Dealing with False Accusations by a Narcissist

Introduction

• Presenter: Rebecca Zong
• Topic: How to deal with false accusations from a narcissist.
• Objective: Provide strategies to handle being falsely accused, helping you become powerful and resilient.

Understanding Narcissist Behavior

• Why Narcissists Use False Allegations:
  1. Control: To maintain control over you by putting you on the defensive.
  2. Distraction: To shift attention from their own wrongdoings.
  3. Destabilization: To emotionally and mentally unbalance you, targeting what means the most to you.

Strategies for Handling Accusations

• Stay Calm and Detached:
  • Pretend you are reporting news: factual and unemotional.
  • Use "I understand" and "I hear you" to acknowledge without engaging.
  • Set boundaries on acceptable interactions.
• Never JADE (Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain):
  • Maintain a stance of observing and not absorbing the attacks.

Creating Leverage

• Document and Collect Evidence:
  • Narcissists dislike facts; they are your leverage.
  • Keep records to counter false claims.
  • Offer to share evidence calmly and factually.

Responding to Public Accusations

• No Response Strategy:
  • Avoid engaging with public smears.
  • Engage only when necessary (e.g., legal implications).
  • Stay factual and avoid emotional responses.

Disarming Their Ego

• Use Calm Questions:
  • Respond with curiosity: "Why would you say that?"
  • Forces narcissists to explain themselves, showing you are unrattled.

Additional Resources

• Free Guides: Documentation strategies available at doc.com.
• Community Support: Join Facebook group "Narcissist Negotiators with Rebecca Zong."

Conclusion

• Reminder: You have the power to reclaim your life and confidence.
• Next Steps: Watch Rebecca's video on "The Hidden Cost of Walking Away from a Narcissist."