they suck now but I say that to say that subconscious understanding that it took so much more effort to get access to this girl for her to be available in front of me they also realize when they&amp;#39;re seeing you in person they also realize when they&amp;#39;re going out and they they they they come across you or they meet you through a friend they realize it&amp;#39;s not there&amp;#39;s not so much uh a plethora of options available to me that I can choose from if this girl doesn&amp;#39;t like me or if she&amp;#39;s not falling all over me or if she doesn&amp;#39;t chase after me okay so so you&amp;#39;re probably thinking well what can I do about that those were the old days how can I Inspire men to chase after me or Inspire men to approach me when I live in present day I don&amp;#39;t live in the old days I can&amp;#39;t reverse social media I can&amp;#39;t reverse dating apps well I&amp;#39;ll tell you this when you make yourself unavailable to Men on in those places where they&amp;#39;re trying to access women easily you&amp;#39;ve just made it that much harder for men to ever see or hear from you if if it&amp;#39;s not in person or if they don&amp;#39;t have the courage to approach you and approach you properly you&amp;#39;ve also made your life a lot easier because you spend a lot less time around the men who are not willing to approach you the right way or approach you even in general you understand what I&amp;#39;m saying I&amp;#39;ll give you an example right because if you&amp;#39;re on hinge Bumble Tinder you&amp;#39;re you know uh dming tons of guys right everyone has access to you if they need it they can just swipe left and right on you you&amp;#39;re you&amp;#39;re a texaholic you&amp;#39;re Snapchatting everyone right what happens is a lot of the men in your life whether you want to call the guys you&amp;#39;re talking to the guys you&amp;#39;re casually just seeing spending time with whatever going on dates with a lot of the guys that have access to you are having access to you without having to do too much work without ever having to be like hey let&amp;#39;s go out on a DAT hey I want to call you hey I want to spend some time with you hey I want to take you this place right because you&amp;#39;re available to them in these low quality places and so why would they they already have access to you but when you cut that access from the men right when you don&amp;#39;t allow men to access you in lowquality formats now all of a sudden the only men that can access you are the men who have the courage and confidence to approach you in person are you following me so far right even if and I know this is the part that&amp;#39;ll be scary for most of you because you&amp;#39;ll probably be thinking to yourself well you know if I&amp;#39;m not available on the dating app if I&amp;#39;m not available um online if I&amp;#39;m by the way when I say available online I&amp;#39;m not saying delete your Instagram right I just mean in general right if I&amp;#39;m not available on the dailying app if I&amp;#39;m not available to text if I&amp;#39;m not available to Snapchat how are the men going to re find me how are they even going to know of my existence this is great that&amp;#39;s a great question what I say to that is you you then need to step out of your house okay yeah you have to step out of your house because when you step out of your house you give yourself the opportunity to meet the men who are willing to approach you in person because now you kind have put you&amp;#39;ve put yourself in a situation where it resembles the old days where the only men who can even access you are the men who are courageous enough to approach you when they see you outside of your house okay and those are the only men that are ever in your life that you ever spend any time talking to or conversating with because no other man has access to you in any other way shape or form now very important when I talk about the old days remember even in the example I gave you had to go to the diner you had to do things okay I know for a lot of you it&amp;#39;s uh frustrating or annoying the idea that I say hey if you want um to come across all the men that will approach you you&amp;#39;re going to have to go out into places where men will approach you okay uh I know uh Shir I know a lot of you guys listen to Shir as well uh I know Shir talks about going to like uh I don&amp;#39;t know country clubs or just particular places where the rich men are hanging out not saying that you necessarily need to be where the rich men are hanging out but you have to be thinking about hey what type of people would be spending time here or if you want to even simplify it just simply think of what do I enjoy doing for myself that&amp;#39;s my advice to you if you want to know where should I spend my time where should I go out where should I be where should I hang out that PE that men will approach me and the men who are actually motivated to approach me will approach me just go spend some time doing something outside of your house that you enjoy doing because you&amp;#39;ll you&amp;#39;ll you&amp;#39;ll um I don&amp;#39;t want to say k i l l you&amp;#39;ll uh get two birds with one stone right and you&amp;#39;ll get get two birds with one stone because when you&amp;#39;re out doing something that you already enjoy doing you won&amp;#39;t be sitting there angry like I&amp;#39;m I&amp;#39;m only here to get men to talk to me if men aren&amp;#39;t here to talk to me this is a complete waste of my time where are the men where the men where the man right you don&amp;#39;t want to be like that right and because you want to allow yourself the patience right and the calmness that you can be doing something you enjoy and in the process of doing something you enjoy that people will come up to you people will talk to you people will strike conversations with you I know that a lot of you want your own particular love story you want an amazing love story that will that will be just like your Disney princess movie that will be just like your whatpad story that&amp;#39;ll be just like your smut book right and it&amp;#39;ll be so romantic it&amp;#39;ll be just like the notebook it&amp;#39;ll be so romantic it&amp;#39;ll be so amazing you&amp;#39;ll be able to tell everyone your romantic love story right I know that you want that it&amp;#39;s okay we all want that and you can have that but I want you to understand that doesn&amp;#39;t happen unless you leave your house you have to leave your house in order for those random moments to occur those random moments can&amp;#39;t occur unless you step outside of your house to give yourself the opportunity for those random moments to occur so as it relates to the men approaching you you have to be thinking of two things I have to leave my house okay I know that&amp;#39;s a shocker and then number two I have to leave my house and actually go to places where the men with confidence and courage who are securing themselves and have something going would be spending time okay those are the two things you have to be thinking about because if you&amp;#39;re not leaving your house okay and you spend all your time on dating apps then you wonder why men don&amp;#39;t approach you well gee I wonder why and then number two even when you do leave your house you&amp;#39;re going straight to the club or the bar where all the men who are looking for the most painless easiest lowquality connections that they possibly can get are hanging out and then you&amp;#39;re wondering gee golly me how come I spend all my time in the bars and the clubs and then the men don&amp;#39;t want to come up to me in the bars and the clubs when those are the same men who are hanging out on the dating apps who barely want to do any single little bit of work to to to meet a girl or or have or get access to her Squirtle and you&amp;#39;re sitting there wondering why that&amp;#39;s happening to you and why the men don&amp;#39;t approach you and you&amp;#39;re spending all your time in the places where all the unconfident right like like lost low self-esteem men are spending all of their time okay so that&amp;#39;s why I bring that up so number one was anxiety number two we had the old days okay number three is a very interesting one number three we have skill Gap okay now the barrier of Entry like we mentioned with dating apps before has lowered quite a bit why because the skill Gap is very different than it used to be when I say skill Gap I&amp;#39;m referring to the skill set you would need to have think of think of relationships in love like a game kind of is a game but let&amp;#39;s think of it as a game so when I say it&amp;#39;s a game I mean you have a skill set the more skill set I have with in Charisma as a guy I&amp;#39;m funny I&amp;#39;m interesting I&amp;#39;m attractive I&amp;#39;m good-looking I have money I&amp;#39;m tall I have nice teeth a good hygiene all that good stuff is going to make it easier for me to stack up let&amp;#39;s call it points and when when I say points I just mean my ability to attract more and more women if I can attract more and more women well I have more and more options I can have a better partner everything is good so it&amp;#39;s like a game right now before in the old days like we just talked about the skill Gap was different you had to possess a different skill set if you wanted access to more and more women of course you needed money of course you had to be attractive of course you had to be charismatic if you wanted to attract women in the old days and there was an emphasis put on your charisma your energy your ability to be charming and interesting have good chat right be persuasive all of those things you almost had to be like a car salesman because all of those things were so important and vital to your ability to be able to be interesting or um get women to like you in the old days right you couldn&amp;#39;t there was no texting right there was no way for you to be interesting or get a woman to like you or get on a date with you if you couldn&amp;#39;t strike good conversation if you couldn&amp;#39;t uh make her laugh at your jokes if you couldn&amp;#39;t FL her or make her feel good about herself or just be uh hold a conversation there was no way for you to get access to women if you didn&amp;#39;t possess those skill sets and so it forced the men to put themselves in a position where their only option was learn how to get the skill set so they can utilize it and get access to more women or no women for you you sit at home you be a soy boy and watch all the other watch all the women go to all the men that you despise okay okay those were the only two options now the skill Gap comes in because now that we have things like dating apps now that we have all the Snapchat all these other lowquality ways that the men can access you the skill Gap has decreased because the men no longer need Charisma to approach you right they no longer need to be interesting or funny or or uh outgoing right or hold conversation in order to approach you you know why because they don&amp;#39;t have to approach you they just have to text you they just have to swipe right on you they just have to swipe left on you so why would they even bother possessing the skills required to get women in person when they can get women over the phone okay this is why I always tell you guys the best solution to a lot of your problems especially this problem as it relates to why the men don&amp;#39;t approach you and why you constantly find yourselves like is in this world do men not take initiative right you have to remove men&amp;#39;s access to you in these low quality forms because all of the men with that very low skill set right who can&amp;#39;t chat who can&amp;#39;t be interesting who can&amp;#39;t be funny who can&amp;#39;t be charismatic who can&amp;#39;t hold the conversation where do you think all of them are going to flock to they&amp;#39;re going to flock to the dating app where they don&amp;#39;t have to do any of that stuff that&amp;#39;s why we I that&amp;#39;s why I talk so much to you guys about dating apps because I want you to understand while in in spirit it has a good intention I want you to understand how much is sabotaging your relationships okay right because those men who used to have to sit on the side lines and watch all the charismatic interesting funny men get all the girls can actually build their skill set up in being the most interesting texter best snapchatter best Tinder dater and talk to you over the phone and then you end up on a date with a guy who&amp;#39;s uninteresting boring and just overall not the type of man that you want okay it&amp;#39;s the same reason why you constantly find yourself in a position where you feel like none of the men are willing to approach you because they aren&amp;#39;t because why would they they&amp;#39;re in an they&amp;#39;re in a society and living in an environment where they don&amp;#39;t have to approach women however there are men who aren&amp;#39;t living in that environment where they&amp;#39;re only meeting girls at clubs or only meeting them on dating apps or only meeting them at bars why probably because they have much better things to do with their time okay and those are the men you are seeking because those men will be willing to approach you if they really like you now getting building up your own individual desire that the men will desire you enough to approach you is a whole different story but as it relates to the men and why the men are not approaching women as much that&amp;#39;s one of the reasons is the skill Gap has lowered the floor has lowered or sorry I should say the barrier of Entry has lowered because why would I create the skill to be funny or interesting when I can open my phone and have access to 300 to 400 to to 500 women a day from different cities different backgrounds different looks different Aesthetics all that good stuff is Ava available to me at the swipe of a finger which is why I always tell you guys if you want the highest quality men take yourself out of that pool of women that the men can&amp;#39;t access you in in those ways shapes or forms and you&amp;#39;ll find yourself a lot happier with the quality of the men that do approach you because men will approach you if you spend your time in the right places okay so number one was the app anxiety number two we had the old days number three we had the skill Gap number four we have female masculinity okay we&amp;#39;re going to touch on this one for quite a bit cuz I don&amp;#39;t want I don&amp;#39;t want we have to touch on it in many different aspects and I don&amp;#39;t want you to become offended by what we&amp;#39;re going to talk about I want you to actually absorb what we&amp;#39;re what I&amp;#39;m talking about and how it might be affecting you or your relationships because I think that&amp;#39;s actually what&amp;#39;s going to benefit you okay so as we discuss female masculinity I want to discuss with you guys the idea of hot girls now tell me in the live chat do you know already or understand the concept of a hot girl I know we all vary in our ages here and some of us are a little bit older so maybe some people might not understand it I will explain it regardless I just want to get an understanding how many of us in the live chat know what the idea or the concept of a hot girl is tell me if you know I see sh says yes I see Shish says yes n says yes and like n says talk about it okay um I think I need all you guys to respond cuz I really want to see how many of us know about it so I know how in depth to go uh Loa says what question mark AB Bri says I believe I do okay okay most of it&amp;#39;s mental YOLO says princess says yep cam says nope okay I see batia says I think so but not sure okay Miss America says not really I&amp;#39;m surprised you didn&amp;#39;t know okay hot girls I know we all have um our different uh walks of life and perspective which is amazing that&amp;#39;s why we come here gather hot girls the concept of hot girl I don&amp;#39;t know if you&amp;#39;ve ever heard of hot girl summer if you don&amp;#39;t know what a hot girl is and you probably never heard of a hot girl summer hot girl summer and a hot girl is the idea I don&amp;#39;t mean hot like on fire and I also don&amp;#39;t mean hot like you know someone who&amp;#39;s really attractive I mean a hot girl as in the mindset the mindset of a hot girl and this is like a real thing you can go search up hot girl somewhere after we have this conversation if you&amp;#39;re not sure the idea and the mindset of the hot girl summer the hot girl mindset is that I will go out into the world and I will sleep with whoever I want however many times I want do and act and say speak whatever I want and shake my booty on a yacht whenever and however I want there will be no man to tell me anything there will be no body that I&amp;#39;m tied down to I go around and I do exactly what I want exactly however I want for as long as I want and nobody can tell me anything that is the essence of a hot girl now obviously they have the same thing for hot boys as well do whatever you want don&amp;#39;t be tied down by anyone life is just all about you don&amp;#39;t focus on you know anyone don&amp;#39;t listen to anyone trying to tell you that they trying to be in a relationship no no no no no no you do what you want how you want to do it so in its in its conception I think this is my own personal perspective I think it stems from the idea that men or sorry women and men are the same and they should be able to do the same things so because the men obviously for the longest periods of time they go out they sleep with women they do whatever they want they act however they want right the women have adopted the mindset obviously not all women but the culture has shifted where a lot of women are adopting the mindset and I&amp;#39;m not here to say whether it&amp;#39;s a good or bad thing I&amp;#39;m just saying what it is have adopted the mindset that hey the men do this they act like this they sleep with who they want they go out they have fun and they don&amp;#39;t get punished for it I&amp;#39;m going to do the same thing as the men do I&amp;#39;m going to be like the men why because why do men get to do things that I don&amp;#39;t get to do it&amp;#39;s almost like a version of I can&amp;#39;t even say uh p e i ns n v okay right it&amp;#39;s almost like a version of that the mannequin do it so I want to do it too wow so that&amp;#39;s great in theory but what ends up happening right is that the women begin to embody a lot of the character traits and energy of a man so the masculine okay I&amp;#39;m just referring to do Straight heterosexual relationships right and we obviously know in a straight heterosexual relationship that men are supposed to of course we all have a little bit of both but men for the most part are supposed to embody the masculine and women for the most part are supposed to embody the feminine the problem is when women become obsessed with the idea that I want to do what the men do because it&amp;#39;s unfair that the men get to do this and I don&amp;#39;t get to do that there becomes a obsession with actually being more like men in turn meaning you become more masculine in your energy and I know for some of you guys who are not used to people talking about energy and spirituality we get deep on here so we talk about energy spirituality all that good stuff okay and it matters because your mindset shift to I want to do like the men do actually turns your energy and it shifts into being more masculine and so you approach your relationships more masc masculine the energy you project outwardly is more masculine and so what are the men receiving from you masculine energy and so what do you how do you think they treat you they treat you as a masculine energy and what do you think you attract in men you attract men who are in their feminine energy do you see how that works because feminine and masculine I&amp;#39;m only speaking on heterosexual relationships feminine and masculine are like yin and yang and remember I just told you we don&amp;#39;t all have 100% of one and 0% of the other it&amp;#39;s a fluid concept that can be 50 60% 40% right but it has to flow in the right order to be whole right it has to equal up to 100% so my point being is that if you are a woman who is in more of your your masculine I&amp;#39;m not here to tell you whether that&amp;#39;s right or wrong you can do what you want with your life but if you are a woman who is embodying more of your masculine energy you naturally going to attract men who are in more of their feminine energy and the reason I bring up female masculinity and I bring up hot girls is because the movement of hot girl summer hot girl mindset which is the culture of the music that you listen to I don&amp;#39;t want to get too deep on here because we&amp;#39;ve talked about music in the past and the way the music affect actually you know what we will get a little bit deep right the music that you&amp;#39;re listening to is affecting your mind State and what you think you should be embodying when you go out and I don&amp;#39;t know if let me know in the chat if you&amp;#39;ve noticed how the shift in music has become hyper actualized and focused on how women should go out and do whatever they want act like the men and you don&amp;#39;t realize it when you&amp;#39;re listening to it because it feels Innocent but it is actually brainwashing you and shifting your frame of mind to convince you I&amp;#39;ve got to be more like this because you listen to it in your music you watch it in the music video right which the music videos embodying the same thing as the music right you see it on TV when you&amp;#39;re watching your TV shows you see it on in the movie theaters when you&amp;#39;re watching your movies and it&amp;#39;s part of the culture shift right the things that you&amp;#39;re absorbing into your mind is Shifting your your concept of reality and is also shifting uh your own view of yourself as crazy as it sounds and so I say that say when you&amp;#39;re unaware of the subconscious shift that is happening in your mind based on what you&amp;#39;re absorbing your mind especially in today&amp;#39;s day and age can easily shift into embodying much more of the masculine energ that you want to do and act like the guys act because the guys get to walk around and do whatever they want treat women however they want do whatever they want and so your first mindset is is I&amp;#39;m going to do how the men do I&amp;#39;m going to play the men how the men play me I&amp;#39;m going to be masculine like the men and sleep with who I want do whatever I want nobody&amp;#39;s going to be able to tell me nothing and like I say I&amp;#39;m not here to tell you what&amp;#39;s what&amp;#39;s right and wrong but I am here to share with you when you&amp;#39;re wondering why the men don&amp;#39;t approach you also think to yourself am I embodying masculine qualities that will attract a more feminine man okay this is how it ties together because it&amp;#39;s not about being right or wrong in embodying your masculine embodying your feminine but if you&amp;#39;re trying to attract a masculine man you also have to be living your life in your feminine energy now I know that&amp;#39;s difficult because it&amp;#39;s not easy to do that all the time and you have have to protect yourself and you have to be on guard and all that good stuff but I want you to understand if you&amp;#39;re too deep into your masculine energy you&amp;#39;re naturally going to attract a man who is a lot deeper into his feminine energy that&amp;#39;s the ying and the Ying right there and so if you&amp;#39;re attracting a lot of men who are deep into their feminine energy they&amp;#39;re not going to be approaching you because that&amp;#39;s not what feminine energy does feminine energy is receiving okay and so the men who are naturally in their feminine energy are going to be sitting back expecting you to chase them are going to be sitting back expecting princess treatment from them how many of you have been and I know you guys are going to spam this one how many of you in the live stream have been in a relationship or a talking stage with a man who want who expects princess treatment from you I know you guys going to be get mad about this one tell me in the live chat if you&amp;#39;ve ever been in a talking stage or relationship with a guy who expected princess treatment from you oh my God that&amp;#39;s funny okay uh I see I knew you guys would spam this one I I see uh Jan says fact sweet says me Alicia says yes sh says yes okay PO says yes uh Brie says drizzle drizzle is a thing now maybe we&amp;#39;ll even we maybe we&amp;#39;ll even talk about drizzle drizzle in another live stream because drizzle drizzle is actually a perfect example of that right is the is the shift right it&amp;#39;s it&amp;#39;s almost like the counteraction to the hot girl mindset is that the guys are tired hey we&amp;#39;re being used we&amp;#39;re being used for our money and we&amp;#39;re just being seen as a paycheck so now rather than uh us allowing ourselves to continue to be used we&amp;#39;re going to go the opposite direction and now we are going to be the ones receiving princess treatment we&amp;#39;re going to be the ones expecting things from you and gifts and and and proper treatment and all this stuff like that right because the shift and actually that&amp;#39;s great that you guys brought that up because the shift in if if a lot of the soci the women in a particular society are shifting into their masculine energy well then naturally there&amp;#39;s going to be a large portion of men that shift into their feminine energy and so I say that to say right that&amp;#39;s why if you&amp;#39;re wondering why you&amp;#39;re constantly attracting feminine men then you also got to think to yourself am I embodying some masculine qualities right and I don&amp;#39;t just mean masculine quality oh you look like a man I&amp;#39;m not talking about that I&amp;#39;m talking about in your energy I&amp;#39;m talking about in your approach right and I can&amp;#39;t I&amp;#39;m a man so obviously I can&amp;#39;t tell you what it means to be a woman I can&amp;#39;t tell you what it means to be uh in your feminine energy I really can&amp;#39;t but I say that to ask you a question that might make you think and Ponder on hey have I been embodying more of my masculine energy or am I doing things that are more in line with the masculine than they are the feminine and actually gets your wheel spinning on how you can better embody your feminine energy that you can be receiving from these men as opposed to being on edge and being the one chasing after these men or trying to attract the trying to get these men to like you trying to be get these men to see you and get these men to validate you and you&amp;#39;re like on the hunt you know what I mean you&amp;#39;re on the hunt emotionally and spiritually where you&amp;#39;re the one saying oh I I I want you to see me I want to prove myself to you I&amp;#39;m going to chase after you until you like me and I&amp;#39;m going to I&amp;#39;m going to do everything to make you like me rather than the other way around where you&amp;#39;re in your feminine energy and you&amp;#39;re receiving that from the men okay right and that&amp;#39;s that&amp;#39;s why I bring that up in terms of why men never approach you just to pose a question that maybe you could Ponder on and think about on ways and things you might adjust of yourself if you want to see a different result obviously like I just said I&amp;#39;m a man so I can&amp;#39;t tell you what it means to be a woman I can&amp;#39;t tell you what it means to be embody your feminine energy only you have the answers to that but I just pose the concept that maybe you can start thinking about hm I&amp;#39;ve been attracting a lot of feminine men but am I being a more masculine woman right because it&amp;#39;s not an accident it&amp;#39;s it&amp;#39;s not an accident the same way the most feminine women seem to attract the most masculine men is the same way the most masculine women seem to attract the most feminine men it&amp;#39;s a very fluid concept and it&amp;#39;s it&amp;#39;s actually crazy that&amp;#39;s actually one of the reasons why I love talking to you guys and talking about this relationship and stuff cuz it&amp;#39;s related to psychology which is related to the human mind which is related to just how we relate and connect with each other and it&amp;#39;s very interesting how we kind of of we just are pushed towards people who perfectly fit our not perfectly but fit a particular personality that works with or against us in particular ways and a for a lot of us we end up attracting similar people because of what we&amp;#39;re outwardly projecting but we don&amp;#39;t even realize that that&amp;#39;s part of the reason we&amp;#39;re attracting those similar people is because they&amp;#39;re attracted to an energy coming out from us right and it&amp;#39;s connecting with them which is why they&amp;#39;re attracted to us and vice versa but a lot of times we&amp;#39;re not even thinking about that we&amp;#39;re just thinking about hey I just attract bums all the time well think to yourself why are you always attracting bums does that reflect how you feel about yourself anyways that&amp;#39;s another topic for another day okay so that was the female masculinity so we had app anxiety was number one number two was the old days number three the skill Gap number four we had female masculinity number five we have the fear of rejection okay now Men A lot of times are in we talked about dating apps and we talked about how it gives them that subconscious anxiety that hey I&amp;#39;m only good on the dating app I&amp;#39;m only interesting on the dating app I&amp;#39;m only funny and charismatic on the dating app now what it also does is men become accustomed to being able to swipe left and swipe right on you I&amp;#39;m telling you this from a man&amp;#39;s perspective we have become accustom to being able to swipe left swipe right on all the different women that we want access to or that we could ever dream of or meet ever that we have stopped living in reality quote unquote when I say stop living in reality what I really mean is there is a natural flow of of going out meeting people liking some people being interested in some people and then realizing that some of those people that you meet that you&amp;#39;re interested in might not be interested in you back or interested in you at the same level in which you&amp;#39;re interested in them even in some scenarios you might go out you might show your interest in someone and they reject you okay now very important as men I&amp;#39;ll I&amp;#39;ll tell you this from a man&amp;#39;s perspective as men that builds character that rejection even from just women that don&amp;#39;t like you or don&amp;#39;t think you&amp;#39;re attractive or don&amp;#39;t want you right that builds character why because it forces us to increase our skill set or figure out our points of weakness that need to improve in order for us to see the result that we want to see now I&amp;#39;ll break that down even further if I were to go out as a guy and let&amp;#39;s say I&amp;#39;m like hey guys let&amp;#39;s say I&amp;#39;m 18 with my boys and I&amp;#39;m like hey guys yo let&amp;#39;s go out to the mall let&amp;#39;s go pick up some girls numbers I want to meet some new girls and we go out to the mall me and my boys and we&amp;#39;re talking to girls and I&amp;#39;m talking to some girls and they&amp;#39;re like ew get away from me or every time that I talk to a girl I&amp;#39;m so awkward or or like weird about it in my Approach that they&amp;#39;re just kind of like nah I have a boyfriend no I&amp;#39;m not going to give my number meanwhile I have a best friend who&amp;#39;s going out and he&amp;#39;s like chatting with the girls he&amp;#39;s making them laugh he&amp;#39;s being interesting he&amp;#39;s being funny and he&amp;#39;s getting every girl&amp;#39;s number what does that tell me my rejection is a function of my lack of skill set or my weaknesses in particular areas whether that be my looks maybe I&amp;#39;m not dressing nice maybe I&amp;#39;m not as attractive maybe I I&amp;#39;m not as charismatic I&amp;#39;m not interesting I&amp;#39;m not funny so what does it force me to do I want access to those women as a man but I&amp;#39;m being rejected by those women constantly that rejection is pain but that rejection is also motivation to try and actually get the women that I want access to you&amp;#39;ll be shocked how many men get rich just to get back at an ex or in the back of their mind be able to say to themselves oh I know that girl is regretting you know rejecting me now or I know that girl is regretting not wanting me now that I&amp;#39;m rich and I&amp;#39;m up and I&amp;#39;m and I&amp;#39;m super attractive and I&amp;#39;ve glowed up and my life&amp;#39;s different and and now she&amp;#39;s still dealing with bums right that motivation that pain becomes motivation but what happens is now that a lot of the men including me I&amp;#39;m a man now that we all get to spend all of our time on the dating apps or on social media we don&amp;#39;t have to face rejection as we once would have where we&amp;#39;re actually going up to girls showing our interest in them and then having them reject us because they&amp;#39;re not as interested in them in us or we&amp;#39;re not on the same level as other guys and because we don&amp;#39;t have to face that same level of rejection there&amp;#39;s no longer that same amount of pain associated with the rejection why because think about it if I&amp;#39;m on the dating app and a girl doesn&amp;#39;t like me she simply swipes left on me but from my end I don&amp;#39;t see her rejecting me I don&amp;#39;t even notice her she doesn&amp;#39;t even cross my ecosystem I swipe on a bunch of girls and whoever I find interesting that finds me interesting those are the only people I even end up having a conversation with I don&amp;#39;t even have to go through the pain of having a conversation with any woman or girl or anybody who is not interested in me already and so I don&amp;#39;t have to face that rejection or that reality that splash of cold water that hey I need to increase my Charisma I need to be more funny I need to be more approachable I need to be able to hold better conversation okay right I never have to get to that point because I don&amp;#39;t need to and what also happens is I don&amp;#39;t build up a tolerance for rejection I actually build the opposite I build a fear of rejection where my life has been spent so much in a place that is comfortable where I never have to actually B rejection cuz I just swipe left and swipe right and the only girls I talk to are the girls who swiped right on me I have a fear right it grows my anxiety that oh my God I don&amp;#39;t want to actually go out into the real world and talk to real women and go up to them and like actually face the idea that they might not talk to me or they might not be interested in me and they might reject me right I&amp;#39;m I&amp;#39;m I&amp;#39;m too scared I&amp;#39;m too scared so when I see a woman out in public when I see you out in public and you&amp;#39;re sitting your looking pretty at your dinner table or wherever you are right I&amp;#39;m too scared to come up to you because I&amp;#39;m so used to being able to just swipe left and right and only talk to the girls that are interested in me I&amp;#39;m like shivering at the idea that I might go up to you and have a conversation with you and you&amp;#39;ll reject me right and remember I talked to you guys about that app anxiety when you&amp;#39;re an app addict when you&amp;#39;re a Tex a holic right as a man what ends up happening is you become used to that way of meeting women you become used to that way of approaching women even though you&amp;#39;re not actually approaching them you become used to that way of approaching life Melissa says in the YouTube chat she says it sounds like social anxiety it is social anxiety but it&amp;#39;s a builtup social anxiety because of the obsession with the dating apps because of the OB obsession with the Snapchat because of the obsession with the being a texaholic okay and it force it forces you and puts you in a position as a man I&amp;#39;m telling you this cuz it&amp;#39;s I&amp;#39;ve experienced this it puts you in a position as a man where you become so accustomed to living your life without rejection in it that you start to become fearful of oh my God I could possibly be rejected if I go up to that woman and talk to her and have a conversation with her that&amp;#39;s part of the reason why I always advise you guys do not not spend your time in the places where the men with all the anxiety and scared of rejection would be spending their time okay because the too scared of rejection man men are going to be spending their time in places where they don&amp;#39;t actually have to face rejection so don&amp;#39;t put yourself in that position where you&amp;#39;re surrounded by all the men who are too scared of rejection because then you&amp;#39;ll be frustrated why none of the men are even willing to put themselves out on the line and face the possibility of rejection from you and come up to you or approach you none of them are going to do that they&amp;#39;re all going to sit at home and be on their dating apps same thing at the club or the bar none of those men are really looking for anything that requires a lot of work so why would they be approaching women except to do except to say one small line and expect her to want to jump into bed with him after he says one small line right that&amp;#39;s the expectation because they&amp;#39;ve built up such an understanding that hey I should be living my life in this comfortable area where I don&amp;#39;t face rejection and I never have to deal with the fact that some girls might not like me and it&amp;#39;s comfortable for me to live in that place so I&amp;#39;m going to spend all my time in the places where I face the least rejection on top of the dating apps social media has also created this anxiety and this fear of being rejected because when we see other people being laughed at when we see other people going through things right we think to oursel oh oh my God I I I don&amp;#39;t want to be like them I don&amp;#39;t want to be cringe like them I don&amp;#39;t I don&amp;#39;t want to be I don&amp;#39;t want people to laugh at me like them right and so it puts you in this constant anxious state where you&amp;#39;re scared to do anything except nothing because you&amp;#39;re so scared to be laughed at you&amp;#39;re so scared to be uh for people to judge you like you see on social media that you&amp;#39;re you just sit back and you&amp;#39;re like I&amp;#39;m going to do the easiest most painless thing possible I I don&amp;#39;t want to do anything I so I&amp;#39;ll just sit on this dating app and I and I&amp;#39;ll only talk to women that swipe right on me other than that I&amp;#39;m not talking to anyone cuz I&amp;#39;m such in fear that the girls will make that people will make fun of me if I go up to a girl and she rejects me that fear that fear that anxiety that the that the men build up that social anxiety that they build up from being the app addicts that they are and the texaholic that they are is why you find your yourself in a situation why you feel like the men are never approaching you so what do you do spend your time far away from all the places where the men with the fear of rejection would be spending their time I.E the dating apps I know we talking about dating apps over and over again I just want to get your mind even outside the dating apps I just want to get your mind your your wheels churning of oh have I been spending a lot of time in the places where the men who are fearful of rejection would be spending their time the low self-esteem men would be spending their time the men who are looking for the easiest possible outcome to Squirtle would be spending their time okay so uh Mad Band said so where should we go I told you guys this a little bit earlier my advice to you if you want the easiest place to go my advice to you would be to go somewhere you enjoy spending time now for some of you you&amp;#39;ll be like I don&amp;#39;t know where I enjoy spending time aha we found the root of your problem okay we found the root of your problem you don&amp;#39;t know what brings you any sort of happiness or enjoyment or fulfillment that you don&amp;#39;t even know where you should go to spend some time and so instead of actively looking for what brings me fulfillment or enjoyment that I can go spend some time doing you&amp;#39;re instead of figuring that out you&amp;#39;re just going right to the dating apps right to the clubs right to the bars thinking hey I&amp;#39;ll just meet someone who&amp;#39;s already ready to meet someone at one of those places but in reality you&amp;#39;re only meeting someone who is looking for the most painless quick and easy path to your Squirtle you&amp;#39;re not actually making your life easier in getting a relationship you&amp;#39;re actually making it harder because most of those men don&amp;#39;t really want a relationship they just want a painless quick path to your Squirtle do you see where I&amp;#39;m going with this so if you&amp;#39;re not sure where you enjoy spending time be for literally just for you then that&amp;#39;s what you should be figuring out I gave you guys this advice and I give you guys this advice all the time this is 2024 you have so much resources at your disposal go on Tik Tok even if you&amp;#39;re on YouTube after this after we have this talk if you&amp;#39;re wondering where to go go on Tik Tok type in things to do in my city if you live in a small City uh type in things to do in whatever the largest city is that&amp;#39;s closest to you things to do in in Toronto things to do in LA things to do in Miami things to do in London things to do in Manchester things to do in Dubai things to do in Nigeria things to do wherever you live right and you will see content creators that post videos about things and places you can go that are interesting that aren&amp;#39;t the club or the bar or even a restaurant okay they will actually show you a bunch of cool interesting unique places that you can go and spend some time that aren&amp;#39;t Club bar restaurant and from there all you have to do is I&amp;#39;m making your life so easy all you have to do is swipe through and scroll through and pick which one pequs your interest okay very very simple I break stuff down for you so it&amp;#39;s hard to it&amp;#39;s hard to mess it up you can&amp;#39;t mess that up if you can&amp;#39;t scroll through and pick something that you enjoy doing and you don&amp;#39;t even have to come up with the ideas then you just don&amp;#39;t want to do it bad enough okay so app anxiety was number one number two was the old days number three skill Gap number four female masculinity number five fear of rejection number six we have microwave men now for those of you who have heard me speak plenty of time and are always here participating in the show you&amp;#39;ve heard me talk about microwave men just hold on a second I&amp;#39;ll explain it for the people who are new here cuz I know there&amp;#39;s always a whole bunch of new people microwave men are men who want the quickest easiest and painless path to Squirtle if you don&amp;#39;t know what Squirtle is use your brain you should be able to come up with an idea of what you think Squirtle is all right if you don&amp;#39;t know what Squirtle is then your Squirtle is probably not squiring it&amp;#39;s probably dry my point being men who are microwave men want the easiest quickest painless most painless path to Squirtle right we talked about the dating apps we talked about the the good old days the old days and how they would have to go about life before they were able to reach out to you on a dating app find you on a dating app find you on Instagram find you just in a place where it&amp;#39;s a lot easier to get access to you right than having to meet you in person okay now this concept has developed what we call today microwave men now microwave men have always existed in uh life&amp;#39;s even before we had dating apps okay it&amp;#39;s not just dating apps or social media that created microwave men microwave men have always existed because there will always be large groups of men who are only looking to deal with you in the quickest and easiest most painless process possible meaning they do not want to put in any effort consistency or effort whether it be approaching you talking to you having a conversation with you being going on a date with you taking you out on a date paying they don&amp;#39;t want to do any of that stuff required in order to get access to you because they&amp;#39;re microwav men the same way when you want food heated up and ready to go as quick and easy as possible you throw it in the microwave because you just press a button and you don&amp;#39;t even have to think about it is the same way these men are looking to just put you in the microwave press a button then then use you and then you&amp;#39;re done okay they want that quick easy painless path they&amp;#39;re not trying to do a whole bunch of meal prep they&amp;#39;re not trying to do a whole bunch of grocery shopping they&amp;#39;re not trying to put a bunch of meals together salt the food SE they just want to put you in the microwave get access to your Squirtle done nowadays I use the air fryer by the way you should be using an air fryer way better experience but that&amp;#39;s beside the point okay microwave men wanted as easy quick and painless as possible and these microwave men are surrounding you because we&amp;#39;re discussing why men never approach you but you don&amp;#39;t realize mic you&amp;#39;re being surrounded by microwav men you&amp;#39;re surrounded you&amp;#39;re in a sea you&amp;#39;re in shark infested waters of microwave men literally swimming around you you&amp;#39;re on a raft and in the middle of the Atlantic ocean swimming and it&amp;#39;s all microwave men around you why because you&amp;#39;re heavy on the dating apps why because you&amp;#39;re always in the club you&amp;#39;re always in the bar why because you&amp;#39;re always in the places where the lowquality men are hanging out going to get mad that is why the men do not approach you you&amp;#39;re in the play men do approach women trust me trust trust trust you me trust you me men do approach women but if you spend all your time around microwave men you will be confused and upset because your belief will be that men do not approach women they do but you need to actively make sure you spend your time in the places where the men are approaching women I&amp;#39;m putting emphasis on specific words so that you can absorb what I&amp;#39;m saying okay very important when you surround yourself with microwave men on the dating apps in the clubs and the bars they&amp;#39;re all only going to want the quickest and easiest most painless painless painless path to your Squirtle as possible okay I&amp;#39;m so I&amp;#39;m so dead serious though right because what else are you expecting from them they didn&amp;#39;t come on the dating app to build a long-term ser serous relationship that takes a lot of effort and work and you know they want to have a magical romantic story if they wanted to have a magical romantic story like the notebook those men would have left their house not got on a dating app and started swiping left or right think about the logic the men do not get on the dating app to make their life harder the men do not get on the dating app to make their life harder I&amp;#39;m going to say it one more time the men do not get on the dating app to make their life harder they get on the dating app or go to the club or go to the bar to make their life [Music] easier they want access to Squirtle they want access to women they want to do that easier not harder which is why they use the Avenue of the dating app they use the Avenue of the club they use the Avenue of the bar because if I&amp;#39;m on the dating app I already know that the only girls I&amp;#39;m going to even talk to are the girls who swiped right on me and I know it&amp;#39;s going to be easy because they&amp;#39;re probably desperate to be in a relationship so easier for me if I go to the club or the bar there&amp;#39;s alcohol involved and I know those girls are probably not coming to the club or the bar they&amp;#39;re coming there because they&amp;#39;re probably single and they&amp;#39;re looking for other people as well on top of that they&amp;#39;re drunk you know they&amp;#39;re out of their mind they&amp;#39;re probably doing some drugs doing this they&amp;#39;re ready to have fun and so what happens now it&amp;#39;s easier for me to get what I want from those women so I&amp;#39;ll spend all my time in the places where my life is made easier right easier easier okay and that&amp;#39;s why microwave men can be so dangerous and so detrimental to to your health because you&amp;#39;ll feel like you&amp;#39;re losing your mind and you&amp;#39;ll also feel like you&amp;#39;re not worth anything and you&amp;#39;re super unattractive because the men aren&amp;#39;t approaching you but the men aren&amp;#39;t approaching you because there are a whole bunch of microwave men that you&amp;#39;re surrounding yourself around and you&amp;#39;re spending all your time with the microwave men you can&amp;#39;t be you can&amp;#39;t literally stand in the path of least resistance and wonder why everyone that comes across you is actively seeking for the path of least resistance you&amp;#39;re in the way of that okay and I know I&amp;#39;m you know super passionate about this but like this is real and I CU I know some of you guys are so confused and I&amp;#39;m like I&amp;#39;m trying to help you understand that you will not be confused anymore okay so number one was app anxiety number two the old days number three we have the skill Gap number four we have Fe we had female masculinity number five was fear of rejection number six was microwav men and number seven we have corn we&amp;#39;ll say say c o r n but you know what I&amp;#39;m referring to I&amp;#39;ll just say pineapple movies so that the algorithm is not confused and doesn&amp;#39;t think I&amp;#39;m saying something that I&amp;#39;m not saying okay pineapple movies okay now you&amp;#39;re probably thinking okay what do pineapple movies how do that how does that even affect men&amp;#39;s desire to approach me well this is actually a really interesting concept this is this is the probably the most complex comp concept out of all of the seven see here&amp;#39;s the thing and this is this is really going to put you in the mind frame of a man this is why this is great it&amp;#39;s great that we have this type of conversation as a man you have to understand there is an energetical energetical is not even word there is an energetic power to retaining your seed okay I know some of you guys might I might lose some of you but try and stay with me there is an energetic power to retaining your seed what I mean by that is when you retain your seed you are after a while you begin to be able to think more clearly why because your focus is no longer on releasing your seed all the time your focus after a while becomes on whatever it is you&amp;#39;re actively trying to pursue the that doesn&amp;#39;t mean you don&amp;#39;t think about pineapples that doesn&amp;#39;t mean you don&amp;#39;t get aroused but your mind frame and mind State begin shifting on what it is on putting that that pineapple energy into your Pursuits as opposed to putting that pineapple energy into whacking and wanking and all that good stuff okay now I say that to say this is going to be a really weird concept maybe some of you might not understand this the pineapple movie Addiction right or just the the consumption of of consistent pineapple movies and releasing yourself to those pineapple movies as a man what happens is something really weird and intriguing after you release yourself to those pineapple movies on a regular basis you actually end up losing the desire to get pineapples in real life I&amp;#39;m it sounds weird you would think oh but he&amp;#39;s doing it so he probably really enjoys pineapples and he&amp;#39;s probably seeking it out more but it&amp;#39;s weird the the idea and the concept of releasing yourself to the pineapple movies over and over again it makes you desire the real thing less that&amp;#39;s why it&amp;#39;s an addiction not even in a good way like it&amp;#39;s an addiction to just the the pineapple movies it&amp;#39;s not an addiction to the real thing and in in the weirdest way it actually makes it harder for you to want the real thing and chase after the real thing because that remember I told you guys the the retention of your seed is energetical power I&amp;#39;m teaching you this like as a man like this is this is actually how what the men feel the retention of your seed is actually energetical power so as you continue to release it to the pineapple movies as a man you actively lose that ability and that desire that hunger that is Natural Instinct inside you to pursue women okay because as you release yourself to the pineapple movies you then go to yourself oh well I&amp;#39;ve released myself to the pineapple movie so I don&amp;#39;t I don&amp;#39;t have the desire to approach women in real life because that&amp;#39;s a lot of work I&amp;#39;ve got to talk to her I&amp;#39;ve been I have to be interesting I have to be charismatic I have to be funny I have to have a good chat all of that is a process just leading up to me releasing myself you know in the process of us having pineapples together when I really could just watch me a couple of pineapple movies and after I watch me a couple of pineapple movies I&amp;#39;ll release myself and I&amp;#39;ll feel good anyways without having to put in all of that effort and so as the men get accustomed to releasing themselves the pineapple movies instead of putting towards effort into having to really approach women they become so used to that and not having to approach women that they no longer have the hunger or desire to approach women because there is a there is a there is an erotic version of the desire and there is a non-erotic version of the desire what I mean by that is part of our Natural Instinct as men is to desire women because we desire pineapples in on subconscious level that subconscious thinking and feeling is actually part of the motivation internally that pushes us to say I find that woman attractive I think she looks good I find her someone that I want to get to know so I&amp;#39;m going to get up out of my chair go and speak to her even though there&amp;#39;s a possibility I might be rejected even though there&amp;#39;s a possibility she might laugh at me even though there&amp;#39;s a possibility this might not work out in my favor my internal motivation is driving me to go and approach her anyways and that internal motivation is really being fed by my desire for pineapples in real life with real women but if my desire for pineapples in real life with real women has been suppressed by me releasing myself to a whole bunch of pineapple movies well now I no longer have that internal motivation to go out and meet and approach women in real life and so that&amp;#39;s where you come in because now you&amp;#39;re frustrated because you&amp;#39;re like damn none of these men ever want to approach me none of these men ever want to come up to me or have a conversation or take initiative why they&amp;#39;re all releasing themselves to the pineapple movies you see you see how that works and then you&amp;#39;re probably thinking well how do I avoid the men who are releasing themselves to Pineapple movies and don&amp;#39;t have that desire again it&amp;#39;s the same concept right obviously you can&amp;#39;t really determine whether a man&amp;#39;s releasing himself a whole bunch to Pineapple movies but you can determine where you spend a lot of your time and energy and you&amp;#39;re available in that you&amp;#39;re careful to not put yourself in a place where a lot of the men who are addicted to Pineapple movies or also want the same easy access right to pineapples would be hanging out and like I said before this is not to say that oh men who are super evolved don&amp;#39;t want pineapples they do they also pursue it the only thing is right in the like I always tell you guys how you do life how you do your relationships there are men who are motivated to chase after and pursue the things that they want in life those men will also chase after and pursue the women they want in life I guarantee you guarantee you okay don&amp;#39;t let any man fool you by convincing you I don&amp;#39;t know how other people talk to you I don&amp;#39;t know what other people you listen to but I would I I be honest with you don&amp;#39;t let men go out there and convince you that oh the successful men don&amp;#39;t chase the successful men are just so secure they&amp;#39;re so focused they don&amp;#39;t chase those men are confused they either they either have the wrong definition of Chase and they&amp;#39;re imagining oh Chase means desperation and crawling on your knees or they&amp;#39;re just ill-informed about themselves in life because yes secure confident amazing rich men do Chase there&amp;#39;s plenty of pro athletes and Millionaires and billionaires who are married are you expecting do you believe do you believe in your mind that liono Messi LeBron James every millionaire and billionaire that ever exist every desirable men on this planet Earth are you telling me all those Rich successful powerful men never took their wife out on a date never tried to court their women never chased after their women in any way shape or form and they just sat back and because they were so rich and amazing and awesome they had all the women chasing after them and the wife that they married was the was the girl that pursued them do you actually believe that because if you don&amp;#39;t believe that and you believe that even the rich successful Men actually had at least a single woman who ended up being their wife that they C and they they desired and they went for and they pursued well then in in that right there is the answer to your question even the rich and powerful and amazing and successful men do Chase they don&amp;#39;t chase every woman but they will chase and pursue the woman that they want so then your mindset only has to be okay how what do those men want don&amp;#39;t worry about what the dating app men that are relevant to you that are Wast of your time want worry about what the rich successful powerful uh protectors and providers who you&amp;#39;re actually seeking for are looking for in a woman that&amp;#39;s where you&amp;#39;re going to be golden and that&amp;#39;s where you should be spending most of your time and energy okay so that is exactly how and why men never approach you nowadays okay does that make sense to you guys are we are we are we of all of the same understanding now do you guys have any more questions as it relates to what we discussed okay what what we discussed uh Sky says exactly what do the rich men want well think about this I&amp;#39;ll give you a concept and I want you to take this concept and run with it if if men are embodying they&amp;#39;re masculine being protectors and providers they&amp;#39;re rich successful and they&amp;#39;re able they don&amp;#39;t need they don&amp;#39;t need anything Financial from you they can take care of themselves they&amp;#39;re self-sufficient what do you think as a woman because I I I don&amp;#39;t feel comfortable telling you hey your value as a woman is this if you know that these men are embodying their masculine they&amp;#39;re being protectors and providers clearly that&amp;#39;s not what they need from you so what do you think are your unique qualities as a woman that you can offer to a man who is successful rich and powerful and has everything that he needs what do you think you can offer to him as a man that he wouldn&amp;#39;t be able to buy or purchase or have access to easily that only you could provide him as a woman and I&amp;#39;m not talking about your Squirtle I&amp;#39;m not talking about your mouth or your hands I&amp;#39;m talking about the emotional and the spiritual so Ponder on that on what you think you can offer to a man that is in that position that he couldn&amp;#39;t just buy or have available to him easily or he can he and that he could only get from you the woman Ponder your mind on that and that will be the answer to your questions okay nor said my myash that&amp;#39;s funny okay uh right does that make sense to you guys uh Lindsay says he keeps telling me he needs space and I can&amp;#39;t do it how do I stop that Lindsay you need to go and ask your question in the Discord um if you are wondering where the Discord is if you&amp;#39;re on Tik Tok you go into my Tik Tok bio and and you click that link open it in browser because sometimes it&amp;#39;s weird open it in browser and then you can go to the relationship advice section in the Discord and ask you a question we&amp;#39;re going to open up the Discord in a little bit I&amp;#39;m going to get a brand deal from Discord I&amp;#39;m telling you guys it&amp;#39;s coming very soon we&amp;#39;re going to step into the Discord where we answer everyone&amp;#39;s uh personal question so for those of you who are wondering whether you&amp;#39;re on YouTube or Tik Tok where you can ask me a personal question or uh about your situation go right into the Discord and we can I&amp;#39;ll answer your question live on air which I&amp;#39;m about to do right now if you&amp;#39;re on YouTube just go down into the link in the description and you&amp;#39;ll be able to find it there I see uh Missy America&amp;#39;s also posted it up in the chat um and then if you&amp;#39;re on Tik Tok just go to the link in my bio and then you can go over there and and join the Discord and ask your question there okay let&amp;#39;s hop into the Discord now because we already have a ton of questions in the Discord to answer and I know you guys love when it&amp;#39;s Discord time it&amp;#39;s Discord time okay we&amp;#39;re going to hop into the Discord and we&amp;#39;re going to answer a bunch of these uh situations and uh you know things that are going on with people I like helping you guys out the swin I know you guys love this part of the show so we&amp;#39;re going to hop into the Discord here okay let&amp;#39;s pull this up perfect we&amp;#39;re in the Discord okay first message is from Miss St Louie okay Miss St Louis says I&amp;#39;ve been single going on two to three years on and off dating however I&amp;#39;ve recently met a gentle gentleman while I was getting my car repaired he asked me for my number uh we exchanged contact information and started spending time together we&amp;#39;ve been on one-on-one dates most times uh most times when we&amp;#39;ve seen each other it was at his home okay that&amp;#39;s not good uh I work overnight and he works during the day so our schedule is never aligned I happened to be listening to one of his colleagues talk one day and she called him a different name from the one provided to me so I left um so that left me with questions fast forward if I&amp;#39;m honest I have a huge problem with only dating one guy at a time because I honestly don&amp;#39;t like talking to uh I don&amp;#39;t like talking to multiple men wait you have a problem with only dating one guy at a time but you don&amp;#39;t like talking to multiple men I&amp;#39;m not sure I&amp;#39;m not sure how what what you mean by that I personally feel like he&amp;#39;s probably dating multiple women which I can&amp;#39;t be upset with because we recently met and haven&amp;#39;t been dating long at all however I&amp;#39;m not sure if I&amp;#39;m doing something wrong I know I&amp;#39;m worthy of love but I&amp;#39;ve never had such a hard time finding someone some one who wants to consistently pursue me and only and be only with me he started off texting every morning and at night on the days uh we didn&amp;#39;t spend together overall he&amp;#39;s a nice guy but I wish he gave uh more effort as he did in the beginning I personally think someone else might have his attention I&amp;#39;m an overthinker and I know this normally uh I&amp;#39;m I and I know this but normally I&amp;#39;m not too far off usually don&amp;#39;t uh know what to do now I just want someone who&amp;#39;s ready for love like I am without games any advice from many thanks in advance I&amp;#39;m not sure here where you said you have a huge problem dating only dating or dating with only one guy at a time but you don&amp;#39;t like talking them M to a man I&amp;#39;m going to assume based on the rest of your message you actually met you have um a problem not just dating one guy at a time because you were talking about how you feel like he is doing dating multiple people and was just like a weird typo um so um I wouldn&amp;#39;t say that you&amp;#39;re necessarily the problem I would say uh it&amp;#39;s quite strange um that uh this girl called him uh a different name uh from the one he provided to you however you also have to keep in mind he could have gave you a nickname he could have gave you his government name he could have gave you anything right cuz you said it was only a few dates that you guys want went on and um so he might have not told you every single thing about himself in that process maybe he just gave you his uh you know his nickname or what whatever it may be and maybe at work those people know him better so they call him by a different name I don&amp;#39;t know if that&amp;#39;s necessarily a super red flag that could come under multiple different contexts right um but uh as aside from that as it relates to the rest of your relationship right I think now you didn&amp;#39;t mention earlier on if during this time while you guys you at his place and stuff like that you didn&amp;#39;t mention if you he were uh sleeping sleeping with him right cuz you said that you guys seen each other uh at his home so that kind of changes a lot and I want you guys to also put your two cents in the live stream chat um I don&amp;#39;t know if Miss St Louis is here listening and watching but I want you guys to also put your two cents in right if you&amp;#39;re sleeping with him at his home and then magically he l loes interest in you after a while well you know we got to be adults here let&amp;#39;s not let&amp;#39;s not be confused why he might lose interest in you after casually sleeping with you um at his house where you know you guys didn&amp;#39;t never have to do anything real for uh dates right you said that you guys went on one-on-one dates but you&amp;#39;ve only mentioned being at his home you didn&amp;#39;t even mention if you guys have went and actually gone out on a date right and uh if that&amp;#39;s the case where you&amp;#39;re only dates have been like at his house not to say that being at his house is the worst thing ever but when you set that precedent and then you set I don&amp;#39;t know if you slept with him or not right you didn&amp;#39;t mention that but um right if you were to set that precedent you you can&amp;#39;t then be confused why it Fizzles out for the guys you know if you&amp;#39;ve listened to me long enough um you understand that in the process of dating right um You there&amp;#39;s a level of Desire that you kind of have to allow the men to continue to have and when you give yourself to him so easily right at the beginning you kind of just it just forces him to not be as um interested in pursuing you learning more about you or growing the relationship naturally because he&amp;#39;s like well I&amp;#39;ve already gotten everything that I could really ever want from you um I already have access to you so what more is there right so I wouldn&amp;#39;t say you&amp;#39;re necessarily the problem I just think that you have to go about your relationships a little bit differently and a little bit more intentional right if you know you&amp;#39;re trying to build a serious long-term relation ship don&amp;#39;t just go right over to his house right like you&amp;#39;re spending time with someone and then you&amp;#39;re saying we go on one-on-one dates and they&amp;#39;re mostly at his house right like be more intentional of the fact you&amp;#39;re trying to grow a relationship with someone and you&amp;#39;re also trying to help him uh be more desired sorry desire you more and see you in a better light not like all the other girls that he meets or comes across right you also have to help him in that that because if you have respect for yourself if you go about relationships differently if you bring a level of seriousness to the relationship and you don&amp;#39;t just let him act any way he wants you don&amp;#39;t just let the relationship be super casual well then now it forces him to say oh if I want to mess with her I got to take this serious if I want to mess with her I&amp;#39;ve got to bring a level of seriousness and professionalism to the relationship and intentionality to the relationship or else she&amp;#39;s not going to mess with me right so that&amp;#39;s my advice to you uh next we have here uh we have notorious notorious says feeling over it notorious says uh I female 30 met a 28-year-old male it started out so intense with him showing so much interest in even bringing up marriage I pretty much fell hard for this guy and oh let me actually do this let me never mind uh it&amp;#39;s been Hot and Cold going on 3 years and now every time I try to move on it&amp;#39;s like he send is that and pulls me back in and the cycle continues okay for the past 9 months I have been distant as I decided to focus on my children and my online business good good good uh we saw each other about a month ago and when he came for a sleepover you dirty girl uh a few days ago he um and a few days ago he snapped me saying he lost my number how did he get a new phone it&amp;#39;s like the third time now and hasn&amp;#39;t changed his phone number he probably deleted your number and yes uh we&amp;#39;ve had pineapples and we were uh I think you might say exclusive beforehand then broke it off because he was playing games now it&amp;#39;s just the intense on and off situationship I was getting bored with this dragging on so I posted uh up a guy&amp;#39;s pick that I liked so I posted up a guy&amp;#39;s pick that liked me on snap he&amp;#39;s a model very fit body and handsome too next day um the guy I I liked snapped me saying if that&amp;#39;s my new man I feel so toxic for doing that uh but I&amp;#39;m lost uh questions so why does he keep coming back even if uh and even asking for my number saying he lost it and what do I do uh even though am not the one ever reaching out I do have strong feelings for him but starting to feel bored and it&amp;#39;s not progressing new to this Channel and group so starting to learning starting learning all of this okay so my advice to you notorious right is uhwe just said it leave that man alone okay you clearly this is what I this is one thing that I have to make clear to you guys this whole idea that you&amp;#39;re going to be in a relationship with a man and for 3 4 years two 5 8 9 10 months he&amp;#39;s not going to see your worth and he&amp;#39;s not going to treat you how you deserve to be treated or treat the relationship how deserve to be treated and you&amp;#39;re waiting like especially in your specific situation notorious like it&amp;#39;s been 3 years so he&amp;#39;s had three years to um work this out in his mind whether or not he actually wants to be in a relationship with you for real clearly he&amp;#39;s come to the decision that he doesn&amp;#39;t because if he did he would have done it by now it&amp;#39;s been 3 years so this hot and cold thing should be a clear sign to you that he&amp;#39;s not interested in actually building a real relationship with you if he was interested in that he would have done it by now very clear and I say that to say once you come to that realization you also have to accept the fact that any other time spent invested in him or this situation is a waste of your own time and I mean you wasting your own time him doing this three years back and forth thing is you wasting your own time after the first 3 months that you realized this was going on you should have come to the conclusion this is not progressing in any positive or forward Direction I&amp;#39;m not happy with where this relationship is standing I&amp;#39;m going to move forward with my life all the time you spent after that first three months where he showed you what it was was you wasting your own time expecting something to change or hoping something would change or maybe you just felt like you had no better options right and so you say you&amp;#39;re feeling over it but then actually be over it and when I say be over it like get rid of his number like you don&amp;#39;t even have to block him but just you delete his number by the way him telling you that he lost your number is actually not him losing your number one of two things are happening either he&amp;#39;s just deleting it because he literally cares so little about you or in the time span that he loses it he starts talking to a new girl he don&amp;#39;t want you texting him he don&amp;#39;t want you calling him he don&amp;#39;t want you contacting him he don&amp;#39;t even want no girl that he&amp;#39;s talking to seeing you on his phone that&amp;#39;s how lit he thinks about you so my point being is this guy does not care about you truthfully right that&amp;#39;s why he&amp;#39;s been letting this go on for 3 years and you&amp;#39;re allowing it to happen which is why he continues it for 3 years because when he needs you or when it&amp;#39;s convenient for him he&amp;#39;ll show up and be like hey let&amp;#39;s do a thing and you&amp;#39;re dumb enough to be like sure we&amp;#39;ll do the thing and then he goes about his business after he&amp;#39;s done doing the thing with you so this is your fault that it&amp;#39;s lasted 3 years not his fault because you&amp;#39;re the one saying hey use me take advantage of me and that&amp;#39;s exactly what he&amp;#39;s doing because he wants to get what he wants so you&amp;#39;re saying you&amp;#39;re feeling over it but actually be over it which means move forward don&amp;#39;t text him again don&amp;#39;t call him again don&amp;#39;t have his number saved don&amp;#39;t have his pictures in your phone don&amp;#39;t have his memories saved on Snapchat don&amp;#39;t contact him don&amp;#39;t like his stories don&amp;#39;t respond to his replies or anything like that actually genuinely move on with your life if you need to block him to actually move on then do that but you&amp;#39;re wasting all your time um by continuing that relationship okay next we have uh bubble I think uh bubble was from a no this is a brand new one okay so uh bubble says uh bubble says hey what&amp;#39;s your advice to find balance uh on early stage right uh like how to show enough interest uh that not too much to the point he&amp;#39;s uh comfortable and stops trying or loses interest I can&amp;#39;t find the right action or energy between show too much interest and trying to play a cool uh which turned into uh not showing interest at all these situations happened multiple times with several guys one person at a time and no Pineapples uh show too much interest I mean the the one started planning uh when to meet again cuz I thought he also likes me that should be fine I you I used made cookies used to make cookies for a guy after a second date and used to surprise a guy with flowers on early stage first few dates you you used to surprise a guy with flowers that&amp;#39;s Insanity that that&amp;#39;s that is insanity okay um in some cases I&amp;#39;m I&amp;#39;m sorry that&amp;#39;s just so crazy and in some cases I&amp;#39;m trying to play a cool uh like I&amp;#39;ll never reach out first reply with uh such short or just Emoji even ignore a text for a day not show my emotions when I&amp;#39;m mad uh and a at a guy I just end up we just end up ghosting each other I often ask myself was that my fault what if I show him a bit of Interest I have no trouble uh I have no trouble letting men who&amp;#39;s not into me go but I don&amp;#39;t want uh want to question myself after I always go I always have these question was I too cold was I too much could I could uh could it turn out to be a great relationship if I did uh as I mentioned before these happened so many times for a few years I can&amp;#39;t find the right balance I&amp;#39;ll I&amp;#39;ll be really appreciative of your advice I downloaded Discord just for you thanks for all the information you&amp;#39;re amazing thank you bubble for the great um question so my advice to you um would be the balance is you have to understand I talked about this uh I think a couple live streams ago um the balance really is helping the men understand that you do want to speak to them you do want to hang out with them you do want to see them but you would love to do it in person because you&amp;#39;re just too busy you got a lot going on you can&amp;#39;t really be on the phone texting a whole bunch that way right and you make that clear so that that way when you don&amp;#39;t text him or you don&amp;#39;t reply for for a couple of hours or maybe even a whole day that he can understand it&amp;#39;s not because you don&amp;#39;t like him it&amp;#39;s simply because you&amp;#39;re a more of an in-person person that allows them to not take as much offense to it it also motivates them to say hey if I really like you then I&amp;#39;ve got to actually put an effort into planning a date that we can see each other in person and then when they do uh get to experience the date with you let them see that hey I&amp;#39;ve been excited for this hey I&amp;#39;m happy to be here hey I enjoy that&amp;#39;s why I say you better come to the dates with good energy right don&amp;#39;t have a whole bunch of don&amp;#39;t have the worst day of your life and then come to the date miserable let him feel that positive feedback loop of hey when I plan the dates when I go out with her and we spend some time together in person I get a great response from her and I get the best version of her if I&amp;#39;m trying to be her texting buddy I&amp;#39;m not really going to get the best version of her because she&amp;#39;s not going to be my texting buddy and as time goes on and you set that groundwork the guys Begin to Fall line and understand hey she actually does like me she&amp;#39;s interested in invested in this relationship I just got to make sure we get to see each other more and plan for that as opposed to trying to text her all the time or SnapChat her all the time that&amp;#39;s the balance there okay you don&amp;#39;t have to be all extreme never responding to him or any of his message and things you&amp;#39;re un interested you also shouldn&amp;#39;t be showing up on the first couple of dates and buying a guy flowers that&amp;#39;s insan that is one of the craziest things I&amp;#39;ve ever heard that&amp;#39;s Insanity you&amp;#39;re taking a guy completely out of his is ability to chase you when you&amp;#39;re showing up to the first or second date with flowers and that&amp;#39;s Insanity that is insanity never do that again please never do that again that but there&amp;#39;s a balance in between that and I just explained it to you so that&amp;#39;s my advice to you okay next we have here uh we just did bubble um next we have here car bear okay care bear says I need a strategy help she says hi love the show I work at a buzzing restaurant where my affluent families where affluent families frequent so affluent just means Rich guys uh I&amp;#39;ve recently become interested in a regular who lives across the street he is divorced and a total player okay where are we going with this often times he comes in with his parents they love me and he talks about wanting to find a nice girl but 90% of the girls aren&amp;#39;t aren&amp;#39;t crap uh I&amp;#39;ve seen the caliber of women and he brings on dates so it isn&amp;#39;t shocking he would say that recently I ran into him at a bar on my day off he invited me to join him and his friends for drinks the energy was fun and playful he openly commented on my body which I expected from him and in conversation offered me one of his parking spots if I ever needed it we later exchanged numbers and he invited me to his house for a night cap I agreed but I did not give him pineapples in fact I cut the night short and the next uh day over text thanked uh him for a fun night I&amp;#39;ve served him um at my work a couple of times since keeping things super casual and playful how do I get him to ask me on a real date how do I get him to chase me like a drug addict especially when I served him and his parents two or three times a week okay this is great you&amp;#39;re actually kber you&amp;#39;re in a great situation in terms of um like like the relationship Dynamic you have done what you needed to do in terms of presenting yourself as a respectable woman I wouldn&amp;#39;t have said go over to his place the first time but you did it but at the end of the day you didn&amp;#39;t have pineapples so that&amp;#39;s fine you still had some respect for yourself you can see you respect yourself now you&amp;#39;re in a great position where you don&amp;#39;t have to do anything this is where I know for a lot of you guys you guys get anxiety because you think the world is running away from you and if the boy doesn&amp;#39;t ask you on a date in the next 30 seconds that your life is over I want you to understand especially the position that you&amp;#39;re in carebear he is going to come in there and see you regardless so it&amp;#39;s not like he&amp;#39;s going to forget of your existence after the first time you guys hung out and if he doesn&amp;#39;t immediately text you and ask you out on the second date that it&amp;#39;s over I want you to just allow it to cook okay allow it to marinate allow his feelings for you allow him to come to the conclusion damn you know I had a good time with her and I really enjoyed my time with her I want to see her again allow him to come into the he knows you work at the restaurant okay allow him to come into the restaurant see you again and say damn I kind of do like her she is really interesting right and in the process of that he&amp;#39;ll come to his own conclusion that I want to take her out on a date I want to spend some more time with her and then he will ask you out on a date don&amp;#39;t be so um full of anxiety because you started to feel some things for this guy that you&amp;#39;re like pushing thinking that you got to really do something to make the you you&amp;#39;ve already established that he likes you he&amp;#39;s interested in you when he wanted to see you what happened happened he invited you out for drinks you see how that works let him come to his own conclusion that he&amp;#39;s interested in you and let him continue to invite you places just be patient he lives across the street he will be back at the restaurant this not the last time you&amp;#39;re going to see him it&amp;#39;s not the last time he&amp;#39;s going to see you it&amp;#39;s not the last time he&amp;#39;s going to think of you just keep working at your restaurant keep doing your thing you don&amp;#39;t even need to reach out to him that&amp;#39;s the that&amp;#39;s why I said you&amp;#39;re in the best position you don&amp;#39;t need to post anything you don&amp;#39;t need to text him at all you don&amp;#39;t need to Snapchat at all he knows where you work he knows where to find you and he lives right across the street he will be back to the restaurant and he will see you again so if he&amp;#39;s really interested in you I guarantee you when he&amp;#39;s ready to see you he will invite you out again just be patient okay literally as crazy as it sounds in your situation you don&amp;#39;t need to do anything keep doing exactly what you&amp;#39;re doing and don&amp;#39;t give up any pineapples let him right he&amp;#39;s coming from an affluent family so he&amp;#39;s got money he&amp;#39;s got access to women let him come to his own conclusion that all the women who are chasing after him or want to be his girl because he&amp;#39;s got a little bit of money right let him come to the conclusion that the girl he wants works at the restaurant across the street and he wants to invite her out for dinner let him come to that conclusion you don&amp;#39;t have to do anything but sit and not sit but work at your restaurant keep working at your restaurant he knows where where to find you he knows how to how to get contact with you if he really needed to and he will do that if he wants to you don&amp;#39;t have to do anything else let it cook let it cook that&amp;#39;s all you need to do uh C Bear says need your urgent help she says I&amp;#39;m glad to find by the way guys if you guys ever have some advice for any of the people that I answer their questions or any past ones in the relationship advice form please feel free to answer them you can also send them a message as well okay in the form and help them if you&amp;#39;ve been through a similar situation okay uh C Bear says I&amp;#39;m glad to find this place I just need uh help at this point I&amp;#39;ve been in a relationship with uh a guy he&amp;#39;s 32 I&amp;#39;m 30 it&amp;#39;s been a year and a half I haven&amp;#39;t met any of his friends or his family uh he has a child and I&amp;#39;ve met him he asked me to meet my family so I introduced uh so I introduced them he got divorced in a in Spring of 2023 but we separated um for real but we separated oh for ex-wife for year prior he divorced in Spring but was separated or from oh sorry but was separated from ex-wife for a year prior sorry about that guys my problem is recently I asked him to introduce me to at least his best friends and I want to be a part of his life more I gave him an ultimatum recently about this and I&amp;#39;m waiting to see if he will to me it&amp;#39;s either there&amp;#39;s another woman which I doubt or he&amp;#39;s uh worried about what his friends and family will say because he just got divorced he told me he&amp;#39;s not ready and thinks he&amp;#39;s worried about what people will think we&amp;#39;re also a biracial couple that actually plays a huge role and maybe his family is racist are you the black one or the white one uh they&amp;#39;re really they&amp;#39;re really affluent white family okay so you&amp;#39;re the black one am I making a a big deal I really don&amp;#39;t think there&amp;#39;s another woman I&amp;#39;ve done my spying and snooping I feel like he&amp;#39;s depressed about everything he&amp;#39;s been drinking a lot more what do I do I talked to a dating Guru and he told me meeting his family and friends don&amp;#39;t mean anything but it does to me I don&amp;#39;t want to be a it to be a secret okay I will I&amp;#39;m not a dating expert okay so those people that claim to be a dating Guru I&amp;#39;m just a regular guy with a regular perspective in my own perspective I do think in the process of dating someone especially for a year and a half um like like meeting the parents or at least the friends the siblings like that should happen I don&amp;#39;t like that&amp;#39;s a bit weird and secretive however in this particular scenario I do think it&amp;#39;s worthy to note that he&amp;#39;s been divorced recently and yes I mean if he&amp;#39;s just been divorced that can be difficult for him to say I just got divorced and this is the new girl right that can be a little bit embarrassing that can be a little bit shameful and you never know what his parents are like that you know for them maybe depending on if they&amp;#39;re religious or not that might be a big deal that he even got divorced in the first place right you so there&amp;#39;s a process of like he ALS first of all he has to heal someone said I love you for being you said he&amp;#39;s like he&amp;#39;s got to heal from the divorce and sometimes sometimes you know people start as soon as they break up they they find a new person to project their feelings onto so that they don&amp;#39;t have to think about it um and then on top of that right there&amp;#39;s also a period for his family and stuff like they have to understand like he just got divorced and for him to just bring another woman around right after getting divorced right you have you also have to be mindful of that&amp;#39;s a little bit unfair um well first of all he shouldn&amp;#39;t have even gotten into a relationship not being ready but it is a little bit unfair that like you know he might not be ready to just come out and be like hey this is a new girl right getting divorce can also be scarring in the sense that he might be like damn is this relationship going to last long enough that if I introduce her to my parents that it&amp;#39;s not going to just end like my divorce did and then I&amp;#39;ll be embarrassed again you understand what I&amp;#39;m saying so there might be a reluctancy to introduce you simply for that aspect as well the other thing I would take into account is being a biracial couple if his last wife was the same race as him or just not black right then that might be a little bit of an adjustment for him and not just being divorced from his last wife but then also having you as the new girl that he&amp;#39;s with and having to figure out how he&amp;#39;s going to introduce this new girl who&amp;#39;s completely the opposite uh from his old girl you know what I mean that is also an adjustment period that I won&amp;#39;t say that to give him an excuse but just to be mindful of that reality as you are in this uh relationship as to why he might be doing the things that you&amp;#39;re doing especially if you find yourself in a situation where you&amp;#39;re saying you don&amp;#39;t think that it&amp;#39;s um another woman because you&amp;#39;ve already done your spying and snooping and you don&amp;#39;t suspect that you understand what I&amp;#39;m saying uh Vicki says you just a rebound he needs to adjust and be single I mean I agree to a certain extent right um he got divorced in oh oh my God he got divorced in Spring of 2023 I didn&amp;#39;t I didn&amp;#39;t even really take that part in so basically what you&amp;#39;re telling me is uh if you&amp;#39;ve guys been in a relationship right it&amp;#39;s been a year and a half right and you guys got he got divorced in Spring of 2023 we&amp;#39;re in Spring of 2024 now so I&amp;#39;m assuming you this kind of overlapped here right cuz we&amp;#39;re in Spring of 2024 and if you got divorced in Spring of 2023 that means you guys kind of had an overlapping relationship um even regardless of that right that means there was no grieving period for him when I say grieving period I just mean a period in which he can actually think to himself okay my relationship&amp;#39;s actually over like I&amp;#39;m actually divorced and why did I get divorced and and how did I get divorced and now I&amp;#39;m s like I like based on the timeline you just gave me he literally had no period of being single he literally went from a divorce to being in a relationship with you so like that&amp;#39;s not really a healthy way I&amp;#39;m not here to tell anyone how to live their life but I don&amp;#39;t think that that&amp;#39;s a healthy way to go about relationships where you go L literally from a div like there&amp;#39;s no there&amp;#39;s no time off literally from a divorce right into the relationship not even uh any off time like seems like you guys had some sort of plan and he got divorced and you guys were already in an ongoing relationship because that&amp;#39;s the only way this timeline makes sense if it&amp;#39;s been a year and a half and this was spring 2023 that he got divorced so that was I have to get I have to put some responsibility and accountability on you as well that was poor decisionmaking to not allow him because he&amp;#39;s in a position where he&amp;#39;s weak right he just got out of the divorce so he&amp;#39;s already looking to project his feelings onto someone new so doesn&amp;#39;t have to think about it but for you to not even give him the time as well to be like hey I want to be in a relationship with you too but I also want you to take some time to heal from this like that was a mistake on your part and that&amp;#39;s part of the reason you&amp;#39;re finding yourself in this situation right now you know because you can&amp;#39;t give someone no time off from a divorce and then expect them to just continue a relationship with you as if nothing else ever happened right like that&amp;#39;s so uh that&amp;#39;s insane that&amp;#39;s insane so my honest advice to you is I think you have a lot to figure out as it relates to um if he&amp;#39;s even emotionally and spiritually ready for a relationship right now um because he&amp;#39;s had no time off he hasn&amp;#39;t even had time to process his own divorce right like that&amp;#39;s that&amp;#39;s not a position you want your partner to be in that you&amp;#39;re trying to build a relationship with right you&amp;#39;re trying to build a new Fresh relationship with him and he has had no time to process his divorce so so um my advice to you would honestly be I think you need to give him if you want the the healthy approach I think you need to give him some time to just even figure out his feelings of the last relationship that he was the last marriage that he was in you need to give him some time to think about that before you start worrying about what he is or isn&amp;#39;t doing in your relationship okay that&amp;#39;s my honest advice to you because 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Transcript for:Why Men Don't Approach Women Anymore

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Why Men Don't Approach Women Anymore