Why Your Ex Might Miss You Terribly but Still Be Silent
Introduction
- Presenter: Coach Black, relationship and breakup coach
- Topic: Understanding why an ex might miss you but still remain silent
Key Points
No Contact and Its Effects
- No Contact: Can make an ex feel the loss and pain of the breakup
- Silence: Can be confusing and triggering; leads to assumptions
Scenario 1: Commitment to Their Decision
- Human Nature: Desire to be consistent with decisions
- E.g., If they said they don't love you, they might feel compelled to stick to that
- Emotional Complexity: Breakups are not black and white; emotions can persist
- Pride and Justification: Ex may have exaggerated issues to friends/family
- Coming back requires swallowing pride and facing loved ones
Scenario 2: Relationship Quality
- Honest Evaluation: Was the relationship strong or toxic?
- Example: An avoidant ex might be triggered by an anxious partner's need for reassurance
- Different Perspectives: Relationship quality might differ between partners
- Ex might miss you but recall the relationship as emotionally draining
Scenario 3: Handling the Breakup
- Post-Breakup Behavior: How you handled the breakup can impact reconciliation
- Negative Examples: Extreme chasing, calling from fake numbers, involving friends/family, etc.
- Respectful Boundaries: Important to handle breakups with grace and maintain boundaries
Consideration of Your Feelings
- Ex's Perspective: They might not want to hurt you again by coming back prematurely
- They are being considerate, not playing with your heart
Emotional vs. Logical Reasons
- Human Behavior: Emotions often overpower logical reasons
- Breakup Journey: Interfering with ex's process can be detrimental
- Stick to no contact principles
Signs of Emotional Manifestation
- Indicators: Calls, texts, social media stalking can be signs of ex's emotions resurfacing
- Consistency: Stay the course and don't fold under emotional pressure
Conclusion
- Engagement: Encourages comments and booking coaching calls
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Note: These notes summarize the key points from the lecture and are meant to serve as a reference guide for review and study.